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BY
MAURICE FRANCIS EGAN, LL.D.
SECOND EDITION.
NEW YORK, CINCINNATI, CHICAGO:
BENZIGER BROTHERS,
Printers to the Holy Apostolic See.
1893.
Copyright, 1893, by Benziger Brothers.
To
All Boys who want to Make
Life Cheerful.
Preface.
5
In offering this little book to that public
for which it is intended—a public made up
of young men from fifteen to twenty years
of age—the author fears that he may seem
presumptuous. He intends to accentuate
what most of them already know, not to
teach them any new thing. And if he
appear to touch too much upon the trifles
of life, it is because experience shows that
it is the small things of our daily intercourse
with our fellow-beings which make the
difference between success and failure. He
gratefully acknowledges his obligation to the
Reverend editor of the Ave Maria for permission
to use in the last part of this volume
several of the “Chats with Good Listeners.”
I have been asked to refresh your memory
and to recall to your mind the necessity
of certain little rules which are often
forgotten in the recurrent interest of daily
life, but which, nevertheless, are extremely
important parts of education. There are
rules made by society to avoid friction, to
preserve harmony, and perhaps to accentuate
the immense gulf that lies between the
savage and the civilized man. But, trifling
as they seem, you will be handicapped in
your career in life if you do not know them.
Good manners are good manners everywhere
in civilization; etiquette is not the same
everywhere. The best manners come from
10the heart; the best etiquette comes from the
head. But the practice of one and the
knowledge of the other help to form that
combination which the world names a
gentleman, and which is described by the
adjective well-bred.
For instance, if a man laughs at a mistake
made by another in the hearing of that
other, he commits a solecism in good manners—he
is thoughtless and he appears
heartless; but if he wears gloves at the
dinner-table and persists in keeping them on
his hands while he eats, he merely commits a
breach of etiquette. Society, which makes
the rules that govern it, will visit the latter
offence with more severity than the former.
Some young people fancy that when they
leave school they will be free,—free to break
or keep little rules. But it is a mistake: if
one expects to climb in this world, one will
find it a severe task; one can never be independent
of social restrictions unless one
become a tramp or flee to the wilds of
Africa. But even there they have etiquette,
for one of Stanley’s officers tells us that some
11Africans must learn to spit gracefully in
their neighbor’s face when they meet.
I do not advise the stringent keeping of
the English etiquette of introductions. At
Oxford, they say, no man ever notices the
existence of another until he is introduced;
and they tell of one Oxford man who saw a
student of his own college drowning. “Why
did you not save him?” “How could I?”
demanded this monster of etiquette; “I had
never been introduced to him.”
Boys at school become selfish in the little
things, and they seem to be more selfish than
they really are. Every young man is occupied
with his own interest. If a man upsets
your coffee in his haste to get at his own,
you probably forgive him until you get a
chance to upset his. There is no time to
quarrel about it,—no code among you which
in the outside world would make such a
reprisal a reason for exile from good society.
When you get into this outside world you
will perhaps be inclined to overrate the
small observances which you now look on
with indifference as unnecessary to be practised.
12But either extreme is bad. To be
boorish, rough, uncouth, is a sin against
yourself and against society; to be too exquisite,
too foppish, too “dudish,”—if I may
use a slang word,—is only the lesser of two
evils. Society may tolerate a “dude;” but
it first ignores and then evicts a boor.
A famous Queen of Spain once said that
a man with good manners needs no other
letter of introduction. And it is true that
good manners often open doors to young
men which would otherwise be closed, and
make all the difference between success and
failure. This recalls to my mind an instance
which, if it be not true, has been cleverly invented.
It is an extreme case of self-sacrifice,
and one which will hardly be imitated.
It happened that not long ago there lived
in Washington a young American, who had
been obliged to leave West Point because of
a slight defect in his lungs. He was poor.
He had few friends, and an education, which
fortunately had included the practice of
good manners. It happened that he was
invited out to dinner; and he was seated
13some distance from the Spanish Ambassador,—who
had the place of honor; for the
etiquette of the table is very rigid,—but
within reach of his eye. Just as the salad
was served the hostess grew suddenly pale,
for she had observed on the leaf of lettuce
carried to this young man a yellow caterpillar.
Would he notice it? Would he
spoil the appetite of the other guests by
calling attention to it, or by crushing it?
The Ambassador had seen the creature, too,
and he kept his eye on the young man, asking
himself the same questions.
The awful moment came: the young
man’s plate of salad was before him; the
hostess tried to appear unconcerned, but
her face flushed. Our young man lifted the
leaf, caught sight of the caterpillar, paused
half a second, and then heroically swallowed
lettuce, caterpillar and all! The hostess felt
as if he had saved her life.
After dinner, the Ambassador asked to be
introduced to him. A week later he was
sent to Cuba as English secretary to a high
official there. The climate has suited him;
14his health is restored; and he has begun a
career under the most favorable auspices.
You know the story of Sir Walter Raleigh
and the cloak. Sir Walter was poor, young,
and without favor at court. One day Queen
Elizabeth hesitated to step on a muddy
place in the road; off came Sir Walter’s
new cloak,—his best and only one,—all satin
and velvet and gold lace. Down it went as
a carpet for the Queen’s feet, and his fortune
was made.
But neither our West-Pointer nor Sir
Walter would have made his fortune by his
good manners if he had not disciplined himself
to be thoughtful and alert.
On the other hand, many a man has lost
much by inattention to the little rules of
society. One of the best young men I ever
knew failed to get certain letters of introduction,
which would have helped him materially,
because he would wear a tall hat and
a sack coat, or a low hat and a frock coat.
Society exacts, however, that a man shall do
neither of these things. Remember that I
do not praise the social code that exacts so
15much attention to trifles,—I only say that
it exists.
Prosper Mérimée lost his influence at the
court of Napoleon the Third by a little inattention
to the etiquette which exacts in
all civilized countries that a napkin shall not
be hung from a man’s neck, but shall be
laid on his knee. Mérimée, who was a
charming writer, very high in favor with the
Empress Eugenie, was invited to luncheon
in her particular circle one day. He was
much flattered, but he hung his napkin from
the top button of his coat; the Empress
imitated his example, for she was very polite,
but she never asked him to court again. It
is the way of the social world—one must
follow the rules or step out.
If a man chooses to carry his knife to his
mouth instead of merely using it as an implement
for cutting, he is at perfect liberty
to do so. He may not succeed in chopping
the upper part of his head off, but he will
succeed in cutting himself off from the
“Dress Circle of Society,” as Emerson
phrases it. Apart from the first consideration
16that should govern our manners,—which
is, that Our Lord Jesus Christ means
that, in loving our neighbors as ourselves, we
should show them respect and regard,—you
must remember that politeness is power, and
that for the ambitious man there is no
surer road to the highest places in this land,
and in all others, than through good manners.
You may gain the place you aim for,
but, believe me, you will keep it with torture
and difficulty if you begin now by
despising and disregarding the little rules
that have by universal consent come to
govern the conduct of life. One independent
young person may thrust his knife into
his mouth with a large section of pie on it,
if he likes: you can put anything into a barn
that it will hold, if the door be wide enough.
They tell me that in Austria some of the
highest people eat their sauerkraut with the
points of their knives. But we do not do it
here, and we must be governed by the rules
of our own society. Some of you who
always want to know the reason for rules,
may ask why are we permitted to eat cheese
17with our knives after dinner. I can only
answer that I do not know and I do not care.
The subject is not important enough for discussion.
Good society all over the English-speaking
world permits the use of the knife
only in eating cheese. Some people prefer to
take it with their fingers, like olives, asparagus,
artichokes, and undressed lettuce. So
generally is this small rule observed, that a
very important discovery was made not very
long ago through a knowledge of it. An adventurer
claiming to be a French duke was
introduced to an American family. He was
well received, until one day he tried to spear
an olive with his knife. As this is not a
habit of good society, he was quietly dropped—very
fortunately for the family, as he was
discovered to be a forger and ex-convict.
You may ask, Why are olives, lettuce,
and asparagus often eaten with the fingers?
I can only answer, that it is a custom of
civilized society. You may ask me again,
Why must we break our bread instead
of cutting it? And why must we take a
fork to eat pie, when we are permitted to
18eat asparagus and lettuce with our fingers?
I say again that I do not know: all that I
know is, that these social rules are fixed, and
that it is better to obey than to lose time in
asking why.
But if you should happen to be of a doubting
turn of mind, accept an invitation to
dinner from some person for whose social
standing you have much respect, and then
if your hostess in the kindness of her heart
serves pie, take half of it in your right hand,
close your eyes, bite a crescent of it in your
best manner, and observe the effect on the
other guests. You may be quite certain
that if you desire not to be invited again to
that house you will have your wish. Society
in this country is becoming more and more
civilized and exacting every year; and you
will simply put a mark of inferiority on yourself
in its eyes if you disregard rules which
are trifles in themselves, but very important
in their effect.
A young man’s fate in life may be decided
by a badly-written letter or a well-written
one, by a rough gesture, by an oath or an
19unclean phrase uttered when he thinks no
one is listening. But let us remember that
there is always some one looking or hearing;
for, and this is an axiom, there are no secrets
in life.
Emerson says, writing of “Behavior:”
“Nature tells every secret over. Yes, but
in man she tells it all the time, by form,
attitude, gesture, mien, face and parts of
the face, and by the whole action of the
machine. The visible carriage or action of
the individual, as resulting from his organization
and his will combined, we call manners.
What are they but thought entering
the hands and feet, controlling the
movements of the body, the speech and behavior?”
Of the power of manners Emerson further
says: “Give a boy address and accomplishments,
and you give him the mastery of
palaces and fortunes wherever he goes. He
has not the trouble of earning them.”
And in another place: “There are certain
manners which are learned in good society
of such force that, if a person have them, he
20or she must be considered and is everywhere
welcome, though without beauty or
wealth or genius.”
Cardinal Newman, in his definition of a
gentleman, does not forget manners, though
he lays less stress on their power for worldly
advancement than Emerson does. Good
manners are, in the opinion of the great
cardinal, the outward signs of true Christianity.
