Social Life

About this eBook

Author

Cooke, Maud C.

Title

Social Life; or, The Manners and Customs of Polite Society

Credits

E-text prepared by Curtis Weyant, Linda Cantoni, and the Project Gutenberg Online Distributed Proofreading Team ( www.pgdp.net) from page images generously made available by the Preservation Department, Kelvin Smith Library, Case Western Reserve University ( library.case.edu/ksl/whoweare/departments/preservation/digitized.html)

Language

English

LoC Class

BJ: Philosophy, Psychology, Religion: Ethics, Social usages, Etiquette, Religion

Subject

Etiquette

Category

Text

eBook-No.

28998

Project Gutenberg

https://www.gutenberg.org/ebooks/28998

Release Date

May 31, 2009

Copyright

Public domain in the USA.

Contents

1. 1.E-text prepared by Curtis Weyant, Linda Cantoni, and the Project Gutenberg Online Distributed Proofreading Team ( http://www.pgdp.net ) from page images generously made available by the Preservation Department, Kelvin Smith Library, Case Western Reserve University ( http://library.case.edu/ksl/whoweare/departments/preservation/digitized.html ) — Social Life
2. 2.BY MAUD C. COOKE, The Well-known and Popular Author . — EMBELLISHED WITH COLORED PHOTOTYPES.
3. 3.PREFACE.
4. 4.CONTENTS.
5. 5.The Essence of Etiquette. — The Influence of Good Manners. — The Marks of True Politeness. — The Great Value of Courtesy. — Rules of Etiquette. — An English Custom. — You May Introduce Yourself. — A Custom Out of Date. — Forms of Introduction. — What Should Follow the Introduction. — A Lady’s Wishes Should be Respected. — SALUTATIONS. — Removing the Hat. — The Privilege of Recognition. — Returning Salutations. — Shaking Hands. — Words of Salutation. — The Good Listener. — Suitable Topics. — Misuse of Quotations. — “Small Talk.” — A Valuable Source of Knowledge. — Cultivate Your Mind. — “Drawing Out Others.” — The Passion for Argument. — Wit and Humor. — Evil Speaking. — “Telling Stories.” — Absent-Mindedness. — Profuse Compliments. — Contradictions and Interjections. — Voice and Manner. — Conversational Sins. — Use of the Lips and Facial Expressions. — Control Your Temper. — Misuse of Initials.
6. 6.Visiting Cards. — Style of the Card. — Size of the Card. — Engraving the Name. — Address on Cards. — Cards for Gentlemen. — Cards for Receptions. — Foreign Phrases. — P.P.C. Cards. — Turning Down the Corners. — How to Leave Cards. — Number of Cards to be Left. — Calls upon Young Ladies. — How to Send Cards. — When to Leave Cards. — Entertainments and Calls. — Other Hints. — Various Cards. — Acknowledgment of Inquiry Cards. — Length of Visits. — The Art of Leaving. — When Ready to Leave, Go at Once. — First Calls. — Substitute for First Call. — Morning and Evening Visits. — Sunday Visits. — Reception Days. — “Not at Home,” “Engaged.” — Visiting List. — Visits Between Ladies and Gentlemen. — “Out of Society.” — Conduct of the Hostess. — Entertaining Callers. — Conduct of the Guests. — Deference to Ladies. — What Not to Do. — The Reception-Room. — Note Paper for Invitations. — Invitation Cards. — Written Regrets. — Uninvited Guests. — Inviting Married People. — Dinners. — Asking for Invitations. — Evening Parties, Balls and “At Homes.” — Masquerades. — Musicales, Soirées and Matinées. — Garden Parties. — Breakfasts, Luncheons and Suppers. — Teas and “Kettledrums.” — Kaffee Klatsch. — Suppers. — Coming-out Parties. — Receptions. — Weddings. — How Invitations are Sent. — Wedding Invitations. — Announcement