[Bibliographical Note IV.—The literature for this chapter may
be more briefly indicated, since it is largely identical with the authorities
mentioned in Bibliographical notes I, II, and III. The researches
of Starcke, Westermarck, Darwin, Letourneau, and Wake are of primary
importance, and marriage by capture and purchase are of course
essential parts of McLennan's Studies I and II, and the Patriarchal
Theory. Particularly valuable are the monographs of Dargun, Mutterrecht
und Raubehe and his Mutterrecht und Vaterrecht; Kulischer,
"Intercommunale Ehe durch Raub und Kauf," in ZFE., VIII; Kohler,
"Studien über Frauengemeinschaft, Frauenraub, und Frauenkauf,"
ibid., V; Kautsky, "Entstehung der Ehe und der Familie," in Kosmos,
XII; and Schroeder, Hochzeitsbräuche der Esten (Berlin, 1888),
containing a description of many curious "survivals." A mass of
miscellaneous information relating to marriage customs may also be
found in Schmidt, Hochzeiten in Thüringen (Weimar, 1863); Wood,
The Wedding Day (New York, 1869); and especially in the Hochzeitsbuch
of Düringsfeld (Leipzig, 1871).
For a full and systematic treatment of the matrimonial law and
usage of many low races see the various books by Post, especially his
Entwicklungsgeschichte des Familienrechts, Anfänge des Staats- und
Rechtsleben, and the Afrikanische Jurisprudenz.
Illustrations of matrimonial law and usage may be found in Henrici,
"Das Volksrecht der Epheneger," in ZVR., XI; Kohler, "Das Recht
der Papuas auf Neu-Guinea," ibid., VII; his "Das Recht der Birmanen,"
and "Das Recht der Chins," both ibid., VI; Farrer, "Early
Wedding Customs," in his Primitive Manners (London, 1879); Volkov,
"Rites et usages nuptiaux en Ukräine," in L'anthropologie, II, III
(Paris, 1891-92); Ellis, "Survivals from Marriage by Capture," in Pop.
Sci. Monthly, June, 1891 (New York, 1891); Loring, "Marriage," in his
A Confederate Soldier in Egypt (New York, 1884); Blumentritt, Ethnographie
der Philippinen (Gotha, 1882); and Wessely, "Ein griechischer
Heiratscontract vom Jahre 136 n. Ch.," in Xenia Austriaca, I (Vienna,
1893). Useful material will likewise be found in Weinhold, Deutsche
Frauen (Vienna, 1882); Harrison, "Religion and Family among the
Haidas" (Queen Charlotte Islands), in Jour. Anth. Inst., XXI (London,
1891); Crawley, "Sexual Taboo," ibid., XXIV (London, 1894-95); his
Mystic Rose (London and New York, 1902); and Floessel, Die Schwiegermutter
(Dresden, 1890).
For the question of sexual selection with Darwin compare Wallace,
Darwinism (London, 1891); Poulton, Colours of Animals (New York,
1890); and Weismann, Studies in the Theory of Descent (London, 1880-82).
Hebrew marriage is treated by Michaelis, Abhandlung von den
Ehegesetzen Mosis (Göttingen, 1768); his Commentaries on the Laws of
Moses (London, 1814); Lichtschein, Die Ehe nach mosaisch-talmudischer
Auffassung (Leipzig, 1879); Mielziner, The Jewish Law of Marriage
and Divorce (Cincinnati, 1884); Weill, La femme juive (1874); Kurtz,
Die Ehe der Söhne Gottes mit den Töchtern der Menschen (Berlin, New
York, and Adelaide, 1857); his Die Ehe des Propheten Hosea (Dorpat,
1859); Stubbe, Die Ehe im Alten Testament (Jena, 1886); Ellis, "Marriage
and Kinship among the ancient Israelites," in Pop. Sci. Monthly,
XLII (New York, 1892-93), 325-37; Bergel, Die Eheverhältnisse der alten
Juden (Leipzig, 1881); Duschak, Das mosaisch-talmudische Eherecht
(Vienna, 1864); especially Döllinger's rare book, Heidenthum und
Judenthum (Regensburg, 1857), containing a comparison of Grecian,
Roman, and Hebrew laws and social customs. For Babylon see the
works of Simcox, Sayce, Kohler, and Haupt mentioned in the Bibliographical
Index, I.
For the matrimonial institutions of China, see Parker, "Comparative
Chinese Law," in China Review, VIII (Hong-Kong, 1879-80);
Möllendorff, Das chinesische Familienrecht (Shanghai, 1895); Katscher,
Bilder aus dem chinesischen Leben (Leipzig and Heidelberg, 1881);
idem, Aus China (Leipzig, 1887); Tscheng-ki-Tong, Chinese Painted
by Themselves (London, 1885); Arène, La Chine familière (Paris, 1883);
Huc, Chinese Empire (London, 1855); Gray, China (London, 1878);
Fielde, "Chinese Marriage Customs," in Pop. Sci. Monthly, XXXIV
(New York, Dec. 1888); Kohler, "Aus dem chinesischen Civilrecht,"
ZVR., VI; Giles, Chinese Sketches (London, 1876); Grosier, De la
Chine, Tome V (1819); and Smith's valuable Village Life in China
(New York, Chicago, and Toronto, 1899), especially Part II. For the
usages of allied races see Rockhill, "Notes on the Ethnology of
Tibet," in Report of Smith. Inst., 1893, Nat. Museum (Washington,
1895); Kohler, "Studien aus dem japanischen Recht," in ZVR., X;
Koehne, "Das Recht der Kalmücken," ibid., IX; Dalmas, Les Japonais
(Paris, 1885); Daigoro, "Family Relations in Japan," in Transactions
of the Japan Society, II; Rein, Japan nach Reisen und Studien
(Leipzig, 1881); Hitchcock, "The Ainos of Yezo, Japan," in Report
of Smith. Inst., 1890, Nat. Museum (Washington, 1891); Araki,
Japanisches Eheschliessungsrecht (Göttingen, 1893); Loti, "Woman
in Japan," in Harper's Monthly (New York, 1890), LXXXII, 119-31;
and Titsingh, Cérémonies usitées au Japon (Paris, 1822), the first volume
containing very curious and valuable matter concerning wedding
customs.
By far the most thorough and comprehensive researches regarding
the culture and social life of the American aborigines have been made
by American scholars in the Contributions to American Ethnology,
the Reports of the Bureau of Ethnology, the Reports of the Smithsonian
Institution, including those of the National Museum, and in
various periodicals, notably the American Antiquarian and the American
Anthropologist. The most important of these papers for Indian
marriage and family customs are Dorsey, "Omaha Sociology," in III.
Rep. of Bureau of Eth., 205-370 (Washington, 1884), supplemented
by his "Siouan Sociology," ibid., XV, 205-44 (Washington, 1897); McGee,
"Siouan Indians," ibid., XV, 153-204; idem, "The Seri Indians,"
ibid., XVII, Part I (Washington, 1898); Mooney, "Siouan Tribes of
the East," in XVII. Rep. of Bureau of Eth. (Washington, 1894); Riggs,
"Dakota Grammar, Texts, and Ethnography," in Contributions to N.A.
Ethnology, IX (Washington, 1893); and the elaborate work of Powers,
"Tribes of California" (Washington, 1877), constituting the third
volume of the same series. Some important illustrations of the matrimonial
usages of the Eskimo may be found in Murdoch, "Eth. Results
of Point Barrow Expedition," in IX. Rep. of Bureau of Eth. (Washington,
1892); Nelson, "The Eskimo about Bering Strait," ibid., XVIII,
Part I (Washington, 1899); and Turner, "Ethnology of the Ungava
District," ibid., XI (Washington, 1894). See also MacCauley, "The
Seminole Indians," ibid., V (Washington, 1887); Stevenson, "The Sia,"
ibid., XI, 3-157 (Washington, 1894); Hoffman, "Menomini Indians,"
ibid., XIV (Washington, 1896); Grossmann, "The Pima Indians of
Arizona," in Report Smith. Inst., 1871 (Washington, 1873); Beckwith,
"Notes on Customs of the Dakotahs," ibid., 1886, Part I (Washington,
1889); Willoughby, "Indians of the Quinaielt Agency," ibid., Part I;
Eells, "Twana, Chemakum, and Klallam Indians," ibid., 1887 (Washington,
1889); Niblack, "Coast Indians of Southern Alaska and Northern
Brit. Col.," ibid., 1888, Nat. Museum (Washington, 1890); Boaz, "Social
Organization and Secret Societies of the Kwakiutl Indians," ibid., 1895,
Nat. Museum (Washington, 1897); Stephen, "The Navajo," in Am.
Anthropologist, VI (Washington, 1893); Grinnell, "Marriage among
the Pawnees," ibid., IV (Washington, 1891); Corbusier, "Apache-Yumas
and Apache-Mojaves," in Am. Antiquarian, VIII (Chicago, 1886);
Beauchamp, "Aboriginal Communal Life," ibid., IX (Chicago, 1887),
attacking Morgan's views; Peet, "Village Life and Clan Residences
among the Emblematic Mounds," ibid., IX; his "Ethnographic Religions
and Ancestor Worship," and his "Personal Divinities and Culture
Heroes," both ibid., XV (Chicago, 1893); Powell, "Wyandotte Society,"
in Proc. Am. Assoc. Adv. Sci., XXIX (Salem, 1880); Beauchamp,
"Permanence of Early Iroquois Clans and Sachemships," ibid., XXXIV
(Salem, 1886); Mallery, "Israelite and Indian," ibid., XXXVIII (Salem,
1890); Fletcher's papers on totemism and animism in "Emblematic
Use of the Tree in the Dakotan Group," and her "Study from the
Omaha Tribe," both ibid., XLV, XLVI (Salem, 1897-98); Halbert,
"Courtship and Marriage among the Choctaws of Mississippi," in Amer.
Naturalist, March, 1832; Carr, "The Social and Political Position of
Women among the Huron-Iroquois Tribes," XVI. Rep. of Peabody
Museum (Cambridge, 1883).
