Children have had passed on their moral characteristics
the extremes of human judgment. By some,
including a number of theologians, they have been
viewed as steeped in depravity; by others, e.g., Rousseau,
they have been regarded as the perfection of
the Creator's workmanship.
If we are to throw any light on the point in dispute
we must avoid the unfairness of applying grown-up
standards to childish actions, and must expect neither
the vices nor the virtues of manhood. We must
further take some pains to get, so far as this is
possible, at children's natural inclinations so as to see
whether, and if so how far, they set in the direction of
good or of bad.
Even a distant acquaintance with the first years of
human life tells us that young children have much in
common with the lower animals. The characteristic
feelings and impulses are centred in self and the satisfaction
of its wants. What is better marked, for example,
than the boundless greed of the child, his keen
desire to appropriate and enjoy whatever presents
itself, and to resent others' participation in such enjoyment?
We note, further, that when later on he makes fuller
acquaintance with his social surroundings, his first
attitude has in it much of the hostility of the
Ishmaelite. The removal of the feeding bottle before
full satisfaction has been attained is, as we know, the
occasion for one of the most impressive utterances of
the baby's "will to live," and of its resentment of all
human checks to its native impulses. Here we have
the first rude germ of that opposition of will which
makes the Ishmaelite look on others as his foes.
The same attitude of isolating hostility is apt to
show itself towards other children. In the matter
of toys, for example, the natural way of a child is
very frequently not only to make free with other
children's property when he has the chance, but to
show the strongest objection to any imitation of this
freedom by others, sometimes indeed to display a
dog-in-the-manger spirit by refusing to lend what he
himself does not want.
The same vigorous egoism inspires the whole
scale of childish envies and jealousies, from those
having to do with things of the appetite to those
which trouble themselves about the marks of others'
good-will, such as caresses and praises.
In this wide category of childish egoisms we
seem to be near the level of animal ways. Out
of all this fierce pushing of desire whereby the child
comes into rude collision with others' wishes, there
issue the storms of young passion. The energy
of these displays of wrath as the imperious little will
feels itself suddenly pulled up has in spite of its
comicality something impressive. We all know the
shocking scene as the boy Ishmaelite gives clearest
and most emphatic utterance to his will by hitting
out with his arms, stamping and kicking, throwing
things down on the floor and breaking them, and
accompanying this war-dance with savage howlings
and yellings. The outburst tends to concentrate itself
in a real attack on somebody. Sometimes this is the
offender, as when Darwin's boy at the age of two
years and three months would throw books, sticks,
etc., at any one who offended him. But almost anybody
or anything will do as an object of attack. A
child of four on having his lordly purpose crossed
would bang his chair, and then proceed to vent his
displeasure on his unoffending toy lion, banging him,
jumping on him, and, as anti-climax, threatening him
with the loss of his dinner. Hitting is in many cases
improved upon by biting.
Such fits of temper, as we call them, vary in their
manner from child to child. Thus, whereas one little
boy would savagely bite or roll on the floor, his sister
was accustomed to dance about and stamp. They vary
greatly too in their frequency and their force. Some
children show in their anger little if anything of
savage furiousness. It is to be added, that with those
who do show it, it is wont in most cases to appear
only for a limited period.
The resemblance of this fierce anger to the fury of the
savage and of the brute can hardly fail to be noticed.
Here indeed, as is illustrated in the good hymn of our
nursery days, which bids us leave biting to the dogs, we
see most plainly how firmly planted an animal root lies
at the bottom of our proud humanity. Ages of civilisation
have not succeeded in eradicating some of the most
characteristic and unpleasant impulses of the brute.
At the same time a child's passionateness is more
than a brute instinct. He suffers consciously; he
realises himself in lonely antagonism to a world.
This is seen in the bodily attitude of dejection which
often follows the more vigorous stage of the fit, when
the little Ishmaelite, growing aware of the impotence of
his anger, is wont to throw himself on the floor and to
hide his head in solitary wretchedness. This consciousness
of absolute isolation and hostility reaches a higher
phase when the opposing force is distinctly apprehended
as human will. A dim recognition of the
stronger will facing him brings the sense of injury,
of tyrannous power.
