DOCTOR W. BECHTEREW, a distinguished
Russian physician, was one day
visited by a man of extraordinary appearance.
Cheap and shabby clothing fitted the visitor's
gaunt frame badly; his gait was shuffling; his
whole form and manner testified pathetically to an
overwhelming burden of poverty, anxiety, and dread.
But what was most remarkable about him was a pair
of enormous black spectacles, giving a horribly grotesque
aspect to his pallid, bearded face. It was
with difficulty that Doctor Bechterew concealed the
astonishment he felt and courteously inquired what
he could do for his strange visitor.
"I have come," was the hesitating, almost stammering,
reply, "in the hope that you can cure me of
my bashfulness."
"Your bashfulness?" repeated the physician, with
a quizzical, but kindly, smile. "Is that all that
troubles you?"
"It is enough," answered the other, vehemently.
"Doctor, it has made life a hell for me."
"And for how long have you been bashful?"
"Virtually since childhood. I can positively place
its beginnings in my schooldays." His words now
flowed swiftly, torrentially. "Long before I left
school I noticed that I felt awkward and uneasy
when anybody looked directly at me. I found myself
blushing, stammering, turning away, unable to look
people in the eye.
"After I left school and went to work, matters
became much worse. In business I had to meet
strangers all the time, and in the presence of strangers
I felt absolutely helpless. My bashfulness increased
to such an extent that I began to invent
excuses to stay away from my work, and to remain
at home in a miserable solitude. But this did not do;
I had to earn my living. In desperation, I hit on
the idea of wearing these black spectacles."
"So that people cannot see your eyes?"
"Exactly. They have helped me wonderfully;
intrenched behind them, I feel comparatively safe.
But I detest them, and I long to be like other men.
Is there no cure for me?"
Bizarre, startlingly unique as this must seem, it,
after all, differs only in the single detail of the spectacles
from hundreds of other cases which might be
cited. All over the world are men and women who
suffer agonies from an oppressive, and to them inexplicable,
sense of timidity when brought into contact
with other people. Many, to be sure, make a brave
effort to conceal the true state of affairs, compelling
themselves to mingle more or less freely in society,
despite the torturing apprehensions they then feel.
Others of less stubborn mould either seclude themselves
or deliberately choose careers that leave them
much in solitude. Sometimes, for that matter, the
choosing of such careers is an affair not of choice,
but of necessity. A man of thirty-four confided to
his physician, Doctor Paul Hartenberg:
"I began life as an assistant to my father in the
wholesale liquor business, my work being such that
I did not realise my extreme bashfulness. But it was
made very clear to me when, owing to my father's
failure, I was obliged to seek employment elsewhere.
"I applied for and was given the position of manager
in a large café. It was part of my duty to
keep order among the employees, and, to my dismay,
I found that I was not equal to this. Whenever I
had to exert my authority I was strangely embarrassed;
I stammered, trembled, and, worst of all,
blushed like a girl. The employees, as you may
imagine, were not long in perceiving how timid and
bashful I was, and affairs rapidly came to such a
pass that the owner of the café angrily dismissed
me.
"I then became a clerk in a department store.
But, alas! my deplorable bashfulness was again my
undoing. If a customer looked at me when asking a
question or giving an order, I blushed, became so
embarrassed that I had to turn away, and, in my
confusion, paid no attention to what the customer
was saying. If the latter repeated his words I became
more disturbed than ever, trembled, perspired,
and acted so queerly that people thought I was
drunk.
"Again I was dismissed, and again I found employment,
this time in a smaller store. The result
was the same. Thus I passed from position to position,
always descending in the social scale. What do
you suppose I am doing at present? I am washing
dishes in the cellar of a restaurant. It is not pleasant
work, but it at least shelters me from the terrible
gaze of strangers."
