Amid the wonderful uniformity which pervades the
thoughts and customs of the world some strange reversals
here and there occur, as where white is the colour
significative of grief, or where to turn one’s back on a
person is a sign of reverence. But perhaps few such
reversals are more curious than the custom of the
Garos, in India, who consider any infringement of the
rule that all proposals of marriage must come from
the female side as an insult to the mahári to which
the lady belongs, only to be atoned for by liberal donations
of beer and pigs from the man’s mahári to that of
the ‘proposee.’ More curious, however, than even this
is their marriage ceremony; at which, after the bride
has been bathed in the nearest stream, the wedding
party proceed to the house of the bridegroom, ‘who
pretends to be unwilling and runs away, but is caught
and subjected to a similar ablution, and then taken, in
spite of the resistance and counterfeited grief and lamentations
of his parents, to the bride’s house.’[249]
An exactly analogous custom as regards the bride’s
behaviour at her wedding is sufficiently well known;
and if it has been correctly interpreted as the survival,
in form and symbol, of a system of capturing wives
from a neighbouring tribe, there must have been a
time when among the Garos a husband could only
have been obtained in a similar way. The improbability
of this suggests the possibility of some other
explanation underlying the reluctance, feigned or real,
with which it is common in savage life for a girl to
enter upon the paths of matrimony, and for the show
of resistance with which her friends oppose her departure
with her husband.
In many instances this peculiar feature of primitive
life appears as simply the outcome of feelings and
affections which are the same, howsoever different in
expression, in savage as in civilised lands. The conviction
that there is an utter absence of anything like
love between children and their parents, or between
men and women, in the ruder social communities, is
so strong and has been so often dwelt upon, that in
speculations on this subject there is a tendency and
danger of altogether overlooking the influence of
natural affection in the formation of customs. It
is needful, therefore, to preface the present chapter
with a brief reference to the express statements
of missionaries and travellers; for if it can be shown
that there is such a thing as affection between
parents and children, the inference is fair that neither
would parents part with their children nor children
leave their parents without mutual regret, when the
children are married.
Of the Fijians, so famous for their cannibalism
and their parenticide, it is declared to be ‘truly touching
to see how parents are attached to their children
and children to their parents.’[250] Among the Tongans,
who would sacrifice their children cruelly for the
recovery of the sick, children were ‘taken the utmost
care of.’[251] The New Zealanders were not guiltless
of infanticide, yet ‘some of them, and especially
the fathers, seemed fond of their children.’[252] The
Papuans of New Guinea manifested ‘respect for the
aged, love for their children, and fidelity to their wives.’[253]
In Africa, Mungo Park says of the Mandingoes: ‘The
maternal affection is everywhere conspicuous among
them, and creates a corresponding return of tenderness
in the child.’[254] Among the Eastern Ethiopians were
women who lived a wild life in the woods; yet the
testimony is the same: ‘However barbarous these
people be by nature, they yet are not devoid of feeling
for their children; these they rear with nicest care,
and for their provision strive to amass what property
they can.’[255] Yoruba ‘children are much beloved by
both parents.’[256] Love for their children unites the
greater number of the Bushmen for their whole lives.[257]
In North America the Thlinkeet Indians ‘treat their
wives and children with much affection and kindness.’[258]
Among the Greenlanders, says Cranz, ‘the bonds of
filial and parental love seem stronger than amongst
any other nations.’ Their fondness for their children
is great; parents seldom let them out of their sight,
and mothers often throw themselves in the water to
save a child from drowning. In return ingratitude towards
their aged parents is ‘scarcely ever exemplified
among them.’[259] Of the natives of Australia, Sir G.
Grey says that they ‘are always ardently attached to
their children,’ and similar testimony has been borne
to the parental affection even of the Tasmanians.[260]
But, lest it should be thought that these evidences
are drawn from the higher savagery, let appeal be
made to the case of savages who confessedly belong
to the lowest known types of mankind, the Andaman
Islanders, the Veddahs, and the Fuejians.
In reference to the first it is said that ‘the parents are
fond of their children, and the affection is reciprocal.’[261]
The Veddahs are not only ‘kind and constant to their
wives,’ but ‘fond of their children;’[262] whilst Mr. Parker
Snow saw among the Fuejians ‘many instances of
warm love and affection for their children;’[263] so that
if in the sequel we find daughters at their marriage
displaying a real or simulated repugnance to their
fate, the fact need not appear to us of such extreme
mystery as it otherwise might, nor as one in which
natural affection can play no part.
A recent Italian writer on the primitive domestic
state says that ‘la passione viva d’amore che suole
attribuirsi ai popoli primitivi ... é una pura illusione.’[264]
But happily for the primitive populations, their
lot is far from being really thus unbrightened by love,
though with them, as with the rest of the world, it is
a frequent cause of wars and quarrels, interfering especially
with the savage custom of infant betrothal,
and leading to elopements in defeat of parental contracts.
It is peculiar to neither sex. A Tahitian girl,
love-stricken, but not encouraged, led her friends, by
her threats of suicide, to persuade the object of her
affections to make her his wife.[265] The Tongans had a
pretty legend of a young chief, who, having fallen in
love with a maiden already betrothed to a superior,
saved her, when she was condemned to be killed with
the other relations of a rebel, by hiding her in a cavern
he had found, whence they finally effected their joint
escape to Fiji.[266] New Zealand mythology abounds in
love-tales. There is the tale of Hinemoa and Tutanekai,
which begins with stolen glances, and ends in
a nocturnal swim on the part of Hinemoa to the
island, whither the music of her lover guided her.