Very valuable early notices of the social customs of the Brazilian
Indians may be found in Stade, Captivity among the wild Tribes of
eastern Brasil, 1547-55 (London, 1874); Anchieta, "Informação dos
Casamentos dos Indios do Brasil," in Revista Trimensal, VIII (Rio de
Janeiro, 1867); Souza, "Tratado descriptivo do Brazil em 1587,"
Revista do Instituto Hist. e Geog., XIV (Rio de Janeiro, 1851); Léry,
Du mariage, polygamie, et degrez de consanguinité (3d ed., Geneva,
1585); D'Evreux, Voyage dans le nord du Brésil, 1613-14 (Leipzig and
Paris, 1864); Moure, "Les Indiens de la province de Matto-Grosso
(Brésil)," in Nouvelles annales des voyages, 1862, II (Paris); Guimarães,
"Costumes e Linguagem dos Appiaacás ... de Matto-Grosso,"
in Revista Trimensal, VI (2d ed., Rio de Janeiro, 1865); and Magalhães,
"Familia e Religião Selvagem," Revista Trimensal do Instituto,
etc., XXXVI (Rio de Janeiro, 1873, 1876). With these may be read the
important accounts of Lafitau, Mœurs des sauvages (Paris, 1724); Pratz,
"Des mœurs et coutumes des peuples de la Louisiane (Natchez)," in
his Hist. de la Louisiane, II (Paris, 1758); and Dobrizhoffer's description
of "weddings" and "marriages" in his Account of the Abipones,
an Equestrian People of Paraguay (London, 1822; Latin ed., 1784),
among whom he lived as missionary for eight years after his arrival in
1749. There is also a very interesting passage in Humbolt, Vues de
Cordillères (Paris, 1810). See further Von den Steinen's Unter den
Naturvölkern Brasiliens, 1887-8 (Berlin, 1894); Martius, Von dem
Rechtszustande unter den Ureinwohnern Brasiliens (Munich, 1832);
which is reprinted with other matter in his Beiträge zur Ethnographie
und Sprachenkunde Amerikas zumal Brasiliens (Leipzig, 1867); and
Adam, Du parler des hommes et du parler des femmes dans la langue
Caraïbe (Paris, 1879). Much material is also contained in Rink, Eskimo
Tribes (Copenhagen and London, 1887); his Tales and Traditions
of the Eskimo (Edinburgh and London, 1875); Catlin, North American
Indians (London, 1841); Schoolcraft, Indian Tribes (Philadelphia,
1853-56); Bancroft, Native Races (New York, 1875-76); Kohler, "Das
Recht der Azteken," in ZVR., XI; Vols. III and IV of Waitz, Anthropologie;
Krause, Die Tlinkit-Indianer (Jena, 1885); and Bandelier
"Social Organization and Mode of Government of the Ancient Mexicans,"
in Rep. Peabody Museum, II, 557-699.
Among the many works cited in this chapter which have already
been enumerated in preceding Bibliographical Notes especially important
are those of Jolly, Leist, Krause, Rossbach, Morgan, Bernhöft,
Friedrichs, Spencer, Lubbock, Ploss, Lippert, Robertson Smith, Finck,
Grosse, Hellwald, and various writings of Kohler.]
Everywhere among our ancestors, when authentic history
dawns upon the institutions of the Germanic race, marriage
is effected by means of a contract. The transaction is a
contract of sale through which for a price the bride is conveyed
by the father or guardian into the bridegroom's hand.
But, as will appear later, the element of sale is rapidly taking
on a symbolical character. The question arises in the outset
as to the antiquity of contract in marriage. Is it of comparatively
late origin, as is often assumed? Or can the
element of agreement, of consent of the parties, be traced
from the very beginning of the human family? Again,
what is the character and what the historical significance of
marriage by purchase? Is it the earliest form of matrimonial
contract, and does it constitute a universal phase of
development subsequent to that of capturing women?
According to McLennan, as we have already seen, capture
as a means of getting wives is a universal practice among
primitive men. It is due to polyandry occasioned by a
scarcity of women; it leads to exogamy; and it is generally
superseded by contract in the form of wife-purchase.[473] The
evidence of the former universality of the custom is derived
from two sources: first, the existence of actual wife-capture
among many peoples in all parts of the world; second, the
symbol of rape in the marriage ceremony or in the preliminary
act of taking the woman. The symbol, it is held, can
be accounted for only as a survival of real capture. Other
writers agree with McLennan in regarding the evidence as
conclusive. Such, in effect, is the view of Dargun, though
he admits that it cannot with absolute certainty be assumed
that capture was ever the only form of marriage recognized.[474]
Post, on the other hand, declares that the universality of
wife-stealing is beyond question; and he holds that it is a
natural incident of the genealogical organization of society.
It is connected in the closest manner with the exogamous
system peculiar to that organization, appearing as one of the
means by which marriage can be brought about between
members of different gentile groups. It was, in short, the
legal means of procuring a wife.[475]
Nevertheless, a careful study of the facts makes it almost
certain that the significance of wife-stealing as a sociological
element has been greatly exaggerated, and its true relation
to marriage strangely misunderstood.[476] It is perfectly natural
that savage or barbarous races should seize women as a part
of the ordinary spoils of war. Everything portable becomes
the prey of the victor. "The taking of women," to repeat
the forcible words of Spencer, "is manifestly but a part of
this process of spoiling the vanquished." They are "prized
as wives, as concubines, as drudges."[477]
Accordingly, it is not difficult to collect examples of the
actual capture of women to serve as slaves, mistresses, or
wives at the pleasure of the captor. Among the aboriginal
American tribes, we are told, the practice is originally found
in its "greatest perfection."[478] From Cape Horn to Hudson's
Bay women are regarded as legitimate booty. The Horse
Indians of Patagonia fight with each other, tribe against
tribe, the issues of victory in every case being the "capture
of women and the slaughter of men." The Patagonian Oens,
or Coin-men, make systematic excursions every year at the
time of the "red-leaf" to "plunder Fuegians of their women,
dogs, and arms."[479] It is even reported of the Caribs that
they depend so much upon the securing of foreign wives in
war that nowhere do the women speak the same language as
the men,[480] and a similar statement is made concerning the
Brazilian Guaycurûs[481] and some other peoples.[482] But in
North America the capturing of women for wives has nearly
disappeared.
The practice of capturing or forcibly abducting women,
though rare, exists among the Hottentots and elsewhere in
Africa.[483] It prevails throughout all Melanesia, where abduction
is described as the "primitive means of procuring wives
or rather slaves, absolutely at the pleasure of the ravisher."[484]
It has existed in Tasmania, New Zealand, Samoa, New
Guinea, among the Fiji Islanders, throughout the Indian
Archipelago, and to a very limited extent in Australia.[485] For
the Finnish-Ugrian and Turco-Tartaric peoples proofs of
the present or former existence of the practice have been
collected.[486]
There are abundant evidences of woman-capture de facto
among peoples of the Aryan stock. It existed among the
ancient Germans;[487] and according to Olaus Magnus, the
Scandinavian nations were continuously at war with one
another "propter raptas virgines aut arripiendas."[488] The
same writer says that it "prevailed in Muscovy, Lithuania,
and Livonia;" while among the South Slavonians actual
capture "was in full force no longer ago than the beginning
of the present century."[489] Such was the case in Servia, where
it was the custom either to lie in wait for a girl of a neighboring
village to bear her away as she went out for water or
to tend the flocks; or else an armed assault was made upon
her home. Murders were thus often committed; for the
attacking party were resolved to suffer themselves to be
killed rather than give up the girl, and all the inhabitants
of the girl's village took part in the fray.[490] According to
Dargun, the Slavs are as conspicuous among the Aryans for
wife-capture and its survivals as are the Aryans, for the
same reason, among the great divisions of mankind.[491] It is
not at all unlikely that the custom of wife-stealing existed
among the early Romans, even if the story of the Sabine
rape be dismissed as merely an ætological myth to explain
the symbol of capture in the marriage ceremony.[492] Without
doubt it was also common among the primitive Greeks; and
"even now, according to Sakellarios, capture of wives occasionally
occurs in Greece."[493] It is found "among the aborigines
of the Deccan, and in Afghanistan;"[494] while it was
known to the ancient Hindus. The code of Manu mentions
capture as one of the eight legal forms of marriage. "The
forcible abduction from home of a maiden crying out and
weeping, after slaying and wounding her relatives and breaking
in, is called the Rāksasa form;" but this is only for the
military class.[495]
The capture of women for wives is very prominent with
savage or barbarous peoples of the Semitic race. "At the
time of Mohammed," says Robertson Smith, "the practice
was universal" among the Arabs. "The immunity of women
in time of war which prevails in Arabia now is a modern
thing; in old warfare the procuring of captives both male
and female was a main object of every expedition, and the
Dîwân of the Hodhail poets shews us that there was a regular
slave trade in Mecca, supplied by the wars that went on
among the surrounding tribes.... Very commonly these
captives at once became the wives or mistresses of their captors—a
practice which Mohammed expressly recognized,
though he sought to modify some of its more offensive
features. Such a connection does not appear to have been,
properly speaking, concubinage." The sons of a captive
woman suffered no legal disability. "According to Arab
tradition the best and stoutest sons are born of reluctant
wives. And so Hâtim, the Taite, says:
'They did not give us Taites their daughters in marriage:
but we wooed them against their will with our swords.
'And with us captivity brought no abasement to them: and
they neither toiled in making bread nor boiled the pot.
'But we commingled them with our noblest women: and they
bare us fair sons white of face [i. e., of pure descent].
'How often shalt thou see among us the son of a captive
bride: who staunchly thrusts through heroes when he
meets them in the fight!'"[496]
But nothing can exceed the brutal ferocity with which
sometimes the people of Israel supplied themselves with
women. The Hebrew Bible contains various striking illustrations
of the practice. Contrary to law, which forbade
intermarriage with the gentiles, members of the military
class were allowed to marry foreign women taken in war.[497]
On one occasion the tribe of Benjamin, or rather the remnant
of it which had escaped the sword of Israel, stood in
sore need of wives; but their brethren had sworn not to give
them their daughters in marriage, nor could they legally
marry gentile women. "The difficulty of procuring wives
for Benjamin—which Israel made its own difficulty—was
solved by the wholesale slaughter of the inhabitants of Jabez-Gilead,
whose population yielded 400 virgins; and next by
the men of Benjamin enacting a rape of the Sabines for
themselves, each man seizing and carrying off one of the
daughters of Shiloh to be his wife, on an occasion when the
women met for a festival in certain vineyards near Bethel."[498]
In this case the spoils of treachery and war were Jewish women.
At another time the alien Midianites were conquered;
and at the command of Moses the women and even the
male infants which the soldiers had spared were deliberately
slaughtered. The virgins alone, thirty-two thousand in
number, were kept alive; and these were divided among the
people precisely as was the other booty, even the priests,
apparently, receiving a share.[499]
It would be a very easy matter to produce further examples
of a custom which appears as a simple incident of war
and rapine at certain stages of human progress. Everywhere
among rude men we find lust and physical force triumphing
over the weakness of woman. In the successful foray or in
the sack of a town she is treated merely as a part of the
prey, becoming the slave, the concubine, or even the wife of
the spoiler. "But in these brutal practices," it is patent,
"there is nothing which bears even a distant resemblance
to marriage."[500] It is highly necessary, as Letourneau
rightly insists, to distinguish sharply between rape and
the marriage institution. So-called marriage by capture,
he declares, is not a form of marriage at all; "it is merely
a manner of procuring one or several wives, whatever
the matrimonal system in use."[501] As a matter of fact,
actual wife-capture usually, perhaps always, coexists with
regular forms of marriage. Thus, as we shall presently
see, it frequently makes its appearance side by side with
wife-purchase; and sometimes the transition from capture
to purchase, as a means of procuring wives, may be clearly
perceived.
