The antiquity of the furniture in our homes can scarcely be described—every
article appearing to have been purchased during the
reign of George III., since which period no new fixtures or household
utensils seemed to have been bought.
The books in our libraries had been brought from England almost
two hundred years before. In our own library there were Hogarth’s
pictures, in old worm-eaten frames; and among the literary curiosities,
one of the earliest editions of Shakespeare—1685—containing
under the author’s picture the lines by Ben Johnson:
“This Figure which thou here seest put
It was for gentle Shakespeare cut—
Wherein the Graver had a strife,
With Nature to outdo the Life.
O, could he but have drawn his Wit
As well in Brass, as he has hit
His Face; the Paint would then surpass
All that was ever writ in Brass.
But since he can not, Reader, look
Not on his Picture, but his Book.”
This was a reprint of the first edition of Shakespeare’s works collected
by John Heminge and Henry Condell, two of his friends in
the company of comedians.
The perusal of the Arabian Nights, when a small child, possessed
me with the idea that their dazzling pictures were to be realized when
we emerged from plantation life into the outside world, and the disappointment
at not finding Richmond paved with gems and gold
like those cities in Eastern story, is remembered to the present time.
Brought up amid antiquities, the Virginia girl disturbed herself not
about modern fashions, appearing happy in her mother’s old silks
and satins made over; her grandmother’s laces and brooch of untold
dimensions, with a weeping willow and tombstone on it—a constant
reminder of the past—which had descended from some remote ancestor.
She slept in a high bedstead—the bed of her ancestors; washed
her face on an old fashioned, spindle-legged washstand; mounted a
high chair to arrange her hair before the old fashioned mirror on the
high bureau; climbed to the top of a high mantle-piece to take down
the old fashioned high candlesticks; climbed a pair of steps to get
into the high-swung, old fashioned carriage; perched her feet upon
the top of a high brass fender if she wanted to get them warm; and,
in short, had to perform so many gymnastics that she felt convinced
her ancestors must have been a race of giants, or they could not have
required such tall and inaccessible furniture.
An occasional visit to Richmond or Petersburg, sometimes animated
her with a desire for some style of dress less antique than her
own; although she had as much admiration and attention as if she
had just received her wardrobe from Paris.
Her social outlook might have been considered limited and circumscribed—her
parents being unwilling that her acquaintance should
extend beyond the descendants of their own old friends.
She had never any occasion to make what the world calls a
“debut;” the constant flow of company at her father’s house having
rendered her assistance necessary in entertaining guests, as soon as
she could converse and be companionable. So that her manners
were early formed, and she remembered not the time when it was
anything but very easy and agreeable, to be in the society of ladies
and gentlemen.
In due time we were provided—my sister and myself—with the best
instructors—a lady all the way from Bordeaux to teach French, and
a German Professor for German and music. The latter opened to
us a new world of music. He was a fine linguist, thorough musician
and perfect gentleman. He lived with us five years, and remained
our sincere and truly valued friend through life.
After some years we were thought to have arrived at “sufficient
age of discretion” for a trip to New York city.
Fancy our feelings on arriving in that world of modern people and
modern things! Fancy two young girls suddenly transported from
the time of George III. to the largest hotel on Broadway in 1855!
All was as strange to us then as we are now to the Chinese.
Never had we seen white servants before; and on being attended by
them at first felt a sort of embarrassment, but soon found they were
accustomed to less consideration and more hard work than were our
negro servants at home.
Everything and everybody seemed in a mad whirl—the “march of
material progress,” they told us. It seemed to us more the “perpetual
motion of progress.” Everybody said that if “old fogy” Virginia
did not make haste to join this “march,” she would be left a
“wreck behind.”
We found ourselves in the “advanced age;” the land of water-pipes
and dumb-waiters; the land of enterprise and money, and at
the same time an economy amounting to parsimony.
The manners of the people were strange to us, and different from
ours. The ladies seemed to have gone ahead of the men in the
“march of progress”—their manner being more pronounced. They
did not hesitate to “push about” through crowds and public places.
Still, we were young; and dazzled with the gloss and glitter, we
wondered why old Virginia couldn’t join this “march of progress,”
and have dumb-waiters, and elevators, and water-pipes, and gas fixtures,
and baby jumpers, and washing machines.
We asked a gentleman who was with us, why old Virginia had not
all these, and he replied: “Because, while the people here have been
busy working for themselves, old fogy Virginia has been working for
negroes. All the money Virginia makes is spent in feeding and
clothing negroes. And,” he continued, “these people in the North
were shrewd enough years ago to sell all their’s to the South.”
All was strange to us; even the table-cloths on the tea and breakfast
tables instead of napkins under the plates as we had at home,
and which always looked so pretty on the mahogany.
But the novelty having worn off after awhile, we found out there
was a good deal of “imitation,” after all, mixed up in everything.