There is the tale also of Takaranji and Raumahora—of
Takaranji, who, though besieging her father in his
fortress, consented to present both of them with water
in their distress. ‘And Takaranji gazed eagerly at
the young girl, and she too looked eagerly at Takaranji
... and as the warriors of the army of Takaranji
looked on, lo, he had climbed up and was sitting at
the young maiden’s side; and they said among themselves,
“O comrades, our lord Takaranji loves war,
but one would think he likes Raumahora almost as
well.’”[267]
Nor would it be fair to argue, because in most
savage tribes the hard work of life devolves upon the
women, that therefore there is an entire absence of
affection in savage households, whether polygamous
or otherwise, during their continuance. It is scarcely a
hundred years ago that in Caithness ‘the hard work
was chiefly done, and the burdens borne, by the women;
and if a cottier lost a horse, it was not unusual for him
to marry a wife as the cheapest substitute.’[268] The
Fuejians, whose condition Captain Weddell felt compelled
to describe as that of the lowest of mankind,
and whose women did all the work, gathering the shellfish,
managing the canoes, and building the wigwams,
are said to have shown ‘a good deal of affection for
their wives,’ and care for their offspring.[269] Among the
Fijians, who made their women carry all the heavy
loads and do all the field-work, and who remonstrated
with the Tongans for their more humane treatment
of them, not only have widows been known to kill
themselves if their relatives refused to do the duty
which custom laid upon them—namely, of killing
them at their husbands’ burial—but ‘even widowers,
in the depth of their grief, have frequently terminated
their existence when deprived of a dearly beloved
wife.’[270] In India, Abor husbands treated their wives
with a consideration that appeared ‘singular in so rude
a race.’[271] In America the lot of a woman was generally
one of hardship; yet, says Schoolcraft, ‘the gentler
affections have a much more extensive and powerful
exercise among the Indians than is generally believed.’[272]
Carib husbands are said to have had much
love for their wives, like as it was to a straw fire,
except with respect to the first wife they married.[273]
Of the Thlinkeet Indians, characterised by great
cruelty to prisoners and other marks of much barbarity,
it is said that ‘there are few savage nations in which
the women have greater influence or command greater
respect.’[274] ‘It is one of the fine traits,’ says Schweinfurth
of the cannibal Niam-Niam, ‘that they display
an affection for their wives which is unparalleled
among natives of so low a grade ... a husband will
spare no sacrifice to redeem an imprisoned wife.’[275]
Though against this evidence there is much of a darker
character to be set, the above instances will suffice to
demonstrate the real existence, the real operation,
among some of the rudest representatives of our species,
of ordinary feelings of love and affection. As in
geology so in ethnology it holds true, that the action of
known existing causes is sufficient to account for much
that is obscure in the past and for all that is strange in
the present.
Having so far cleared the ground as to be justified
in postulating the existence of ordinary feelings of
affection between parents and children, and between
men and women, as veræ causæ, or real forces, even
in the lowest known savage life, let us pass to the inference
that at no time are those feelings more likely
to be called into play than at a time when the daughter
of a family is about to leave her parents, and perhaps
her clan, to live henceforth with a man whom she may
not even know, or knows only to dislike.[276] In China,
where on the wedding-day the bride is locked up in a
sedan-chair, and the key and chair consigned to the
bridegroom, who may not see her before that day, a
traveller once witnessed a separation between the
bride and her family. ‘All the family appeared much
affected, particularly the women, who sobbed aloud;
the father shed tears, and the daughter was with
difficulty torn from the embraces of her parents and
placed in the sedan-chair.’[277] It seems more likely in
this case that the reluctance and resistance were real,
than that they were merely the symbols, conventionally
observed, of a system of wife-capture. But in
many instances it is impossible to distinguish a real
from a feigned grief. A witness of the marriage ceremonies
among the Tartars, who describes the bride
and her girl friends as raising piteous lamentations
beforehand, says that the poor girl either was or
appeared to be a most unwilling victim.[278]
Jenkinson, one of the earliest English travellers in
Russia, noticed the same custom there, but thought
it affectation. On the day of marriage the bride
would in nowise consent to leave the house to go to
church, but would resist, strive, and weep, only suffering
herself to be led there by force, with her face
covered, to hide her simulated grief, and making a
great noise, as though she were sobbing and weeping,
all the way to the scene of her wedding.[279] But a
modern French writer ascribes some reality to the
custom, mentioning that traditional songs are still
sung in which the young bride addresses words of
regret and sorrow to her parents in the midst of
her preparations for the nuptial feast.[280] Before this
last ceremony she is accustomed to go the round
of her village, with a woman who calls for the sympathy
of her hearers for the young girl whose carefree
existence is about to be exchanged for the
troubles and anxieties of married life.[281]
Yet, if in China and Russia, much more among
uncivilized tribes, would the life in prospect for a
bride, unless perchance her wishes coincided with her
parents’ interest, cause her to leave the home of her
youth with something more than those ‘light regrets’
which cause tears to commingle with smiles even
in England. Greenland girls, says Cranz, do nothing
till they are fourteen but sing, dance, and romp about;
but a life of slavery is in store for them as soon as
they are fit for it; ‘while they remain with their
parents they are well off, but from twenty years of
age till death their life is one series of anxieties,
wretchedness, and toil.’[282] Marriage is a fate they
would not seek, but cannot avoid. Should they,
however, not oppose it, they must enter upon it with
reluctance, not with alacrity.
It is worth noticing the reason Cranz gives for
this reluctance, because, in so far as modern savages
may be taken to represent primitive life, it proves
the existence, in that condition, of notions, howsoever
they may have arisen, which are exactly analogous to
those we connote by the word ‘modesty.’ When the
two old women, commissioned to negotiate with a girl’s
parents on behalf of a young man, first give a hint of
their purpose by praise of him and of his family, ‘the
damsel directly falls into the greatest apparent consternation
and runs out of doors, tearing her bunch of
hair; for single women always affect the utmost bashfulness
and aversion to any proposal of marriage, lest
they should lose their reputation for modesty, though
their destined husbands be previously well assured
of their acquiescence.’[283] Not, indeed, that the reluctance
is always feigned, for sometimes the name of her
proposed husband causes her to swoon, to elope to a
desert place, or to effectually free herself from further
addresses, by cutting off her hair in token of grief.
Should, however, her parents consent to the match,
the usual course is for the old women to go in search
of her, ‘and drag her forcibly into the suitor’s house,
where she sits for several days quite disconsolate,
with dishevelled hair, and refuses nourishment.
When friendly exhortations are unavailing she is
compelled by force, and even blows, to receive her
husband.’
In Greenland, then, as in China, the form of
capture resolves itself either into a most unequivocal
reluctance to leave home or to a reluctance so to do
feigned from feelings of bashfulness. Nor about this
bashfulness does it appear that Cranz was in error, for
Egede agrees substantially with him, telling how the
bridegroom, when he has obtained her parents’ and
relations’ consent, sends some old women to carry
away the bride by force; ‘for though she ever so much
approves of the match, yet out of modesty she must
make as if it went against the grain, and as if she were
much ruffled at it; else she will be blamed and get an
ill name.’ When brought to his hut, therefore, she sits
in a corner with dishevelled hair, ‘covering her face,
being bashful and ashamed.’ For ‘a new-married
woman is ashamed of having changed her condition for
a married state;’[284] and this feeling occurs again plainly
in South-Eastern Russia, where, on the eve of marriage,
the bride goes round the village, throwing herself
on her knees before the head of each house and
begging his pardon.[285]
This last statement of Egede is most important,
since it proves the existence of feelings which seem
really to contain the keynote of the symbol of capture,
however slight the reasons for suspecting their
presence in particular cases. The sentiment prevalent
in Greenland has also been noticed among the Tartars,
for an authentic witness writes, ‘that if one tells
a Tartar girl that it is said she is about to be married,
she runs immediately out of the room and will never
speak to a stranger on that subject.’[286] It has been
justly observed that it is unlikely feminine delicacy
should diminish with civilization. But the principle
impuris omnia impura will meet the difficulty. The
Aleutian Islander, says a Russian writer, ‘knows nothing
of what civilized nations call modesty. He has
his own ideas of what is modest and proper, while we
should consider them foolish.’[287] For, addicted though
he is to the worst vices of the Northern nations, he will
yet blush to address his wife or ask her for anything
in the presence of strangers, and will be bashful if
he be caught doing anything unusual, as, for instance,
buying or selling directly for himself without
the agency of an intermediary.