Accordingly Letourneau is of the opinion that the name
"marriage by capture" should be reserved for legal and
pacific marriages in whose ceremony the symbol of rape
appears.[502] But even this is too broad a use of the term, which
at most can strictly be applied only to the comparatively
small number of cases in which the form of capture is an
essential part of the legal ceremony. For the symbol occurs
in every shape and in every grade of significance, from the
brutal combat of the Australian savage to the harmless prank
of casting the old shoe with which among ourselves the
wedding festivities are enlivened. It exists in connection
with every phase of development, from the rudest savagery
to the most advanced type of Aryan culture; and it is found
among the same people, sometimes in various forms, side
by side with actual capture or associated with the most refined
conception of the marriage relation.[503]
A very few illustrations of these curious practices, selected
from the mass of material available, must here suffice.[504]
Sometimes there is a pretended abduction of the bride by
the bridegroom. Among the Eskimo of Cape York, for
instance, the marriage is arranged amicably by the parents
in the infancy of the parties. Nevertheless the wedding
ceremony simulates an abduction. The bride "is obliged
by the inexorable law of custom to free herself, if possible,
by kicking and screaming with might and main, until she
is safely landed in the hut of her future lord, when she gives
up the combat very cheerfully, and takes possession of her
new abode."[505] In the Ungava District the "sanction of the
parents is sometimes obtained by favor or else bought by
making certain presents of skins, furs, and other valuables."
If no parents are living, the brothers and sisters must be
favorable to the union. "When all obstacles are removed
and only the girl refuses, it is not long before she disappears
mysteriously, to remain out for two or three nights with her
best female friend, who thoroughly sympathizes with her.
They return, and before long she is abducted by her lover,
and they remain away until she proves to be thoroughly
subjected to his will."[506] In Greenland a similar practice is
found.[507] It appears in some Siouan tribes.[508] Among the
Canadian Indians, after a kind of civil marriage is solemnized
before the tribal chief, "the groom turns around,
makes an obeisance, takes his wife upon his back, and carries
her to his tent amid the acclamations of the spectators."[509]
Sometimes the affair takes on a more earnest character.
Among the Bedouins of Sinai the bridegroom seizes the
woman whom he has legally purchased, drags her into her
father's tent, lifts her violently struggling upon his camel,
holds her fast while he bears her away, and finally pulls her
forcibly into his house, though her powerful resistance may
be the occasion of serious wounds.[510] Especially interesting
is the form which symbolical abduction assumes among the
Kamtchadales. There the wooer, like Jacob of old, is expected
to earn his wife by serving her parents. He takes
upon himself a good part of the domestic labor, and the
term of service sometimes lasts for a number of years.
"This is surely a singular prelude to a forcible marriage by
capture; nevertheless, when the period of novitiate has expired,
the future spouse must violently and publicly triumph
over the resistance of his betrothed. She is cuirassed with
garments, thick and superimposed, with straps and with
strings. Moreover, she is guarded and defended by the
women of her yourt. The marriage is not definitely concluded
until the bridegroom, surmounting all these obstacles,
succeeds in perpetrating upon his intended, so well protected,
a sort of outrage upon her modesty, which she ought to
confess by crying out ni ni in a plaintive voice. But the
women and the maidens of the guard fall upon the assailant
with loud cries and heavy blows, pulling his hair, scratching
his face, and sometimes throwing him over. Victory often
requires repeated assaults, sometimes days of combat. Only
when at last it is won and the bride yields herself is the
marriage concluded. The night is then passed in the yourt
of the wife, who is conducted to the husband's house only
on the following day."[511] The sham contest takes a somewhat
different form, according to Bancroft, among the Mosquito
Indians of Central America. "At noon the villagers
proceed to the home of the bridegroom," whom they accompany
to the "house of the bride where the young man
seats himself before the closed entrance on a bundle of presents
intended for the bride. The father raps at the door
which is partly opened by an old woman who asks his business,
but the reply does not seem satisfactory, for the door
is slammed in his face." With great difficulty, and only
after entreaties, music, and presents have been tried, is the
door opened, "revealing the bride arrayed in her prettiest,
seated on a crickery, in the remotest corner. While all are
absorbed in examining the presents, the bridegroom dashes
in, shoulders the girl like a sack, and trots off for the mystic
circle," within which a hut has already been erected. This
hut he reaches, urged on by the frantic cries of the women,
before the crowd can rescue her. "The females, who cannot
pass the ring, stand outside giving vent to their despairing
shrieks, while the men squat within the circle in rows,
facing outward.... After dark the crowd proceeds with
lighted torches to the hut, which is torn down, disclosing
the married pair sitting demurely side by side. The husband
shoulders his new baggage and is escorted to his
home."[512] On the other hand, instead of abduction, the simulated
flight of the woman is of frequent occurrence. Sometimes
she seeks refuge in the house of a relative, or conceals
herself in the woods, whence she can only be brought back
with more or less violence.[513] Thus in southern California,
according to Bancroft, "where an Oleepa lover wishes to
marry, he first obtains permission from the parents. The
damsel then flies and conceals herself; the lover searches
for her, and should he succeed in finding her twice out of
three times she belongs to him. Should he be unsuccessful
he waits a few weeks, and then repeats the performance. If
she again elude his search, the matter is decided against
him."[514] By the Siouan peoples elopement is "considered
undignified, and different terms are applied to a marriage
by elopement and one by parental consent."[515] Nevertheless,
as among the Omahas, the custom is sanctioned. Sometimes,
according to Dawson, "a man elopes with a woman.
Her kindred have no cause for anger" if he takes her as his
wife. "Should a man get angry because his single daughter,
sister, or niece had eloped, the other Omahas would talk
about him, saying, 'that man is angry on account of the
elopement of his daughter!' They would ridicule him
for his behavior. La Flèche knew of but one case, and that
a recent one, in which a man showed anger on such an occasion.
But if the woman had been taken from her husband
by another man, her kindred had a right to be angry.
Whether the woman belongs to the same tribe or to another
the man can elope with her if she consents. The Omahas
cannot understand how marriage by capture could take place,
as the woman would be sure to alarm her people by her
cries."[516]
Among the Kalmucks both abduction and pretended
flight are found. According to De Hell, among the noble
or princely class, after the bridegroom has arranged with
the father for the price of the girl, he "sets out on horseback,
accompanied by the chief nobles of the horde to which
he belongs, to carry her off." A "sham resistance is always
made by the people of her camp, in spite of which she fails
not to be borne away on a richly caparisoned horse, with
loud shouts and feux de joie."[517] A different custom is described
by Dr. Clarke. After stipulation of the price the
"ceremony of marriage among the Kalmucks is performed
on horseback. A girl is first mounted, who rides off in full
speed. Her lover pursues: if he overtakes her, she becomes
his wife, and the marriage is consummated on the spot."
But the race sometimes has a different ending. "We were
assured," continues Clarke, "that no instance occurs of a
Kalmuck girl being thus caught, unless she have a partiality
to the pursuer. If she dislikes him she rides, to
use the language of English sportsmen, 'neck or nought,'
until she has completely effected her escape, or until her
pursuer's horse becomes exhausted, leaving her at liberty
to return, and to be afterwards chased by some more favored
admirer."[518]
Not less interesting than the forms of flight and abduction
is the custom of elopement, implying the connivance or
consent of the woman. In Tasmania[519] and in Australia,
especially among the Kurnai, etiquette requires that the
lover should run away with his betrothed. Contrary to the
common opinion, capture of women seldom occurs in Australia,
and then only as the result of war between hostile
tribes.[520] "The young Kurnai," however, "could acquire a
wife in one way only. He must run away with her. Native
marriages might be brought about in various ways. If the
young man was so fortunate as to have an unmarried sister,
and to have a friend who also had an unmarried sister, they
might arrange with the girls to run off together; or he
might make his arrangements with some eligible girl whom
he fancied and who fancied him; or a girl, if she fancied a
young man, might send him a secret message asking, 'Will
you find me some food?' And this was understood to be a
proposal. But in every such case it was essential to success
that the parents of the bride should be utterly ignorant of
what was about to take place. It was no use his asking for
a wife excepting under most exceptional circumstances, for
he could only acquire one in the usual manner, and that
was by running off with her."[521] According to Mr. Howitt,
marriage by elopement exists among many other Australian
tribes. It seems to be the favorite method when the parents
of the girl are opposed to the match. In that case, the girl is
sometimes severely punished; or the man is supposed to retain
her only as the result of a successful combat with her friends,
which may prove to be something more than a sham combat.[522]
The examples thus far presented have all been selected
from the matrimonial customs of non-Aryan peoples; but the
symbol of capture, in a great variety of forms and combinations,
may also be found in every subdivision of the Aryan
race. It appears in the marriage ceremonies of Sparta,
Crete, and among other Hellenes.[523] The nuptial celebration
of the Romans was characterized throughout by the show of
force. For this reason they hesitated to hold weddings on
religious days, lest these should be desecrated by the seeming
violence done to the bride.[524] With the rising of the
evening star took place the domum deductio, or carrying
home, of the woman.[525] The girl fled to the lap of her mother,
whence she was dragged forcibly away by the bridegroom and
his friends who rushed noisily in.[526] On the way she held back,
weeping and struggling, while her attendants sang hymeneal
songs, not always the most refined in character. Thus in
his nuptial hymn Catullus has the choir of maidens exclaim:
"Say, Hesper, say, what fire of all that shine
In Heaven's great vault more cruel is than thine?
Who from the mother's arms her child can tear—
The child that clasps her mother in despair;
And to the youth, whose blood is all aflame,
Consigns the virgin sinking in her shame!
When towns are sacked, what cruelty more drear."[527]
At the door the bride makes a last effort to resist; but she
is lifted forcibly over the threshold, and even in the house
she is held fast by the arms, until at last she is fully initiated
into the sacred rites of the bridegroom's house.[528] It is noteworthy
that the custom of dragging the bride into the
husband's house, or of lifting her over the threshold, exists
even now in many places. It appears in Africa; among the
Ests, Kalmucks, and Bedouins; the Indians of southern California,
and elsewhere in North America.[529] In "China, when
the bridal procession reaches the bridegroom's house, the
bride is carried into the house by a matron, and lifted over
a pan of charcoal at the door."[530]
The symbol of capture is especially prominent in Celtic
song and custom. As in the German epics, it was not
thought unseemly for the daughter to marry the hero who
had slain her father.[531] "According to tradition the Picts
robbed the Gaels of their women, so that the latter were
compelled to intermarry with aboriginal inhabitants of the
land."[532] Near the beginning of last century the following
marriage ceremony was customary in Wales: "On the morning
of the wedding day the bridegroom, accompanied by
his friends on horseback, demands the bride. Her friends,
who are likewise on horseback, give a positive refusal, upon
which a mock scuffle ensues. The bride, mounted behind
her nearest kinsman, is carried off and is pursued by the
bridegroom and his friends, with loud shouts. It is not
uncommon on such an occasion to see two or three hundred
sturdy Cambro-Britons riding at full speed, crossing and
jostling, to the no small amusement of the spectators.