This, fortunately, is an exceptional case. Yet it
is certain that many a man is to-day holding a position
far below that for which he really has ability,
simply because he is too bashful to assert himself,
dreading not so much the increased responsibilities
of more remunerative work as the fact that it will
bring him more conspicuously and intimately into
the view of other people. He feels in his soul, poor
fellow, that the result will be to plunge him into
unendurable confusion. It is an ordeal too great for
him to face, and he clings desperately to the inferior
position, which, from his distorted point of view, has
the merit of allowing him to go through life unnoticed
and, consequently, untroubled.
What, then, is this bashfulness which exerts so
widespread and baneful an influence? Whence does
it take its rise? And how is its victim to go about
the task of overcoming it? These are questions of
vital significance, particularly in this age of complex
civilisation and strenuous competition, in which the
bashful man is at a tremendous disadvantage. Happily,
he appreciates this, and resorts with increasing
frequency to the physician's office in quest of advice
and aid. As a result, far more is known about bashfulness
to-day than was ever the case before, albeit in
its most important aspects as yet known only to a
comparatively small number of psychologically
trained physicians.
These physicians recognise that there are two distinct
types of bashfulness, the one chronic, the other
occasional, both of which represent an abnormal
exaggeration of the shyness which is a normal characteristic
of nearly every child, and which manifests
itself in blushing, fidgeting, hiding the face, etc.
Ordinarily, this organic shyness, as the psychologist
Baldwin has termed it, disappears between the fifth
and seventh year. But it may recur under special
conditions, and it is specially likely to recur, as
almost everybody knows from experience, under conditions
focusing public attention on the person.
Under such conditions—being called on unexpectedly
to speak in public, taking part for the first time in
theatrical performances, and so forth—bashfulness
of the occasional type is very much in evidence, its
symptoms ranging from tremor, palpitation, and
vasomotor disturbances to the paralysis of "stage
fright." Neither psychologically nor medically is
this type of bashfulness of much importance. As the
novelty of the conditions giving rise to it wears off—when,
for example, one has become accustomed to
public speaking—it usually disappears. Like the
organic shyness of childhood, it is merely a product
of inexperience, an expression of an instinctive reaction
that is possibly "a far-off echo from the dim
past, when fear of the unknown was a safeguard in
the struggle for existence."
Altogether different is the case with those who are
habitually bashful, of whom the world holds many
thousands. Here, obviously, some factor or factors
other than inexperience must enter to cause the
chronic timidity which has the special quality of
afflicting its victim only when in the presence of other
human beings. This, indeed, is the distinguishing
characteristic of bashfulness, as was pointed out
long ago by Charles Darwin, in his statement that
bashfulness seems to depend on "sensitiveness to the
opinion, whether good or bad, of others." Darwin
also held—and his view still is the prevailing one—that
the sensitiveness of the habitually bashful man
relates mostly to external appearances. That is to
say, he is bashful because he knows he is awkward,
because he is dressed out of style or not in keeping
with the special occasion, or because he suffers from
some real or fancied bodily defect. To the objection
that there are plenty of awkward, badly dressed, and
physically deformed men and women who are not at
all bashful, the advocates of this theory fall back on
heredity as the ultimate determining factor, insisting
that it is an inborn weakness which makes the
bashful man or woman supersensitive to the opinion
of others regarding his or her personal appearance
and demeanour.
Now, recent research seems to leave no doubt that
heredity does operate to some extent in the causation
of bashfulness, since most bashful persons—at any
rate, among those who come under the care of physicians—have
a strain of the neurotic in their family
histories. On the other hand, it has been quite as
positively established that the matter of external
appearances has a causal relation to bashfulness in
comparatively few cases, though it may act as an
aggravating element. In case after case the first
manifestations of true chronic bashfulness have been
traced to a period in life far antedating any anxiety
on the person's part respecting the way he walks or
dresses or looks. More than this, when the bashful
themselves are questioned as to the causes of their
bashfulness, they usually either profess entire ignorance,
or emphasise mental, rather than physical,
factors.