Characteristic as it is of savages to express all the
feelings they share with us with an energy intensified
a hundredfold, as is shown abundantly in our different
manner of grieving for the dead, it is not surprising
if we find their feelings of the kind in question
display themselves in extraordinary and often ludicrous
rules of social intercourse. The same rule, that an
Aleutian husband and wife might not be seen speaking
together, led Kolbe to think that no such thing as affection
existed among the Hottentots. But this was
simply for the same reason that prohibited the Hottentot
wife from ever setting foot in her husband’s apartment
in the hut, or the latter from ever entering hers
except by stealth.[288] Among the Yorubas a woman
betrothed by her parents is so far a wife that prematrimonial
unfaithfulness is accounted adultery;
‘yet conventional modesty forbids her to speak to her
husband, or even to see him, if it can be avoided.’[289] A
minority of the Afghan tribes are careful to keep up a
similar reserve between the time of betrothal and marriage,
so that, as among the warlike Eusofyzes, no man
can see his wife till the completion of the marriage
ceremony.[290] Among the Mongols not only may bride
and bridegroom not see each other within the same
period, but the bride is not allowed to see his parents.[291]
In Russia it was once a disgrace for a young man to
propose directly to a lady, and between the day of
settling the dowry with her parents and the day of
marriage he was strictly forbidden the house of his
betrothed.[292] But many tribes continue such reserve
even after marriage. A Circassian bridegroom must
not see his wife or live with her without the greatest
mystery: ‘this reserve continues during life. A Circassian
will sometimes permit a stranger to see his
wife, but he must not accompany him.’[293] In parts of
Fiji which are still unmodified by Christian teaching
it is ‘quite contrary to ideas of delicacy that a man ever
remains under the same roof with his wife or wives at
night.’ If they wish to meet, they must appoint a
secret rendezvous.[294] And a similar law of social decorum
prevails, or prevailed, among the Spartans,
Lycians, Turcomans, and some tribes of America,[295]
though the processes of thought which led to such customs
lie lost, perhaps hopelessly, behind the darkness
of a thousand ages.
The custom, again, of deserting a husband and
returning home for a longer or shorter period, as
found among the Votyaks of Russia and the Mezeyne
Arabs, may possibly be traced to feelings of the same
description, for we read that among the Hos, ‘after
remaining with her husband for three days only, it is
the correct thing for the wife to run away from him
and tell all her friends that she loves him not, and
will see him no more;’ it is also correct for the husband
to manifest great anxiety for his loss, and diligently
to seek his wife, and ‘when he finds her he
carries her off by main force.’[296] This second show
of resistance, customary also among the Votyaks,
seems difficult to explain as a traditional symbol of
a system of capture.
It is possible that in similar primitive ideas originated
the curious restrictions on the intercourse between
a man and his mother-in-law, or between a
woman and her father-in-law. On the theory that
these are remnants of the real anger shown by parents
when capture was real, it is not easy to account for
the fact that in Fiji the restriction as to eating or
speaking together existed not only between parents
and children-in-law, or brothers and sisters-in-law, but
between brothers and sisters of the same family, and
also between first cousins.[297] In Suffolk ‘it is (or was)
very remarkable that neither father nor mother of
bride or bridegroom come with them to church’ at the
weddings of agricultural labourers; and it is said that
at Russian weddings also the parents are forbidden
to be present, though the priest sometimes waives
the prohibition in favour of persons of the higher
classes.[298]
There is, therefore, no à priori inconceivability
against the theory that kicking and screaming at
weddings, where they do not arise from genuine reluctance,
are really a tribute to conventional propriety;
that, at the marriages of the uncivilized, just as at
their burials, shrieks and violence take the place of
tears, and a vigorous struggle argues a modest deportment.
The evidence of quite independent eye-witnesses
confirms this interpretation. The Thlinkeet
Indian, on his wedding-day, goes to the bride’s house
and sits with his back to her door. All her relations
then ‘raise a song, to allure the coy bride out of the
corner where she has been sitting;’ after which she
goes to sit by her husband’s side; but ‘all this time
she must keep her head bowed down,’ nor is she allowed
to take part in the festivities of the day.[299]
Atkinson, who was witness of the first visit of a
Kirghiz bridegroom to his wife, declares that the
latter could only be persuaded by the pressure of her
female relations to see him at all; ‘after a display of
much coyness she consented, and was led by her
friends to his dwelling.’[300]
In Kamschatka the original etiquette was for
women to cover their faces with some kind of veil
when they went out, and if they met any man on the
road whom they could not avoid, to stand with their
backs to him until he had passed. They would also,
if a stranger entered their huts, turn their face to the
wall or else hide behind a curtain of nettles.[301] Kamschatka,
however, being the last place where one would
have looked for such prudery, it is possible that the
feelings of the Greenlanders were also operative in
the marriage customs of the Kamschadals. These
were rather extraordinary, the form of capture being
anything but a mere symbol for an aspirant to matrimony.