When they have fatigued themselves and their horses, the
bridegroom is supposed to overtake his bride. He leads her
away in triumph, and the scene is concluded with feasting
and festivity."[533] Still more real is the sham contest in Ireland.
As late as the middle of last century, in mountain
districts, the bridegroom "was compelled in honor, to run
off with his betrothed, even when there was not the least
need of it."[534] On the day of home-bringing, after the purchase-contract
had been concluded, "the bridegroom and
his friends rode out to meet the bride and her friends, at
the place where the contract was made. Being come near
each other the custom was of old to cast short darts at the
company that attended the bride, but at such distance that
seldom any hurt ensued. Yet it is not out of memory of
man that the Lord of Hoath on such an occasion lost an
eye."[535]
A custom, almost identical with that last mentioned, prevails
in the Punjab;[536] and in many parts of India the sham
contest and the pretended abduction appear.[537] But nowhere
are the symbols of capture found in such wonderful variety
and profusion as in Germany and Slavonic lands. The mass
of illustration presented by Dargun is almost bewildering
for its richness.[538] Every form and type of ceremonial capture
is there represented. Elopement, the sham combat,
abduction by an armed band, is the regular order of the
wedding day in every country of the Slavonic race. In
Germany, besides these practices, reminiscences of capture
are found in a great variety of pranks and fantastic sports.
The bride is concealed from her lover before the wedding;
or, after it takes place, she is stolen and concealed by the
young people of the village. The bridegroom is hindered
from entering the home of his intended on the wedding day;
or he finds his way barred to or from the church, and is permitted
to proceed only after paying a fine or treating the
crowd.[539] Sometimes, as in Sweden, the bride is stolen by
her lover and hidden away.[540] In upper Bavaria, on the day
of the wedding, she clothes herself in mourning, black or
violet;[541] and the practice of covering or veiling her head is as
familiar in Germany as it was in ancient Rome.[542] "To veil
the woman," quên liugan, is the Gothic name for marriage;
in Lorraine it is called Brautjagd, or "bride-hunt;" while
Brautlauf, or "bride-race," for the entire nuptial celebration
is a common designation in German lands.[543] The original
meaning of Brautlauf is probably revealed in the existing
custom of chasing the bride. Thus, in Altmark, after the
wedding feast, followed by a dance, a runaway match takes
place between the newly married pair. "Two lusty young
fellows take the girl between them, the bridegroom gives her
a 'start,' and the race begins. If the lover does not succeed
in overtaking her, he must look out for the gibes of the
crowd."[544]
As illustration of social custom and mental attitude the
extraordinary prevalence of the so-called symbol of capture
is undoubtedly a fact of unusual interest; and it constitutes
an important chapter in the history of marriage. But it does
not follow, as a matter of course, that the symbol must
necessarily be regarded as a survival of actual capture. It is
scarcely credible that its origin can be traced to a single
source. On the contrary, it is far more likely that in different
places, or even in the same place, it takes its rise in a
variety of causes, though these may be less simple in
character. Thus, in spite of the protest of McLennan,[545] who
asserts that "no case can be cited of a primitive people
among whom the seizing of brides is rendered necessary by
maidenly coyness," it is highly probable that the real or assumed
modesty of the woman has exerted a strong influence,
here and there, in producing the form of capture.[546] Sometimes
the simpler explanation of Starcke may suffice. Ceremonial
capture, he declares, merely represents the "sorrow
of the bride on leaving her former home; her close dependance
on her family is expressed by her lamentation."[547]
Again the symbol may appear as the sign of the subjection
or subordination of the wife; for many of the so-called minor
survivals seem to have this end in view. In a society where
woman, on occasion, is seized in the bloody foray; where,
often, she is bought like a beast of burden; and where, generally,
she is exposed to the cruelty and brutality of her
master, it is not surprising that the token of the wife's humility
should find its way into the ceremony of marriage.[548]
Furthermore the suggestion of Letourneau is worthy of
special consideration. The symbol of rape, he holds, is first
of all a "mental survival;" a "tradition" of an epoch more
or less remote when violence was held in high esteem and
when it was glorious to procure slaves by force of arms. The
period of rapine may have passed away, but its spirit lingers.
Men love to figure in the ceremonial of marriage the abductions
of old, which they cannot or dare not any longer commit.[549]
"Connubial and formal capture," according to Crawley,
"are very widely spread, but are never survivals of real
capture." "In fact, formal capture, far from being itself a
survival, either of connubial or of actual hostile capture, is
the ceremonial mode of which connubial capture is the non-ceremonial;
each is a living reality, the one being material
and the other ideal."[550]
Nevertheless, after all is said, it seems hard to believe
that ceremonial capture does not sometimes have a more real
significance. Often it may symbolize the coyness or mark
the subjection of woman. More frequently it may stand as
a mere general reminiscence of the good old times of force
and lawlessness. Still it would be strange, indeed, if it did
not also appear as a direct survival of actual wife-capture.[551]
Granting this, however, the significance of capture de facto
remains the same. We perceive more clearly that it has
very widely prevailed; yet it must still be regarded as a mere
incident of war and pillage. It has nothing whatever to do
with the institution of marriage. It could never on any
wide scale have been the normal manner of procuring wives.
To assume that wife-stealing has been a universal phase in
the evolution of marriage is not one whit more reasonable
than to hold that robbery has been a normal stage in the
evolution of property.[552] In spite of Hobbes or McLennan,
it remains to be proved that a state of chronic hostility was
ever a general phase in the history of mankind. Such a
state is inconsistent with the prevalence of the blood-feud.[553]
Even the rule of exogamy among primitive peoples does not
harmonize with general wife capture. For the coexistence
of clan-exogamy and tribal endogamy means, under normal
conditions, a tendency toward peace within the tribe.[554]
There is strong reason to believe that in every period of
social development consent and contract, in some form, have
been the cardinal elements of marriage. Captured or stolen
women have usually become slaves or concubines; and, except
in rare instances, the relatively small number of them
made wives must always have been insignificant as compared
with the number of wives obtained in other ways. Thus the
solution of the problem of so-called marriage by capture
appears to be similar to that of polygyny. The practice of
taking several wives is exceedingly common; but on close examination
we discover that polygyny is relatively unimportant,
and that it has never been able to displace monogamy
as the normal type. So it is with the practice of capturing
women for wives. However prevalent the custom, it does
not seem ever to have greatly influenced the natural laws or
modified the fundamental motives upon which marriage and
the family rest. But the value of the evidence upon which
this conclusion is based can be thoroughly appreciated only
after we have traced the origin of contract in marriage.
Let us begin with wife-purchase, especially in its relation to
the custom of capturing women.
It is a common opinion that marriage by purchase supersedes
wife-capture as a later and higher stage of development.
Such apparently is the view of McLennan, who regards the
purchase-contract as of late origin and as the principal means
by which the transition from the maternal to the paternal
system of kinship and to the individual family was brought
about.[555] Post declares that bride-purchase is a universal
phase of development, more advanced than that of wife-capture;[556]
and he agrees with McLennan in regarding it as a
mark of transition.[557] A similar position is taken by Heusler,
Lippert, Kulischer, and also by Kohler;[558] while Spencer,
without asserting that either is a stage through which marriage
among all peoples has passed, thinks that purchase is
the usual substitute for violence as civilization progresses.
"We may suspect," he says, "that abduction, spite of parents,
was the primary form; that there came next the making of
compensation to escape vengeance; that this grew into the
making of presents beforehand; and that so resulted eventually
the system of purchase."[559]
It requires little argument, of course, to show that robbery
per se is a less civilized method of acquiring property
than contract. That is as true among ourselves now as it has
ever been among savages. For particular individuals, even
for particular tribes, a transition from rape to contract, as
the result of moral development, will of course take place.
It by no means follows, however, that the one method has
succeeded the other as a general stage for all mankind, or
indeed for a single community. Even if we admit that
"barter and commerce are comparatively late inventions of
man"[560]—an assumption which, though probable, still requires
proof—rape is not the necessary alternative in getting property,
much less in getting a wife.
It is highly significant that wife-capture, real or pretended,
is usually found side by side with wife-purchase.
They appear together among peoples exceedingly low in the
scale of progress; while marriage by purchase very frequently
occurs among rude races where capture, unless as a mere
symbol, is not found at all. Thus in Africa purchase is very
common, and it is occasionally accompanied by actual or
pretended rape.[561] So likewise real capture and wife-purchase
coexist in various parts of Europe, Asia, and America; and
wherever ceremonial capture occurs among races not far
advanced in civilization it is almost invariably combined
with marriage by purchase, or its allied forms, marriage by
serving, gift, or exchange.[562]
If, now, the cases in which capture and purchase appear
together be carefully examined, decisive evidence is disclosed
that the purchase contract is really the normal form of marriage,
while capture is usually, if not always, merely an
exceptional, even illegal, means of procuring a wife. It is
not surprising, for instance, that uncivilized races, with well-established
marital institutions, should occasionally steal
women from hostile tribes. Thus the Macas Indians of
Ecuador "acquire wives by purchase, if the woman belongs
to the same tribe, but otherwise by force."[563] In Australia
wives are often, perhaps usually, procured by exchange or
purchase; and a girl is generally betrothed when a child,
sometimes as soon as she is born.[564] Actual woman-capture
exists. But, as shown by Mr. Howitt's researches and those
of Spencer and Gillen, marriage with a captured woman is
only permitted when the captor and the captive belong to
groups which may legally intermarry. Death is sometimes
the penalty for violation of the class rules in this regard.
The result is that in Australia woman-stealing "amounts
merely to a violent extension of the marital rights over a
class in one tribe to captured members of the corresponding
class in another tribe." Furthermore, if the native songs
prove the existence of wife-stealing, they also bear witness
in the most decisive manner to love and choice in Australian
marriage.[565]
Very often capture and purchase are found united
in such a way that they seem almost to be contending
with each other for the mastery.[566] This union occurs in two
general forms: either the woman elopes or is carried off without
the guardian's consent, and a reconciliation is subsequently
effected through payment of the bride-price or the
rendering of a composition; or else the stipulation of the
price is made before the abduction. In the latter case it is
plain that we are dealing merely with ceremonial capture;
in the former case the significant fact is that we have to do
with a breach of the law.[567] A price is paid for the stolen
woman because, like other property, she has an economic
value; or a penalty is rendered in order to escape the blood-feud.