Etiquette is the extreme of good
manners. A man may be a good Christian
and expectorate, spit, sprinkle, spray, diffuse
tobacco-juice right and left. But the
man who will do that, though he have a good
heart and an unimpeachable character, is not
a gentleman in the world’s meaning of the
term, for with the world it is not the heart
that counts, but the manners. You may
keep your hat on your head if you choose
when you meet a clergyman or a lady. You
need not examine your conscience about it,
and you will find nothing against it in the
Constitution of the United States; you may
be on your way to give your last five dollars
to the poor or to visit a sick neighbor; but,
21by that omission you stamp yourself at once
as being outside the sacred circle in which
society includes gentlemen. You can quote
a great many fine sentiments against me, if
you like; you may say, with Tennyson,
“Kind hearts are more than coronets,
And simple faith than Norman blood.”
God keep us from thinking otherwise; but,
if one get into a habit of disregarding the
small rules of etiquette, if one use one’s fork
for a toothpick, drink out of one’s finger-bowl,
reach over somebody’s head for a piece of
bread, all the kind hearts and simple faith in
the world will not keep you in the company
of well-bred people. You may answer that
some very good persons blow their soup with
their breath, stick their own forks into general
dishes, and—the thing has been done
once perhaps in some savage land—wipe their
noses with their napkins. But if these good
people paid more attention to the little
things of life, their goodness would have
more power over others. As it is, virtue loses
half its charm when it ignores good manners.
22It is only old people and men of great
genius who can afford to disregard manners.
Old people are privileged. If they choose
to eat with their knives or with their napkins
around their necks,—a thing which is
no longer tolerated,—the man who remarks
on it, who shows that he notices it, who
criticises it, is not only a boor, but a fool.
Young people have no such privileges: they
must acquire the little habits of good society
or they will find every avenue of cultivation
closed to them.
The only time they are privileged to violate
etiquette is when some older person
does it: then they had better follow a bad
form than rebuke him by showing superiority
in manners.
It is foolish to appear to despise the little
rules that govern the conduct of life. This
appearance of contempt for observances
which have become part of the every-day
existence of well-regulated people, arises
either from selfishness or ignorance. The
selfish man does not care to consider his
neighbors; but his selfishness is very shortsighted,
23because his neighbors, whose feelings
and rights he treats as non-existent, will soon
force the consideration of them on him.
A young man may think it a fine thing to
be independent in social matters. He will
soon find that he cannot afford in life to be
independent of anything except an evil influence.
If he prefers the society of loungers
in liquor-saloons or at hotel-bars, he needs
nothing but a limitless supply of money.
His friends there require the observance of
only one rule of etiquette—he must “treat”
regularly. To young men who hunger for
that kind of independence and that sort of
friends I have nothing to say, except that
it is easy to prophesy their ruin and disgrace.
If a man has no better ambition
than to die in an unhonored grave or to live
forsaken in an almshouse, let him make up
his mind to be “independent.” The world in
which you will live is exacting, and you can
no more succeed and defy its exactions than
you can stick your finger into a fire and
escape burning.
Even in the question of clothes—which
24seems to most of us entirely our own affair—society
exacts obedience. You cannot wear
slovenly clothes to church, for instance, and
expect to escape the indignation of your
dearest friends.
In the most rigid of European countries, if
one happens to be presented to the king one
wears no gloves: one would as soon think
of wearing gloves as of wearing a hat. Similarly,
according to the strictest etiquette in
European countries, people generally take off
their gloves at the Canon of the Mass, and,
above all, when they approach the altar,
because they are in the special presence of
God, the King of heaven and earth. How
different is the practice of some of us! We
lounge into church as we would into a gymnasium,
with no outward recognition of the
Presence of God except a “dip” towards
the tabernacle or an occasional and often inappropriate
thumping of the stomach, which
is, I presume, supposed to express devotion.
It is as easy to bring a flower touched by
the frost back to its first beauty as to restore
conduct warped by habit. And so, if you
25want to acquire good manners that will be
your passport to the best the world has, begin
now by guarding yourself from every act
that may infringe on your neighbor’s right,
from every word that will give him needless
pain, and from every gesture at table
which may interfere with his comfort. We
cannot begin to discipline ourselves too
soon; it is good, as the Scripture says,
“that a man bear the yoke when he is
young.”
Social rules, as I said, are very stringent
on the seemingly unimportant matter of
clothes: so a man must not wear much
jewelry, under pain of being considered vulgar.
He may wear a pin, or a ring, or a
watch-chain, if he likes; but for a young man,
the less showy these are, the better. It may be
said that there are a great many people who
admire diamonds, and who like to see many
of them worn. This is true; but if a young
man puts a small locomotive headlight in
his bosom, or gets himself up in imitation of
a pawnbroker’s window, he may be suspected
of having robbed a bank. It is certain that
26he will show very bad taste. Lord Lytton,
the author of “Pelham,” who was a great
social authority, says that a man ought to
wear no jewelry unless it is exquisitely artistic
or has some special association for the
wearer.
If a young man is invited to a dinner or to
a great assembly in any large city, he must
wear a black coat. A gray or colored coat
worn after six o’clock in the evening, at any
assembly where there are ladies, would imply
either disrespect or ignorance on the part
of the wearer. In most cities he is expected
to wear the regulation evening dress, the
“swallow-tail” coat of our grandfathers, and,
of course, black trousers and a white tie.
In London or New York or Chicago a man
must follow this last custom or stay at home.
He has his choice. The “swallow-tail”
coat is worn after six o’clock in the evening,
never earlier, in all English-speaking countries.
In France and Spain and Italy and
Germany it is worn as a dress of ceremony
at all hours. No man can be presented to
the Holy Father unless he wears the “swallow-tail,”
27so rigid is this rule at Rome,
though perhaps an exception might be made
under some circumstances.
In our country, where the highest places
are open to those who deserve them, a young
man is foolish if he does not prepare himself
to deserve them. And no man can expect
to be singled out among other men if he
neglects his manners or laughs at the rules
which society makes. Speaking from the
spiritual or intellectual point of view, there is
no reason why a man should wear a white
linen collar when in the society of his fellows;
from the social point of view there is every
reason, for he will suffer if he does not. Besides,
he owes a certain respect to his neighbors.
A man should dress according to circumstances:
the base-ball suit or the Rugby
flannels are out of place in the dining-room
or the church or the parlor, and the tall hat
and the dress suit are just as greatly out of
place in the middle of the game on the playground.
Good sense governs manners; but
when in doubt, we should remember that
there are certain social rules which, if learnt
28and followed, will serve us many mortifications
and even failures in life.
No man is above politeness and no man
below it. Louis the Fourteenth, a proud and
autocratic monarch, always raised his hat to
the poorest peasant woman; and a greater
man than he, George Washington, wrote the
first American book of etiquette.
II. Rules of Etiquette.
29
The social laws that govern the Etiquette
of Entertainments of all kinds are as
stringent and as well defined as any law a
judge interprets for you. It may be thought
that one may do as he pleases at the theatre,
in a concert-room, or at a dinner-party; that
little breaches of good manners will pass
unobserved or be forgiven because the person
who commits them is young. This is a
great mistake. More is expected from the
young than the old; and if a young man
comes out of college and shows that he is
ignorant of the rules of etiquette which all
well-bred people observe, he will be looked
on as badly brought up. There are certain
finical rules which are made from time to
time, which live a brief space and are heard
of no more. The English, who generally set
the fashion in these things, call these non-essentials
“fads.” They are made to be forgotten.
30For a time it had become a fashionable
“fad” to use the left hand as much as possible,
in saluting to take off one’s hat with
the left hand, to eat one’s soup with the left
hand; but this is all nonsense. Not long
ago, in New York, every “dude” turned
up the bottoms of his trousers in all sorts of
weather, because in London everybody did it.
Other fads were the carrying of a cane,
handle down, and the holding of the arms
with the elbows stuck out on both sides of
him. Another importation of the Anglomaniacs
was the habit of putting American
money into pounds, shillings, and pence, for
people who had been so long abroad could
not be expected to remember their own currency.
Another pleasant importation is the
constant repetition of “don’t you know.”
But they are all silly fashions, that may do
for that class of “chappies” whose most
serious occupation is that of sucking the
heads of their canes, or of reducing themselves
to idiocy with the baleful cigarette,
or considering how pretty the girls think
they are—but not for men.
31The rules held by sane people all over
the English-speaking world are those one
ought to follow, not the silly follies of the
hour, which stamp those who adopt them as
below the ordinary level of human beings.
Let us imagine that you have been sent to
Washington on business. I take Washington
because it is the capital of the United States,
and, if you do the right thing according to
social rules there, you will do the right
thing everywhere else. So you are going
to Washington, where you will see one of the
most magnificent domes in the world and
the very beautiful bronze gates of the Capitol,
a building about which we do not think
enough because it happens to be in our own
country. If it were in Europe, we should
be flocking over in droves to see it.
Some kind friend gives you a letter of introduction
to a friend of his. You accept
it with thanks, of course. It is unsealed,
because no gentleman ever seals a letter of
introduction. You read it and are delighted
to find yourself complimented. Now, if you
want to do the right thing, you will go to a
32good hotel when you get to Washington; a
good hotel—a hotel you can mention without
being ashamed of it. It will pay to spend
the extra money. And if a woman comes
into the elevator as you are going up to
your room,—I would not advise you to take
a suite of rooms on the ground-floor,—lift
your hat and do not put it on again until
she goes out. You will send your letter of
introduction to your friend’s friend and wait
until he acknowledges it.
But if you want to do the wrong thing,
you will take the letter of introduction and
your travelling bag and go at once to Mr.
Smith’s house. You may arrive at midnight;
but never mind that,—people like promising
young folk to come at any time. If the
clocks are striking twelve, show how athletic
you are by pulling the bell out by the wires.
When the members of the family are aroused,
thinking the house is afire, they will be so
grateful to you, and then you can ask for
some hot supper. This pleasing familiarity
will delight them. It will show them that
you feel quite at home. It will ruin you
33eventually in the estimation of stupid people
who do not want visitors at midnight—but
you need not mind them, though they
form the vast majority of mankind.
If you want to do the right thing, wait
until Mr. Smith acknowledges your letter of
introduction and asks you to call at his house.
If the letter is addressed to his office, you
may take it yourself and send it in to him.
But you ought not to go to his house until
he invites you. After he does this, call
in the afternoon or evening—never in the
morning, unless you are specially asked.