"I attribute my bashfulness to no physical cause,"
is a characteristic response. "I attribute it to
a certain weakness of mind, to my lack of self-confidence,
to fear of ridicule, and especially to a nervous
excitement which I feel whenever others look
at me."
Of course, apart from the doubt which such a
response casts on the external appearances theory
of bashfulness, and its emphasis on the mental, as
opposed to the physical, factor, it really throws
scarcely any light on the question of causation. Just
as there are many awkward, badly dressed, and deformed
people who are not bashful, so there are
many modest and sensitive ones who go through life
in wholly normal fashion, perhaps untroubled even
by bashfulness of the occasional type. Quite evidently
there still is an underlying something which
has to be taken into account before one can fully
understand chronic bashfulness.
That something the modern medical psychologist
is beginning to believe he has discovered through
proceeding on the assumption that bashfulness is
far more than a mere innate weakness or character
defect; that it is, in reality, a functional nervous
trouble, differing only in degree, not in kind, from
hysteria and other psychoneuroses. That is to say,
the medical psychologist assumes that, as is now
believed to be the case in every psychoneurosis, the
bashful man is the victim of subconscious memories
of distressing incidents in his early life; incidents
which, in his case, have had the effect of arousing in
an exaggerated degree sentiments of shame or
fear.
The supersensitive child, having seen or heard
something that profoundly shocks him, or having
committed some petty or really serious fault, feels,
on the one hand, that he has a shameful secret he
must guard carefully, and, on the other hand, fears
that people can read his secret in his eyes. Hence,
he develops feelings of awkwardness and embarrassment
when others look at and speak to him. He
fidgets, blushes, stammers, trembles; in a word, displays
all the symptoms indicated by the term bashfulness.
In the course of time one of two things will
happen: either increased knowledge will reassure him,
and he will, as the saying is, outgrow his bashfulness;
or the hidden fear and shame—even though the
original occasion for them may have completely
lapsed from conscious remembrance—will fix themselves
firmly in his mind, causing a habit of bashfulness
which may torture him all his life.
Whether this new theory as to bashfulness of the
chronic type holds good invariably, it is as yet impossible
to say. Certainly, it has been verified in an
astonishingly large number of cases. Time and
again, applying some one of the delicate methods by
which they tunnel into the most obscure recesses of
the mind, medical psychologists have dragged into
the full light of conscious recollection forgotten
memories which the victims of bashfulness themselves
recognise as connected with the onset of their abnormal
timidity. Often their bashfulness completely
disappears, or is markedly abated, as soon as the
memories responsible for it are recovered. Or, when
an immediate cure is not wrought, one is pretty sure
to result after an explanation of the evolution of the
trouble and the application of appropriate suggestions
to develop self-confidence and will power.
To illustrate by citing a few instances from life,
let me give first the case of a young New England
man, who, as usually happens, did not resort to a
physician until his bashfulness had begun to interfere
with his earning a livelihood.
"I have not the slightest idea what is the matter
with me," he told the neurologist whom he consulted,
"but the fact is that for a good many years I have
felt strangely timid when meeting people. I believe I
am naturally of a courageous disposition—certainly
I do not suffer from cowardice in the ordinary
sense—but I actually blush and tremble if spoken to
suddenly or looked at intently. Lately I notice this
has been growing worse."
"Can you tell me," the physician asked, "just
when you first noticed that you were bashful?"
"No, I am sorry to say I can't. I only know that
it began while I was a boy."
Nevertheless, by the aid of a method of psychoanalysis,
or psychological mind-tunnelling, it was
ascertained that, subconsciously, he did know exactly
when his bashfulness began, and also was well
aware of its cause. From among the forgotten, or
only vaguely remembered, episodes of his boyhood
there emerged, with exceptional vividness, a memory-picture
of the time when he first went to work. He
recalled with painful intensity the figure of his employer,
a stern, cold, hard man, with piercing eyes.
"Those eyes seemed to be on me everywhere I went.