Now this feeling of being injured and oppressed is
human, and is fraught with moral possibilities. It is
not as yet morally good; for the sense of injury is
capable of developing, and may actually turn by-and-by
into, hatred. Yet, as we shall see, it holds within
itself a promise of something higher.
This predominance of self, this kinship with the
unsocial brute, which shows itself in these germinal
animosities, seems to be discoverable also in the unfeelingness
of children. A common charge against
them from those who are not on intimate terms with
them, and sometimes, alas, from those who are, is that
they are heartless and cruel.
That children often appear to the adult as unfeeling
as a stone, is, I suppose, incontestable. The
troubles which harass and oppress the mother may
leave her small companion quite unconcerned. He
either goes on playing with undisturbed cheerfulness,
or he betrays a momentary curiosity about some trivial
circumstance of her affliction which is worse than the
absorption in play through its tantalising want of any
genuine feeling. If, for example, she is ill, the event
is interesting to him merely as supplying him with
new treats. A little boy of four, after spending half
an hour in his mother's sick-room, coolly informed his
nurse: "I have had a very nice time, mamma's ill!"
The order of the two statements is significant of
the common attitude of mind of children towards
others' sufferings.
When it comes to the bigger human troubles this
want of fellow-feeling is still more noticeable. Nothing
is more shocking to the adult observer of children
than their coldness and stolidity in presence of
death. While a whole house is stricken with grief at
the loss of a beloved inmate the child is wont to
preserve his serenity, being often taken with a shocking
curiosity to peep into the dead room, and to get
perhaps the gruesome pleasure of touching the dead
body so as to know what "as cold as death" means,
and at best showing only a feeling of awe before a
great mystery.
No one, I think, will doubt that judged by our
standards children are often profoundly and shockingly
callous. But the question arises here, too,
whether we are right in applying our grown-up
standards. It is one thing to be indifferent with full
knowledge of suffering, another to be indifferent in
the sense in which a cat might be said to be so at the
spectacle of your falling or burning your finger. We
are apt to forget that a large part of the manifestation
of human suffering is quite unintelligible to a little
child.
Again, when an appeal to serious attention is
given, a child is apt to spy something besides the
sadness. The little girl who wanted to touch, and
to know the meaning of "cold as death," on going to
see a dead schoolmate was not unnaturally taken up
with the beauty of the scene, with the white hangings
and the white flowers.
I am far from saying that the first acquaintance
with death commonly leaves a child indifferent to the
signs of woe. I believe, on the contrary, that children
are frequently affected in a vague way by the
surrounding gloom. In some cases, too, as published
reminiscences of childhood show, the first acquaintance
with the cruel monarch has sometimes shaken
a child's whole being with an infinite, nameless sense
of woe.
With this unfeelingness children are frequently
charged with active unkindness, amounting to cruelty.
La Fontaine spoke of the age of childhood as pitiless
(sans pitié).
This appearance of cruelty will now and again show
itself in dealings with other children. One of the trying
situations of early life is to find oneself supplanted by
the arrival of a new baby. Children, I have reason
to think, are, in such circumstances, capable of coming
shockingly near to a feeling of hatred. One little girl
was taken with so violent an antipathy to a baby
which she considered outrageously ugly as to make
a beginning, fortunately only a feeble beginning, at
smashing its head, much as she would no doubt have
tried to destroy an ugly-looking doll.
Such malicious treatment of smaller infants is, I
think, rare. More common is the exhibition of the
signs of cruelty in the child's dealings with animals.
It is of this, indeed, that we mostly think when we
speak of his cruelty.
At first nothing seems clearer than the evidence of
malevolent intention in a child's treatment of animals.
A little girl when only a year old would lift two
kittens by the neck and try to stamp on them. Older
children often have a way of treating even their pets
with a similar roughness.
Yet I think we cannot safely say that such rough
usage is intended to be painful. It seems rather to
be the outcome of the mere energy of the childish
impulse to hold, possess, and completely dominate
his pet.