Such an one, having looked for a bride in some
neighbouring village (seldom in his own), would offer
his services to the parent for a fixed term, and after some
time would ask for leave to seize the daughter for his
bride. This obtained, he would seek to find her alone or
ill-attended, the marriage being complete on his tearing
from her some of the coats, fish-nets, and straps
with which from the day of proposal she was constantly
enveloped. This was never an easy matter, for she
was never left alone a single instant, her mother and
a number of old women accompanying her everywhere,
sleeping with her, and never losing her out of
sight upon any pretext whatever. Any attempt to execute
his task entailed upon the suitor such kicking,
hair-pulling, and face-scratching, at the hands of this
female body-guard, that sometimes a year or more
would elapse before he was entitled to call himself a
husband; nay, there is record of one pertinacious
bachelor who found himself at the end of seven years,
in consequence of such treatment, not a husband,
but a cripple. If he were disheartened by repeated
failures he incurred great disgrace and lost all claim
to the alliance; and if the bride continued obdurate
from real dislike, he was ultimately expelled from the
village.[302] But, however well-disposed towards him
she might be, she had always to simulate refusal as a
point of honour, and proof was always required ‘that
she was taken by surprise and made fruitless efforts
to defend herself.’[303]
The Bushmen, again, generally betroth their
daughters as children without consulting them; but
should a girl grow up unbetrothed her consent to be
married is as necessary as that of her parents to her
lover’s suit, ‘and on this occasion his attentions are
received with an affectation of great alarm and disinclination
on her part.’[304]
If, then, Greenlanders, Kamschadals, Thlinkeet
Indians, and even Bushmen, carry their notions of
propriety to the extent asserted by eye-witnesses, it
is scarcely surprising to find very similar rules of
etiquette among the more advanced Zulus of Africa
or Bedouins of Arabia in their wedding ceremonials;
especially when we are told that in some parts Bedouin
women sit down and turn their backs to any
man they cannot avoid on the road, and refuse to
take anything from the hands of a stranger.[305] ‘The
principal idea of a Kaffir wedding seems to be to
show the great unwillingness of the girl to be transformed
into a wife,’ for which reason a Zulu wife
simulates several attempts to escape.[306] Both the
Arabs of Sinai and the Aenezes enact the form of
capture to the greatest perfection; among the latter
‘the bashful girl’ runs from the tent of one friend
to another till she is caught at last, whilst among the
former she acquires permanent repute in proportion
to her struggles of resistance. And if a Sinai Arab
marries a bride belonging to a distant tribe, she is
placed on a camel and led to her husband’s camp
escorted by women: during which procession ‘decency
obliges her to cry and sob most bitterly.’[307] Also, among
the modern Egyptians, ‘if the bridegroom is young,
one of his friends has to carry him part of the way to
the hareem, to show his bashfulness.’[308] So that where
the carrying of the bride or bridegroom is not merely
due to the same feelings that caused our own ancestors
to add solemnity to their weddings by such
singular sights as blue postilions, it appears in many
cases to be nothing more than a prudish way of saying,
that matrimony is and ought to be an estate
forced upon reluctant victims, not entered upon by
voluntary agents. The early Christian Church said
the same; but where the saint and the savage meet
in sentiment they differ in expression.
Were it not for some of the concomitant and incidental
signs, the bowed or veiled head, the dishevelled
hair, it might be said that the positive statements of
Cranz, Egede, Burchell, and other writers arose from
malobservation or from pure mistake. This objection,
therefore, is of little avail; and however difficult it
may be to account for the presence of such sentiments
among tribes of so rude a type as the Esquimaux, the
Kamschadals, and the Bushmen, the fact remains,
that in the cases above cited the ‘form of capture’ is
explicable as having its origin in primitive conceptions
of what is due to delicacy; as being, in fact,
the original expression of them in the language of
pantomime so common to savages.[309] And the presence
of such feelings of delicacy may be often suspected,
even where they are not directly mentioned,
in the ceremony of capture; as, for instance, in the
African kingdom of Futa, where the form of capture
prevails in the usual way, but where we have the indirect
evidence that for months after marriage the
bride never stirs abroad without a veil, and that Futa
wives are ‘so bashful that they never permit their husbands
to see them unveiled for three years after their
marriage.’[310]
There is, however, no reason to press this explanation
too far, nor to account it the only efficient cause.
Quite as potent, and perhaps a more natural one, is
dislike and disinclination on the part of the bride,
which compels the bridegroom to resort to force. The
conditions of savage life are a sufficient explanation of
this, irrespective of any old custom of capturing wives
out of a tribe by reason of a prejudice against marrying
within it. A man proposes personally or mediately
to the parents or relations of the woman he fancies
for a wife; if they consent to accept him as a son-in-law
and they agree as to a price, there is a reserved
stipulation on the part of the vendor: ‘If you can get
her.’ In Tartary, in the thirteenth century, after such
a bargain, the daughter would flee to one of her kinsfolk
to hide; the father would say to the husband,
‘My daughter is yours; take her wheresoever you can
find her.’ The suitor, seeking with his friends till he
found her, would then take her by force and carry her
home.[311] Here the girl’s reluctance is not so much
feigned as overridden, and is only so far formal in that
it is entirely disregarded. Often it is no mere ceremony
on her part, but a natural and genuine protest—a
protest against being treated as a chattel, not as
an individual—but a protest which, opposed as it is to
parental persuasion and marital force, tends, as far as
the husband is concerned, to pass into the region of
the merest ceremony.
A few instances will suffice to illustrate the co-operation
of dislike and force in savage matrimony.
In some Californian tribes the consent of the girl
is necessary, although ‘if she violently opposes the
match she is seldom compelled to marry or to be sold.’
Among the Neshenam tribe of the same people ‘the
girl has no voice whatever in the matter, and resistance
on her part merely occasions brute force to be used
by her purchaser.’[312] So in the Utah country, where
‘families and tribes living at peace would steal each
others’ wives and children and sell them as slaves,’ a
wife is usually bought of her parents; but should
she refuse, ‘the warrior collects his friends, carries off
the recusant fair,’ and thus espouses her.[313] So among
the Navajoes ‘the consent of the father is absolute,
and the one so purchased assents or is taken away by
force.’[314] It is the same with the Horse Indians of
Patagonia. There, as elsewhere, it is common for a
cacique to have several wives, and poor men only
one, marriages being ‘made by sale more frequently
than by mutual agreement.’ The price is often
high, and girls are betrothed without their knowledge
in infancy and married without their consent
at maturity. But ‘if a girl dislikes a match
made for her she resists; and although dragged
forcibly to the tent of her lawful owner, plagues him so
much by her contumacy that he at last turns her
away, and sells her to the person on whom she has
fixed her affections.’[315] In Africa, Yorubas, Mandingoes,
and Koossa Kafirs follow the custom of infant betrothal
(and it is worth notice as being quite in accordance
with the theory that kinship was originally traced
through mothers, that Yoruba, Mandingo, and Loango
Africans, and some Esquimaux tribes, regard the
mother’s consent only as necessary to an engagement);[316]
but sometimes a Yoruba girl, when the time
comes for her to fulfil her mother’s engagement,
preferring some other than the intended husband,
absolutely refuses to co-operate. ‘Then she is either
teased and worried into submission or the husband
agrees to receive back her dowry and release her.’[317]
A Mandingo girl must either marry a suitor chosen
for her or remain ever afterwards unmarried. Should
she refuse, the lover is authorized by the parents ‘by
the laws of the country to seize on the girl as his
slave.’[318] If a Koossa girl, bound by the contract of her
parents, ‘makes any attempt at resisting the union,
corporal punishment is even resorted to, in order to
compel her submission.’[319]