They seemed to be watching for the least mistake I
might make. I began to wonder what would happen
to me if I did make mistakes. Then I began to feel
incompetent and to fear that he would notice my
incompetency. I grew nervous, awkward, timid.
Whenever he spoke to me, I jumped, I blushed, I
trembled. After a time I did the same when anybody
spoke to me."
"And sometimes you still think of that first employer
who frightened you so much?"
"I try not to, but I know I do."
To the neurologist the cause of his patient's bashfulness
was now evident. The fear, the anxiety, the
over-conscientiousness engendered by the employer's
attitude, working in the mind of an ultra-impressionable
boy, were quite enough to initiate a habit of
abnormal diffidence. Tactfully, the physician made
this clear to the patient; earnestly he impressed on
him the idea that the unpleasant experience of which
he spoke was a thing of the past, and was nothing
of which he now need stand in dread; and tirelessly
he reiterated the suggestion that the patient had it
in his own power to exorcise the demon of bashfulness
created by the painful subconscious memory-image
of those early days. In the end he had the satisfaction
of sending him on his way rejoicing in a perfect
cure.
Strikingly different in its inception is a case that
came under the observation of Doctor Bechterew.
In this instance the patient was a young woman of
excellent family and most attractive appearance.
The symptom of which she chiefly complained was an
abnormal blushing. When with the members of her
own family, no less than with strangers, she would,
at the least provocation, feel the blood suffusing her
face and would turn distressingly red. To avoid this,
she kept much to herself, and led a lonely, miserable
life.
Questioned by Doctor Bechterew as to the length
of time she had been thus afflicted, and any prior
occurrences which might have given her a real and
urgent reason for embarrassment and blushing, her
answers at first were wholly unenlightening. But
little by little, probing with the skill of the trained
psychological cross-examiner, he drew from her the
details of a pathetic experience.
At the age of seventeen, it appeared, she had been
thrown much into the company of a married man
old enough to be her father. A friendship had
sprung up between them, but, on her part, there had
certainly been no thought of anything beyond friendship,
until one evening at a garden party he asked
her to walk with him in a secluded part of the
grounds.
"While we were talking together," she confided to
Doctor Bechterew, "he suddenly asked me if I cared
for him—if I cared enough to leave home and spend
the rest of my life with him. His avowal of love
shocked and shamed me. I hastily left him and, with
burning cheeks, rejoined the other guests.
"As soon as possible, I made my excuses and went
home. It seemed to me that my face betrayed my
secret. Afterwards I could not speak to or even
think of that man without blushing. Now that you
have made me recall the circumstance, I feel sure
that out of that terrible experience has gradually
been developed the habit of bashfulness and
blushing which has made life almost unbearable
to me."
Contrast with this a third case: the case of a
young Jew, robust and alert-looking, a wagon driver
by occupation, who applied to the Vanderbilt Clinic
in New York City to be treated for what he vaguely
termed a "nervous trouble." Referred to Doctor
A. A. Brill, already mentioned as a specialist in
nervous disorders, he confessed that the malady for
which he sought relief was nothing more or less than
bashfulness.
"It may seem strange to you," said he, "that a
fellow like me should be bashful, but I am so timid
when with strangers that I scarcely know what I am
doing. I speak and act like a fool; my hands tremble;
I trip over things."
"Can you give any reason why you should feel
so awkward and embarrassed?"
"Not the slightest. I often have tried to explain
it to myself, but all to no purpose. As far as I can
tell, it is without a cause."
"Still, it must have a cause, and we will do our
best to discover what that is."
Step by step, in the course of several days' investigation
by psychoanalysis, Doctor Brill led the
patient through the details of his past life. In this
way it was definitely ascertained that the bashfulness
of which he complained dated from his twelfth year.
Delving among the forgotten memories of that early
period, Doctor Brill presently unearthed one which
the patient, the moment he recalled it, recognised as
being coincidental with the beginning of the excessive
timidity that had brought him such suffering.