Frequently, however, even when abduction occurs
without the consent or knowledge of the girl's friends, the
subsequent procedure in arranging the price or the penalty
is strictly regulated by custom; and this fact may perhaps be
regarded as a further proof that the forms under consideration,
in special instances, represent a transition from capture
to contract. Among the Galela and Tobelorese,[568] for example,
when a man wishes a woman of a hostile tribe or family, he
causes her to be abducted, as she goes out for water or wood,
by twenty or more of his female friends, who bind her, if she
resists, and bear her away to his house. Should the relatives
of the girl attempt a rescue by force, the villagers
assemble and try to effect a reconciliation. Pending the
stipulation of the bride-money, the girl is allowed to escape
to her home, where she is carefully watched. On the third
day the friends assemble to discuss the price. If the woman
has not lived with the man, she may then refuse him; otherwise
the payment of the price is finally arranged.[569] In case
of elopement it is the custom among the same people for the
lovers to fly to the forest or to take refuge in a "prahu" on
the sea, where they remain a month. On their return they
are received in the house of the girl's parents. If the lover
pays the bride-money, the woman follows him to his house;
otherwise he must remain with his wife, and the children
legally belong to the mother.[570] With the Bataks of Sumatra
good form requires that the bridegroom should leave behind
a weapon, a piece of clothing, or some similar article as a
token that he has abducted the bride. Thereupon, when the
bride-money is paid the marriage is regarded as legally complete.
Should no token be left, however, the rape is illegal
and the culprit may receive punishment.[571]
Very naturally elopement or abduction most frequently
takes place when it is difficult or impossible to bring about
the marriage in the legal or customary way. Either the
parties belong to groups between which jus connubii does
not exist; or the lover is too poor to pay the price demanded
for the bride; or else the parents refuse their consent.
Here we have an example of the operation of simple motives
with which society, at all times and in all places, has been
familiar. Such marriages, it has been pointed out, are usually
marriages of inclination at least on the side of the lover,
as opposed to the conventional marriage by purchase.[572]
It appears, then, so far as present investigation enables
us to determine, that there is not sufficient evidence for
assuming that wife-capture, except in isolated cases, has
generally grown into marriage by purchase. As a rule, even
among the lowest races, foreign or warlike capture is an
exceptional method of procuring wives; while bride-stealing
at home, though the symbol may sometimes be sanctioned,
is merely looked upon as illegal or even immoral;[573] and,
therefore, with advancing civilization it yields to contract as
the highest means of effecting a marriage.[574]
Having now considered its relation to capture, let us next
notice the significance of wife-purchase as a social institution.
The custom of giving a compensation for a bride, though
not universal, exists or has existed among a vast number of
peoples in various stages of progress; and it often survives
as a mere symbol in the marriage ceremony. Kulischer,
indeed, declares that actual wife-purchase can now be discovered
only among a few savage races.[575] But this assertion
seems to be wholly inconsistent with the facts. Recent
researches, notably those of Post, Kohler, Westermarck, and
various American scholars, place it beyond question that
taking a wife, as the prosaic result of an ordinary bargain,
is a familiar institution in many parts of the world.[576]
Husband-purchase also appears, but examples of it are
exceedingly rare.[577] Several methods of buying a wife are in
use. The simplest way, says Westermarck, is "to give a
kinswoman in exchange for her." This method is found
in Sumatra;[578] and the Australian male "almost invariably
obtains his wife or wives, either as the survivor of a married
brother, or in exchange for his sisters, or later on in life
for his daughters."[579] Much more general is the custom,
sometimes distinguished with the name of "marriage by
service," in which the bridegroom earns his bride by serving
her father. "This practice, with which Hebrew tradition[580]
has familiarized us, is widely diffused among the uncivilized
races of America, Africa, Asia, and the Indian Archipelago."[581]
In America, as elsewhere, the custom takes a variety of
forms. Among the Mayas the young husband is required
to build a house opposite the home of his bride and live in
it five or six years while he works for her father. If the
service is not faithfully performed, he is dismissed, and the
father-in-law gives his daughter to another.[582] In Yucatan
the term of service is three or four years; and so stringent
is the requirement that it is regarded as highly unseemly to
shirk the duty.[583] According to Martius, with whom Souza
mainly agrees,[584] the Brazilian native usually gains his first
wife by serving her father. For him he goes hunting and
fishing. He helps him build his hut, clear the forest, bring
wood, and make canoes, weapons, and nets. During this
period the lover continues to dwell with his own relatives,
but tarries the whole day at the house of his wished-for
bride.[585] If his suit is successful, either he may take up his
abode for a while with his wife's family, or he may at once
set up a separate hut for himself. Among the Guaycurûs
the son-in-law dwells permanently with the woman's parents,
but from the moment of the marriage they avoid speaking
with him; and this custom of "bashfulness," often
regarded as a survival of wife-capture and so indirectly of
mother-right, prevails very widely in America and in other
lands.[586] Service, though merely as proof of manly worth,
appears also among the Seri, "probably the most primitive
tribe in North America." The "would-be groom is required
to enter the family of the girl and demonstrate (1) his
capacity as a provider and (2) his strength of character as a
man, by a year's probation."[587] Among the Kenai of the far
north the lover must perform a year's service for his bride.
"The wooing is in this wise: early some morning he enters
the abode of the fair one's father, and without speaking a
word proceeds to bring water, prepare food, and to heat the
bath-room." When asked why he performs these services,
"he answers that he desires the daughter for a wife. At
the expiration of a year, without further ceremony, he takes
her home, with a gift; but if she is not well treated by her
husband, she may return to her father, and take with her
the dowry."[588] In some places the service must all be
rendered in advance; in others, the girl is received on
credit and the man serves the required term after the marriage—a
familiar example of each of these methods being
afforded by the case of Jacob and Laban's daughters.[589]
Moreover, as already seen, sometimes it is only the first or
chief wife who is earned by service, the later ones being
bought in exchange for property in the more usual way.
According to Spencer, the "obtaining of wives by services
rendered, instead of by property paid," is a "cause of
improvement in the treatment of women," and constitutes
therefore a "higher form of marriage," developing "along
with the industrial type" of society. "Obviously, a wife
long labored for is likely to be more valued than one stolen
or bought;" and the long association of the lovers during
the time of service is likely to foster more refined sentiments
than the "merely instinctive;" to imitate "something
approaching to the courtship and engagement of civilized
peoples."[590] But, on the other hand, without denying that
these results may follow, Westermarck forcibly objects that
"industrial work promotes accumulation of property, and
consequently makes it easier for the man to acquire his wife
by real purchase." Serving for wives is prevalent among
such rude races as the Bushmans and Fuegians. Hence it
seems "almost probable that marriage by services is a more
archaic form than marriage by purchase; but generally they
occur simultaneously."[591]
By far the most common way of purchasing a wife is by
giving property in exchange.[592] Usually the amount of the
price is arranged, like any other bargain, by agreement
between the interested parties; but sometimes it is established
by custom.[593] Always where the contract is merely a
commercial transaction the price is in theory an equivalent
for the economic loss sustained by the family or gens of the
bride.[594] But the amount varies in every possible way. Often
it depends upon the rank or beauty of the woman; or it may
be determined by her strength and capacity for bearing
children. It varies also with the economic condition of the
times, the wife-market depending largely upon the law of
supply and demand. In hard times, or where there is an
excess of women, wives are cheap; when times are good or
women scarce, the price rises in proportion. Among peoples
somewhat advanced in culture sentiment must, of course, be
taken into account. Where it is regarded as a disgrace to
accept a small compensation for a daughter, high prices may
lead to celibacy. Such, at the beginning of the past century,
was the case in Servia, where the bridegroom, in addition to
the purchase price, was expected to bestow liberal presents,
not only upon the bride and her mother, but also upon all
her near relatives. The presents were so expensive that
many a "poor fellow was unable to marry at all;" and so
Black George in 1849 had a sumptuary law enacted restricting
the price of a girl to one ducat, and this must be paid
before the wedding.[595] But the bride-price "varies most
according to the circumstances of the parties, and according
to the value set on female labour."[596]
Custom differs as to the time of payment. Sometimes
the full price must be given before the nuptials; often the
bride is received on credit, and the price subsequently paid
in instalments. In case of credit the wife with the children
usually remains with her father, and the husband does not
gain absolute ownership or control until the debt is paid
in full.[597]
Among the aborigines of America, North and South,
actual wife-purchase, both by service and by property
rendered, is exceedingly common; though in some tribes,
as in other parts of the world, the transaction takes the form
of a simple exchange of gifts or of a bestowal of presents
upon the bride's parents. The price is usually paid in
horses, but many other forms of property are employed.
Among the Kwakiutl, says Boaz, marriage "must be considered
a purchase, which is conducted on the same
principles as the purchase of a copper. But the object
bought is not only the woman, but also the right of membership
in her clan for the future children of the couple."
For "many privileges of the clan descend only through
marriage upon the son-in-law of the possessor, who, however,
does not use them himself, but acquires them for the
use of his successor. These privileges are, of course, not
given as a present to the son-in-law, but he becomes entitled
to them by paying a certain amount of property for his wife.
The wife is given to him as a first instalment of the return
payment. The crest of the clan, its privileges, and a considerable
amount of other property besides, are given later
on, when the couple have children, and the rate of interest
is the higher the greater the number of children. For one
child 200 per cent. of interest is paid; for two or more
children 300 per cent. After this payment the marriage
is annulled, because the wife's father has redeemed his
daughter. If she continues to stay with her husband, she
does so of her own free will.... In order to avoid this
state of affairs, the husband often makes a new payment to
his father-in-law" so that he "may have a claim to his
wife."[598]
According to Dakota usage, either "bundles" of presents
are exchanged by the interested families, or else the young
man who wooes the maiden ties "a horse at her parents'
door." On returning, if he finds the horse still there, he
adds "another, keeping this up until" his "limit is reached."
If the horses are taken away, he then enters "the lodge and
takes his bride home." In case too high a price is demanded
the lover tries elsewhere with his horses, unless, indeed, he
entices the girl to elope with him; for "this is also recognized
as a marriage."[599] In "choosing a helpmate or helpmates
for his bed and board, the inland native" of the
Columbian region "makes capacity for work the standard
of female excellence, and having made an election buys
a wife from her parents by the payment of an amount of
property, generally horses, which among the southern
nations must be equaled by the girl's parents.... To
give away a wife without a price is in the highest degree
disgraceful to her family."[600] Among the Indians of northern
California likewise "marriage is sometimes essentially a
matter of business. The young brave must not hope to win
his bride by feats of arms or softer wooing, but must buy
her of her father, like any other chattel, and pay the price
at once, or resign in favor of a richer man. The inclinations
of the girl are in nowise consulted; no matter where
her affections are placed, she goes to the highest bidder."
The social position of the bride depends upon the price she
brings; and, as a natural result of the system, the "rich old
men almost absorb the female youth and beauty of the tribe,
while the younger and poorer men must content themselves
with old and ugly wives. Hence their eagerness for that
wealth which will enable them to throw away their old wives
and buy new ones."[601] Among the California Karok, according
to Powers, "a wife is seldom purchased for less than
half a string" of dentalium shell, but "when she belongs to
an aristocratic family, is pretty, and skilful in making acorn-bread
and weaving baskets, she sometimes costs as high as
two strings."[602] According to the same authority, among the
Shastika in California a girl is bought "of her father for
shell-money or horses, ten or twelve cayuse ponies being
paid for a maid of great attractions;"[603] and the Navajo
bridegroom of New Mexico will pay so exhorbitant a price
as twelve horses only for a bride "possessing unusual qualifications,
such as beauty, industry and skill" in her necessary
employments.[604]
Marriage by purchase appears also among various African
peoples.[605] The bride-price is usually rendered in cattle or
goats, the amount varying greatly even in the same tribe.
