Many people have an idea that Turkish
women absolutely do nothing that is either
useful or ornamental aside from the decoration
of their own persons, but that is not altogether
true, as my residence of over a year in their
country taught me, for they are really dextrous
with the needle and do work which is as fine as
that done by the sisters in the convents, or that
of the wives of the feudal noblemen of olden
times.
The favorite pastime of the Turkish women
is the bath, which brings together the wives
and slaves of all the well-to-do Turks, and it is
like a picnic of school children.
These wives, most of them very young—some,
indeed, not over twelve or fourteen years
old—take their lunch along, and they eat and
steam, plunge and splash, and play pranks
upon each other in the wildest glee the whole
day long. No fear of an angry husband
haunts their minds, for they are not expected
to do anything, and their husbands very rarely
enter the harems before six o’clock. By this
time they are all back, rosy and sweet from
their bath.
At the baths there is often an old woman
who has the faculty of relating stories, and she
is eagerly listened to by the grown-up children;
the stories are generally of the Arabian nights
order, full of genii, beautiful ladies, and
charming youths and jealous husbands. Many
a lesson is given as how to outwit the most
jealous of men through these stories—a lesson
they are neither slow to learn nor practise.
The way they are watched and confined always
made me think of the woman who cautioned
her innocent children not to put blue
beans in their noses while she was out. The
magic lantern entertainments amuse these ignorant
caged birds. Dancing girls, singing and
playing the lute, playing with the babies and
occasionally quarrelling with each other take
up some of their time; a weekly tour of the
bazaars and once in a while a visit to the
harem of some other Turk, still leave much
time on their hands that the rare calls of their
husbands, the eating of sweetmeats or smoking
of cigarettes cannot fill, and so they give
their poor little minds to fancy work. They
very seldom learn how to read, or perhaps
books would help them through, and they
never make their own clothes, though they do
sometimes decorate them very elaborately after
others have made them.
They have frames made on which their embroidery
is worked, and on velvet, satin or that
beautiful and durable Broussa gauze they embroider
with exquisite fineness and taste.
The most of their embroidery is done in durable
and admirably-arranged colors, in subdued
tones, which seem to me remarkable in
women who are so fond of brilliant primary
colors and ill-assorted contrasts. They have
no patterns, but work out graceful and beautiful
fantasies, and all done with the most extreme
care and fineness, requiring patience and
extra good eyesight.
We might suppose that these women would
take pleasure in making and embroidering
their babies’ clothes as do other women, but as
babies are simply swathed in endless rollers,
like a mummy, until they are six months old,
ornament is unnecessary. At the end of six
months boy babies are put into pantaloons and
girls into loose trousers, both being usually
made of large flowered chintz.
About the only thing I ever noticed the
Turkish women do for their little children was
to make toys for them, and they make the
most grotesque-looking dogs, lions, cows, rabbits,
elephants, camels and doll babies out of
rags for their amusement. They never nurse
their babies for fear of spoiling the shape of
the bust. They are very poor mothers, as they
are too ignorant themselves to understand their
responsibilities or to teach their children.
They alternately slap them or caress and indulge
them just as their own humor happens to
be good or bad.
The little girls are taught to sew and embroider,
how to walk gracefully, and recline in
the most negligent manner upon the divans,
how to play by ear a little on the lute, and to
sing their interminable love songs. Their
songs are like Barbara Allen, Lovely Young
Caroline of Edinboro Town, the Brown Girl,
or Gipsy Dave—all long, and telling a whole
romance to a plaintive chant.
I never learned to speak Turkish, but I got
so that I could seize upon the meaning of these
songs. The singer always puts all the life and
sentiment she can into her music, and often
sheds tears as she sings, as do her listeners. I
have even seen one or two of them faint away
at the most pathetic part. This is a very common
trait among Turkish women, and I have
not yet been able to decide whether it is the
result of a weak will or extreme sensibility, but
they faint on every possible occasion.
The Turkish women love music passionately,
and nearly all of them can play some instrument
with taste and feeling, though almost
always by ear. Their native music is always
sad and plaintive, and often full of such a
piercing sorrow that it is no wonder it brings
tears. They love flowers, too, and you rarely
see one without a flower in her hand when it is
possible to get them, and they are fond of
birds, and raise a great many themselves.
Many of the Turkish women show considerable
talent in drawing and painting, though the
poor things never have any chance to learn.
They simply “pick it up.”
As I found the Turkish women—and I happened
to have obtained, by a fortunate circumstance,
a chance to know them in their homes
accorded to very few foreign women, and to
absolutely no foreign man—they are gentle,
submissive, loving, and with many natural
gifts in addition to their beauty. If they were
educated they would be the equal of any
women in Europe.
It does not seem to me that they are unhappy
in their peculiar marriage relations. They reminded
me of a lot of irresponsible young girls
in a boarding-school, and the only jealousy
such as might be felt of the “teacher’s pet.”
Instead of the poisoned and vindictive murder
I supposed always ready to be inflicted upon
each other, the worst they ever do is to pull
each other’s hair occasionally or box each
other’s ears.
Girls reach their majority at nine and are frequently
married a year later, though not usually
until fifteen. By that time all the education
they get is acquired. Instead of being
taught all the abstruse sciences she is taught
all the caressing words and gestures possible to
imagine—how to walk, sit, look and speak so as
to appear the most seductive in the eyes of the
husband who gets her.
No Turkish wife of the better class is ever
expected to do any domestic labor whatever,
nor to make any of the household linen, nor
any garments for herself or members of the
household, nor to sew any buttons on, nor,
above all, to make her husband’s shirts; therefore
it can be seen at once that almost every
source of domestic disagreement is done away
with, and the Turkish husband never expects
his wife to get on her knees to hunt for his
collar button, nor scold her if the dinner is
badly cooked; so that in many respects life in
a harem is not so very bad after all, and one-tenth
of a good husband is better than the
whole of a bad one.