Things did not seem to have been “fixed up” to last as long as our old
things at home, and we began to wonder if the “advanced age” really
made the people any better, or more agreeable, or more hospitable,
or more generous, or more brave, or more self-reliant, or more charitable,
or more true, or more pious, than in “old fogy Virginia?”
There was one thing most curious to us in New York. No one
seemed to do anything by himself or herself. No one had an individuality;
all existed in “clubs” or “societies.” They had also many
“isms” of which we had never heard; some of the people sitting up
all night, and going around all day talking about “manifestations,”
and “spirits,” and “affinities,” which they told us was “spiritualism.”
All this impressed us slow, old fashioned Virginians, as a strangely
up-side-down, wrong-side-out condition of things.
Much of the conversation we heard was confined to asking questions
of strangers, and discussing the best means of making money.
We were surprised too to hear of “plantation customs” said to exist
among us which were entirely new to us; and one of the Magazines
published in the city informed us that “dipping” was one of the
“characteristics” of Southern women. What could the word “dipping”
mean? we wondered, for we had never heard it before. Upon
inquiry we found that it meant “rubbing the teeth with snuff on a
small stick”—a truly disgusting habit which could not have prevailed
in Virginia, or we would have had some tradition of it at least—our
acquaintance extending over the State, and our ancestors having
settled there two hundred years ago.
A young gentleman from Virginia—bright and overflowing with
fun, also visiting New York—coming into the parlor one day threw
himself on a sofa in a violent fit of laughter.
“What is the matter?” we asked.
“I am laughing,” he replied, “at the absurd questions these people
can ask. What do you think? A man asked me just now if we
didn’t keep blood-hounds in Virginia to chase negroes! I told him,
O, yes, every plantation keeps several dozen! And we often have
a tender boiled negro infant for breakfast!”
“Oh, how could you have told such a story?” we said.
“Well,” said he, “you know we never saw a blood-hound in Virginia,
and I do not expect there is one in the State; but these people
delight in believing everything horrible about us, and I thought I
might as well gratify them with something marvelous. So the next
book published up here will have, I’ve no doubt, a chapter headed:
‘Blood-hounds in Virginia and boiled negroes for breakfast!’”
While we were purchasing some trifles to bring home to some of
our servants, a lady, who had entertained us most kindly at her house
on Fifth Avenue, expressing surprise, said: “We never think of
bringing home presents to our ‘helps.’”
This was the first time we had ever heard, instead of “servant,”
the word “help,” which seemed then—and still seems—misapplied.
The dictionaries define “help” to mean aid; assistance; remedy,
while “servant” means one who attends another, and acts at his
command. When a man pays another to “help” him, it implies he
is to do part of the work himself, and is dishonest if he leaves the
whole to be performed by his “help.”
The word servant is an honest Bible word, and distinctly defines
a position. Noah did not say: “Cursed be Cain, a ‘help’ of ‘helps’
shall he be to his brethren.” Nor did Abraham call his eldest “servant,”
although ruling over all he had, his “help.” Neither does the
Commandment say thy “man-help” or thy “maid-help.”
The word “servant” seems, after the lapse of centuries, still applied
with the same meaning by St. Paul, who does not say, “Master,
give unto your ‘helps’ that which is equal;” or, “Let as many
‘helps’ as are under the yoke count their own masters worthy of all
honor.”
The words “master and servant” thus lose their true significance.
Among other discoveries during this visit we found how much more
talent it requires to entertain company in the country than the city.
In the latter the guests and family form no “social circle round the
blazing hearth” at night, but disperse far and wide, to be entertained
at the concert, the opera, the theater or club; while in the country
one depends entirely upon native intellect and conversational talent.
And oh! the memory of our own fireside circles! The exquisite
women; the men of giant intellect, eloquence and wit at sundry
times assembled there! Could our andirons but utter speech what
could they not tell of mirth and song, eloquence and wit, whose flow
made many an evening bright.
Well, as all delights must have an end, the time came for us to
leave these “scenes enchanting.” Bidding adieu forever to the land
of “modern appliances” and stale bread, we returned to the land flowing
with “old ham and corn cakes,” and were soon surrounded by
friends who came to hear the marvels we had to relate.
How monotonous, how dull, prosy, inconvenient everything seemed
after our plunge into modern life!
We told old Virginia about all the enterprise we had seen; and
how she was left far behind everybody and everything, urging her to
join at once the “march of material progress.”
But the mother of States persisted in sitting contentedly over her
old fashioned wood fire with brass andirons, and while thus musing
these words fell slowly and distinctly from her lips:
“They call me ‘old fogy,’ and tell me I must get out of my old ruts
and come into the ‘advanced age.’ But I don’t care about their ‘advanced
age;’ their water-pipes and elevators. Give me the right sort
of men and women! God loving; God serving men and women.
Men brave, courteous, true. Women sensible, gentle and retiring.
“Have not my ‘plantation homes’ furnished warriors, statesmen
and orators, acknowledged great by the world? I make it a rule to
‘keep on hand’ men equal to emergencies. Had I not Washington,
Patrick Henry, Light-horse Harry Lee, and others, ready for the first
Revolution; and if there comes another—which God forbid!—have I
not plenty more just like them?”