A “morning call” in good society means a
call in the afternoon. And a first call ought
not to last more than fifteen minutes. Take
your hat and cane into the parlor; you may
leave overcoat and umbrella and overshoes
in the hall. A young man who wants to act
properly will not lay his cane across the
piano or put his hat on a chair. The hat
and stick ought to be put on the floor near
him, if he does not care to hold them in his
hands. If he leaves his hat in the hall, his
hostess will think that he is going to spend
34the day in her house. But if she insists on
taking his hat from him, it will not do to
struggle for it. Such devotion to etiquette
might make a bad impression. Good feeling
and common-sense must modify all rules;
and if one’s entertainers have the old-fashioned
impressions that the first duty of hospitality
is to grasp one’s hat and cane, let
them have them by all means; but do not
take the sign to mean that you are to stay
all day. A quarter of an hour is long enough
for a first call.
“You must have had a delightful visitor
this morning,” one lady said to another. “He
stayed over an hour. What did he talk
about?” The other lady smiled sadly: “He
told me how he felt when he had the scarlet
fever, and all about his mother’s liver-complaint.”
Topics of conversation should be carefully
chosen. Strangers do not want to see a man
often who talks about his troubles, his illness,
and his virtues. The more the “You” is
used in general society and the less the “I,”
the better it will be for him who has the tact
35to use it. There is no use in pretending
that our troubles are interesting to anybody
but our mothers. Other people may listen,
but, depend upon it, they prefer to avoid a
man with a grievance.
If the young man with the letter of introduction
has made a good impression, he will
probably be invited to dinner. And then, if
he has been careless of little observances, he
will begin to be anxious. Perhaps it will be
a ceremonious dinner, too, where there will
be a crowd of young girls ready to criticise
in their minds every motion, and some older
ladies who will be sure to make up their minds
as to the manner in which he has been brought
up at home or at college. And we must
remember that our conduct when we get out
into the world reflects credit or discredit on
our homes or our schools.
If our young man is invited to luncheon,
he will find it much the same as a dinner,
except that it will take place some time between
twelve and two o’clock; while a dinner
in a city is generally given at six o’clock,
but sometimes not till eight. The very
36fashionable hour is nine. In Washington
the time is from six to eight. If the dinner
is to be formal—not merely a family dinner—our
young stranger will get an invitation
worded in this way:
Mr. and Mrs. John Robinson
request the pleasure of
Mr. James Brown’s company at dinner,
On Thursday, June the Twentieth,
At seven o’clock.
Our young man should send an answer at
once to this, and he must say Yes or No;
and if Mr. James Brown “regrets that he
cannot have the pleasure of accepting Mr.
and Mrs. John Robinson’s invitation to dinner
on June the Twentieth, at seven o’clock,”
let him give a good reason. If he have a
previous engagement, that is a good reason;
if he will be out of town, that is a good reason;
but he must answer the invitation at
once, and say whether he will go or not.
To invite to dinner is the highest social
compliment one man can pay another, and
it should be considered in that light. Of
course if a young man considers himself so
37brilliant that people must invite him to their
houses, he may do as he pleases, but he will
soon find himself alone in that opinion. It
is not good looks or brilliancy of conversation
that gains a man the right kind of friends:
it is good manners. Conceit in young people
is an appalling obstacle to their advancement.
You remember the story of the New York
college man who was rescued from drowning
by a ferry-hand. The latter expressed
his disgust with the reward he received, and
one of the college man’s friends asked him
why he had not done more for his rescuer.
“Done more?” he exclaimed,—he considered
himself the handsomest man of his class,—“Done
more! What could I do? Did not
I give him my photograph, cabinet size?”
If a young man is shy, now will come his
time of trials. But if he keeps in mind the
few rules that regulate the etiquette of the
dinner-table, he will have no reason to fear
that he will make any important mistakes.
If his hostess should ask him to take a lady
in to dinner, he will offer her his left arm, so
that his right may be free to adjust her chair,
38and he will wait until his place is pointed
out by the hostess. He will find it awkward
if he should drop into the first seat he come
to—for the laws of the dinner-table are regularity
and beauty. We cannot all be beautiful,
but we can move in obedience to good
rules. It is important that the man received
in society should not cover too much space
with his feet; he ought to try to keep them
together.
A dinner—that is, a formal dinner—generally
opens with four or five oysters. The
guest is expected to squeeze lemon on them
and to eat them with an oyster-fork. If one
man is tempted to saw an oyster in half with
a knife, he had better resist the temptation
and miss eating the oyster rather than commit
so barbarous an outrage. A guest who
would cut an oyster publicly in half is probably
a cannibal who would cut up a small
baby without remorse. A man must not ask
for oysters twice.
After the oysters comes the soup. If the
dinner-party is small, the soup may be passed
by guest to guest; but the waiter generally
39serves it. It is a flagrant violation of good
manners to ask for soup twice. It should be
taken from the side of the spoon if the guest’s
mustache will permit it, and not from the
tip. Soup is dipped from the eater, not
toward him. Among the Esquimaux it is the
fashion to smack the lips after every luscious
mouthful of liquid grease; with us, people do
not make any noise or smack their lips over
anything they eat, no matter how good it is.
In George Eliot’s novel of “Middlemarch,”
Dorothea’s sister’s greatest objection to Mr.
Causaban is that his mother had never
taught him to eat soup without making a
noise.
After the soup comes the fish. The young
guest may not like fish, but he must pretend
to eat it; it is bad manners not to pretend to
eat everything set before one at a dinner. A
little tact will help anybody to do it. No
dish must be sent away with the appearance
of having been untasted. It would be
an insult to one’s hostess not to seem to like
everything she has offered us. And, as the
chief duty of social intercourse is to give
40pleasure and to spare pain, this little suggestion
is most important.
On this point Mrs. Sherwood, an acknowledged
authority on social matters, says:
“First of all things, decline nothing. If you do
not like certain kinds of food, it is a courtesy
to your hostess to appear as if you did. You
can take as little on your plate as you choose,
and you can appear as if eating it, for there
is always your bread to taste and your fork
or spoon to trifle with, and thus conceal
your unwillingness to partake of a disliked
course.” Fish is eaten with a fork in one
hand and a piece of bread in the other. There
was once a man who filled his mouth with
fish and dropped the bones from his lips to
his plate. He disappeared—and nobody asks
where he has gone. If a bone does happen
to get into the mouth, it can be quietly removed.
The guest who puts his fingers
ostentatiously into his mouth to take out the
fish-bones he has greedily placed there might,
under temptation, actually and savagely tilt
over his soup plate to scoop up the last drop
of the liquid.
41The next course, after the fish, is the entrée;
it may be almost anything. No well-bred
man ever asks for a second helping of
the sweetbreads, or chops, or whatever dish
may form the entrée. It is eaten with the
fork in the right hand and a piece of bread
in the left. In England it is considered ill-bred
to pass the fork from the left hand to
the right; but we have not as yet become so
expert in the use of the left hand, so we use
our forks with the right. A guest who asks
for a second portion of the entrée may find
himself in the position of a certain Congressman
who had never troubled himself about
etiquette. He was invited to a state dinner
at the White House. The courses were delayed
by this genial legislator, who would
be helped twice. When the roasts came on
he turned to a lady, and in his amiable
way said, with a fascinating smile, “No, I
can’t eat more; I’m full—up to here,” he
added, making a pleasant motion across his
throat. It was probably the same Congressman
who, seeing a slice of lemon floating in
his finger-bowl, drank its contents, and swore
42that it was the weakest lemonade he had
ever tasted.
The roast comes after the entrée. Each
course is eaten slowly, because the host wants
to keep his guests in pleasant conversation
at his table as long as possible. If the host
helps our young guest to a slice of the roast,
whatever flesh-meat or fowl it may be, the
guest must not pass it to anybody else: he
must keep it himself; it was intended for him.
This rule does not apply to the soup and the
fish and the entrées as it does to the roast.
Suppose a guest wants his beef rare, or underdone,
and I pass him the piece given to me by
the host, because he knows I like it well-done:
the consequence is that the guest next to me
gets what he does not like and I get what I
do not like. Another thing: Begin to eat as
soon as you are helped. Do not wait for
anybody; if you do, your food may become
cold.
The seat of honor for the men is always on
the hostess’ right hand; for the ladies, on the
right hand of the host. The lady in the seat
of honor is always helped first. She begins to
43eat at once. There is nobody to wait for then.
The rule is that one should begin to eat as
soon as one is served. This rule may be followed
everywhere, and the practice of it prevents
much embarrassment.
After the roast there will probably be an
entremets of some kind. It may be an
omelette, it may be only a salad, or it may be
some elaborately made dish. In any case, your
fork and a bit of bread will help you out.
When in doubt, a young man should always
use his fork—never his knife, as it is used
only to cut with, and to help one’s self to
cheese. Vegetables are always taken with
the fork; lettuce too, and asparagus, except
when there is no liquid sauce covering
it entirely. Lettuce, when without sauce,
asparagus when not entirely covered with
sauce, are eaten with the fingers. Water-cress
is always eaten with the fingers, and so are
artichokes. A dinner ought not to last over
two hours; but it may. If our guest yawns
or looks at his watch he is ruined socially.
He might almost as well thrust his knife into
his mouth as do either of them. When he
44gets more accustomed to the world, he will
discern that people object to a view of his
throat suddenly opened to them.
But to return to our dinner-party: If
the finger-bowls are brought on, the general
custom is to remove them from the little
plate on which they stand. The little napkins
underneath them are not used: these are
merely put there to save the plate from being
scratched by the finger-bowls. As usage
differs somewhat here, the young guest had
better watch his hostess and imitate her.
An ice called a Roman punch is served
after the roast; it is always eaten with a
spoon. If a fork is served with the ice-cream
at the end of the dinner, the amiable young
man had better not begin to giggle and ask
“What’s this for?” If he never saw ice-cream
eaten with a fork before, it is not
necessary to show it. It is very often so eaten,
and if he finds a fork near his ice-cream plate,
let him use it just as if it was no novelty.
To show surprise in society is bad taste; it
is good taste to praise the flowers, the china,
the soup. One ought to say that he enjoyed
45himself, but never to say that he is thankful
for a good dinner. It is understood that
civilized people dine together for the pleasure
of one another’s society, not merely to eat.