Cards. — Wedding Anniversaries. — “No Presents Received.” — Revise the Visiting List. — Answering an Invitation. — Accepting a Dinner Invitation. — Accepting a Dinner Invitation. — Declining a Dinner Invitation. — Persons in Mourning. — Addressing the Answer. — Wedding Invitations. — Wedding Anniversaries. — Theater and Opera Parties. — Luncheons and Suppers. — Other Invitations. — Refusing After Acceptance. — What Not to Do. — Errors of Love-Making. — How to Carry on Courtship. — A Case to the Point. — Choice of Associates. — First Steps. — Character. — Disposition. — Trifling. — Etiquette of Making and Receiving Gifts. — Proposals of Marriage. — Unbecoming Haste. — How to Deal with Objections. — Sealing the Vow. — A Full Understanding. — Important Trifles. — Love Feeds on Love. — The Best of all Possessions. — The Source of Miseries. — How to Cherish Love. — Conduct Toward Parents. — Length of Engagements. — Broken Engagements. — Etiquette of Married Life. — The Art of Agreeableness. — Duty Toward One Another. — Home Attire. — Household and Personal Expenses. — A Pleasant Disposition. — Boarding Versus Home Life. — Paying for the Cards. — Naming the Day. — Announcing the Engagement. — Wedding Gifts. — List of Invitations. — Ushers. — “The Best Man.” — Bridemaids. — A Church Wedding. — After the Ceremony. — The Reception. — Refreshments. — Rehearsals. — The Wedding Breakfast. — Departure. — Home Weddings. — Invitations to Church Weddings. — Dress for the Occasion. — Morning Costume. — A Quiet Wedding. — Re-marriage. — The Ring. — Reception Days. — WEDDING ANNIVERSARIES. — Suitable Presents. — Speeches and Congratulations. — Courtesies of Married Life. — What Women Admire. — What Men Desire. — Fault-Finding. — Home Conversation. — Slang and Exaggerations. — Some Do’s for Girls. — Young Ladies, Take Heed. — Some Do’s for Boys. — Guard the Voice. — How to Treat Servants. — Have Rules and Enforce Them. — Rights of Others. — Power of Example. — Keeping Promises. — Talebearing. — Truthfulness. — Respectfulness. — Obedience. — Manner of Address. — Interrupting Conversation. — “Showing Off.” — Reproof Before Others. — Cleanliness and Order. — Home Hints. — “Visiting.” — Slang, Profanity, Intemperance. — At Table. — Leaving the Table. — Invitations. — Host and Hostess. — Whom to Invite. — Seating the Guests. — Laying the Table. — A Well-Furnished Sideboard. — Table Decorations. — Lighting the Table. — Serving the Dinner. — How the Dishes are to be Passed. — Serving the Different Courses. — The Menu. — Favors. — Wines, and How to Serve Them. — Gracefully Declined. — Order of Precedence. — Informal and Easy. — French Terms. — Right or Left Arm? — Further Hints. — American Dinner Services. — Directions to Waiters. — Salads and Desserts. — Dinner Dress. — Coming and Going. — Functions. — Dinner Favors. — The Breakfast Table. — Knives, Forks and Napkins. — The Dinner Table. — The Supper Table. — The Lunch Table. — Signs of Ill-Breeding. — The Fork. — The Spoon. — The Knife. — Adam’s Knives and Forks. — Napkin and Finger-Bowl. — Avoiding Fruit Stains. — General Table Etiquette. — How to Treat Waiters. — Sundry Rules and Hints. — Use of Knife and Fork. — Disgusting Habits. — Fruits. — Invitations. — Receiving. — Should Make Every One Happy. — Making Things Easy for the Hostess. — Entertainment. — Duties of the Guests. — Beware of too Much Reserve. — Hours of Arrival and Departure. — RECEPTIONS. — Evening Receptions. — Morning Receptions or