Our
Daughters.
Our daughters—how much we love them!
How happy we are to have their fresh, smiling
faces about us! Their girlish laughter
lightens our home hours and creates
an atmosphere of joy. What
would we not give if we could but insure their
happiness! Our fondest and most cherished
hopes are bound up in them as they grow up
under our eyes and blossom into womanhood.
Girl, what a wonderful creature you can be.
What a glorious success you can make of your
life if you get the right start, find the right hands
to help you, the right hearts to love you, and the
right eyes to watch you, the right thoughts to
make you, and the right ideals to guide you.
There are so many influences to spoil you—so
much convention, so much artificiality, so
much snobbery, so much caste, so much foolish
frivolity.
Then there are the wrong examples, the wrong
grooming, the wrong environments, the wrong
influences surrounding you. Really, it is not to
be wondered at why so many girls lose their
heads and make a fizzle of their young lives.
The fizzle is generally made because daddy and
mama have a lot of foolish notions about bringing
up girls. Especially is this so if the parents
are wealthy.
The Wrong
Way.
Here is the history of many a rich girl: She
is born without welcome, fed on a bottle, reared
by a nurse, grows up in a nursery,
becomes estranged from her mother;
later on, she is sent away to school,
mixes with a lot of other rich girls, gets lots of
foolish notions, false estimates, and prejudiced
views. She graduates and comes home, and then,
to commemorate the event, there are a lot of
"doings" which she attends. Following this is
the show-off, which is called a debut.
She is exhibited like a filly at the horse show,
and some high-collared young man wins her
head, although she thinks it's her heart. She
believes it is the proper time for her to marry,
and he is such "a swell fellow," he is such "good
company," and he "dances so well"—these
qualities win her head.
So the girl marries and has children; the husband
goes broke, and the girl awakens to the
necessity of coming down from her pedestal, facing
stern necessity, and raising her children as
her mother should have raised her.
That's the picture of the poor rich girl whose
parents are to blame for the nonsense she
crammed into her head.
But, you, Girl—you are going to learn your
cooking on a gas range instead of a chafing dish;
you'll learn to bake bread before fudge; you'll
learn how to cook solids before you learn to make
salads.
You will combine simplicity, sentiment, sense
sereneness, sweetness, rather than envy, frills,
feathers and foolishness.
God's noblest calling for woman is the raising
of children and the founding of a home.
Cooking and
Sewing.
To cook and sew is a higher duty and better
occupation than bridge parties and society. Not
that you must cook and sew, my dear,
but that you should be able to in
case the need should arise. With the
ability to cook and sew, you can properly direct
the cook or seamstress, and they will respect you
for your education.
I want you to be golden girls—girls who love
home and children; girls who love simple things,
natural things. I want you to be sweet rather
than pretty, lovable rather than popular.
Do not look upon matrimony as a means to
provide food and finery for yourself.
Do not be ashamed of an old-fashioned mother.
Do not be a "good fellow." Do not be afraid
to say, "I can't afford it."
Help the family. Be part of it, and not apart
from it.
When you are old enough to have a beau, do
not be afraid to bring him into your home, no
matter how humble it is.
Do not esteem your boy friends for the amount
of money they spend on your entertainment.
Happiness does not consist of lobster-suppers and
taxi-rides to the theatre. Ten cents will bring
just as much real happiness as ten dollars spent
for mere display.
Be modest, girls; it is your greatest asset.
Don't gossip or belittle other girls. Find the
good you can say of others; that quality makes
you more attractive.
Watch out for candied words and flattery;
these things mark the hypocrite, and a hypocrite
is an abomination. Flattery is a practiced deceit—a
dishonorable bait to catch affections.
Do not allow any young man to relate a story
in your presence that has the slightest risque
turn to it.
Show by your words and your actions that
such presumption is an insult.
Be square with yourself; be square to the man
who is after your heart. Put yourself mentally
in the place of a wife when a man gets serious.
The Right
Man.
Don't hurry, girls; don't judge the man by his
money prospects but by his character and ambition.
Have nothing to do with any
young suitor who isn't always kind,
considerate and attentive to his
mother. And when real love comes to you and
you decide to marry, marry a man of character
who courts you in the sweet, simple, old way.
If a young man spends money extravagantly
before marriage, hard times will always be around
during his married life.
The most precious possessions in the world are
happiness and love, and these come from simple
things, genuineness, and usefulness.
The painted, powdered, tinsel, fluff, feathers
and furbelow girl may be a dashing creature now,
and you may envy her, but you, with your quiet,
sweet, simple, sensible ways—you will win real
love, real respect, real affection, real pleasures,
real satisfaction, in all the days to come; you
will make a success of your life.
Frills and feathers may have an attraction for
the girl who makes a fizzle of her life, but sweetness
and simplicity, sentiment and sense, are
precious jewels that will endure for all time.
The Road
to Unhappiness.
The world is full of new-fashioned, slangy,
dancy, fancy, foolish girls who marry for style,
stunts and society, and their married
life is failure, worry and regret.
They do not realize, poor things, until
it is too late, that money and luxury are not
enough to bring happiness. When this truth
comes home to them, there is nothing left but
disillusion, heartache and sorrow.
Be the golden, pure, old-fashioned, sweet, simple,
quiet, modest girl who knows things, rather
than one who is a show-off girl.
When the right young man comes along, he
will recognize the kind of girl you are when he
meets you. He will see in you a girl of pure
gold; a sweet, natural, sensible girl, who will be a
helpmate to him and not a drawback.
So then, here is the hope that you, girl, will
start right, keep right, and end right. I want
you to think of sense, sentiment, and simplicity
rather than dances, dollars, duds and doings.
I want your life to be one of poise, happiness
and serenity instead of noise, worry and nerves.
This little message is all for you—GIRL.