It was the memory of a boyhood escapade that had
at the time caused unusual remorse, shame, and fear
of discovery. He had fancied that others could read
in his eyes what he had done; he became afraid to
look at people or to have them look at him. Awkwardness,
embarrassment, bashfulness grew apace,
and remained characteristic of him even after he had
forgotten all about the affair from which they
sprang.
Thanks, however, to the recovery of this lost
memory-image, and of other subconscious reminiscences
which had intensified the feeling of shame, it
was now possible for Doctor Brill to institute psychotherapeutic
treatment that eventually resulted
in a cure. Incidentally, it also resulted in materially
improving the young man's position in life. Freed
from his bashfulness, he developed unexpected ambition,
and eventually became the owner of a well-paying
business.
Similarly, boyhood weaknesses and failings, carrying
with them profound feelings of shame and apprehension,
were found responsible for the bashfulness
experienced by Doctor Hartenberg's dish-washing
patient and Doctor Bechterew's visitor with the black
spectacles.
Always, in truth, the story seems to be the same:
there has been in the chronically bashful man's early
life some specific shock, fright, or anxiety, which,
provoking in a supersensitive mind feelings of extreme
embarrassment, has established a bashfulness
that may not fully yield to any method of treatment
until the remote and usually forgotten cause is recalled
to remembrance.
Happily, this requirement is not always necessary.
As an eminent medical psychologist once said to me:
"It is my experience that, in many cases, a cure
can be brought about simply by developing the
patient's will power, either through suggestion in
hypnosis, or through psychic re-education in the
normal waking state. In such instances, it is enough
to explain to the patient that his bashfulness undoubtedly
had its origin in some shock which he has
forgotten; that while, in the beginning, he may have
had reason enough for feeling bashful, that reason
has long since been outlived; and that his present
bashfulness is actually nothing more than a bad
habit, the result of self-suggestion.
"Attacking the problem this way and applying
strong counter-suggestion, it frequently is possible
to effect a cure without a tedious preliminary ransacking
of subconscious memories. When, however,
this method fails, psychoanalytic investigation becomes
indispensable."
Manifestly of even greater importance than the
cure of bashfulness is its prevention. This, on any
theory of its causation, and especially on the view
here advanced, is primarily a matter resting with
parents. The appearance in a growing boy or girl
of symptoms of habitual uneasiness and embarrassment
when with other children or older persons
should be regarded as a reason for real anxiety.
Actually, however, as in the case of children who
show extreme or persistent jealousy, most parents
are inclined to dismiss such symptoms from their
minds with the careless remark, "Yes, he's bashful;
but that's nothing. He'll outgrow it." Unfortunately,
he may not outgrow it without definite aid
and guidance.
For one thing, the effort should immediately be
made to develop in him interests, whether scholastic
or athletic—preferably both—that will take him out
of himself. Whatever else may be said of bashfulness,
it is always, like selfishness, a sign of excessive
preoccupation, conscious or unconscious, with
thoughts of self. The bashful boy, no less than the
bashful man, is abnormally self-centred. And, besides
endeavouring to weaken his extreme egoism,
there should be a systematic attempt to cultivate self-control
and self-reliance; while, at the same time,
his confidence should be tactfully sought, to draw
from him a statement as to anything that is particularly
perplexing or worrying him, and thereby to
gain a vantage point for effectually banishing doubt
and anxiety from his mind.
To banish doubt and anxiety from his mind! I
am put in remembrance of another serious life handicap,
allied to bashfulness in having as a basic element
lack of self-reliance and self-confidence, and,
like bashfulness, originating in childhood experiences.
This handicap is the habit of futile doubting and
reasoning, whether about matters of importance or
matters of no importance. In some people the habit
of futile doubting is so extreme as to amount to a
veritable disease. Again, let me make use of an
instance from real life to bring out concretely the
condition I have in mind.
To a neurologist in the city of Washington there
came a man thirty years of age. There was nothing
in his appearance to set him apart from other people.