The case of destructive cruelty, as when a small
boy crushes a fly, is somewhat different. Let me
give a well-observed instance. A little boy of two
years and two months, "after nearly killing a fly on
the window-pane, seemed surprised and disturbed,
looking round for an explanation, then gave it himself:
'Mr. Fly dom (gone) to by-by'. But he would
not touch it or another fly again—a doubt evidently
remained, and he continued uneasy about it." Here
the arrest of life clearly brought a kind of shock, and
we may safely say was not thought out beforehand.
Children may pounce upon and maul small moving
things for a number of reasons. The wish to gratify
their sense of power—which is probably keener in
children who so rarely gratify it than in grown-ups—will
often explain these actions. To stop all that
commotion, all that buzzing on the window-pane, by
a single tap of the finger, that may bring a delicious
thrill of power to a child. Curiosity, too, is a powerful
incentive to this kind of maltreatment of animals.
Children have something of the anatomist's impulse
to take living things apart, to see where the blood is,
as one child put it, and so forth.
I think, then, that we may give the small offenders
the benefit of the doubt, and not attribute their rough
handling of animals to a wish to inflict pain, or even
to an indifference to pain of which they are clearly
aware. Wanton activity, the curiosity of the experimenter,
and delight in showing one's power and producing
an effect, seem sufficient to explain a large
part of the unlearned brutality of the first years.
We have now looked at one of the darkest sides of
the child and have found that though it is decidedly
unpleasant it is not quite so ugly as it has been painted.
Children are no doubt apt to be greedy, and otherwise
unsociable, to be ferocious in their anger, and to
be sadly wanting in consideration for others; yet it is
some consolation to reflect that their savageness is not
quite that of brutes, and that their selfishness and
cruelty are a long way removed from a deliberate and
calculating egoism.
Pure Ishmaelite as he seems, however, a child has
what we call the social instincts, and inconsistently
enough no doubt he shows at times that after all he
wants to join himself to those whom at other times he
treats as foes. If he has his outbursts of temper he
has also his fits of tenderness. If he is now dead to
others' sufferings he is at another time taken with a
most amiable childish concern for their happiness.
The germ of this instinct of attachment to society
may be said to disclose itself in a rude form in the
first weeks of life, when he begins to get used to and
to depend on the human presence, and is miserable
when this is taken from him.
In this instinct of companionship there is involved
a vague inarticulate kind of sympathy. Just as the
attached dog may be said to have in a dim fashion a
feeling of oneness with its master, so the child. The
intenser realisation of this oneness comes after separation.
A girl of thirteen months was separated from her
mother during six weeks. On the return of the latter
she was speechless, and for some time could not bear
to leave her restored companion for a minute. A like
outbreak of tender sympathy is apt to follow a fit of
naughtiness when a child feels itself taken back to the
mother's heart.
Sympathy, it is commonly said, is a kind of imitation,
and this is strikingly illustrated in its early
forms. A child has been observed under the age of
seven months to look unhappy, drawing down well
the corners of the mouth in the characteristic baby-fashion
when his nurse pretended to cry.
This imitative sympathy deepens with attachment.
We see something of it in the child's make-believe.
When, for example, a little girl on finding that her
mother's head ached pretended to have a bad head,
we appear to see the working of an impulse to get
near and share in others' experiences. The same
feeling shows itself in play, especially in the treatment
of the doll, which has to go through all that
the child goes through, to be bathed, scolded, nursed
when poorly, and so forth.
From this imitative acting of another's trouble, so
as to share in it, there is but a step to that more
direct apprehension of it which we call sympathy.
Children sometimes begin to display such understanding
of others' trouble early in the second year.
One mite of fourteen months was quite concerned at
the misery of an elder sister, crawling towards her and
making comical endeavours by grunts and imitative
movements of the fingers to allay her crying. I have a
number of stories showing that for a period beginning
early in the second year it is not uncommon for children
to betray an exuberance of pity, being moved
almost to tears, for example, when the mother says,
"Poor uncle!" or when contemplating in a picture
the tragic fate of Humpty Dumpty.
Very sweet and sacred to a mother are the first
manifestations of tenderness towards herself. A child
about the age of two has a way of looking at and
touching its mother's face with something of the
rapturous expression of a lover. Still sweeter, perhaps,
are the first clear indications of loving concern.
