Family anecdote—George lives with his half-brother
Augustine about three years, and attends Mr. Williams’s
school—his manuscript book of forms—his
rules of behavior.
About this time, Captain Lawrence Washington
married Ann, the daughter of Mr.
William Fairfax, a relation of Lord Thomas
Fairfax.
Mr. Augustine Washington left his estate
on the river Potomac, in Fairfax county, to
his eldest son, Lawrence, who called it
Mount Vernon, in honor of Admiral Vernon.
He left his estate at Pope’s Creek to his
second son, Augustine. Mrs. Augustine
Washington and her family continued to
reside on the farm near Fredericksburg.—Upon
her now devolved the care of the
plantation. Her first born son, George, continued
to live with her some months after
his father’s death. During this period, a
circumstance happened which shows that
George, though a good boy on the whole,
was not wholly exempt from youthful rashness.
His mother owned a beautiful colt,
which, never having been broken, was remarkably
wild. George delighted to look
at this colt as he pranced about the pasture,
snuffing up the wind, wheeling and halting
and displaying his fine proportions. He
often wished himself upon the colt’s back.
One day he engaged some of his school companions
to come early the next morning and
help him to take a ride before breakfast.—They
came, and found the colt at no great
distance from the house. After a great deal
of difficulty they contrived to corner him
and put a bridle upon him. Several boys
held the bridle while George leaped upon
his back. A violent struggle followed.—The
horse seemed determined to shake off
his rider, and his rider seemed equally determined
to keep his seat. At length the
noble animal, in the fury of his plunges, fell
headlong and burst a blood vessel. This
killed him instantly. George received no
injury by the fall; but when he saw the
poor creature lie dead, and considered his
mother’s attachment to the animal, he began
to look very serious. The call to breakfast
was soon heard. Some of George’s companions
had been invited to take breakfast
with him that morning. The boys were all
remarkably silent at the table. Whether
Mrs. Washington had any suspicions that
all was not right, is uncertain. But she inquired
if they had seen any thing of her
fine sorrel colt, in their rambles. Neither
of the boys replied to this question. She
repeated it. There was now no escape.—George’s
character for truth and frankness
had been tried when he was much younger.
It did not then fail; it must not now fail.
“Your sorrel colt is dead, mother,” replied
George. “Dead, George!” exclaimed Mrs.
Washington, with surprise. “Yes, he is
dead.” “How came he dead, George?”—“I
will tell you, mother. I am the one in
fault.” He then related all the circumstances
just as they happened. “I very
much regret the loss of my colt,” said Mrs.
Washington; “but I rejoice to hear my son
frankly tell the truth, without showing any
disposition to cast his own faults upon
others.”
Soon after this occurrence, George was
sent to Pope’s Creek, the place of his nativity,
to live with his half-brother Augustine.
The chief object of sending him
there was that he might have the benefit of
a respectable school in the neighborhood,
kept by a Mr. Williams. He remained with
his half-brother and attended that school
about three years. An old gentleman, who
was one of Mr. Williams’s scholars at that
time, has often said that such was George’s
reputation for truth, impartiality and good
judgment among his schoolmates, that they
were continually referring their disputes to
him, and so great was their confidence in
him, that his decisions were seldom called
in question. He said nothing was more
common, when the boys were in high dispute
about some question of fact, than for
one of them to call out, “Well, boys, George
Washington was there! George Washington
was there! He knows all about it; and if
he don’t say it was so, why then we will
give it up.”
Though George Washington was naturally
of a resolute and martial spirit, he was habitually
gentle and obliging in his conduct.
He never quarrelled with his companions;
and he would always endeavor to settle their
quarrels with each other. If he could not
calm their passions and prevent their fighting
by his arguments, he would inform the
instructor of their barbarous intentions;
though by doing so he often brought upon
himself their censure at the time.
At Mr. Williams’s school, George was
taught Arithmetic, English Grammar, Book
Keeping, Surveying and Geography.[1] He
wrote his school exercises in arithmetic and
geometry in a remarkably neat, fair hand.
The number and accuracy of his geometrical
figures, shows the strong bent of his inclination
to mathematical studies. When he
was thirteen years old, he began a manuscript
book, which he entitled “Forms of
Writing.” In it he copied out with great
care and exactness, forms of different kinds
used in the transaction of business, such as
a note of hand, a bill of exchange, a bond,
an indenture, a lease, a will. Then follow
two or three select pieces of poetry. Among
them are “Lines on True Happiness.”—Then
follow a collection of a hundred and
ten maxims, written out and numbered.—These
he entitles “Rules of civility and
proper behavior in company and conversation.”