When the little cups of black coffee are
served, our young guest may take a lump of
sugar with his fingers, if there are no tongs.
Similarly in regard to olives, he may take
them with his fingers and eat them with his
fingers. One’s fingers should be dipped in
the finger-bowls,—there is a story told of a
young man who at his first dinner-party put
his napkin into his finger-bowl and mopped
his face. The host, who ought to have been
more polite, asked him if he wanted a bathtub.
The boy said no, and asked for a sponge.
If our young guest be wise he will pay all
possible attention to the hostess; the host
really does not count until the cigars come
around. Then let the young person beware
in being too ready to smoke. He may possibly
not be offered cigars at all, but if he
is, and he smokes in any lady’s presence
without asking her permission, the seal of
vulgarity is impressed on him.
46A guest to whom black coffee is served in
a little cup ought not to ask for cream. It
might cause some inconvenience; it is not
the custom. When a plate is changed or
sent up to our host, the knife and fork should
be laid parallel with each other and obliquely
across the plate. At small dinners, where
the host insists on helping you twice, one
may keep his knife and fork until his plate
is returned to him.
III. What Makes a Gentleman.
47
Cardinal Newman made a famous definition
and description, both in the same
paragraph, of a gentleman. “It is almost,”
he said, in his “Idea of a University,” “a
definition of a gentleman to say he is one who
never inflicts pain.” And this truth will be
found to be the basis of all really good
manners. Good manners come from the
heart, while etiquette is only an invention of
wise heads to prevent social friction, or to
keep fools at a distance. Nobody but an
idiot will slap a man on the back unless the
man invites the slap by his own familiarity.
It seems to me that the primary rule which,
according to Cardinal Newman, makes a
gentleman is more disregarded in large
schools than anywhere else. There is no
sign which indicates ignorance or lack of
culture so plainly as the tendency to censure,
to jibe, to sneer,—to be always on the alert
to find faults and defects. On the other
48hand, a true gentleman does not censure, if
he can help it: he prefers to discover virtues
rather than faults; and, if he sees a
defect, he is silent about it until he can
gently suggest a remedy.
The school-boy is not remarkable for such
reticence. And this may be one of the reasons
why he has the reputation of being selfish,
ungrateful, and sometimes cruel. He is
not any of these things; he is, as a rule, only
thoughtless. It has been said that a blunder
is often worse than a crime; and thoughtlessness
sometimes produces effects that are
more enduringly disastrous than crimes.
Forgetfulness among boys or young men is
thoughtlessness. If an engineer forget for a
moment, his train may go to RUIN. If a
telegrapher forget to send a message, death
may be the result; but neither of them can
acquire such control over himself that he
will always remember, if he does not practise
the art of thinking every day of his life. It
is thoughtfulness, consideration, that makes
life not only endurable, but pleasant. As
Christians, we are bound to do to others as
49we would have them do to us. But as
members of a great society, in which each
person must be a factor even more important
than he imagines, we shall find that, even
if our Christianity did not move us to bear
and forbear from the highest motives, ordinary
prudence and regard for our own comfort
and reputation should lead us to do
these things. The Christian gentleman is
the highest type: he may be a hero as well
as a gentleman. Culture produces another
type, and Cardinal Newman thus describes
him. The Cardinal begins by saying that
“it is almost a definition of a gentleman to
say he is one who never inflicts pain. This
description,” he continues, “is both refined
and, as far as it goes, accurate. The gentleman
is mainly occupied in merely removing
the obstacles which hinder the free and unembarrassed
action of those about him; and
he concurs with their movements rather
than takes the initiative himself. The benefits
may be considered as parallel to what
are called comforts or conveniences in arrangements
of a personal nature: like an
50easy-chair or a good fire, which do their
part in dispelling cold or fatigue, though
nature provides both means of rest and
animal heat without them. The true gentleman
in like manner carefully avoids whatever
may cause a jar or a jolt in the minds of
those with whom he is cast,—all clashing of
opinion or collision of feeling, all restraint
or suspicion or gloom or resentment,—his
great concern being to make every one at
their ease or at home. He has his eyes on
all the company: he is tender towards the
bashful, gentle toward the distant, and merciful
towards the absurd; he can recollect
to whom he is speaking; he guards against
unreasonable allusions or topics which may
irritate; he is seldom prominent in conversation,
and never wearisome. He makes
light of favors which he does them, and
seems to be receiving when he is conferring.
He never speaks of himself except when
compelled, never defends himself by a mere
retort; he has no ears for slander or gossip,
is scrupulous in imputing motives to those
who interfere with him, and interprets everything
51for the best. He is never mean or
little in his disputes, never takes unfair advantage,
never mistakes personalities or
sharp sayings for arguments, or insinuates
evil which he dare not say out. From a
long-sighted prudence he observes the maxim
of the ancient sage, that we should ever conduct
ourselves towards our enemy as if he
were one day to be our friend.”
The Cardinal’s definition of a gentleman
does not end with these words: you can find
it for yourself in his “Idea of a University,”
page 204. It will be found, on examination,
to contain the principles which give a man
power to make his own life and that of his
fellow-beings cheerful and pleasant. And
life is short enough and hard enough to
need all the kindness, all the cheerfulness,
all the gentleness, that we can put into
it.
If a friend passes from among us, one of
the most enduring of our consolations is that
we never gave him needless pain while he
lived. And who can say which of our friends
may go next? He who sits by you to-night,
52he who greets you first in the morning, may
suffer from a hasty word or a thoughtless act
that you can never recall.
It is in the ordinary ways of life that the
true gentleman shows himself. He does not
wait until he gets out of school to pay attention
to the little things. He begins here,
and he begins the moment he feels that he
ought to begin. Somebody once wrote that
the man who has never made a mistake is a
fool. And another man added to this, that
a wise man makes mistakes, but never the
same mistake twice. A gentleman at heart
may blush when he thinks of his mistakes,
but he never repeats them. It is a mistake
made by thoughtless young people to stand
near others who are talking. It is a grave
sin against politeness for them to listen, as
they sometimes do, with eyes and ears open
for fear they should miss any of the words
not intended for them. The young man
thus engaged is an object of pity and contempt.
Politeness may prevent others from
rebuking him publicly, but it does not change
their opinion of him, nor does it enter their
53minds to excuse him on the plea that he
“didn’t think.”
It does not seem to strike some of you
that the convenience of those who work for
you ought to be considered, and that unnecessary
splashings of liquids and dropping of
crumbs and morsels of food is the most reprehensible
indication of thoughtlessness.
We often forget that criticism does not
mean fault-finding. It means rather the art
of finding virtues; and after any private entertainment,
at which each performer has done
his best for his audience, it is very bad taste
to point out all the defects in his work: you
may do this at rehearsal, but not after the
work is done; you may discourage him by
touching on something that he cannot help.
A friend of mine once played a part in Box
and Cox, but on the day after the performance
he was much cast down by the comments
in one of the daily papers. “Mr.
Smith,” the critic said, “was admirable, but
he should not have made himself ridiculous
by wearing such an abnormally long false
nose.” As the nose happened to be Mr.
54Smith’s own, he was discouraged. Criticism
of music especially, unless it be intelligent,
is likely to make the critic seem ignorant.
For instance, there was on one occasion on
a musical programme a ballade by Chopin
in A flat major. The young woman who
played it on the piano was afterwards horrified
to find herself described as having
sung a lively ballad called “A Fat Major”!
The musical critic had better know what he
is talking about or be silent. No, no, gentlemen,
let us not be censorious about the
efforts of those who do their best for us; and
good-fellowship—what the French call esprit
de corps—ought to show itself in our manners.
Anybody can blame injudiciously, but
few can praise judiciously. At college boys
especially must remember that the college is
part of ourselves, and that any reproach on
our alma mater is a reproach on ourselves.
Its reputation is our reputation, and the
critically censorious student will find that, in
the end, it is the wiser course to dwell on
the best side of his college life. The world
hates a fault-finder: he will soon see himself
55left entirely alone with those acute perceptions
that help him to find out all that is bad
in his fellow-creatures and nothing that is
good. To be a gentleman, one must be
tolerant, and, above all, grateful.
In the world outside there are many kinds
of entertainment. We disposed of the dinner-party
in a preceding page. One’s conduct
anywhere must be guided by good
sense and the usages of the occasion. At
a concert, for instance, the main object of
each person present is to hear the music.
Anything that interferes with this is a breach
of good manners. To chatter during a song
or while a piece of music is played shows
selfish disregard for the comfort of others
and a contemptible indifference to the feelings
of the performer. Music may be a great
aid to conversation, but conversation is no
assistance to music; and people who go to a
concert do not pay for their tickets to hear
somebody in the next seat tell his private
affairs in a loud voice. There are some
human creatures who seem to imagine that
they may reveal everything possible to their
56next neighbor in a crowded theatre without
being heard by anybody else. There is an
old anecdote, but a true one, of a very fashionable
lady in Boston who attended an
organ recital in the Music Hall there. She
was supposed to be an amateur of classical
music, but her reputation was shattered by
an unlucky pause in the tones of the organ.
The music ceased unexpectedly, and the
only sound heard was that of her voice, soaring
above the silence and saying to her
friend, “We FRY ours in LARD.” Her reputation
was ruined in musical circles. One
goes to a concert or an opera to listen, not
to talk. It is only the vulgar, the ostentatious,
the ignorant, that distinguish themselves
in public places by a disregard of the
rights of others. To enter a concert-room
late and to interrupt a singer, to enter any
public hall while a speaker is making an address,
is to excite the disapproval of all well-bred
people. Sir Charles Thornton, for a
long time British minister at Washington,
was noted for his care in this particular: he
would stand for half an hour outside the
57door of a concert-room rather than enter
while a piece of music was in progress.
Weddings, I presume, may be put down
under the head of entertainments. The
etiquette of the assistants is very simple. A
wedding invitation requires no answer: a
card sent by mail and addressed to the senders
of the invitation, who are generally the
father and mother of the bride, is quite sufficient.
It is unnecessary to say that it is not
proper during a marriage ceremony to stand
on the seats of the pews in order to get a
good look at the happy pair. A tradition
exists to the effect that a man during a wedding
ceremony once climbed on a confessional.
It is added, too,—and I am glad of
it,—that he fell and broke his neck. But
there is no knowing what some barbarians
will do: watch them on Sundays, chewing
toothpicks, standing in ranks outside of the
churches, and believing that the ladies are
admiring their best clothes.