He was intelligent-looking, well dressed, well mannered,
and he did not seem at all out of health. But
this, in effect, is what he said to the neurologist:
"Doctor, I have come to you as a last resort, and
if you cannot help me I do not know what I shall do.
I am mentally all in pieces. My mind is so weak
that I cannot even decide what clothes I ought to
put on.
"My indecision shows itself the moment I awake
in the morning. I start to get up; then it occurs to
me that perhaps I ought not to get up immediately.
So I lie down again, wondering just what I ought to
do. I am beset by doubts. Not until somebody
enters my room and insists on my rising can I bring
myself to do so.
"At once a terrible conflict begins within me as
to the clothes I should wear. Every article of my
clothing has to be carefully considered. It is as if a
vital problem had to be solved. Sometimes, after I
am dressed, the thought strikes me that my underwear
may be too light, or too heavy, or that something
else is the matter with it.
"Then I have to undress and put on fresh underwear,
which I minutely inspect. Or, perhaps, it is
my shirt that troubles me, or the pattern of my neck-tie,
or the suit I have put on.
"Always I fear that I have made a mistake in
some way. Dressing consequently becomes an endless
process to me. Even with help—and I nearly
always have to be helped—it is two or three hours
before I am finally dressed."
Consider also the case of a morbid doubter who
was successfully treated by that well-known New
England medical psychologist, Doctor Boris Sidis.
In this case, doubting was only one of several disease
symptoms. Here, somewhat abridged, is Doctor
Sidis's own account of his patient's indulgence in
trivial doubts:
"The patient is troubled by a form of folie de
doute. He is not sure that the addresses on his letters
are correctly written; and, no matter how many
times he may read them over, he cannot feel assured
that the addresses are correct. Some one else must
read them and assure him that they are addressed
correctly.
"When he has to write many letters, sometimes a
sudden fear gets possession of him that he has interchanged
the letters and put them into the wrong envelopes.
He has then to tear open the envelopes and
look the letters over again and again, to assure himself
that they have been put by him into the right
envelopes.
"Similarly, in turning out the gas jet, he must
needs try it over again and again, and is often forced
to get up from bed to try again whether the gas is
'really' shut off. He lights the gas, then tests the
gas jet with a lighted match, to see whether the gas
leaks and is 'really' completely shut off.
"In closing the door of his room, he must try the
lock over and over again. He locks the door, and
then unlocks it again, then locks it once more. Still,
he is not sure. He then must shake it violently, so
as to get the full assurance that the door has been
actually and 'really' locked."[11]
This second illustrative instance brings out vividly
a fact that deserves to be emphasised—the fact,
namely, that, at bottom, these doubting manias are
only exaggerations of a phenomenon of common occurrence.
There are times when virtually everybody
is tormented by doubts regarding matters that ought
not to cause any indecision or perplexity. Moreover,
while comparatively few people feel the need of
going to a physician to be cured of abnormal doubting,
there are many others who might advantageously
seek the specialist's aid. People are often
blind to their great weakness in this respect, though
their friends may see clearly that their vacillation
with regard to things great or small constitutes a
defect that of itself accounts amply for their inability
to make headway in the world and rise above
mediocrity.
Like the Washington neurologist's patient, if in
less degree, there are people to whom the choice of
clothing presents a prodigious problem. To others,
the choice of foods is a never-ending puzzle. At
every meal they find themselves sadly at a loss to
decide what they shall eat. Others, again, acting in
much the fashion of the young man treated by Doctor
Sidis, conjure up visions of possible mistakes
and mishaps in connection with the writing and mailing
of letters, the opening or shutting of doors and
windows, the carrying of umbrellas, etc. Also, there
are doubters of a kind well described by an observant
physician:
"There are people who doubt whether their friends
really think anything of them. They think that,
though they treat them courteously, this may be
only common politeness, and that they may really
resent their wasting their time when they call on them.
They hesitate to ask these people to do things for
them, though, over and over again, the friends may
have shown their willingness, and, above all, by asking
favours of them in turn, may have shown that
they were quite willing to put themselves under obligations.