It appears, therefore, that resistance on the part
of the bride in many cases procures her ultimate release,
so that her wishes in the matter are always an
element to be considered. In all contracts of marriage,
to which she is seldom a party, there is accordingly,
in the nature of things, an implied covenant that a
daughter shall be so far allowed a voice in the matter
that if she can make good her resistance she shall not
become the property of the intending purchaser. The
frequency with which it must have occurred that a
girl would defeat a match she disliked by flight, elopement,
or resistance, would tend to create a sort of
common law right, for all daughters sold in marriage
to a certain ‘run’ for their independence;[320] and the
amusement naturally connected with the exercise of
such a right would help to preserve the custom in a
modified form; so that, however slight in some cases
might be the modesty of the bride or her dislike of
her suitor, her friends, if only for the sport of the thing,
would gladly enact the fiction of an outrage to be
resented, of a woman to be defended. In all the interesting
cases of the form of capture cited by Sir
John Lubbock it appears that in eight (that is, among
the Mantras, the Kalmucks, the Fuejians, the Fijians,
the New Zealanders, the Papuans of New Guinea, the
Philippine Islanders, and the African Kafirs and
Futas), the ceremony affords the bride a chance of an
effectual escape from a match she dislikes. Should
she fly, should she hide successfully, or should her
friends defend her successfully, the contract between
her parents and suitor becomes null and void; or sometimes,
as among the Zulus and Bassutos, the price for
her is raised.[321] And it is remarkable with what precision
the rules of the chase have been elaborated in
many instances; as by the Oleepas of Central California,
among whom, if a bride is found twice out of
three times, she is legally the seeker’s; and the bridegroom,
if he fails the first time, is allowed a second
and final attempt a few weeks later. ‘The simple
result is, that if the girl likes him she hides where she
is easily found; but if she disapproves of the match a
dozen Indians cannot find her.’[322]
Other feelings would also be present to sustain the
pretence of wife-capture. For the savage parent, in
parting with his daughter for a favourable settlement,
does not act from gratuitous cruelty; he provides for
her future as best he can, sometimes in accordance
with her wishes, sometimes against them. As a rule
marriage for her is a change for the worse; but if
she does not dislike the bridegroom to the extent of
availing herself of her prescriptive and real chance of
escape, her natural feelings for her parents and relations
would make it incumbent on her at least to affect
a dutiful regret at leaving them (in cases where she
does), by a half-bashful, half-serious resistance. It
would be difficult to find a case of capture, whether
in form or in fact, which is not readily explicable as
simply the outcome of the natural affections and their
protest against so artificial an arrangement as marriage
by purchase; for with marriage by purchase the form
of capture always co-exists, so that capture was not
necessarily an earlier mode of marriage than that by
purchase or agreement. The mock fights between
the party of the bride and that of the bridegroom
among so many Indian tribes;[323] the dances, lasting
several days, during which it is the business of the
squaws to keep the bridegroom at a distance from his
bride, among the Tucanas of South America;[324] the similar
duty which devolves on the matrons of the tribe
at Sumatran weddings;[325] the mock skirmishes at Arab
weddings, and the efforts of the negresses to keep the
bridegroom away from the camel of the bride;[326] these
are surely more intelligible, as arising from the rude
ideas and customs of savage life, than as being survivals,
artificially preserved, of a time when the bride
was really fought for or stolen; and if such explanation
is sufficient, should it not logically be admitted
before resorting to the hypothesis of a practice whose
very existence is rather an inference from such ceremonies
than a cause observable in actual operation?
To pass to a third and quite distinct class of marriages
by capture, in which the essential element is
not maidenly bashfulness nor real repugnance, but the
voluntary elopement of a girl with her lover, in defeat
of a prior contract of betrothal. The large part which
questions of profit and property play in savage betrothals
can never be lost sight of, in estimating the
causes of real wife abduction, either within or without
the tribe. The primary conception of a daughter is a
saleable possession, a source of profit, to her clan in
marketings with other clans or to her parents in their
bargains in her own clan. This fact alone militates
against the supposition of the wide prevalence of
female infanticide in primitive communities, the prejudice
being rather in favour of killing the boys than
the girls; not solely for the use of the latter as slaves
and labourers, but for the price which even among
Fuejians or Bushmen is payable in some form or
another for their companionship as wives. Abiponian
mothers spared their girls oftener than their boys,
because their sons when grown up would want wherewithal
to purchase a wife, and so tend to impoverish
them; whilst their daughters would bring them in
money by their sale in that capacity.[327] To raise the
price by limiting the supply was also the reason why
the Guanas of America preferred to bury their girls
alive rather than their boys.[328]
From this view of daughters as saleable commodities
comes polygamy for the rich, polyandry, or
illicit elopement, for the poor. Among the Hos of
India so high at one time was the price in cattle placed
by parents on their daughters that the large number of
adult unmarried girls became a ‘very peculiar feature
in the social state of every considerable village of the
Kohlán.’ What, then, was the result? That ‘young
men counteracted the machinations of avaricious
parents against the course of true love by forcibly
carrying off the girl,’ thus avoiding extortion by running
away with her. The parents in such cases had
to submit to terms proposed by arbitrators; but at
last wife-abduction became so common that it could
only be checked by the limitation by general consent
of the number of cattle payable at marriage.[329]
‘A very singular scene,’ it is said, ‘may sometimes
be noticed in the markets of Singbhoom. A
young man suddenly makes a pounce on a girl and
carries her off bodily, his friends covering the retreat
(like a group from the picture of the Rape of the
Sabines). This is generally a summary method of
surmounting the obstacles that cruel parents may have
placed in the lovers’ path; but though it is sometimes
done in anticipation of the favourable inclination of
the girl herself, and in spite of her struggles and
tears, no disinterested person interferes, and the girls,
late companions of the abducted maiden, often applaud
the exploit.’[330]
In Afghanistan the pecuniary value of women has
given rise to the curious custom of assessing part of
the fines in criminal cases in a certain number of
young women payable in atonement as wives to the
plaintiff or to his relations from the family of the
defendant. Thus murder is or was expiated by the
payment of twelve young women; the cutting off a
hand, an ear, or a nose by that of six; the breaking
of a tooth by that of three; a wound above the forehead
by that of one. This was the logical result of
the state of thought which produces wife-purchase;
but there was also another. For in the country parts,
where matches generally begin in attachment, an
enterprising lover may avoid the obstacle of parental
consent by a form of capture, which has a legal
sanction, though it does not exempt the captor from
subsequent payment. This consists in a man’s ‘seizing
an opportunity of cutting off a lock of her (the woman’s)
hair, snatching away her veil, or throwing a sheet
over her, and claiming her as his affianced wife.’ But
the most common expedient is an ordinary elopement;
though this is held an outrage to a family
equivalent to the murder of one of its members; and
being pursued with the same rancour, is often the
cause of long and bloody wars between the clans;
for as the fugitive couple are never refused an
asylum, ‘the seduction of a woman of one Oolooss
by a man of another, or a man’s eloping with a girl
of his own Oolooss,’ is the commonest cause of
feuds between the clans.[331]
Love attachments, in defeat of parental plans,
lead to very similar results in Bokhara. For ‘the
daughter of a Turcoman has a high price; and the
swain, in despair of making a legitimate purchase,
seizes his sweetheart, seats her behind him on the
same horse, and gallops off to the nearest camp,
where the parties are united, and separation is impossible.