The temporary loss of her presence, due to illness or
other cause, is often the occasion for the appearance
of a deeper tenderness. A little boy of three spontaneously
brought his story-book to his mother when
she lay in bed ill; and the same child used to follow
her about after her recovery with all the devotion of
a little knight. At other times it is the suspicion of an
injury to his beloved one, as when one little fellow
seeing the strange doctor lay hold of his mother's
wrist stood up like an outraged turkey-cock, backing
into his mother's skirts, ready to charge the assaulter.
A deeper and thoughtful kind of sympathy often
comes with the advent of the more reflective years.
Thought about the overhanging terror, death, is sometimes
its awakener. "Are you old, mother?" asked
a boy of five. "Why?" she answered. "Because," he
continued, "the older you are the nearer you are to
dying." There was no doubt thought of his own loss
in this question: yet there was, one may hope, a germ
of solicitude for the mother too.
This first thought for others frequently takes the
practical form of helpfulness. A child loves nothing
better than to assist in little household occupations.
A boy of two years and one month happened to
overhear his nurse say to herself: "I wish that Anne
would remember to fill the nursery boiler". "He
listened, and presently trotted off; found the said
Anne doing a distant grate, pulled her by the apron,
saying: 'Nanna, Nanna!' (come to nurse). She
followed, surprised and puzzled, the child pulling all
the way, till, having got her into the nursery, he
pointed to the boiler, and added: 'Go dare, go dare,'
so that the girl comprehended and did as he bade
her."
With this practical form of sympathy there goes a
quite charming disposition to give pleasure in other
ways. A little girl when just a year old was given to
offering her toys, flowers, and other pretty things to
everybody. Generosity is as truly an impulse of
childhood as greediness, and it is odd to observe their
alternate play. Early in the second year, too, children
are wont to show themselves kindly by giving kisses
and other pretty courtesies. In truth from about this
date they are often quite charming in their expressions
of good will, so that the good Bishop Earle
hardly exaggerates when he writes of the child: "He
kisses and loves all, and when the smart of the rod is
past, smiles on his beater". Later on a like amiable
disposition will show itself in graceful turns of speech,
as when a little girl, aged three and a quarter, petitioned
her mother this wise: "Please, mamma, will
you pin this with the greatest pleasure?"
Just as there are these beginnings of affectionate
concern for the mother and other people, so there is
ample evidence of kindness to animals. The charge
of cruelty in the case of little children is, indeed, seen
to be a gross libel as soon as we consider their whole
behaviour towards the animal world.
When once the first fear of the strangeness is
mastered a child will generally take kindly to an
animal. A little boy of fifteen months quickly overcame
his fright at the barking of his grandfather's
dog, and began to share his biscuits with him, to give
him flowers to smell, and to throw stones for his
amusement.
At a quite early age, too, children will show the
germ of a truly humane feeling towards animals.
The same little boy that bravely got over his fear of
the dog's barking would, when nineteen months old,
begin to cry on seeing a horse fall in the street.
Stronger manifestations of pity are seen at a later
age. A little boy of four was moved to passionate
grief at the sight of a dead dog taken from a pond.
The indignation of children at the doings of the
butcher, the hunter and others, shows how deeply
pitiful consideration for animals is rooted in their
hearts. This is one of the most striking manifestations
of the better side of child-nature and deserves a
chapter to itself.
The close absorbing sympathy which we often
observe between a child and animals seems to come
from a sense of common weaknesses and needs. Perhaps
there is in it something of that instinctive
impulse of helpless things to band together which we
see in sheep and other gregarious animals. A mother
once remarked to her boy, between five and six years
old: "Why, R., I believe you are kinder to the
animals than to me". "Perhaps I am," he replied,
"you see they are not so well off as you are."
The same outpourings of affection are seen in
the dealings of children with their toy babies and
animals. Allowing for occasional outbreaks of temper
and acts of violence, a child's intercourse with his
doll or his toy "gee gee" is a wonderful display of
loving solicitude; a solicitude which has something
of the endurance of a maternal instinct.
Here, too, as we know, children vary greatly; there
are the loving and the unloving moods, and there are
the loving and the unloving children. Yet allowing
for these facts, I think it may be said that in these
first fresh outgoings of human tenderness we have a
comforting set off to the unamiable manifestations
described above.