Matinées. — Correct Dress. — SUPPER PARTIES. — A Simple Supper. — A Game Supper. — A Fish Supper. — General Arrangements. — Concerning the Music. — Refreshments. — Host and Hostess. — Arrival and Departure. — The Escort. — Receiving Ladies. — General Rules for Observance. — Formality of Introductions. — Attentions Paid to Ladies. — For Ladies. — DANCING. — The Most Desirable Dances. — No Favorites to be Allowed. — Private Balls Given in Public. — Public Balls. — MASQUERADES. — Choice of Costumes. — Suitable Dress. — Receiving Guests. — The Entertainment. — Invitations. — Duty of Guests. — MUSICALES. — Arranging the Program. — Arrangement of Performers and Guests. — LAWN PARTIES. — Amusements to be Provided. — Tables and Refreshments. — Seats. — Lawn Parties for Charity. — Concerning the Viands. — Bill of Fare for Breakfast. — Wedding Breakfast Menu. — A Bachelor Breakfast. — A Golden-Rod Breakfast. — Choice Blending of Colors. — LUNCHEONS. — Luncheon Refreshments. — Entering the Dining-Room. — Lunch or Luncheon. — Luncheon Favors. — Some Betrothal Luncheons. — Blue and White Tableware. — A Dresden Luncheon. — CONCERNING TEAS. — High Tea. — Menu. — Five O’clock Teas, or “At Homes.” — The Five O’clock Tea Table. — Pages. — Receiving Friends. — The Eatables. — “Bringing Out” a Débutante. — Gentlemen Visitors. — How to Leave. — An Afternoon Tea-Saucer. — “Pink and Blue Teas.” — Invitations for Theater Parties. — Dress for the Opera. — Picnic Parties. — What to Eat. — Tongue and Sandwiches. — Chaperons. — A Marshmallow Toast. — Roof Parties. — Bachelor’s Parties. — A Flower Party. — Bicycle Teas. — A Barn Party. — Bachelor Women and their Entertainments. — A Sandwich Spread. — Private Theatricals. — A Social Evening. — Authors’ Parties — Firelight Parties — Conversaziones. — A Country Dinner. — Etiquette of Card Playing and Games. — Outdoor Amusements. — Hunting Parties. — Archery, Lawn Tennis and Croquet. — Boating and Yachting. — Children’s Parties. — The Christening. — Attendance at the Ceremony. — Godfathers and Godmothers. — Candle Party. — Christening Gifts. — Dainty Presents for the Newcomer. — Some Birthday Superstitions. — CONFIRMATION. — GRADUATION. — Avoid all Extravagance. — Funeral Invitations. — Showing Respect for the Dead. — To a Lady on the Death of her Husband. — To a Friend on the Death of Her Sister. — To a Friend on the Death of His Brother. — To a Friend on the Death of Her Child. — To a Friend on a Sudden Reverse of Fortune. — Etiquette in Church. — Etiquette of Fairs. — Etiquette of Shopping. — Etiquette of the Theatre, Opera and Concert. — Between the Acts. — Etiquette of the Street. — Evading a Long Talk. — ETIQUETTE OF RIDING. — THE ETIQUETTE OF BOATING. — Assisting Ladies to Their Seats. — Who Should Row. — A Popular Exercise. — A Cycler’s Guide. — Maids Do Duty. — A Man’s Duty. — Assisting the Lady. — On the Road. — For Protection Against Dogs. — A Few Don’ts for Cyclers. — Women’s Bicycle Rides. — Length of the Ride. — Skirts are an Abomination. — A Pace Indicator. — Don’t Dodge a Bicycle. — Observing the Rules. — Introduction of Friends. — Barring Out Disputed Questions. — Presiding at a Woman’s Club. — Order of Business. — Influence of Women. — Effect of Cultured Manners. — A Sympathetic Nature. — Power through Repose. — A Good Listener. — How Men are Spoiled. — Who Bows First? — “Lady” or “Gentleman?” — Misuse of the Term “Lady.” — A Promissory Note. — A Joint Note. — A Receipt on Account. — A Receipt in