My list of entertainments would be incomplete
without the dancing party. St. Francis
de Sales says of dancing, that a little of
58it ought to go a great way. Society ordains
that every man shall learn to dance; but if
he can talk intelligently, society will forgive
him for not dancing. Dancing, after all, is
only a substitute for conversation; and,
properly directed, it is a very good substitute
for scandal, mean gossip, or the frivolous
chatter which makes assemblies of young
people unendurable to anybody who has not
begun to be afflicted with softening of the
brain.
Public dances—dances into which anybody
can find entrance by paying a fee—are
avoided by decent people. A young man
who has any regard for his reputation will
avoid them; and as nearly every young man
has his way to make in the world, he cannot
too soon realize how the report that he
frequents such places will hurt him; for, as
I said, there are no secrets in this world,—everything
comes out sooner or later.
It is no longer the fashion for a young man
to invite a young woman to accompany him
to a dance, even at a private house. He
must first ask her mother. This European
59fashion has—thank Heaven!—reached many
remote districts of late, where young people
hitherto ignored the existence of their parents
when social pleasures were concerned.
The young girl who doesn’t want the “old
man to know” had better be avoided. And
in the best circles young women are not
permitted to go to the theatre or to dances
without a chaperon,—that is, the mother or
some elderly lady is expected to accompany
the young people. This, of course, makes
trips to the theatre expensive; but the young
man who cannot afford to take an extra
aunt or mother had better avoid such amusements
until he can.
As to whether you are to take part in the
round dances or not, that will be settled by
your confessor: I have no right to dictate
on that subject. But if you are invited to a
dance, pay your respects to your hostess
first, and say something pleasant. You must
remember that she intends that you shall be
useful,—that you shall dance with the ladies
to whom she introduces you, and that you
shall not think of your own pleasure entirely,
60but help to give others pleasure by dancing
with the ladies who have no partners. In a
word, you must be as unselfish in this frivolous
atmosphere as on more serious occasions.
When the refreshments are served,
you must think of yourself last. If you want
to gorge yourself, you can take a yard or two
of Bologna sausage to your room after the
entertainment is over. A young man over
twenty-one should wear an evening suit and
no jewelry at a dance. Infants under that
age are supposed to be safely tucked in bed
at the time the ordinary dance begins.
At a dance or at any other entertainment
no introduction should be made thoughtlessly.
If a gentleman is presented to a
lady, it should be done only after her permission
has been asked and received. And
the form should be, “Mrs. Jones, allow me
to present Mr. Smith.” A younger man
should always be introduced to an older man,
one of inferior position to one of superior
position. If you are introducing a friend
to the mayor of your city, you ought not to
say, “Let me introduce the Mayor to you.”
61On the contrary, the form should be “Mr.
Mayor, allow me to present my friend Mr.
Smith.”
On being introduced to a lady, it is not
the fashion for a man to extend his hand,—for
hand-shaking on first introduction is a
thing of the past. If the lady extends her
hand, it is proper to take it; but the pump-handle
style is no longer practised, except
perhaps in some unknown wilds of Alaska.
After a man is introduced to a lady and he
meets her again, he must not bow until she
has bowed to him. In France the man bows
first; in America and England we give that
privilege to the woman. An American
takes his hat entirely from his head when he
meets a lady; a foreigner raises it but slightly,
but he bows lower than we do. In introducing
people, we ought always to be careful to
give them their titles, and to add, if possible,
the place from which they come. If Mr.
Jones, of Chicago, is introduced to Mr. Robinson,
of New York, the subject for conversation
is already arranged. We know what
they will talk about. If the wife of the
62President introduced you to him, she would
call him the President; but if you addressed
him, you would call him “Mr. President,” as
you would address the mayor of a city as
“Mr. Mayor.” Mrs. Grant was the only
President’s wife who did not give her husband
his title in introductions: she called him
simply and modestly, “Mr. Grant.”
An English bard sings:
“I know a duke, well—let him pass—
I may not call his grace an ass,
Though if I did, I’d do no wrong—
Save to the asses and my song.
“The duke is neither wise nor good:
He gambles, drinks, scorns womanhood;
And at the age of twenty-four
Is worn and battered as threescore.
“I know a waiter in Pall Mall,
Who works and waits and reasons well;
Is gentle, courteous, and refined,
And has a magnet in his mind.
“What is it makes his graceless grace
So like a jockey out of place?
What makes the waiter—tell who can—
The very flower of gentleman?
63“Perhaps their mothers!—God is great!
It can’t be accident or fate.
The waiter’s heart is true,—and then,
Good manners make our gentlemen.”
IV. What Does Not Make a Gentleman.
64
We have touched on the etiquette of dress
and of entertainments; and now I beg
leave to repeat some things already said, and
to add a few others that need to be said.
A young man cannot afford to be slovenly
in his dress. Carelessness in dress will prejudice
people against him as completely as
a badly written letter. He will find himself
mysteriously left out in invitations. If he
applies for a position in an office or a bank,
or anywhere else, where neatness of dress is
expected, he will get the cold shoulder. A
young man who wears grease spots habitually
on the front of his coat, whose trousers are
decorated with dark shadows and the mud
of last week, whose shoes are red and rusty,
and who hangs a soiled handkerchief, like a
flag of truce, more than half out of his
pocket, will find himself barred from every
place which his ambition would spur him to
enter. You may say that dress does not
65make the man. You may call to mind Burns’
lines to the effect that “a man’s a man for a’
that;” a piece of silver is only a piece of
silver, worth more or less, until the United
States mint stamps it a dollar. The stamp
of your character and the manner of your
bringing up give you the value at which the
world appraises you.
I recall to mind an instance which shows
that we cannot always control our dress.
There was a boy at school who was the
shortest and the youngest among three tall
brothers. He never had any clothes of his
own. He had to wear the cast-off suits of
the other brothers, and it was no unusual
thing for his trousers to trip him up when
he tried to run, although they were fastened
well up under his shoulders. This unhappy
youth was the victim of circumstances; if he
made a bad impression, he could not help it.
But he was always neat and clean, and he
never put grease on his hair or leaned against
papered walls in order to leave his mark
there. He never saturated himself with
cologne to avoid a bath; he never chewed
66gum; he was never seen with a dirty-yellow
rivulet at either side of his lips, which flowed
from a plug of tobacco somewhere in his
gullet; and so, though he was pitied for the
eccentricities of his toilet, he was not despised.
In a country where we do not have to buy
water there is no excuse for neglecting the
bath. The average Englishman talks so
much of his bath and his tub, that one cannot
help thinking that the Order of Bath is a
late discovery in his country, although we
know it was instituted long ago. Every boy
ought to keep himself “well groomed;” to
be clean outside and in gives him a solid
respect for himself that makes others respect
him. It is like a college education: it causes
him to feel that he is any man’s equal. But
one with a sham diamond in his bosom, or
cuffs that he has to shove up his sleeves every
now and then to prevent them from showing
how dirty they are, can never feel quite like
a man.
We Americans have reason to be proud
of the decay of two arts which Charles
67Dickens when he wrote “American Notes”
found in a flourishing condition,—the art of
swearing in public and the art of tobacco-chewing.
When Dickens made his first visit
to this country he was amazed by the skill
which Americans showed in the art of
tobacco-chewing. The “spit-box,” the spittoon,
the cuspidore,—which is supposed to
be an elegant name for a very inelegant
utensil,—seemed to him to be the most important
of American institutions. We who
have become accustomed to the cuspidore
do not realize how its constant presence
surprises foreigners. They do not understand
why the floor of every hotel should be
furnished with conveniences for spitting, because
no country except the United States
is infested by tobacco-chewers. Charles
Dickens was severe on the prevalence of the
tobacco-chewing habit. He was roundly
abused for his criticisms on our public
manners. No doubt his censure was well
founded, for the manners of Americans
have improved since. To Dickens it seemed
as if the principal American amusement
68was tobacco-chewing. He found the American
a gloomy being, who regarded all the
refinements with dislike, and whose politeness
to women was his one redeeming
feature. Dickens admitted that a woman
might travel alone from one end of the
country to the other and receive the most
courteous attention from even the roughest
miner. And this is as true now as it was
then. There are no men in any country so
polite to women as Americans; and in no
other country on the face of the earth is the
sex of our mothers so publicly respected.
This chivalric characteristic, which Tom
Moore tells us was the most brilliant jewel
in the crown of the Irish, “When Malachi
wore the collar of gold,” is now an American
characteristic, and distinctively an American
characteristic. So sure are the ladies of every
attention, that they take the reverential attitude
of men as a matter of course. They
no longer thank us when we give up our
places in the street-car to them, or walk in
the mud to let them pass; and it is probably
regard for them that has caused the American
69to cease to flood every public place with
vile tobacco-juice.
There was a time when the marble floors
of our largest hotels were so spotted with
this vicious fluid that their color could
not be recognized, when the atmosphere
reeked with filthy fumes, and many a man
bit off a large chunk of tobacco between
every second word. It was his method of
punctuating his talk. He expectorated when
he wanted to make a comma and bit off a
“chew” at a period; he squirted a half-pint
of amber liquid across the room for an interrogation-mark,
and struck his favorite spot
on the ceiling to mark an exclamation. But
we are not so bad as we used to be. George
Washington, whose first literary effort was
an essay on Manners, might complain that
we lack much, but he would find that the
tobacco-chewer is not so prominent a figure
in all landscapes as he formerly was.
The truth is, that American good sense is
putting an end to this dirty and disgusting
habit. There was a time when a man was
asked for a “chew” on almost every street
70corner. But this was in the days of the
Bowery boys and of the old volunteer fire-departments,
when strange things occurred.
It is related that an English traveller riding
down Broadway, some time about the year
1852, found that the light was suddenly shut
out of his left eye. He fancied for an instant
that his optic nerves had been paralyzed.
He was relieved by the sound of an apologetic
voice coming from the opposite seat. It said:
“I didn’t intend to put that ‘chew’ into
your eye, sir. I was aiming at the window
when you bobbed your head!” And the
thoughtful expectorator gently removed the
ball of tobacco from the Englishman’s eye!
That could hardly occur now. Chewers
do not take such risks, or they aim straighter.