The other main charge against children is that they
tell lies. According to many, children are in general
accomplished little liars, to the manner born, and
equally adept with the mendacious savage. Even
writers on childhood who are by no means prejudiced
against it lean to the view that lying is instinctive
and universal among children.
Now it is surely permissible to doubt whether little
children have so clear an apprehension of what we
understand by truth and falsity as to be liars in this
full sense. Much of what seems shocking to the
adult unable to place himself at the level of childish
intelligence and feeling will probably prove to be
something far less serious.
To begin with those little ruses and dissimulations
which are said to appear almost from the cradle in
the case of certain children, it is plainly difficult to
bring them into the category of full-fledged lies.
When, for example, a child wishing to keep a thing
hides it, and on your asking for it holds out empty
hands, it would be hard to name this action a lie,
even though there may be in it a germ of deception.
These little ruses or "acted lies" seem at the worst
to be attempts to put you off the scent in what is
regarded as a private matter, and to have the minimum
of intentional deception. This childish passion
for guarding secrets may account for later and more
serious-looking falsehoods.
There is a more alarming appearance of mendacity
when the child comes to the use of language and
proffers statements which, if he reflected, he might
know to be false. Even here, however, we may easily
apply grown-up standards unfairly. Anybody who
has observed children's play and knows how real to
them their fancies become for the moment will be
chary of applying to their sayings the word "lie".
There may be solemn sticklers for truth who would
be shocked to hear the child when at play saying,
"I am a coachman," "Dolly is crying," and so forth.
But the discerning see nothing to be alarmed at here.
On the same level of moral obliquity I should be
disposed to place those cases where a child will contradictingly
say the opposite of what he is told. A
little French boy was overheard saying to himself:
"Papa parle mal, il a dit sevette, bébé parle bien, il dit
serviette". Such reversals may be a kind of play too:
the child not unnaturally gets tired now and then of
being told that he is wrong, and for the moment
imagines himself right and his elders wrong, immensely
enjoying the idea.
The case looks graver when an "untruth" is
uttered in answer to a question. A little boy on
being asked by his mother who told him something,
answered, "Dolly". "False, and knowingly false,"
somebody will say, especially when he learns that
the depraved youngster instantly proceeded to laugh.
But is not this laugh just the saving clause of the
story, suggesting that it was play and the spirit of
mischief at bottom?
In this case, I suspect, there was co-operant a
strongly marked childish characteristic, the love of
producing an effect. A child has a large measure of
that feeling which R. L. Stevenson attributes to the
light-hearted Innes in Weir of Hermiston, "the mere
pleasure of beholding interested faces". The well-known
"cock and bull" stories of small children are
inspired by this love of strong effect. It is the
dramatic impulse of childhood endeavouring to bring
life into the dulness of the serious hours. Childish
vanity often assists, as where a little girl of five would
go about scattering the most alarming kind of false
news, as, for example, that baby was dead, simply to
court attention and make herself of some importance.
A quick vivid fancy, a childish passion for acting
a part, these, backed by a strong impulse to astonish,
and a playful turn for contradiction and paradox,
seem to me to account for most of this early fibbing
and other similar varieties of early misstatement.
Naughty it is, no doubt, in a measure; but is it quite
fairly branded as lying, that is, as a serious attempt
to deceive?
In some cases, I think, the vivid play of imagination
which prompts the untrue assertion may lead to a
measure of self-deception. When, for example, an
Italian child, of whom Signorina Lombroso tells us,
who is out for a walk, and wanting to be carried
says, "My leg hurts me and my foot too just here,
I can't walk, I can't, I can't," it is possible at least
that the vivid imagination of the South produces
at the moment an illusory sense of fatigue. And
if so we must hesitate to call the statement wholly
a falsehood.
A fertile source of childish "untruth," which may
be more true than untrue in the sense of expressing
the conviction of the moment, is the wish to
please. An emotional child who in a sudden fit of
tenderness for his mother gushes out, "You're the
best mother in the whole world!" may be hardly
conscious of any exaggeration. There is more of
artfulness in the flatteries which appear to involve a
calculating intention to say the nice agreeable thing.