He does not mention from what
source he derived these rules. They seem
well calculated to improve the manners and
morals of a young person, and no doubt had
a favorable influence in forming the future
deportment and character of Washington.
The following is a selection from these
rules.
1. Every action in company ought to be respectful
to those present.
2. In the presence of others sing not to yourself with
a humming noise, nor drum with your fingers or feet.
3. Sit not while others are standing; speak not when
you should hold your peace; walk not on when others
stop.
4. Turn not your back to others, especially in speaking;
jog not the table or desk on which another is reading
or writing; lean not on any one.
5. Be no flatterer.
6. Read no letters, books or papers in company, unless
there is necessity for doing it, and then ask leave.
Come not near the books or writings of any one, so as
to read them, unless desired; nor give your opinion of
them unasked: also look not nigh when another is
writing a letter.
7. Let your countenance be pleasant, but in serious
matters somewhat grave.
8. Show not yourself glad at the misfortunes of
another, though he were your enemy.
9. When you meet a superior at a door or in a narrow
passage, give way for him to pass.
10. They that are in dignity, or in office, have in all
places the precedency.
11. It is good manners to prefer those to whom we
speak before ourselves; especially if they be above us,
with whom we ought not to begin.
12. Let your discourse with men of business be short
and comprehensive.
13. When visiting the sick, do not be too ready to
play the physician.
14. In writing or speaking, give to every person his
due title, according to his degree and the custom of the
place.
15. Undertake not to teach another in the art which
he professes: it savors of arrogancy.
16. When a person does all he can, do not blame
him, though he does not succeed.
17. Being about to advise or reprehend any one, consider
whether it ought to be done in public or in private,
presently or at some other time, in what terms to do it;
and in reproving, show no signs of choler, but do it
with mildness.
18. Mock not, nor jest at any thing serious.
19. Wherein you reprove another, be unblamable
yourself; for example is more prevalent than precept.
20. Use no reproachful language against any one,
neither curse, nor revile.
21. Be not hasty to believe reports to the disadvantage
of others.
22. In your apparel be modest, and endeavor to accommodate
nature rather than to procure admiration;
keep to the fashions of your equals: such as are civil
and orderly with respect to times and places.
23. Play not the peacock, looking every where about
your person to see if you be well decked, and if your
clothes set handsomely.
24. Associate with persons of good character, if you
have a regard for your own; for it is better to be alone,
than in bad company.
25. Let your conversation be without malice or envy;
and in all cases of passion, admit reason to govern.
26. Be not immodest in urging your friend to discover
a secret.
27. Utter not base or frivolous things among grave
or learned men; nor introduce deep subjects or difficult
questions among the ignorant; nor things hard to be
believed.
28. Jest not where none takes pleasure in mirth;
laugh not loud, nor at all, without occasion. Deride
no man’s misfortune.
29. Speak not injurious words, neither in jest nor in
earnest; scoff at none, though they give occasion.
30. Be not forward, but friendly and courteous; the
first to salute, hear and answer.
31. Detract not from others; neither be excessive in
commending.
32. Give not advice without being asked.
33. Reprehend not the imperfections of others; for
that belongs to parents, masters and superiors.
34. Gaze not at the marks, or personal blemishes of
others; nor ask how they came.
35. Think before you speak; pronounce not imperfectly,
nor bring out your words too hastily, but orderly
and distinctly.
36. When another speaks, be attentive and disturb
not the audience. If a person hesitate in his words, do
not in general help him out, nor prompt him without
being desired; interrupt him not, nor answer him, till
he has done speaking.
37. Treat with men about business only at fit times.
Whisper not in company.
38. Make no injurious comparisons; and if any of
the company be commended for a brave or virtuous
action, commend not another immediately upon it for
a similar action.
39. Be not apt to relate news if you know not the
truth of it. In conversing of what you have heard, do
not always name your author. Discover not a secret.
40. Be not curious to know the affairs of others;
neither approach those who are speaking in private.
41. Undertake not what you cannot perform; but be
careful to keep your promises.
42. Be not tedious in discourse; make not many digressions,
nor repeat the same thing often.
43. Speak not evil of the absent, for it is unjust.
44. Eat not with greediness; lean not on the table.
45. Set not yourself at the upper end of the table;
but if the master of the house will have it so, contend
not, lest you trouble the company.
46. When you speak of God, or his attributes, let it
be seriously and with reverence. Honor and obey
your natural parents.
47. Let your recreations be manful, not sinful.
48. Labor to keep alive in your breast that little
spark of celestial fire called conscience.