From two to thirty cows will buy a wife among the Kafirs.
But, as sometimes happens, if a youth through his friends
reveals to the father a liking for his daughter, he must in
consequence pay more oxen for his bride.[606] By the Zulu a
newly bought wife is regarded as an investment of capital
from which is expected a return of interest through her
labor and the children which she bears. Should he be disappointed
in his bargain, the woman becoming sick, weak,
or remaining childless, he sends her back to her father and
demands a return of the cattle.[607] The Damara are so poor
"that they are often glad to take one cow for a daughter."
The rate is much higher among the Banyai. "In Uganda,
the ordinary price of a wife is either three or four bullocks,
six sewing needles, or a small box of percussion caps, but
Mr. Wilson was often offered one in exchange for a coat or
a pair of shoes."[608] Very commonly in Africa wives are
pawned or even mortgaged, and they are devolved upon the
husband's heirs as a part of the inheritance.[609]
Throughout the rude tribes of Asia and northern Europe,
more especially among those of the Turco-Tartaric race,
wife-purchase exists in its crudest form.[610] The kalym, or
bride-price, is usually rendered in horses or cattle. The
young Kirgese, for instance, has to pay from three hundred
to one thousand head of cattle or one hundred mares for a
wife, five mares being reckoned as the equivalent of a camel.[611]
Ordinarily a widow depreciates in market value as compared
with a maiden;[612] but the Turcoman is more practical, knowing
the advantage of experienced service. Though generally
a young girl may be had for five camels, he is quite willing
to give fifty or even a hundred for a well-preserved widow.[613]
The Tartar maiden of northern Asia is sold by her parents
for such goods as pass current in exchange. She brings
usually a variable number of sheep, horses, or cattle; but
the price is also rendered in other commodities, such as
brandy, beer, or linen. The contract is arranged with the
utmost exactness between the parents. The future husband
and wife are not even informed. In theory, at least, "their
sentiments, their desires and antipathies, are not taken into
consideration." When all is carefully specified, the contract
of sale is legally completed before witnesses; but the bride
is not delivered to the bridegroom until after the ceremony
of marriage, which takes the form of symbolical capture.[614]
In China the harsher features of this custom are somewhat
softened. A "present is given by the father of the suitor,
the amount of which is not left to the good will of the
parties ... but is exactly stipulated for by the negotiators
of the marriage," the transaction thus differing but
little in form from an ordinary bargain, although it must not
always be regarded as an actual contract of sale, but rather
as a means of providing the wife's dower.[615]
In all branches of the Semitic race marriage, at some
time, has been a matter of simple sale and purchase. The
married woman, in early Arabia, was looked upon as merely
a bond servant. "I charge you with your women," says the
prophet, "for they are with you as captives." Accordingly,
Robertson Smith informs us, in Arabic lexicons áwânî, or
"captives," is "actually used in the sense of married women
generally."[616] The mahr, or bride-price, was paid to the
woman's kindred. But under Islam it has become identical
with the sadâc, or present to the bride, the two terms being
synonymous.[617] The Arabic mahr is the same as the Syriac
mahrâ and the Hebrew móhar; and in each case it is paid
to the damsel's father.[618] In the early days of Israel, apparently,
the amount of the bride-price established was fifty
shekels of silver;[619] and Boaz actually declares that he has
purchased Ruth the Moabitess to be his wife.[620] At this time,
however, the context shows that marriage among the Jews
was something more than a mere bargain, though there can
be little doubt that actual wife-purchase originally existed.
"At a later date, a girl was, until puberty, at the disposal of
her father, who could either sell her or marry her to whom
he pleased, being a Hebrew. There were, however, certain
conditions, one of which was that the purchaser could not
sell the girl to another person, and if he did not espouse her,
or marry her to his son, he was bound, when she reached
the age of puberty, or at the end of six years, to aid her in
obtaining freedom by reclaiming from her father the price
paid for her services."[621] "In the betrothal by kasaph, of the
later Talmudic law, purchase appears as a mere survival.
The man gives to his chosen bride, in the presence of two
witnesses, a piece of money or some other gift of equal
value, with the words: 'Be thou consecrated to me.' Even
the peruta or smallest coin used in Palestine or some unimportant
friendly service was legally sufficient;[622] and this
sham purchase has been perpetuated in the modern Jewish
ceremony of 'marrying by the penny.'"[623]
Traces of marriage by purchase, real and pretended, are
also widely diffused throughout the nations of the Aryan
stock. Among the Afghans the price of a bride is paid to the
father, but he returns a part of it as a dower.[624] In upper
Albania the price is equivalent to 600 marks; and there the
symbols of rape appear in the marriage ceremony.[625] According
to Leist and Zimmer, the Hindu maiden in Vedic times
was sought of her father, not by the suitor himself, but by a
friend called the bride-wooer;[626] but, as a legal form, the bride
must be paid for by rich presents,[627] which were, however, returned
to her as a dower.[628] Here we have to do with a survival;
but originally actual wife-purchase, side by side with
wife-capture, must have existed. One of the eight forms of
marriage mentioned in the Ordinances of Manu as having
been proper for the two lower castes, but here condemned as
immoral,[629] is the Âsura rite. It is described as "the gift of a
maiden voluntarily after presenting to the kinsmen and the
maiden wealth as much as the suitor can."[630] Disapproval of
real wife-purchase thus early produced two very important
results: the institution of dower, already mentioned, and the
Ārsha rite, or ceremonial purchase, still the most common
form of marriage in India.[631] But the victory was by no means
complete. "According to Dubois, to marry and to buy a wife
are in India synonymous terms, as almost every parent makes
his daughter an article of traffic."[632]
The custom of rendering a compensation for a wife,
Aristotle tells us, was prevalent in ancient Greece.[633] The
bride-price consisted of "countless gifts;"[634] and in the
Homeric age a maid was called "one who yields to her
parents many oxen as presents from her suitor."[635] The
Roman marriage by coemptio was a conveyance of the bride
to the bridegroom through the mancipatory process in essentially
the same way as a slave or an ox was sold. Gaius calls
it an "imaginary sale;"[636] and it is usually regarded as a
reminiscence of actual wife-purchase among the primitive
Romans or their ancestors.[637] Moreover, in marriage by usus
the husband gained full control of the wife by a year's prescription,
exactly as in the case of any property.[638]
Herodotus mentions wife-purchase as a Thracian custom;[639]
and until very recently it was also practiced by the Slavs.[640]
The bazar of Babylon,[641] where, according to Herodotus,
girls were publicly sold in marriage, found its counterpart
not long since in the maiden-market of the Roumanian
Gainaberg.[642] The ancient laws of Ireland reveal it in
curious relation to wife-capture. The legitimate wife is the
wife who is bought. At the first marriage the full coibche,
or bride-price, is paid to the father; at the second, the bride
receives one-third; and at each succeeding marriage a gradually
increasing portion falls to her share.[643] Marriage by
abduction is illegal. In that case children begotten during
the first month belong to the wife's family, though they may
be conveyed to their father for a composition; and to such
conveyance he is legally entitled, when the abduction takes
place with the woman's consent. After the first month the
relation between husband and wife is partially legalized.
The children begotten thereafter belong to their father,
though they are really illegitimate and hence not entitled to
full rights of inheritance. Furthermore, a gift from the wife
to the husband is void. But every defect in the marriage is
at once cured by payment and acceptance of the coibche. In
case the price cannot be arranged the family of the wife are
entitled to damage. They may demand that another woman
be placed at their disposal for an equal term; or they may
exact a partnership share in the earnings of the abductor.[644]
Finally, it may be noted, that traces of wife-purchase are
found in every branch of the Germanic race. Nowhere, perhaps,
can the evolution of the marriage contract in all its
phases be studied with more satisfaction than in the history
of our own ancestors. The subject will, therefore, be further
considered in a later chapter.
We have now traced in broad outline the extent of wife-purchase,
and studied its general character and its principal
forms. It appears essentially as a real contract of sale
between third parties. Technically, at least, the bride and
sometimes the bridegroom have nothing to do with the
transaction. We have seen incidentally that the purchase-contract
tends to become a ceremonial conveyance, and the
bride-price to disappear in the dower. This transition is a
fact of great social and legal import, and must therefore
receive further attention. But, first, another question of
interest arises: What is the place of wife-purchase in the
evolution of human sexual relations? If it was not preceded
by wife-capture as a general phase, is it the primitive
method of contracting marriage? Or, to resolve the question
into a more convenient form, what is the antiquity of
mutual agreement as the basis of matrimonial union between
a man and a woman?
On its face, marriage by purchase appears as an institution
which could arise only after considerable sociological
and mental progress had been made. It implies relatively
advanced ideas of property and social organization. Precisely
the same is true, in a less degree, of wife-stealing,
particularly of the systematic capture of women. It implies
for one thing an appreciation of the economic value of
woman's services which is wholly inconsistent with most
primitive conditions. There are strong indications that in
the beginning of distinctly human history marriage arose in
the mutual consent of the parties. Nay, to discover the
prototype of the primitive matrimonial contract it may be
necessary to cross the boundary-line which separates man
from the lower animals. This fact seems to have been too
much neglected by writers on the history of marriage. Post,
indeed, throws out a significant suggestion. Among very
low races, he says, betrothal is a compact between the bride
and the bridegroom. As soon, however, as the genealogical
organization is further developed, marriage is changed from
an individual relation to a relation between families, and the
betrothal becomes a compact between the kindred groups.
With the decay of the gentile constitution marriage and
betrothal gradually become again an individual matter; so
that in this regard the lowest and the highest stages of
culture present the same phenomena.[645]
Here we have the general phases of evolution correctly
indicated, though the author lays too much stress on the
influence of the gentile system. But the view we have
expressed is sustained in a remarkable way by the elaborate
researches of Westermarck. In a series of chapters he has
put it almost beyond question that a wide liberty of sexual
choice on the part of the female is the rule among primitive
men as it is among the lower animals.[646] Everywhere, with
few exceptions, the male appears as the wooer. In the
female passion is less eager.[647] She therefore requires courting,
and thus in effect she secures the chief place in the
function of sexual selection. Even in the case of the reproductive
cells of plants, where any external difference has
been observed, "the male cell behaves actively in the union,
the female passively;" and the same law prevails among
lowly organized animals.[648] In general, animals contend in
some sort of rivalry for their mates. Even the most timid
during the season of love "engage in desperate combats
with each other for the possession of the female, and she,
although comparatively passive, nevertheless often exercises
a choice, selecting one of the rivals." Fighting for mates
"occurs even among insects, and is of universal prevalence
in the order of the vertebrata."[649] This method of courtship,
not to be confused with capture, may also have prevailed
among "our primeval human ancestors," and it still exists
in many forms. Sometimes a fist-fight, a battle with clubs,
a duel with bows and arrows, or a "pulling-match" settles
the claims of rival suitors; and often, as among the North
American aborigines, the contest takes the form of "wrestling
for wives."[650]
But animals have other means of wooing their mates.