The parents and relations pursue the lovers,
and the marriage is adjusted by an intermarriage
with some female relation of the bridegroom, while
he himself becomes bound to pay so many camels and
horses as the price of his bride.’[332]
There is, therefore, evidence to justify the theory
that the form of capture may often be explained as
an attempt to regulate by law the danger to a tribe
arising from too frequent elopements, naturally resulting
from the abuse of the parental right of selling
daughters. In Sumatra the defeat of matrimonial
plans by an elopement with a preferred suitor is so
common as to be sanctioned and regulated by law,
being known as the system of marriage by telari
gadis; the father in such a case having to pay the
fine to which he would have been liable for bestowing
his daughter after engagement to another suitor, and
only being allowed to recover her, if he catches her in
immediate pursuit. ‘When the parties,’ says Mr.
McLennan, ‘cannot agree about the price, nothing is
more common among the Kalmucks, Kirghiz, Nogais,
and Circassians than to carry the lady off by actual
force of arms. The wooer having once got the lady
into his yurt, she is his wife by the law, and peace is
established by her relations coming to terms as to the
price.’ So too in England, elopements have often
preceded and promoted more definite marriage settlements,
or, with some slight observances, have stood
legally as a substitute for them.
Considering, then, that the affections and wishes
do not count for nothing even among savages;
considering that among savages, more even than in
civilized life, marriage is a question of property and
of means, so that, whilst the richest members of a
tribe almost universally have several wives, it is often
all that the poorer can do to get a wife at all, we
have a set of circumstances leading naturally sometimes
to voluntary elopement on the part of the girl,
in defeat of her parents, sometimes to literal wife-capture
by a man otherwise unable to become a
husband. This condition of things leads of necessity
to polyandry and wife-robbery. In some Australian
tribes, owing to a disproportion between the sexes,
many men have to steal a wife from a neighbouring
horde. But it is not their normal recognized mode
of marriage. On the contrary, their laws on this
subject are somewhat elaborate; and as it appears
that before that state of society in which a daughter
belongs to her father there is one in which she
belongs to her mother, and perhaps a still prior state
in which she belongs to her tribe, so from their birth
Australian girls are appropriated to certain males of
the tribe, nor can the parents annul the obligation.
If the male dies the mother may then bestow her
daughter on whom she will, for by the death of her
legal owner the girl becomes to some extent the
property of her relations, who have certain claims on
her services for the procurement of food. But to the
surrender of a girl by her mother the full consent of
the whole tribe is necessary; and if, as sometimes
happens, ‘the young people, listening rather to the
dictates of inclination than those of law, improvise
a marriage by absconding together,’ they incur the
fatal enmity of the whole tribe.[333] According to Bonwick,
a Tasmanian or Australian woman was never
stolen contrary to her expectations or wishes. Only if
all other schemes to have her own way failed, would a
girl face the penalty of having ‘the spear of the disappointed,
the spear of the guardian, and the spears of the
tribe’ thrown at her, for her breach of tribal law.[334]
The conception of the daughters of a clan as its
property, as a source of contingent wealth to it, of
additional income to it in sheep, dogs, or whatever
the medium of exchange, tends to keep up in many
cases that prohibition to marry in the same clan or
subdivision of a tribe which is known as exogamy.
Among the Hindu Kafirs it is said to be uncertain
why a man may not sell his girls to his own tribe,
and why a man must always buy his wife from
another; but it is certain that for this reason the
more girls a man has born to him the better he is
pleased and the richer his tribe becomes.[335] A Khond
father distributes among the heads of the families,
belonging to his branch of a tribe, the sum raised on
behalf of a son-in-law by subscription from the son-in-law’s
branch. But, supposing a great inequality of
wealth to arise between different clans, originally
united by profitable intermarriages, it might become
more profitable to sell within the clan than outside it,
so that the same motives of interest which, under some
circumstances, would tend to encourage exogamy
would under others lead to the opposite principle, a
rich bridegroom of the same clan being preferable to
a poor one of another, whether the gain accrued to a
girl’s parents or her clan. It is, perhaps, for this reason
that a Hindu Kooch incurs a fine if he marries a
woman of another clan, becoming a bondsman till his
wife redeems him; that is, till she pays back to his clan
or its chief what the bridegroom, by purchasing her,
has alienated from the use of the tribe.[336] On the other
hand, the reason given by the Khonds for marrying
women from distant places was, that they gave much
smaller sums than for women of their own tribe.[337]
Exogamy and endogamy would thus co-exist, as
the customs of tribes that have attained to a more
or less complete recognition of the rights of property,
and are so far advanced as to be capable
of preserving complex rules of social organization.
Marriages, therefore, under either régime are matters
generally of friendly settlement, of ordinary contract;
and where such arrangements are defeated by the
perversity of the principal parties—namely, the bride
or the bridegroom—what more natural than the
device of giving legal sanction to an elopement by
settling a subsequent compensation with the parent?
The custom of exogamy is so widely spread over
the world that its origin must be sought in conditions
as prevalent as itself, and it is possible that it arose
out of the same condition which certainly sustains it
and is co-extensive with itself, namely, from the
marketable position of women. That female infanticide
should have led to it is improbable, not only from
the comparative rarity of the practice among the
rudest tribes, but from the negative instance of the
Todas, a wild Indian hill-tribe, who, notwithstanding
the scarcity of their women, and a scarcity actually
attributed to former female infanticide, ‘never contract
marriage with the other tribes, though living
together on most friendly terms.’[338] Judging à priori,
we should expect to find as of earlier date a prejudice
in favour of tribal exclusiveness, of strict endogamy.
The idea of the Abors that marriage out of the clan is
a sin only to be washed out by sacrifice—a sin so
great as to cause war among the elements, and even
obscuration of the sun and moon—has a more archaic
appearance than the contrary principle; and the
confinement of marriages to a few families of known
purity of descent is characteristic of some of the
lowest Hindu castes.[339] The prejudice against foreign
women is so strong that there is often a tendency to
regard female prisoners of war as merely slaves, as
not of the same rank with the real wives of their
captors. Thus, ‘though the different tribes of the
Aht nation are frequently at war with one another,
women are not captured from other tribes for
marriage, but only to be kept as slaves. The idea of
slavery connected with capture is so common that a
free-born Aht would hesitate to marry a woman
taken in war, whatever her rank had been in her own
tribe.’[340] The Caribs, too, if they kept female prisoners
as wives always regarded them as slaves, as standing
on a lower level than their legitimate wives.[341]
Leaving, however, the obscure problem of the origin
of exogamy, there is a point of view from which both
that and endogamy are one. For exogamy as regards
the subdivisions of a tribe is endogamy as regards
the tribe itself, tending in fact to preserve tribal
unity and to check an indefinite divergency of interests
and dialects. For example, where a Hindoo caste or
tribe is composed of several Gotrams, no person of
whom may marry an individual of the same Gotram,
it is evident that the unity of the tribe is actually
sustained by the exogamy of its constituent parts.