For a long time the typical American, as
represented in English novels or on the English
stage, chewed tobacco and whittled a
wooden nutmeg. The English have learned
only of late that every American does not
do these things.
If foreigners hate this savage practice, who
can blame them? How we should sneer and
71jeer at the English if, in ferry-boats, in horse-cars,
in public halls, pools of tobacco-juice
should be seen, and if perpetual yellow, ill-smelling
fountains sprung from men’s mouths.
How Puck would caricature John Bull in his
constant attitude of chewing! How filthy
and barbaric we would say the British were!
We should speak of it, in Fourth-of-July orations,
as a proof of British inferiority. But
we cannot do this, for the English do not
chew tobacco,—and some of us do.
It is a habit that had better be unlearned
as soon as possible. It is happily ceasing to
be an American vice, and with it will cease
the chronic dyspepsia and many of the
stomach and throat diseases which have become
almost national. Many a man, come
to the years of discretion, bitterly regrets
that he ever learned to chew tobacco; but he
thought once that it was a manly thing, and
he learns when too late that the manly thing
would have been to avoid it. Some of you
will perhaps remember a fashion boys had—I
don’t know whether they have it now—of
getting tattooed by some expert who practised
72the art. What pain we suffered while
a small star was picked in blue ink at the
junction of the thumb with the hand!—and
how proud we were of a blue anchor printed
indelibly on our wrists! But a day came
when we should have been glad to have
blotted out this insignia with thrice the pain.
And so the day will come when the inveterate
tobacco-chewer will wish with all his
heart that he had never been induced to put
a piece of tobacco into his mouth. It is one
of those vices which has an unpleasant sting
and which is its own punishment. It is unbecoming
to a gentleman; it violates every
rule of good manners,—the spectacle of a
young man dropping a “quid” into his
hand before he goes into dinner and trying
on the sly to wipe off the dirty stains on his
chin is enough to turn the stomach of a cannibal.
Going back to the subject of entertainments,
let me impress on you that it is your
duty when you go into society to think as
little of yourselves as possible, and to talk as
little of yourselves. If a man can sing or play
73on any musical instrument or recite, and he is
asked to do any of these things, let him not
refuse. Young women sometimes say no in
society when they mean yes; but young men
are not justified in practising such an affectation.
It is not good taste to show that one is
anxious to sing or to play or to recite. If you
are invited out, do not begin at once by talking
about elocution, until somebody is forced
to ask you to recite; and do not hum snatches
of song until there is no escape for your
friends from the painful duty of asking you
to sing. The restless efforts of some amateurs
to get a hearing in society always brings
to mind a certain theatrical episode. There
was a young actress who thought she could
sing, and consequently she introduced a vocal
solo whenever she could. She was cast for
the principal part in a melodrama full of
tragic situations. The manager congratulated
himself that here, at least, there was no
chance for the tuneful young lady to try her
scales. But he was mistaken. The great
scene was on. A flash of lightning illumined
the stage. The actress was holding a pathetic
74conversation with her mother as the
thunder rolled. The mother suddenly fell
with a shriek, struck dead. And then the
devoted daughter said, “Aha, mee mother
is dead! Alas, I will now sing the song
she loved so much in life!” And the young
lady walked to the footlights and warbled
“Comrades.”
She would and she did sing, but I am
afraid the audience laughed. I offer this
authentic anecdote as a warning to young
singers that they should neither be hasty nor
reluctant in displaying their talents. A man
goes into society that he may give as well
as gain pleasure. The highest form of social
pleasure is conversation; but conversation
does not mean a monologue. Good listeners
are as highly appreciated in society as
good talkers. A good listener often gives
an impression of great wisdom which is dispelled
the moment he opens his mouth. Mr.
Gladstone was charmed by a young lady who
sat next to him at dinner; he concluded that
she was one of the most intelligent women
he had ever met, until she spoiled it all by
75saying, with effusion, “Oh, I love cabbage!”
A young man should neither talk too much
nor too little, and he should never talk about
himself unless he is forced to. Madame
Roland, a famous Frenchwoman, who perished
during the Reign of Terror under the
guillotine, said that by listening attentively
to others she made more friends than by any
remarks of her own. “Judicious silence,”
the author of “In a Club Corner” says, “is
one of the great social virtues.” A man who
tries to be funny at all times is a social nuisance.
Two famous men suffered very much
for their tendency to be always humorous.
These were Sydney Smith and our own
lamented S. S. Cox. Sydney Smith could
not speak without exciting laughter. Once,
when he had said grace, a young lady next
to him exclaimed, “You are always so amusing!”
And S. S. Cox, one of the most serious
of men at heart and the cleverest in head,
never attained the place in politics he ought
to have gained because he was supposed to
be always in fun. Jokes are charming things
76in a limited circle, but no gentleman nowadays
indulges in those practical jokes which
we have heard of. It is not considered a
delicate compliment to pull a chair away just
as anybody is about to sit down; and the
young person who jabs acquaintances in the
ribs, to make them laugh at his delightful
sayings, is not rapturously welcomed in quiet
families.
A young man should not make a practice
of using slang, and he should never use it in
the presence of ladies. To advise a friend
to “shut his face” or to “come off the
perch” may sound “smart,” but it is vulgar,
and is fatal to those ambitious young men
who feel that their success in life depends
on the good opinion of cultivated people.
Moreover, this habitual slang is likely to crop
out at the most inopportune times. Mr.
Sankey, of the evangelizing firm of Moody
and Sankey, at a camp-meeting once asked
a devout young man if he loved the Lord.
There was profound silence until the young
man, who thought in slang, answered in a
loud voice, “You bet!”
77Slang is in bad taste; and the slang we
borrow from the English is the worst of all—the
repetition of “don’t you know?” for
instance. “I’m going to town, don’t you
know, and if I see your friends, don’t you
know, I’ll tell them you were asking for
them, don’t you know,—oh, yes, I shall,
don’t you know.” Imagine an American
so idiotic as not only to imitate the vulgarest
Cockney slang, but to do it in the vulgarest
Cockney accent! There was a woman
who at a dinner said, “Have some soup,
don’t you know; it’s not half nawsty, don’t
you know.”
I must remind you again not to use, in
letter-writing, tinted or ornamented paper.
Let it be white and, by all means, unruled;
your envelope may be either oblong or
square, but the square form is preferable. If
you have time and want to follow the present
fashion, and also to pay a compliment of
extreme carefulness to the person to whom
you are writing, close your letters with red
sealing-wax. Some old-fashioned people
look on postal cards as vulgar. However, it
78is not well to write family secrets on these
cheap forms. And if any man owes you
money, do not ask him for it on a postal
card: it is against a more forcible law than
those that make etiquette. Postal cards are
not to be used except on business. Be sure
to write the name of the person to whom
the letter is addressed on the last page of
the letter. But if you begin a letter with
“Dear Mr. Smith,” you need not write Mr.
Smith’s name again at the end of the letter.
Buy good paper and envelopes. And do not
write on old scraps of paper when you write
home. Nothing is too good for your father
and mother; they may not say much about
it, but every little attention from you brightens
their lives and helps towards paying that
debt of gratitude to them which you can
never fully discharge.
A young man has asked me to say something
about the etiquette of cards and calls.
A man, under the American code of politeness,
need not make many calls. If he is
invited to an entertainment of any kind, he
should go to the house of his host to call or
79leave his card. If it be his first call, he
must leave a card for each grown-up member
of the family. After that he need leave
only one card. The old fashion of turning
down the corners of cards is gone
out. A man’s card should be very
small, not gilt-edged; it should never be
printed, but always engraved or written,
with the address in the left-hand lower
corner. A man may write his own cards.
In that case he must not put “Mr.” before
his name. But if he has them engraved,
the present usage demands that “Mr.” must
appear before his name. If he has been at
a party of any kind, he must call within a
week after it, or he can send his card with
his mother or sister, if they should happen
to be calling at his host’s within that time.
A man’s card, like his note-paper, ought to
be as simple as possible. Secretary Bayard’s
cards always bore the plain inscription, “Mr.
Bayard.” Sciolists and pretenders of all
kinds put a great number of titles on their
cards. Corn-cutters and spiritists and quacks
of all sorts are always sure to print “Professor”
80before their names, but men who
have a right to the title never do it. Be
sure, then, to have a neat, plain card, well
engraved. It costs very little to have a
plate made by a good stationery firm; and a
neat, elegant card, like a well-written letter,
is a good introduction. It symbolizes the
man. Daniel Webster’s card was simply
“Mr. Webster,” and it expressed the man’s
hatred for all pretence. A gentleman should
never call on a young lady without asking
for her mother or her chaperon. And he
should never leave a card for her without
leaving one for her mother. It will not do
to send a card by mail after one has been
asked to dinner. A personal visit must be
made and a card left. In calling on the sons
or daughters of a family, cards should be
left for the father and mother.
It may surprise some young men to find
that in the great world fathers and mothers
are so much considered. I know that there
are some boys at school who write home on
any odd, soiled paper they can find, and who
write only when they want something or feel
81like grumbling. Their letters run something
like this:
“Dear Father: The weather is bad. I am
not well this evening, hoping to find you the same.
Grub as usual. Please send me five dollars.
“Yours,” etc.
And, of course, their fathers and mothers
go down on their knees at once and thank
Heaven for such dutiful and clever boys—that
is, if you boys have brought them up
properly. But so many of our parents have
been so badly brought up. They really do
not see how superior their children are to
them. They actually fancy that they know
more of the world than a boy of sixteen or
seventeen; and they occasionally insist on
being obeyed. It would be a pleasant thing
to form a new society among you—a society
for the proper bringing up of fathers and
mothers. At present there are some parents
who really refuse to be the slaves of their
children, or to take their advice. This is
unreasonable, I know, but it is true. Think
how frightful it is for a young man of spirit
to be kept at college during the best years
82of his life, when he might be learning new
clog-dance steps on street-corners or reading
detective stories all day long!
It would be hard to change things now;
and the fact remains that in good society
fathers and mothers are considered before
their children. The man who lacks reverence
for his parents, who shows irritation to
them, who pains them by his grumbling and
fault-finding, is no gentleman. He is what
the English call a cad. He is the most contemptible
of God’s creatures. Let me sum
up in the famous lines which you all ought
to know by heart; they are the words that
Shakspere puts into the mouth of Polonius
when his son Laertes is about to depart into
the great world:
“Give thy thoughts no tongue,
Nor any unproportioned thought his ACT.