To this end the male in a much higher degree than the
female is provided with certain notes or calls, strong odors,
beautiful top-knots, fine plumes, brilliant colors, or similar
ornaments. Even with the most pugnacious species of
birds, says Darwin, "it is probable that the pairing does
not depend exclusively on the mere strength and courage
of the male; for such males are generally decorated
with various ornaments, which often become more brilliant
during the breeding season, and which are sedulously displayed
before the females. The males also endeavor to
charm their mates by love-notes, songs, and antics; and the
courtship is, in many instances, a prolonged affair. Hence
it is not probable that the females are indifferent to the
charms of the opposite sex, or that they are invariably compelled
to yield to the victorious males. It is more probable
that the females are excited, either before or after the conflict,
by certain males, and thus unconsciously prefer them."[651]
Such colors, love-songs, and ornaments belong to what Darwin
calls the "secondary sexual characters." For, in the sexual
selection, the "struggle is of two kinds; in the one it is between
the individuals of the same sex, generally the males, in
order to drive away or kill their rivals, the females remaining
passive; whilst in the other, the struggle is likewise between
the individuals of the same sex, in order to excite or charm
those of the opposite sex, generally the females, which no longer
remain passive, but select the more agreeable partners."[652]
These characters, he thinks, depend upon the æsthetic sense
of the females. "Just as a man can give beauty, according
to his standard of taste, to his male poultry, or more strictly
can modify the beauty originally acquired by the parent
species, ... so it appears that female birds in a state of
nature, have by a long selection of the more attractive males,
added to their beauty or other attractive qualities."[653] Brilliant
colors, for instance, have thus been acquired by birds
and insects because they are "beautiful or otherwise agreeable,
whereas the characters resulting from natural selection
have been acquired because they are useful." Hence "far
from co-operating with the process of natural selection,
sexual selection, as described by Mr. Darwin, produces effects
disadvantageous to the species;"[654] for many of the secondary
characters are a source of danger.[655] But Wallace, in his
well-known criticism of Darwin,[656] has established a probability
that their primary purpose is not æsthetic, but utilitarian.
"The fundamental or ground colors of animals,"
he says, "are very largely protective;" and these are extended
in the line of the greatest structural and nervous
development.[657] They are therefore an evidence of a surplus
of nervous energy, which is especially active at the excitable
period of courtship. So far as the female exercises a choice,
it is not because the males are beautiful, but because they
are "the most vigorous, defiant, and mettlesome." The
view of Wallace is supported in the main by that of Westermarck,
who especially emphasizes the fact that colors and
the other secondary characters are "upon the whole advantageous,
inasmuch as they make it easier for the sexes to
find each other." They exist to be seen. By association
of ideas it is natural that the females should find them
pleasing, for to them they are the "symbols of the most
exciting period of their lives."[658] Furthermore, "the greatest
advantage is won with the least possible peril;" for "usually
they occur in males only, because of the females' greater
need of protection. They are not developed till the age of
reproduction, and they appear, in a great many species, only
during the pairing season."[659] It follows, therefore, that
sexual selection is but another aspect of natural selection,
and the secondary sexual characters are perpetuated in harmony
with the law of survival of the fittest. Whichever
view is accepted, the fact with which we are especially concerned
remains: the female exercises the function of choice.
Turning now to the human race, we find that the same
law prevails. Savage and barbarous men are passionately
fond of self-decoration and display. "There are peoples,"
says Westermarck, "destitute of almost everything which
we regard as necessaries of life, but there is no people
so rude as not to take pleasure in ornaments;" and he
quotes Spencer's remark that, great as is the vanity of the
civilized, it is exceeded by the vanity of the uncivilized.[660]
Every sort of decoration is in use. Attention is paid
especially to the arrangement of the hair. The body is
disfigured or transformed in a variety of ways. The ears,
nose, or cheeks are pierced or bored, and rings or other
ornaments inserted. The teeth are colored or otherwise
mutilated; and the body is scarred, painted, or tattooed.[661]
Now it is demonstrated by wide observation that the primary
purpose of self-decoration is the stimulation of sexual
passion. In all parts of the world the desire for it "is
strongest at the beginning of the age of puberty," all such
customs "being practiced most zealously at that period of
life."[662] The "common notion that women are by nature
vainer and more addicted to dressing and decorating themselves
than men" does not hold good, at any rate for savage
and barbarous peoples. The females are, of course, often
fond of adornment, in this way trying to please or attract
their lovers. In some cases tattooing is practiced "exclusively
or predominately" by the women, and "the men
sometimes wear fewer ornaments;" but as a general rule it
is the man who shows the greater desire to beautify himself
as a means of gaining the favor of the opposite sex.[663] The
woman requires to be wooed, for she is more fastidious than
man in the choice of a mate. "A Maori proverb says, 'Let
a man be ever so good-looking, he will not be much sought
after; but let a woman be ever so plain, men will still eagerly
seek after her.'"[664] Besides, it is remarked that "very generally
among the lower races, the females are even more
unattractive in aspect than the males."[665] But both sexes
co-operate in the process of selection; and as social institutions
are developed man shares in it more and more. In
this way are transmitted the distinctive mental and physical
characteristics of each race which are necessary to its survival,
and upon which its standard of beauty depends.[666]
If the law of sexual selection has been rightly stated, it
would, indeed, be strange if women among low races should
not preserve some liberty of choice in marriage. In the
savage state, says Darwin, man keeps woman in a far more
abject position "than does the male of any other animal;"
and hence it is not surprising that "he should have gained
the power of selection."[667] But it must not be forgotten that
even the lowest races of which we have any knowledge have
advanced far beyond the primordial state of man. Darwin
himself comes to the conclusion, after examining the evidence,
that savage "women are not in quite so abject" a
condition as is commonly supposed;[668] and the facts show that
in a vast number of cases they have a decisive, though not
always a legal, voice in the choice of a husband.
According to Post, the right of assent is subject to the
following principal variations:[669] (1) Among a large number
of peoples the contract or betrothal is made by the parents
or relatives, no regard at all being had to the will either of
the bride or bridegroom.[670] Infant-marriage or betrothal, in
particular, is of frequent occurrence; and sometimes children
are promised even before they are born. Naturally
such engagements are often merely contracts of sale; but
usually they have a deeper social significance as a means of
extending and more firmly knitting the bonds of family or
gentile union. This custom implies something more than
mere brutal indifference to the wishes of the children; and,
besides, it serves the ethical purpose of restricting the sexual
liberty of the bride.[671] Such a contract is not always legally
binding upon the children, especially the bridegroom; and
when it is binding, the betrothed often disregard it, or the
bride runs away with another man.[672] (2) In some cases the
consent of the bride alone is ignored;[673] (3) in others her
approval is asked pro forma, but refusal never occurs and
would not be tolerated;[674] (4) or the choice may, in fact, be
left to the young man and woman, while the right of
betrothal belongs to the guardian. With the Bataks of
Sumatra, for instance, vows and pledges are exchanged by
the lovers; and in case the girl is betrothed by her parents
against her will, she may run away to the giver of the love-pledge,
who is then compelled to receive her. A similar
rule prevails in Timor and among the Tscherkese of Asia
Minor.[675] Sometimes (5) the young people are legally bound
to submit to the choice of the guardian only in case of the
first marriage, which, accordingly, is often dissolved after a
few years or even a few months; while the second marriage,
being usually a marriage of inclination, may long endure.[676]
Again (6), even among such rude peoples as the Timorlaut
islanders, the consent of the betrothed is sometimes essential
to a valid marriage;[677] and still more striking are those
cases (7) in which the bride and bridegroom themselves
appear as the contracting parties, the right of assent now
belonging to the parent or guardian. The legal conditions
are thus reversed.
Free marriage in one or the other of these forms is very
widely diffused, though it may not always be possible to
determine the exact legal relation of the guardian and the
betrothed.[678] Sometimes self-betrothal and contract by the
guardian are found side by side. Such is the case in
Rotuma; and among the Turks of middle Asia the conventional
marriage, in which the couple are contracted by their
fathers in childhood, is found in connection with natural
marriage which rests upon the vows of the betrothed.[679]
It is commonly assumed that where marriage by purchase
exists woman must necessarily be in an abject condition.
The "average facts," says Spencer, "show that at
first women are regarded by men simply as property, and
continue to be so regarded through several later stages:
they are valued as domestic cattle."[680] Such also is the
opinion of Letourneau, who takes a very pessimistic view of
the early condition of woman. During a long period her
wishes in marriage were utterly ignored. The sale of
women and children for slaves or wives is the result of brute
force and the primitive despotism of man. Marriage by
purchase, he says, "implies a profound disdain of woman,
her complete assimilation to movables, to cattle, to things
in general."[681] Doubtless among low races the lot of woman
is often extremely harsh and degraded. The examples
already given demonstrate that she is sometimes treated
merely as an object of sale or exchange; and where polygyny
exists wife-purchase may have a strong tendency to reduce
her to slavery.[682] But a more careful examination of the
evidence proves that marriage by purchase is not inconsistent
with a high degree of matrimonial choice on the part
of the woman. As already suggested, purchase is far from
being the original method of contracting marriage. Like
the patriarchal authority in general,[683] by which the liberty
of the son as well as that of the daughter is sometimes
destroyed, it is of comparatively late origin, arising with the
institution of property and an appreciation of the economic
value of labor. "It may be said generally that in a state of
nature every grown-up individual earns his own living.
Hence there is no slavery, as there is, properly speaking, no
labour." A man then had no reason "to retain his full-grown
daughter; she might go away, and marry at her pleasure."[684]
In marriage by purchase there is still a chance for the
wooer; and the unwilling maiden has many an opportunity
to avoid a husband whom she does not fancy.[685] Elopement
has its chief significance in this connection. Instead of
being necessarily a relic of wife-capture, it is rather the
means by which the lovers, particularly the bride, maintain
the actual right to dispose of themselves in marriage.[686]
Many illustrations of this fact might be presented. Among
the aborigines of North and South America, where, as we
have seen, wife-purchase and even wife-capture are common,
woman possesses a wide liberty of choice. In arctic regions
the wife sometimes runs away from the husband forced upon
her and joins her lover;[687] and in general the maiden often
thus escapes a detested suitor. Such is the case, for instance,
among the Greenlanders, Dakotas, Caribs, and Patagonians;[688]
while among the Abipones, according to Dobrizhoffer, when
a man thinks fit to choose a wife, he must bargain with the
parents of the girl about the price. But "it frequently happens
that the girl rescinds what had been settled and agreed
upon ... obstinately rejecting the very mention of marriage.