"They doubt about their charities. They wonder
whether they may really not be doing more harm
than good, though they have investigated the cases,
or have had them investigated, and the objects of
their charity may have been proved to be quite deserving.
They hesitate about the acquisition of new
friends, and doubt whether they should give them
any confidence, and whether the confidences they have
received from them are not really baits."[12]
Here, decidedly, we have a state of affairs not
only breeding unhappiness, but involving a vast
waste of nervous energy. This it is that chiefly
makes the yielding to trivial doubts a menace to
human welfare. To conserve energy for useful purposes,
we are so constituted that ordinarily the little
acts of everyday life—our rising, dressing, eating,
attending to household or business details of a routine
character—are done by us automatically. We
take it for granted that we do them correctly, and,
usually, we so do them. If now and then we make a
mistake, we think little about it. Rightly, we regard
it as of no account, compared with matters of more
importance. Thus we conserve our energy for our
life work. Whereas the doubter about trivialities
fritters his energy away.
And, now, taking up the question of the causation
of this costly habit of doubting about trivialities,
let us turn once more to the cases of the two morbid
doubters who consulted the Washington and Boston
specialists.
In both of these cases, psychological analysis was
undertaken to ascertain the causes of the exaggerated
tendency to doubt. In both it was found that
the patients had been subjected in childhood to conditions
almost inevitably productive of a profound
distrust of self. This was particularly true in the
Washington case. The patient in this case was the
only son of parents whose love had led them to be
over-solicitous about him. When he was a little
fellow they could not bear to have him out of their
sight, lest something should happen to him. They
had anticipated his wishes, done for him things that
he might very well have done for himself; and, when
he did attempt to do things for himself, they intervened
to help him.
The result was an enfeebling of his consciousness
and of his will. The man grew up without initiative.
People had always done things for him, had always
decided things for him. How could any one expect
him to decide anything for himself? It was not that
he was naturally weak-minded, weak-willed; it was
that his training had engendered in him conditions
making for mental confusion and instability of
purpose.
Such was the outcome of the neurologist's psychological
study of his case. It held the possibilities
of a cure, through psychic re-education, having as its
starting point the emancipation of this child of thirty
from slavish dependence on his parents. And, in the
end, after nearly two years of patient effort, a cure
was actually effected.
In the second case, distrust of self had been produced
in quite another way. This patient's parents
had not spoiled him by over-attention. On the opposite,
they had not given enough thought to the importance
of developing in him emotional control, the
need for which was particularly indicated in his early
childhood by great dreaminess and sensitiveness of
disposition. His special need for training in the control
of his emotions was further evinced by the violence
of his reactions to happenings of a disturbing
nature. Once, for instance, when he unexpectedly
met a deformed, paralysed man, he fell to the ground
in a faint.
This should have been sufficient warning to his
parents that they must make every effort to stiffen
his character and to protect him from needless
shocks. As a matter of fact, they exposed him to
conditions that would have been harmful to any
child. During his early years he was thrown much
into the company of an old grandfather afflicted with
sundry physical and mental ailments, among them the
doubting mania in an extreme form. Also, he was
allowed to witness the death agonies of several relatives.
All this was bound to leave a lasting imprint on
his mind and his nervous system, filling him with
vague fears, both as to life in general and, in particular,
as to his own ability to live successfully. It
was impossible for him to escape the knowledge that
he did not endure the difficult and the unpleasant as
well as other children did. And, with this knowledge,
distrust of self, a sense of inferiority, took firm hold
of him.
Nevertheless, he contrived to get along passably
until he entered college. He was nervous and a
little "queer," but not markedly so. When, however,
ever, he found it necessary to study unusually hard
for some examinations, a breakdown came. Various
disease symptoms, physical and mental, developed in
him, including the habit of perpetually fretting and
doubting about things of small significance. In his
case, that is to say, faulty training in childhood had
laid the foundation for a serious psychic weakness,
to the full development of which a physical
condition—fatigue—had acted as the immediate
cause.