Some children, especially little girls, are, I believe,
adepts at these amenities. Those in whom the
impulse is strong and dominant are perhaps those
who in later years make the good society actors.
Yet if there is a measure of untruth in such pretty
flatteries, one needs to be superhuman in order to
condemn them harshly.
The other side of this wish to please is the fear to
give offence, and this, I suspect, may point to a more
intentional and conscious kind of untruth. If, for
example, a child is asked whether he does not like or
admire something, his feeling that the questioner
expects him to say "Yes" makes it very hard to say
"No". Mrs. Burnett gives us a reminiscence of this
early experience. When she was less than three, she
writes, a lady visitor, a friend of her mother, having
found out that the baby newly added to the family
was called Edith, remarked to her: "That's a pretty
name. My baby is Eleanor. Isn't that a pretty
name?" On being thus questioned she felt in a
dreadful difficulty, for she did not like the sound of
"Eleanor," and yet feared to be rude and say so.
She got out of it by saying she did not like the name
as well as "Edith".
In such cases as this the fear to give offence may
be reinforced by the mastering force of "suggestion".
Just as the hypnotiser "suggests" to his subject the
idea that he is ill, that the dirty water in this glass is
wine, and so forth, compelling him to accept and act
out the idea, so we all exercise a kind of suggestive
sway over children's minds. Our leading questions,
as when we say, "Isn't this pretty?" may for a
moment set up a half belief that the thing must
be so. Thus in a double fashion do our words
control children's thoughts, driving them now into
contradiction, drawing them at other times and in
other moods into submissive assent. Wordsworth
has illustrated how an unwise and importunate
demand for a reason from a child may drive him
into invention.[9]
I do not say that these are the only impulses which
prompt to this early fibbing. From some records of the
first years I learn that a child may drift into something
like a lie under the pressure of fear, more especially
fear of being scolded. One little fellow, more than
once instanced in this work, a single child brought up
wholly by his mother, perpetrated his first fib when
he was about twenty-two months old. He went, it
seems, and threw his doll down stairs in one of those
capricious outbursts towards favourites which children
share with certain sovereigns, then went to his mother
and making great pretence of grief said, "Poor dolly
tumbled". If this had stood alone I should have
been ready to look on it as a little childish comedy;
but the same child a month or two afterwards would
invent a fib when he wanted his mother to do something.
For example, he was one morning lying in bed
with his mother and wanted much to get up. His
mother told him to look for the watch and see what
time it was. He felt under the pillow pretending to
find and consult the time-teller, saying: "Time to
get up". Here it was clearly the force of the young
will resisting an unpleasant check which excited the
sober faculties to something like deception.
To say that our moral discipline with its injunctions,
its corrections, is a great promoter of childish
untruth may sound shocking, but it is I think an indisputable
truth. We can see how this begins to
work in the first years. For example, a mite of three
having in a moment of temper called her mother
"monkey," and being questioned as to what she had
said, replied: "I said I was a monkey". A child is
often driven into such ruses by the instinct of self-protection.
Our system of discipline may develop untruth in
other ways too. When, for example, punishment has
been inflicted and its inflicter, relenting, asks: "Are
you sorry?" or "Aren't you sorry?" the answer is
exceedingly likely to be "No," even though this may
at the moment be half felt to be untrue. From such
partial untruths the way is easy to complete ones, as
when a naughty little boy who is shut up in his room
and kept without food, is asked: "Are you hungry?"
and with the hardihood of a confirmed sinner answers
"No," even though the low and dismal tone of the
word shows how much the untruth goes against the
grain.
I think there is no doubt, then, that at a certain
age children may, more especially under a severe
home authority, develop, apart from contagion, a
tendency to falsehood. Some may see in this, as in
childish fears and cruelties, rudiments of characteristics
which belonged to remote uncivilised ancestors.
However this be, it is hard to say that these fibs
have that clear intention to deceive which constitutes
a complete lie.
There are curious points in the manner of childish
fibbing. A good many children seem to be like
savages in distinguishing those to whom one is
bound to speak the truth. The "bad form" of telling
a lie to the head-master is a later illustration of
the same thing. On the other hand it seems to be
thought that there are people who are specially fitted
to be the victims of untruth. Even young children
soon find out who it is among the servants that
being credulous supplies the best listener to their
amazing inventions.