Such a custom therefore, howsoever originated, would,
as serviceable in maintaining tribal unity against
hostile neighbouring people, tend to survive from
motives of common expediency, from its adaptation
to the interests of peace; a beneficial result of the
system which in Mr. Bancroft’s account of the Thlinkeet
and Kutchin Indians clearly appears.[342] The
Thlinkeets are nationally divided into two great clans,
under the totems of the Wolf and the Raven, and
these two are again subdivided into numerous sub-totems.
‘In this clanship some singular social facts
present themselves. People are at once thrust widely
apart and yet drawn together. Tribes of the same
clan may not war on each other, but at the same time
members of the same clan may not marry each other.
Thus the young Wolf warrior must seek his mate
among the Ravens.... Obviously this singular
social fancy tends greatly to keep the various tribes of
the nation at peace.’ The Kutchins, again, are divided
into three castes, resident in different territories, no
two persons of the same caste being allowed to marry.
‘This system operates strongly against war between
the tribes, as in war it is caste against caste, not
tribe against tribe. As the father is never of the
same caste as the son, who receives clanship from the
mother, there can never be international war without
ranging fathers and sons against each other.’ So
among the Khonds, who punish intermarriage between
persons of the same tribe with death, the intervention
of the women was always essential to peace,
as they were neutral between the tribe of their fathers
and that of their husbands.[343] But it is difficult to
think that, if hostile relations between exogamous
clans became permanent, the several clans would still
insist on exogamous marriages as the only marriages
legally valid, and consequently regard the use of force
or fraud as the only legitimate title to a wife.
It seems indeed certain that wherever the rule of
exogamy exists it may be analysed into a prohibition
to marry within the divisions of a larger group; that
larger group being consciously recognised as uniting
the divergent families by resemblance of dialect,
common political ties, or a traditional common
descent. The Kalmucks, for instance, call themselves
‘the peculiar people,’ or ‘the four allies,’ and any
danger of their national dissolution is obviously
diminished by the very fact of the exogamy of their
four clans. The Circassians, whose constituent brotherhoods
are exogamous, by the occasional assemblies of
the brotherhoods for the settlement of disputes, show
a consciousness of their political unity, which by the
exogamy of the brotherhoods they help to maintain.
The Hindu castes preserve their mutual exclusiveness
by the very fact of compelling all their constituent
families to intermingle in marriage, and so preventing
any one of them from dissolving the common relationship
by absolute separation or independent growth.
So that exogamy rather sustains than prevents a
system of marriages within the same stock, and is a
mark of a higher conception of social organisation,
when people have learned to classify themselves with
respect to their neighbours, when tribal and personal
property is well established, and when, consequently,
marriages between the groups can be effected by
purchase better than by violence. Exogamy therefore
as the product or concomitant of a somewhat
advanced state of thought, not of utter barbarism,
would never make marriages by capture a necessity
of existence; but, if it did, it would argue so much
culture in a tribe capable of maintaining such rules, as
would equally justify us in ascribing to them moral
feelings, not less advanced and refined than those
involved in their adherence to so restrictive a political
system.
South Australia supplies a typical illustration of
the confusion relating to intertribal marriages which
arises from the vague use of the word tribe. For
wherever there is reason to suspect that the word clan
or family should stand for the word tribe, it is probable
that the exogamy predicated of the tribe only
prevails between its constituent elements; in other
words, that it is only, as among the Kalmucks, Circassians,
or Hindu castes, an extended form of the
principle of endogamy. Thus, Collins, describing
wife-capture in New South Wales, says that ‘it is
believed’ the women so taken are always selected
from women of a different tribe from that of the
males, and from one with whom they are at enmity;
that as wives ‘they are incorporated into the tribes
to which their husbands belong, and but seldom quit
them for others.’ But he uses the word tribe as convertible
with the word family, as when he speaks of
the natives near Port Jackson being distributed into
families, each under the government of its own head,
and deriving its name from its place of residence.[344]
And the statements of Captain Hunter, a previous
writer, that the natives are associated ‘in tribes of
many families together,’ living apparently without
a fixed residence; that ‘the tribe takes its name,
from the place of their general residence;’ and that,
the different families wander in different directions
for food, but unite on occasion of disputes with another
tribe, make it still more probable that when
Collins spoke of different tribes he meant merely,
different families, or groups, which with all their
separate wanderings united sometimes in cases of
common danger. So when Captain Hunter himself
says that ‘there is some reason to suppose that most
of their wives are taken by force from the tribes with
whom they are at variance, as the females bear no
proportion to the males,’ we may take it that by tribes
he means families, and families who recognise their
community of blood when a really different tribe
provokes their hostility by assembling as a tribe
themselves.[345] Mr. Stanbridge, who spent eighteen
years in the wilds of Victoria, corroborates this view;
for, according to him, each tribe has its own boundaries,
the land of which is parcelled out amongst
families and carefully transmitted by direct descent;
these boundaries being so sacredly maintained that
the member of no one family will venture on the
lands of a neighbouring one without invitation. The
several families (or tribes) unite for mutual purposes
under a chief. The women often, but not always,
marry into distant tribes; they are generally betrothed
in their infancy, but if they grow up unbetrothed the
father’s consent must be solicited; failing him, the
brother’s; then the uncle’s; and last of all that of a
council or a chief of a tribe.[346] That force was ever
the normal method by which marriages were effected
in Australia, there is no proof; that, on the contrary,
mutual likings often set the law, is proved by the
story of the native captive girl, who, after living among
the colonists for some time, expressed a desire to go
away and be married to a young native of her acquaintance;
albeit that she left him after three days, returning
sadly beaten and jealous of the other wife.[347]
Quite distinct, again, either from the real or pretended
reluctance of a savage girl to become a bride,
or from the custom of forcing an avaricious parent to
a settlement by the shorter process of taking first and
paying afterwards, is the custom of stealing women
from the same or a neighbouring clan, a custom which
prevailed widely in Ireland and Scotland in the seventeenth
and eighteenth centuries, and which in the
latter country has been ‘glorified in a whole literature
of songs and ballads.’[348]
That polygamy and wife-purchase and artificial
tribal regulations often lead to such a result cannot
be denied; but that it is anywhere a system, sustained
by prejudices, whencesoever derived, seems completely
unwarranted by the evidence hitherto collected. The
Coinmen of Patagonia, who made annual inroads on
the Tekeenica tribe, killing the men and carrying off
not only the women but the children, dogs, arrows,
spears, and canoes, seem to have been actuated rather
by the ordinary motives of freebooters (by such
motives, for instance, as induced our early convict
settlers in Tasmania to set off with their bullock-chains
to make captives of the native women[349]) than
by any scruples of marrying relations at home. Carib
wives taken in war were accounted slaves; and so far
were the Caribs from being dependent on aggression
for their wives, that before their customs were modified
by acquaintance with the Christians their only legitimate