In most cases of morbid doubting that have been
psychologically analysed, parental mistakes have
similarly become apparent. There may be—there
usually is—a constitutional tendency to nervous
troubles. But the parents have not appreciated this.
Or, if they have appreciated it, they have failed
to offset it by education especially designed to
strengthen the will and inspire self-confidence, and
by measures having as their end a sound physical
upbuilding. Also, they have failed—and this is of
the utmost importance—to externalise the personal
interests, so that self-consciousness shall be at a
minimum.
This does not mean, however, that the unfavourable
results of the parental mistakes cannot be remedied
later in life. There is reason to believe that,
even in most extreme cases of morbid doubting—except
the comparatively few cases where organic
brain disease is responsible for the doubting—it is
possible to effect a cure. As has been said, both of
these patients were cured, and their cases may be
regarded as fairly typical of this variety of mental
affliction at its worst. Accordingly, when the tendency
to trivial doubts is less marked, there is the
possibility not only of cure, but of self-cure, provided
that the doubter recognises exactly wherein he
is deficient.
Self-consciousness, timidity, distrust of self, a conscious
or subconscious feeling of inferiority, and
often a lack of physical vigour—these are the elements
that chiefly contribute to the growth of a tendency
to anxiety and indecision about trivial things;
these are the weaknesses that specially need to be
overcome. As a preliminary measure, the doubter
should make it a rule to take exercise daily in the
open air, and to see to it that his living and sleeping
quarters are kept well ventilated.
Indecision, even in the most energetic of men, is
frequently a resultant of deprivation of fresh air.
To reach decisions, to settle doubts quickly, a well-nourished
brain is indispensable. And no brain can
be well nourished unless the blood flowing to it is
amply supplied with oxygen. Of all persons, therefore,
the habitual doubter is in need of plenty of
fresh air and of physical exercise to build up his
organism as a whole and increase his powers of resistance
to fatigue. For the same reason, he needs
an abundance of good food.
Physical upbuilding, moreover, will have the desirable
effect of increasing his power of concentrating
attention on some serious life interest. This, above
everything else, is what the doubter needs to do. He
must develop an ardent interest in something worth
while—his work, a useful hobby, occupation of some
sort. The trivial doubter—the doubter of any kind—is
pre-eminently a man or woman devoid of a keen
life interest. If a life interest were present, there
would be neither time nor inclination to dissipate
energy in useless doubting. If you, my reader, recognise
in yourself one of the doubting kind, you will
appreciate the truth of this. You will admit that
you have little enthusiasm for your work, little interest
in anything that would keep you from being
too occupied with thoughts of self.
Developing such an interest, self-consciousness will
diminish, self-confidence will grow. Gradually, less
and less attention will be paid to the petty details
of daily existence that formerly gave so much concern.
They will be pushed more and more into the
background of the mind, will be managed automatically,
as it was intended they should be managed.
No longer will your indecision be a source of pitying,
perhaps amused, comment by your friends. Instead,
they will have occasion to comment, with pleased surprise,
on the vigour and promptness of decision in
all things that has taken the place of the old indecision.
One word more:
Exactly as hygienic measures are helpful in the
cure of indecision in adults, so are they helpful to
prevent the development of indecision—and bashfulness—in
children. Parents will do well to bear this
in mind. But, as in the prevention of selfishness,
jealousy, and so forth, reliance on hygienic measures
alone is not enough. It is all very well to see that
children get plenty of good food, abundant muscular
exercise, and much life in the open air. This is excellent
and necessary. Also, however, they must be
given wise moral training—training that will make
it habitual for them to think and act vigourously, to
keep their emotions well in hand, to be interested in
much besides themselves, and to develop the feeling
of self-confidence and the spirit of initiative.
Now, let us turn to still another preventable and
serious life handicap having its origin in the days of
childhood—the handicap of stammering.