Many girls, through fear of being compelled to
marry, have concealed themselves in the recesses of the
woods or lakes; seeming to dread the assaults of tigers less
than the untried nuptials. Some of them, just before they
are to be brought to the bridegroom's house, fly to the
chapel, and there, hidden behind the altar, elude the threats
and the expectation of the unwelcome" suitor.[689] In exactly
the same way she gains her will in Tierra del Fuego, where
the lover serves for his bride;[690] and among the same people
"the eagerness with which the women seek for young husbands
is surprising, but even more surprising is the fact that
they nearly always attain their ends."[691] The Comanche
suitor must buy his bride of her parents; but unless she
manifests her willingness by leading his pony into the stall,
the bargain is void.[692] A similar freedom in choosing her
mate is asserted by the woman of the Pueblos, Creeks,
Chippewas, and various other tribes;[693] while the existence of
real affection and true courtship is shown by the fact that
suicide sometimes happens on account of disappointed love.[694]
Free marriage, very often in connection with wife-purchase,
prevails widely throughout the African peoples.
Accounts differ as to the Kafirs. According to Fritsch, a
woman is bought like any chattel.[695] But Leslie declares
that generally the man first tries to win her consent; for it
is "a mistake to imagine that a girl is sold by her father in
the same manner, and with the same authority, with which
he would dispose of a cow."[696] On the other hand, Fritsch
shows that the heart of the Bechuana, and especially that
of the despised Bushman, "is not so full of his oxen," the
woman having some liberty of choice.[697] Winwood Reade
informed Darwin, with respect to the negroes of western
Africa, that "the women, at least among the more intelligent
pagan tribes, have no difficulty in getting the husbands
whom they may desire, although it is considered unwomanly
to ask a man to marry them. They are quite capable of
falling in love, and of forming tender, passionate, and faithful
attachments."[698]
Throughout all Micronesia and in many parts of Melanesia
marriage implies the consent of the betrothed. The
New Caledonian girl is thus always consulted; and, if
forced to obey her parents, she takes the first opportunity
to elope with the man of her choice.[699] In the New Britain
group "after the man has worked for years to pay for his
wife, and is finally in a position to take her to his house,
she may refuse to go, and he cannot claim back from the
parents the large sums he has paid them in yams, cocoanuts,
and sugar-canes."[700] Betrothal by the guardian and
self-marriage appear together in Burma. In the first case
the daughter is given by her father in return for service and
gifts. Her consent is not essential; but if she runs away
from her husband more than three times, she is free, and
her parents retain the gifts. In the second case the girl
elopes without the guardian's consent, a recognized marriage
relation being thus established, though the guardian may
reclaim the bride. Should she, however, return thrice to
her husband, she remains his legal wife.[701] "Among the
Minahassers of Celebes courtship or love-making 'is always
strictly an affair of the heart and not in any way dependent
upon the consent or even wish of the parents.'"[702] The
Rejang suitor of Sumatra elopes with the girl and pays the
price afterwards; and such is often the case in Australia,
among the uncivilized tribes of India, and throughout the
Indian Archipelago. In all these cases, as well as among
some of the Turanian peoples of central and northern Asia,
the choice of the woman, even without elopement, is usually
decisive, though often the arrangement of the marriage
belongs legally to the parents.[703]
It is very easy to exaggerate the bright as well as the
dark features of primitive social life. The reports of
travelers, often untrained in the interpretation of the facts
which they observe, are notoriously untrustworthy. It is
extremely difficult to discern the motives which actuate men
in a stage of culture remote from our own. Nevertheless it
seems certain that the position of uncivilized woman with
respect to marriage is not quite so hopeless as is generally
imagined. The facts appear to demonstrate that woman's
original liberty of selection has never been entirely lost. It
is evident that wife-purchase, though sometimes the means
of degradation, even of marital bondage, is compatible with
a high degree of matrimonial choice. The ideas which
influence the "uncivilized" man in selling his daughter are
probably often very similar to those which govern the
thrifty father in modern society when he insists on securing
a good "match" for his child. The price is regarded as a
fair equivalent for the services to which the parent is justly
entitled in return for rearing the girl.[704] The Kafir maiden
who brings a good price from her suitor is not therefore
necessarily a "chattel" any more than is the daughter
whose labor the civilized parent lets out for hire.[705] A high
price may be looked upon also as a proper recognition of the
rank or of the mental and physical attractions of the bride.[706]
Furthermore, it is significant that actual bride-purchase may
coexist with advanced ethical and religious conceptions of
the marriage state. Such, according to Kohler, is the case
in the Punjab, where the courts under British rule have
decided that the sale of a woman to be a wife is not punishable
as a crime under the statute forbidding the sale of a
human being into slavery;[707] and Leist has shown that in the
dharma period of early Aryan history the purchased wife
was not regarded as a "thing," but in the fullest sense as a
free wife entitled to share the sacra of the husband's house.
Nay, the actual payment of the legal bride-money in certain
cases was the only means through which marriage by purchase
could reach the proper ethical end of legitimate
marriage: the birth of a son to perpetuate the ancestral
worship.[708]
Another fact, sometimes misinterpreted, seems to point
clearly to the persistence of original free marriage. It is
highly significant that wife-purchase appears never to have
existed at all among a certain number of very low races,
with which nevertheless marriage rests on the free consent
of the parties. Such is the case among the California Wintun,
the Alaskan Yukonikhotana, the Andamanese, the Chittagong
hill tribes, and certain African peoples. Among
the "Pádams, one of the lowest peoples of India, it is customary
for a lover to show his inclinations whilst courting
by presenting his sweetheart and her parents with small
delicacies, such as field mice and squirrels, though the parents
seldom interfere with the young couple's designs, and
it would be regarded as an indelible disgrace to barter a
child's happiness for money."[709] So likewise with the Veddahs[710]
either no presents are given on either side, or else the
ceremony consists simply in offering some food to the parents
of the bride; and elsewhere the proffer of similar
"wooing-gifts," without previous stipulation, must be looked
upon either as a token of good-will or as an indication of
the ability of the bridegroom to provide for a wife, rather
than as a means of purchase.[711] The probational marriages
of the Seri Indians appear to have a like significance.[712] May
we not go a step farther? Is it not probable that the widely
diffused custom of bestowing presents of greater value, even
where the amount is established by usage or previous agreement,
may sometimes be due to like motives? Though, as a
rule, the presentation of such gifts represents a "weakened"
form of wife-purchase, it does not seem necessary to assign
the origin of the practice to a single cause. The same is
true of the custom of exchanging presents between the two
families. Usually it is rightly explained as a stage in the
decay of purchase and in the rise of the dower; but when
we find the return of gifts in use among such rude peoples,
for instance, as the Bechuanas, the Kalmucks, the Makassars,
and the American Indians,[713] it seems reasonable to suppose
that the custom, in some cases at least, may represent a ceremonial
development of free marriage, taking its rise in various
motives. Thus among the Todas, it has been suggested,
the transaction appears as an exchange of dowers to serve as
a security for the mutual good behavior of the future couple.[714]
Similarly with the American Indians the gift to the bride's
parents may sometimes be designed to purchase clan privileges[715]
or to procure the "alliance of the wife's cabin;" while
the exchange of presents, which is found where it is usual
for the husband to take up his abode in the wife's home,
ought perhaps to be regarded as a matrimonial compact of
alliance between the two families.[716]
Nevertheless, after every allowance is made, the custom of
purchasing wives bears the indelible stamp of barbarism.
Like polygyny, which it so often accompanies, it is an offense
against the feelings and the dignity of woman. Therefore,
often at a relatively early period of social progress, it falls
into disrepute; but while it is gradually abandoned as a
thing unseemly or disgraceful, traces of it may long survive.
On the one hand, as in the case of the Roman coemptio, the
Hindu ārsha, the Anglo-Saxon beweddung, or the Jewish
contract with the penny, the form of sale is present in the
wedding ceremony; or, on the other hand, the bride-money,
though still rendered, comes in time to be regarded as
simply a compensation for the guardianship of the woman;[717]
or else, passing through several intermediate stages, it is
slowly transformed into a dower.[718]
In the first stage of decline the bride-price appears as a
nominal compensation, out of proportion to the real value of
the girl. It usually consists of presents to the wife's parents
or relatives, and sometimes these are scarcely distinguishable
from the "wooing-gifts" already mentioned; while later it
may degenerate into a mere symbol or become a sportive
social observance whose meaning is entirely forgotten.[719]
Again, among a large number of peoples, custom requires
that a part, sometimes all, of the gifts constituting the price,
or their equivalent, shall be returned to the bridegroom or
his family; and it is significant that special care is sometimes
taken, as among the Indians of Oregon, "not to turn
over the same horses or the same articles."[720] With other
peoples a part or the whole of the purchase price comes to the
bride herself. Either the father turns it over as a marriage
portion, or it is paid to her directly by the bridegroom. In
the latter case, as Westermarck observes, it is often difficult
"to make out whether the presents obtained from the bridegroom
formed originally a part of the bride-price or were
only a means of gaining her own consent."[721] One step more,
and we reach the stage of development in which the father
provides his daughters with a dotal portion out of his own
substance.[722]
Thus, to summarize, it appears in general that the institution
of dower takes its rise in two principal sources: either
it is derived through the return gift from its exact opposite,
the ancient purchase price of the bride; or, as a means of
providing in some way for the wife as a member of the new
household, it has developed along with free marriage, and
stands as an expression of the natural motives and desires
upon which the human family rests. Strangely enough, in
our own society the marriage portion "has become a purchase
sum by means of which a father buys a husband for
his daughter."[723] It may be doubted whether the ideas which
actuate the modern plutocrat in such a transaction differ
essentially from those of the rich savage or barbarian who
succeeds in procuring a beautiful or high-born maiden in
exchange for his flocks.
We have now traced the evolution of the marriage contract
throughout its entire course, and are able to perceive in a
measure its true place in the general history of the human
family. Again the movement has been in a circle. As in
the case of monogamy, the genesis of contract must be
sought beyond the border-line between man and the lower
animals. In the "natural history" stage of human existence
marriage rested on the free consent of the man and the
woman. It was an informal agreement. The man was the
wooer, and to the woman belonged the first place in sexual
choice. In obedience to the unvarying requirements of
organic law, the best attributes of each race have thus been
differentiated: through natural selection they represent the
survival of the fittest. At a later stage of development the
element of mutual consent falls somewhat into abeyance.
With the rise of property, industry, and a more complex
social organization, giving birth to new desires and ambitions,
contract by the guardian in part supersedes self-betrothal.
Purchase and its occasional alternative, capture, depriving
woman of her natural right of assent, tend to reduce the
wife to concubinage and domestic slavery. But fortunately
the victory is not complete. Just as monogamy is never
displaced by polygyny as the natural type of marriage, so
the consent of woman as the normal condition of matrimonial
union is never entirely destroyed by wife-purchase.
With the evolution of altruism, the increase of culture, producing
sympathy upon which connubial love largely depends,
and the gradual recognition of the spiritual equality of the
sexes, self-betrothal, like monogamy, again predominates.
In short, whether regarded historically or biologically,
monogamy and self-betrothal appear simply as two aspects
of the same institution; they are connected by a psychic
bond, and together they constitute the highest type of marriage
and the family.