wives were their cousins.[350] If a man had no
cousin to marry, or put off doing so till it was too
late, he might then marry some non-relative, with the
consent of her parents. At the festival that followed
a successful war the parents vied with one another
in offering their daughters as wives to those who
were praised by their captains as having fought with
bravery. The Caribs of the continent differed from
those of the islands in that men and women spoke
the same language, not having corrupted their native
tongue by marriages with foreign women.[351] According
to Humboldt, the language of the Caribs of the
continent was the same, from the source of the Rio
Branco to the steppes of Cumana; and the pride
of race which led them to withdraw from every other
people, and was the cause of the failure of all missionary
efforts that tried to combine them with villages
containing people of another nation and speaking
another idiom, would surely have militated against
making exogamy a preliminary condition of matrimony.[352]
Humboldt, indeed, says that polygamy was
more extensively practised by the Caribs and other
nations that ‘preserved the custom of carrying off
young girls from the neighbouring tribe;’ but it
would be contrary to all previous accounts of the
people to suppose these were their only wives, such a
supplement to domestic felicity being everywhere the
common reward, though seldom the chief object, of
successful war. The curious difference in the language
of the men and of the women found to exist among
the Caribs of the West Indian Archipelago, and
attributed by tradition to the conquest of a former
people on the islands, whose wives the conquerors
appropriated, has perhaps been rather exaggerated, for
in a list of 488 words and phrases employed by both
sexes, in only 36 is there any difference marked
between the language of the men and that of the
women. The origin of the difference may be doubted,
as there were also words and phrases used by the
old men of the people which the younger ones might
not use; and there was a war-dialect of which neither
women, girls, or boys had any knowledge.[353] But
probably the difference arose from a custom similar
to that of the Zulus, which makes it unlawful for a
woman to use any word containing the sound of her
father-in-law’s name or of the names of her husband’s
male relations. ‘Whenever the emphatic syllable of
either of their proper names occurs in any other word,
she must avoid it, by either substituting an entirely new
word, or at least another syllable in its place. Hence
this custom has given rise to an almost distinct language
among the women.’[354] In consequence of this Hlonipa
custom, according to another witness, ‘the language at
this present time almost presents the phenomenon of a
double one.’[355] That the Caribs maintained the common
etiquette of reserve between parents and children-in-law,[356]
makes it not improbable that the reserve extended
itself to their language, and thus produced the
same phenomenon that we find in South Africa.
In the same way other cases of wife-capture appear
simply in the light of savage lawlessness, which may
have been more common among quite primitive tribes
than it is in their nearest modern representatives; but
which, if it ever was widely prevalent, is most unlikely
to have been perpetuated in symbol, by a form of capture.
If then the form is easily explicable on other
grounds, such as have been suggested, we have a reason
the less for supposing in the past a state of things
which would exclude from the relations between male
and female the happy influence of that mutual affection
which has been shown not to have been entirely absent
even among, perhaps, the rudest of our species, the
aborigines of Australia or the Veddahs of Ceylon, and
which is certainly disseminated more or less widely,
outside the human race, through a large part of the
animal creation.
It is probably impossible to resuscitate in imagination
a picture of primitive times. It is with the lower
societies of the world as with the lower animal organisms:
the more they are studied, the more wonderful
is the complexity of structure they unfold. Tribal
and subtribal divisions of communities, tribal and
subtribal divisions of territory, strong distinctions of
rank, stringent rules of etiquette, are found on all
sides to characterise populations in other circumstances
of life scarcely less rude than the brute creation around
them. The first beginnings of social evolution are
lost, nor can they be observed in any known races
that appear to have advanced the least distance from
the starting-point of progress. But, as there is no
reason to suppose that the external conditions of
primitive man were ever very different from those of
existing tribes; that those, for instance, of the shell-mound
builders or the cave-dwellers differed widely
from those of existing Ahts or Bushmen, so there is
nothing unreasonable in believing, that the earliest
human denizens of the globe were endowed with the
same rudiments of feelings that prevail among them,
and that these should, even in very early times, have
produced very similar social institutions. That Greeks
and Egyptians, Chinese and Hindus, had legends
ascribing marriage to the invention of a particular
legislator, thereby implying there was a time when
marriage was not, no more proves that there was ever
a time when some sort of marriage was unrecognised
than the many legends of the origin of fire prove that
mankind were ever destitute of the blessing of its
warmth. A minimum of reflection on the subject
would produce the legend, just as reflections on the
world’s origin have produced countless legends of its
creation, of a time when it too was nonexistent. And
it will be found, wherever any known savage tribe
really practises no wedding customs, that the fact of
the marriage is distinctly recognised, either by payment
in kind or labour by the bridegroom or by
some symbolical act notifying the union to all fellow-tribesmen.
The Veddahs, for instance, according to
Tennant, used no marriage rites; but another writer
mentions, that on the day of marriage the husband
received from his bride a cord twisted by herself, which
he had to wear round his waist till his death, as a
symbol of the lastingness of the union between them.
The Kherias of India, who have no word for marriage
in their language, give public recognition to the fact
by certain rites and festivities, closely analogous to
those in vogue in neighbouring tribes. The Coroadas
of Brazil have no marriage solemnity, but the suitor
presents the bride’s parents with fruit or game, as a
tacit engagement to support her by the chase. Such
a tacit expression of willingness and ability to take
good care of his wife is a common symbolical act
among savages, even the rudest; whilst the fact that
for the married pair henceforth there will be a union
of life and fortune is indicated by many a wedding
custom, of no doubtful meaning, as by the eating of
a cake together, or by the Dyak custom of making
the married couple sit together on two bars of iron,
‘to intimate the wish of the bystanders that blessings
as lasting and health as vigorous as that metal may
attend the pair.’
But symbolical acts like these—and they might
be multiplied indefinitely—presuppose an advanced
state of thought and feeling, behind which we cannot
get in the observation of any existing savage tribes;
and since they are common wherever the pretence of
capture is common, that pretence may well be symbolical
too; but symbolical, not of an earlier system
of marriage, but of a conventional regard for good
manners. Wherever the pretence of capture exists, it
exists amid conditions of life so far removed from
what might naturally be conceived as the most archaic,
that it is quite legitimate to attribute the decorous
reluctance of the bride and the resistance of her relations
at weddings to such feelings as have been proved
to prevail upon such occasions, and so to consider the
bride’s behaviour as something quite unconnected
with the lawless practice of wife-abduction, a practice
which undoubtedly prevails to a certain extent in the
savage world (chiefly in consequence of artificial social
arrangements), which may have prevailed to a still
greater extent when men lived in the caves of Périgord
or upon former continents, but which it is incredible
should ever have survived by transmission as a symbol,
as a custom worthy of religious preservation.