Full. — Form for a Bill. — What and What Not to Say. — Various Hints on Etiquette. — First Attentions for Ladies. — Minor Usages of the Best Society. — Breaches of Etiquette. — The Recognized Head. — Formal Calls. — Ministers from Foreign Countries. — The Three Languages. — Harmonious Development of the Body. — Relaxing the Muscles. — Art of Breathing. — Position of the Shoulders. — Standing and Walking. — Stair-Climbing. — Art of “Letting Go.” — On Corset Wearing. — General Remarks. — Stout and Thin. — Tall or Short. — Decorations. — Décolleté Costume. — Graceful Sleeves. — Purchasing. — The Young Girl. — Diamonds and Precious Stones. — Plump Women. — Black Satin and Sparkling Jets. — Complexion Determines Dress Colors. — Combinations of Color. — Red Hair, with Brown Eyes. — Red Hair, with Gray or Green Eyes. — The Ineffective Type. — Stylish and Appropriate Jewels. — Black Hair, Rather Sallow Skin. — Black Hair, Clear Skin, Blue Eyes. — Chestnut Hair, Fair Skin, Blue Eyes. — Almost Any Color. — Gray Hair. — The Black Gown. — Various Hints. — The Choice of Colors. — Harmony and Contrast of Colors. — Dress at Home. — The General Fitness. — Common-Sense Sleeves. — Gloves and Shoes. — Artifices of the Toilet. — When to Wear Jewels. — Use of Scents and Flowers. — The Face Veil. — When to Wear Gloves. — When to Wear Low-cut Gowns. — Ball Dress. — Opera Dress. — Theater Costume. — Dinner Dress. — Traveling Notes. — Bridal Dress. — Bridemaid’s Dress. — What Wedding Guests Wear. — Ordinary Evening Dress. — Dress for Church. — Receiving Calls. — Calling or Visiting Costume. — Walking Dress. — Carriage Dress. — Dress for Lent. — Dress for Riding. — Lawn Parties. — Picnics and Excursions. — Croquet, Archery, Skating, Etc. — Bathing Dress. — Yachting Dress. — Dress for Gentlemen. — Evening Dress for Gentlemen. — Morning Dress for Gentlemen. — Wedding Dress for Gentlemen. — Gloves for Gentlemen. — General Hints. — Evening Suit for Boys. — A Rare Accomplishment. — The Style, — Grammar and Orthography. — Handwriting, Paper and Ink — Common Abbreviations. — The Proper Salutation. — Use of the Husband’s Name. — Punctuation Marks. — Writing the Superscription. — Points to be Remembered. — Titles. — Domestic Titles. — Social and Friendly Letters. — Letters of Introduction. — A Letter of Recommendation — Letters of Condolence — Letters of Congratulation — Proposals, Engagements, “Naming the Day,” — Notes Accompanying a Gift — Notes of Apology — Notes of Postponement — Notes of Request or Refusal — Business Letters — Answers to Advertisements — Some Don’ts and Do’s for Letter-Writers. — Fireplaces and Windows. — Stairways. — Woodwork. — Doors. — A Door Divan. — An Improvised Bookcase. — Screens. — Draperies. — Some Useful Bits of Furniture. — A Hanging Desk. — A Window Desk. — A Hall Chest. — Cozy Corners. — Plenty of Pillows. — A Corner Closet. — Piano Decoration. — Lighting. — Decorating. — Home of the Soul. — Some Lovely Rooms. — As to Furniture. — Pictures. — Mottoes. — Treatment for a Rough Skin. — Reducing Flesh. — Refreshing Sleep. — How to Take Care of the Eyes. — The Hair and How to Take Care of It. — An Excellent Head Covering. — Recipe for the Complexion. — Care of the Lips. — Remedies for the Lips. — Smoothing Out the Wrinkles. — The Feminine Waist. — Beautiful Arms. — Treatment for the Hands. — Scissors and Nail-brush. — To Cure Burning of the Skin. — Remedy for Chilblains. — Foot-Wear.

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