Be thou familiar, but by no means vulgar:
The friends thou hast, and their adoption TRIED,
Grapple them to THY SOUL with hooks of STEEL;
But do not dull thy palm with entertainment
Of each new-hatched, unfledged comrade. Beware
Of entrance to a quarrel, but, being in,
Bear it that the opposer may BEWARE of thee.
83Give every man thine EAR, but few thy VOICE;
Take each man’s censure, but reserve thy judgment.
Costly thy habit as thy purse can buy,
But not expressed in fancy; rich, not gaudy;
For the apparel oft proclaims the MAN.
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Neither a borrower nor a LENDER be;
For loan oft loses both itself and friend,
And borrowing dulls the edge of husbandry.
This, above all: to thine own self be TRUE;
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be FALSE to ANY MAN.”
V. How to Express One’s Thoughts.
84
Mr. Frederick Harrison, a man of
letters, whose literary judgments are
as right as his philosophical judgments are
wrong, tells us that the making of many
books and the reading of periodical sheets
obscure the perception and benumb the
mind. “The incessant accumulation of fresh
books must hinder any real knowledge of
the old; for the multiplicity of volumes becomes
a bar upon our use of any. In literature
especially does it hold that we cannot
see the wood for the trees.” I am not about
to advise you to add to the number of useless
leaves which hide the forms of noble
trees; but, if your resolve to write outlives
the work of preparation, you may be able to
give the world a new classic, or, at least,
something that will cheer and elevate. This
preparation is rigid. Two important qualities
of it must be keen observation and
85careful reading. It is a pity that an old dialogue
on “Eyes or No Eyes” is no longer
included in the reading-books for children.
The modern book-makers have improved it
out of existence; nevertheless, it taught a
good lesson. It describes the experience of
two boys on a country road. Common
things are about them,—wild flowers, weeds,
a ditch,—but one discovers many hidden
things by the power of observation, while
the other sees nothing but the outside of the
common things. To write well one must
have eyes and see. To be observant it is
not necessary that one should be critical in
the sense of fault-finding. Keen observation
and charitable toleration ought to go together.
We may see the peculiarities of
those around us and be amused by them;
but we shall never be able to write anything
about character worth writing unless we go
deeper and pierce through the crust which
hides from us the hidden meanings of life.
How tired would we become of Dickens if
he had confined himself to pictures of surface
characteristics! If we weary of him, it
86is because Mr. Samuel Weller is so constantly
dropping his w’s, and Sairey Gamp so constantly
talking of Mrs. Harris. If we find
interest and refreshment in him now, it is
because he went deeper than the thousand
and one little habits with which he distinguishes
his personages.
To write, then, we must acquire the art of
observing in a broad and intelligent spirit.
Nature will hang the East and West with
gorgeous tapestry in vain if we do not see it.
And many times we shall judge rashly and
harshly if we do not learn to detect the trueheartedness
that hides behind the face which
seems cold to the unobservant. We are
indeed blind when we fail to know that an
angel has passed until another has told us of
his passing.
Apparently there is not much to think of
the wrinkled hand of the old woman who
crosses your path in the street. You catch
a glimpse of it as she carries her bundle in
that hand on her way from work in the twilight.
Perhaps you pass on and think of it
no more. Perhaps you note the knotted,
87purple veins standing out from the toil-reddened
surface, and then your eyes catch at a
glance the wrinkled face on which are written
the traces of trials, self-sacrifice, and
patience. It is hard to believe that those
hands were once soft and dimpled childish
hands, and that face bright with happy
smiles. The story of her life is the story of
many lives from day to day. Those coarse,
ungloved, wrinkled hands will seem vulgar
to you only if you have never learned to
observe and think. They may suggest a
noble story or poem to you, if you take their
meaning rightly. Life, every-day life, is full
of the suggestions of great things for those
who have learned to look and to observe.
Mr. Harrison, from whom I have quoted
already, puts his finger on a fault which
must inevitably destroy all power of good
literary production. It is a common fault,
and the antidote for it is the cultivation of
the art of careful reading. “A habit of reading
idly,” Mr. Harrison says, “debilitates
and corrupts the mind for all wholesome
reading; the habit of reading wisely is one
88of the most difficult to acquire, needing
strong resolution and infinite pains; and
reading for mere reading’s sake, instead of
for the sake of the good we gain from reading,
is one of the worst and commonest and
most unwholesome habits we have.”
In order to write well, one must read well—one
must read a few good books—and
never idle over newspapers. Newspapers
have become necessities, and grow larger each
year. But the larger they are the more
deleterious they are. The modern newspaper
lies one day and corrects its lies, adding,
however, a batch of new ones, on the day
after. There are a few newspapers which
have literary value, though even they, mirroring
the passing day, have some of its faults.
As a rule, avoid newspapers. They will help
you to fritter away precious time; they will
spoil your style in the same way that a
slovenly talker, with whom you associate
constantly, will spoil your talk; for newspapers
are generally written in a hurry, and
hurried literary work, unless by a master-hand,
is never good work. Nevertheless, in
89our country, the newspapers absorb a great
quantity of literary matter which would,
were there no newspapers, never see the
light.
Literature considered as a profession includes
what is known as journalism,—not
perhaps reportorial work, but the writing of
leaders, book reviews, theatrical notices, and
other articles which require a light touch,
tact, and careful practice, but which do not
always have those qualities. A writer lately
said: “Literature has become a trade, and
finance a profession.” This is hardly true;
but some authors have come to look on their
profession as a trade, and to value it principally
for the money it brings. Anthony
Trollope, for instance, whose novels are still
popular, set himself to his work as to a task;
he wrote so many words for so much money
daily. This may account for the woodenness
of his literary productions. In the pursuit
of art, money should not be the first consideration,
although it should not be left entirely
out of consideration; for the artist should live
by his art, the musician by his music, and the
90author by his books. Literature, then, should
be a vocation as well as an avocation.
Literature, in spite of the many stories
about the poverty of writers, has, in our English-speaking
countries, been on the whole a
fairly well-paid profession. Chaucer was by
no means a pauper; Shakspere retired at a
comparatively early age to houses and lands
earned by his pen in the pleasant town of
Stratford. Pope earned nearly fifty thousand
dollars by his translations or, rather,
paraphrases of Homer. Goldsmith, though
always poor through his own generosity and
extravagance, earned what in our days would
be held to be a handsome competence. Sir
Walter Scott made enormous sums which he
spent royally on his magnificent castle of
Abbotsford. Charles Dickens earned enough
to make him rich, and our modern writers,
though less in genius, are not less in their
power of securing the hire of which they are
more than worthy. Mr. Howells has had at
least ten thousand dollars a year for permitting
his serial stories to be printed in the
publications of Harper & Brothers. Mr. Will
91Carleton, the author of “Farm Ballads,” has
no doubt an equal amount from his copyrights.
Mrs. Hodgson Burnett, the author
of “Little Lord Fauntleroy,” easily commands
eight thousand dollars for the copyright
of a novel. So you see that the picture
often presented to us of the haggard author
shivering over his tallow candle in a garret
is somewhat exaggerated.
But none of these authors attained success
without long care given to art. They all
had their early struggles. Mrs. Burnett, for
instance, was a very brave and hard-working
young girl; she was poor; her only hope in
life was her education; she used it to advantage
and by constant practice in literary
work. The means of her success was the
capacity for taking pains. It is the means
of all success in life. And any man or
woman who expects to adopt literature as a
profession must see well, read well, and take
infinite pains. Probably Mr. Howells and
Mrs. Burnett had many MSS. rejected by
the editors. Probably, like many young
authors, each day brought back an article
92which had cost them many weary hours,—for
literary work is the most nerve-wearying
and brain-wearying of all work—with the
legend, “Returned with thanks.” Still they
kept on taking infinite pains.
Lord Byron awoke one morning and found
himself famous. But that first morning of
fame had cost much study, much thought,
and, no doubt, periods of despondency in
which he almost resolved not to write at
all. Poetry does not gush from the poet,
like fire out of a Roman candle when you
light it. Of all species of literary composition,
poetry requires more exquisite care
than any other. A sonnet which has not
been written and rewritten twenty times may
be esteemed as worthless. To-day no modern
poem has a right to be printed unless it be
technically perfect. It seems a sacrilege to
speak of poetry as a profession; it ought to
be a vocation only, and the poet ought not
only to be made by infinite pains taken with
himself, but born. As to the rewards of extreme
fineness in the expression of poetry, I
have heard that Longfellow received one
93thousand dollars for his comparatively short
poem of “Keramos,” and that Tennyson
had a guinea a line. But we shall leave out
poetry in talking of filthy lucre, and consider
literature as represented by journalism, in
which there is very little poetry.
I did not intend to touch on journalism,
as the work of making newspapers is sometimes
called, but I have been lately asked to
give my opinion as to whether journalism is a
good preparation for the pursuit of literature.
Perhaps the best way to do this would be to
give the experiences of a young journalist
first.
I imagine a young person who had written
at least twenty compositions; some on
“Gratitude,” one on “Ambition,” one on
“The History of a Pin,” and a grand poem
on the Southern Confederacy in five cantos.
He had been prepared for the pursuit of literature
by being made to write a composition
every Friday. These compositions were
read aloud in his class. What beautiful sentiments
were uttered on those Fridays! How
everybody thrilled when young Strephon
94compared Ireland to “that prairie-grass
which smells sweeter the more it is trodden
on”! He had never seen such grass; he
would not have recognized it if he had seen
it; but he had read about it, and when a
cruel scientific instructor asked him to give
the botanical name, he turned away in disgust.
His finest feelings were outraged.
This, however, did not prevent the simile of
the prairie-grass of unknown genus from cantering
through all the compositions of the
other members of the class for many succeeding
weeks, until the professor got into a
habit of asking, when a boy rose to read his
essay: “Is there prairie-grass in it?” If the
essayist said yes, he was made to sit down
and severely reprimanded. Teachers were
very cruel in those days.
There was another lovely simile ruthlessly
cut down in its middle age—pardon me if
I digress and pour out my wrongs to you;
I know you can appreciate them. A boy
of genius once said that “Charity, like an
eternal flame, cheers, but not inebriates.”