Here she laughed with delight, as she called over their names:
“Robert Lee, Jackson, Joe Johnstone, Stuart, Early, Floyd, Preston,
the Breckinridges, Scott, and others like them, brave and true as
steel. Ha! ha! I know of what stuff to make men! And if my old
‘ruts and grooves’ produce men like these, should they be abandoned?
Can any ‘advanced age’ produce better?
“Then there are my soldiers of the cross. Do I not yearly send
out a faithful band to be a ‘shining light,’ and spread the gospel
North, South, East, West, even into foreign lands? Is not the only
Christian paper in Athens, Greece, the result of the love and labor
of one of my[1] soldiers?
“And can I not send out men of science, as well as warriors, statesmen
and orators? There is Maury on the seas showing the world
what a man of science can do. If my ‘old fogy’ system has produced
men like these must it be abandoned?”
Here the old mother of States settled herself back in her chair, a
smile of satisfaction resting on her face, and she ceased to think of
change.
Telling our mother of all the wonders and pleasures of New York,
she said:
“You were so delighted, I expect you would like to sell out everything
here and move there!”
“It would be delightful!” we exclaimed.
“But you would miss many pleasures you have in our present
home.”
“We would have no time to miss anything,” said my sister, “in
that whirl of excitement!”
“But,” she continued. “I believe one might as well try to move the
Rocky Mountains to Fifth Avenue, as an old Virginian! They have
such a horror of selling out and moving.”
“It is not so easy to sell out and move,” replied our mother, “when
you remember all the negroes we have to take care of and support.”
“Yes, the negroes,” we said, “are the weight continually pulling
us down! Will the time ever come for us to be free of them?”
“They were placed here,” replied our mother, “by God, for us to
take care of, and it does not seem that we can change it. When we
emancipate them, it does not better their condition. Those left free
and with good farms given them by their masters, soon sink into
poverty and wretchedness, and become a nuisance to the community.
We see how miserable are Mr. Randolph’s[2] negroes, who with their
freedom received from their master a large body of the best land in
Prince Edward county. My own grandfather also emancipated a
large number, having first had them taught lucrative trades that they
might support themselves, and giving them money and land. But
they were not prosperous or happy. We have also tried sending
them to Liberia. You know my old friend, Mrs. L——, emancipated
all her’s and sent them to Liberia, but she told me the other day she
was convinced it had been no kindness to them, for she continually
receives letters begging assistance, and yearly supplies them with
clothes and money.”
So it seemed our way was “hedged about” and surrounded by
walls of circumstances too thick and solid to be pulled down, and
we said no more.
But some weeks after this conversation, we had a visit from a
friend—“Mozis Addums”—who having lived in New York and hearing
us express a wish to live there, said:
“What! exchange a home in old Virginia for one on Fifth Avenue?
You don’t know what you are talking about! They are not even
called ‘homes’ there, but ‘house;’ where they turn into bed at midnight;
eat stale-bread breakfasts; have brilliant parties—where
several thousand people meet who don’t care anything about each
other. They have no soul life; but shut themselves up in themselves,
live for themselves, and never have any social enjoyment like ours.”
“But,” we said, “could not our friends come to see us there as well
as anywhere else?”
“No indeed!” he answered. “Your hearts would soon be as cold
and dead as your marble door-fronts. You wouldn’t want to see
anybody, and nobody would want to see you.”
“You are complimentary, certainly!”
“I know all about it; and,” he continued, “I know you could not
find on Fifth Avenue such women as your mother and grandmother,
who never think of themselves, but are constantly planning and providing
for others, making their homes comfortable and pleasant, and
attending to the wants and welfare of so many negroes. And that
is what the women all over the South are doing and what the New
York women cannot comprehend. How can anybody know, except
ourselves, the personal sacrifices of our women?”
“Well,” said my sister, “you need not be so severe and eloquent
because we thought we would like to live in New York! If we
should sell all we possess, we could never afford to live there. Besides,
you know our mother would as soon think of selling her children
as her servants—who indeed are beginning to possess her, instead
of her possessing them.”
“But,” he replied, “I can’t help talking, for I hear our people
abused, and called indolent and self-indulgent, when I know they
have valor and endurance enough. And I believe so much ‘material
progress’ leaves no leisure for the highest development of heart and
mind. Where the whole energy of a people is applied to making
money, the souls of men become dwarfed.”
“We do not feel,” we said, “like abusing Northern people, in
whose thrift and enterprise we found much to admire; and especially
the self-reliance of their women, enabling them to take care of themselves
and travel from Maine to the Gulf without an escort, while we
find it impossible to travel a day’s journey without a special protector.”
“That is just what I don’t like,” said he, “to see a woman in a
crowd of strangers needing no ‘special protector.’”
“This dependence upon your sex,” we replied, “keeps you so vain.”
“We would lose our gallantry altogether,” said he, “if we found
you could get along without us.”