Another interesting point is the way in which the
perfectly baseless fictions of children are apt to grow
into permanent "stories". In the nursery and in the
playground there are wont to be developed myths
and legends which are solemnly believed by the
simple-minded, and may be handed down to successors.
In all such cases of propagated untruths the
impulse of imitation and the tendency of the child's
mind to accept statements uncritically are of course
at work. The "lie" propagated by this influence of
contagion very soon ceases to be a lie.
In order to understand what childish untruth really
amounts to we must carefully note its after-effects on
the perpetrator. It seems certain that many children
experience a qualm of conscience when uttering that,
of the falsity of which they are more or less aware.
This is evidenced in the well-known devices by which
the young casuist thinks to mitigate the lie; as
when on saying what he knows to be false he adds
mentally, "I do not mean it," "in my mind," or
some similar palliative. Such subterfuges show a
measure of sensibility, for a hardened liar would
despise the shifts, and are curious as illustrations of
the childish conscience and its unlearnt casuistry.
The remorse that sometimes follows lying, especially
the first lie, which catches the conscience at its tenderest,
is much more than this passing qualm, and has
been remembered by many in later life. Here is a
case. A young lady whom I know remembers that
when a child of four she had to wear a shade over her
eyes. One day on walking out with her mother she
was looking, child-wise, sidewards instead of in front,
and nearly struck a lamp-post. Her mother then
scolded her, but presently remembering the eyes,
said: "Poor child, you could not see well". She
knew that this was not the reason, but she accepted
it, and for long afterwards was tormented with a sense
of having told a lie.
Such remorse, in certain cases prolonged beyond the
first lie, comes to the little offender as he or she lies in
bed and recalls the untruths of the day. Some children
suffer greatly from this periodic reflection on their lies.
Some of the more poignant of the sufferings which
come to the sensitive child from saying what is false
are those of fear, fear of those terrific penalties which
religious teaching attaches to the lying tongue. It
seems likely that childish devices for allaying their
qualms when saying what is untrue are intended
somehow to make things right with God, and so
to avoid the dreaded chastisement. I am sure, too,
that the subsequent remorse, especially at night, is
very largely a dread of some awful manifestation of
God's wrath.
While I should set down much of this horror of
children at discovering themselves liars to a dread of
supernatural penalties, I should not set down the
whole. I am disposed to think that there is another
force at work in the little people's consciousness.
In order to explain what I mean, I must begin by
saying that a tendency towards conscious falsehood,
though common, does not seem to be universal among
children. Several mothers assure me that their children
have never seriously put forth an untruth. I
can say the same about two children who have been
especially observed for the purpose.
I am ready to go further and to suggest that where
a child is brought up normally, that is, in a habitually
truth-speaking community, he tends, quite apart from
moral instruction, to acquire a respect for truth. One
may easily see that children accustomed to truth-speaking
show all the signs of a moral shock when
they are confronted with a false statement. I remember
after more than twelve years one little boy's
outbreaks of righteous indignation at meeting with
untrue statements about his beloved horses and other
things in one of his books, for which he had all a
child's reverence. The idea of knowingly perpetrating
an untruth, so far as I can judge, is simply awful
to a child who has been thoroughly habituated to the
practice of truthful statement. May it, then, not well
be that when a preternatural pressure of circumstances
pushes the child over the boundary line of truth, he
feels a shock, a horror, a giddy and aching sense of
having violated law—law not wholly imposed by the
mother's command, but rooted in the very habits of
social life?
Our inquiry has led us to recognise, in the case of
cruelty and of lying alike, that children are by no
means morally perfect, but have tendencies which, if
not counteracted or held in check by others, will develop
into the vices of cruelty and lying. On the
other hand it has shown us that there are other and
counteracting impulses, germs of human sympathy and
of respect for the binding custom of truthfulness. So
far from saying that child-nature is utterly bad or
beautifully perfect, we should say that it is a disorderly
jumble of impulses, each pushing itself upwards
in lively contest with the others, some towards what
is bad, others towards what is good. It is on this
motley group of tendencies that the hand of the moral
cultivator has to work, selecting, arranging, organising
into a beautiful whole.