After that inspired utterance, charity, like
95an eternal flame, cheered, but not inebriated,
the composition of every other writer, until
the same cruel hand put it out. In those
days we knew a good thing when we saw it,
and, if it saved trouble, we appreciated it.
Somewhat later the young person attained
a position in the office of an illustrated paper.
It was a newspaper which was so fearful that
its foreign letters should be incorrect that it
always had them written at home. The
young gentleman whose desk was next to
that of your obedient servant wrote the Paris,
Dublin, and New York letters. The correspondent
from Rome and Constantinople,
who also did the market reports at home,
had some trouble with his spelling occasionally,
and made a very old gentleman in the
corner indignant by asking him whether
“pecuniary” was spelled with a “c” or a “q,”
and similar questions. This old gentleman
wrote the fashion column, and signed himself
“Mabel Evangeline.” He sometimes made
mistakes about the fashions, but they were
very naturally blamed on the printers. To
your obedient servant fell the agricultural
96and the religious columns. All went well,
for the prairie-grass was kept out of the
agricultural column, though some strange
things went in—all went well until he copied
out of a paper a receipt for making hens lay.
He did not know then that it was a comic
paper, and that the friend who wrote it was
only in fun. The hens of several subscribers
lay down and died. There was trouble in
the office, and the agricultural department
was taken from him and given to “Mabel
Evangeline,” who later came to grief by describing
an immense peanut-tree which was
said to grow in Massachusetts.
Your obedient servant was asked to write
leaders on current subjects. How joyfully
he went to work! Here was a chance to introduce
the prairie-grass and the “eternal
flame.” With a happy face he took his “copy”
to the managing editor. Why did that great
man frown as he read: “If we compare
Dante with Milton, we find that the great
Florentine sage was like that prairie-grass
which—” “Do you call this a current subject?”
he demanded. “It will not do.
97Where’s the other one?” Your obedient
servant, in fear and trembling, gave him the
other slips. He began: “The geocentric
movement, like that eternal flame which
cheers, but—” He paused. “When I asked,”
he said, in an awful voice—“when I asked
you for current subjects, I wanted an editorial
on the fight in the Fourth Ward and a
paragraph on the sudden rise in lard. Do
you understand?”
Dante and the geocentric movement, the
prairie-grass and the eternal flame were
crushed. The wise young person learned
to adapt himself to the ways of newspaper
offices, and all went well again, until
he attempted high art. This newspaper was
young and not very rich; therefore economy
had to be used in the matter of illustrations.
The great man, its editor, had a habit of
buying second-hand pictures—perhaps it was
not to save money, but because he loved the
old masters,—and it became the duty of the
present writer, who was then a young person,
and who is now your obedient servant,
to write articles to suit the pictures. For
98instance, if a scene in Madrid had been
bought, the present writer wrote about
Madrid. It was easy, for he had an encyclopædia
in the office; but if anybody had borrowed
the volume containing “M” we always
called Madrid by some other name, for
“Mabel Evangeline,” who said he had travelled,
said foreign cities looked pretty much
alike. “Mabel Evangeline,” who sometimes,
I am afraid, drank too much beer and mixed
up things, was not to be relied on, for he put
in a picture of Rome, N. Y., for Rome, Italy,
and brought the paper into contempt. Still,
I think this would not have made so much
difference, if he had not labelled a picture of
an actress in a very big hat and a very low-cut
gown, “Home from a convent school.”
He was discharged after this, and the present
writer asked to perform his functions.
Nothing unpleasant would have happened, if
a picture had not been sent in one day in a
hurry. It was a dim picture. It seemed to
represent a tall woman and a ghost. The
present writer named it “Lady Macbeth and
the Ghost of Banquo,” and spun out a
99graphic description of the artist’s meaning.
Next day when the paper came out, the picture
was “The Goddess of Liberty crowning
Abraham Lincoln.”
It was a mistake; but who does not make
mistakes? Who ever saw the Goddess of
Liberty, anyhow? If you heard the way
that editor talked to the promising young
journalist, you would have thought he was
personally acquainted with both Lady Macbeth
and the Goddess of Liberty, and that
they had not succeeded in teaching him good
manners. It is sad to think that mere trifles
will often cause thoughtless people to lose
their tempers.
The writing for newspapers is a good introduction
to the profession of literature, if
the aspirant can study, can read good books
when not at work, can still take pains in spite
of haste, and cultivate accuracy of practice.
The best way to learn to write is to write.
One engaged in supplying newspapers with
“copy” must write. If he can keep a strict
eye on his style—if he can avoid slang,
“smart” colloquialism, he will find that the
100necessity for conciseness and the little time
allowed for hunting for the right word for
the right place will help him in attaining
ease and aptness of expression.
The first difficulty the unpractised writer
has to overcome is a lack of the right words.
Words are repeated, and other words that
are wanted to express some nice distinction
of meaning will not come. Constant reference
to a good dictionary or a book of synonyms
is the surest remedy for this; and if
the writer will refuse to use any word that
does not express exactly what he means, he
will make steady advance in the power of expression.
Words that burn do not come at
first. They are sought and found. Tennyson,
old as he was, polished his early poems,
hoping to make them perfect before he died.
Pope’s lines, which seem so easy, so smooth,
which seem to say in three or four words
what we have been trying to say all our lives
in ten or eleven, were turned and re-turned,
carved and re-carved, cut and re-cut with all
the scrupulousness of a sculptor curving a
Grecian nose on his statue:
101“A little learning is a dangerous thing;
Drink deep, or taste not the Pierian spring.”
That is easy reading. It seems as easy as
making an egg stand on end, or as putting
an apple into a dumpling—when you know
how. It is easy because it was so hard; it is
easy because Pope took infinite pains to
make it so. Had he put less labor into it,
he would have failed to make it live. It is
true that a thing is worth just as much as we
put into it.
Although the desire to write is often kindled
by much reading, the power of writing
is often paralyzed by the discovery that the
reading has been of the wrong kind. Again,
the tyro who has read little and that little unsystematically
is tempted to lay down his pen
in despair. Lord Bacon said that “reading
maketh a full man, writing a ready man;”
from which we may conclude that he who
reads may best utilize his stock of knowledge
by learning to write. But he must first read,
no matter how keen his observation may be
or how original his thoughts are; for a good
style does not come by nature. It must be
102the expression of temperament as well as
thought; but it must have acquired clearness
and elegance, which are due to the construction
of sentences in the good company
of great authors. To write, you must read,
and be careful what you read; and you must
read critically. To read a play of Shakspere’s
only for the story is to degrade
Shakspere to the level of the railway novel.
It is better to have read the trial scene in
“The Merchant of Venice” critically, missing
no shade in Portia’s character or speech,
no expression of Shylock’s, than to have
read all Shakspere carelessly. To make a
specialty of literature, one must be, above
all, thorough. The writings that live have a
thousand fine points in them unseen of the
casual reader, and, like the carvings mentioned
in Miss Donnelly’s fine poem, “Unseen,
yet Seen,” known only to God. Take
ten lines of any great writer, examine them
closely with the aid of all the critical power
you have, and then you will see that simplicity
in literature is produced by the art which
conceals art. That style which is easiest to
103read is the hardest to write. Genius has been
defined as the capacity for taking infinite
pains.
There is a passage in “Ben Hur” which
seems to me particularly applicable to our
subject. You remember, in the chariot-race,
where Ben Hur’s cruel experience in the
galleys serves him so well. He would not
have had the strength of hand or the steadiness
of posture, were it not for the work with
the oars and the constant necessity of standing
on a deck which was even more unsteady
than the swaying chariot. “All experience,”
says the author, “is useful.” This is especially
true for the writer. One can hardly
write a page without feeling how little one
knows; and if the great aim of knowledge
be to attain that consciousness, the writer
sooner attains it than other men.
Everything, from the pink tinge in a seashell
to the varying tints of an approaching
thunder-cloud, from an old farmer’s talk of
crops and weather to your lesson in geology
and astronomy, will help you. Do not
imagine that science and literature are opponents.
104For myself, I would not permit anybody
who did not know at least the rudiments
of botany and geology to begin the serious
study of literature. If Coleridge felt the
need of attending a series of geological lectures
late in life, in order to add to his power
of making new metaphors and similes, how
much greater is our necessity for adding to
our knowledge of the phenomena of nature,
that we may use our knowledge to the greater
glory of God! Literature is the reflection of
life, and literature ought to be the crystallization
of all knowledge.
You will doubtless find that what you most
need in the beginning is to know more about
words and about books. But this vacuum
can be filled by earnest thought and serious
application, system, and thoroughness. It
takes you a long time to play a mazurka of
Chopin’s well. It takes you a long time even
to learn compositions less important. A
young woman sits many months before a
piano before she learns to drag “Home,
Sweet Home!” through the eye of a needle;
and then to flatten out again con expressione;
105and then to chase it up to the last key until it
seems to be lost in a still, small protest; and
then to bring it to life and send it thundering
up and down, as if it were chased by
lightning. How easy it all seems, and how
delighted we are when our old friend, “Home,
Sweet Home!” appears again in its original
form! But there was a time when it was not
easy—a time when the counting of one and
two and three was not easy. So it is with
the art of writing. It is not easy in the beginning.
It may be easy to make grandiloquent
similes about “prairie-grass” and the
“eternal light which cheers,” etc.; but that
is just like beginning to play snatches of a
grand march before one knows the scales.
To begin to write well, one must cut off
all the useless leaves that obscure the fruit,
which is the thought, and keep the sun from
it. Figures should be used sparingly. One
metaphor that blazes at the climax of an
article after many pages of simplicity is
worth half a hundred scattered wherever
they happen to fall. It is a white diamond
as compared to a handful of garnets.
VI. Letter-writing.
106
There is no art so important in the conduct
of our modern life, after the art of
conversation, as the art of letter-writing. A
young man who shows a good education and
careful training in his letters puts his foot on
the first round of the ladder of success. If,
in addition to this, he can acquire early in
life the power of expressing himself easily
and gracefully, he can get what he wants in
eight cases out of ten. Very few people indeed
can resist a cleverly written letter.
In the old times, when there was no Civil
Service and Congressmen made their appointments
to West Point at their own sweet
will, an applicant’s fate was often decided by
his letters. There is a story told of Thaddeus
Stevens, a famous statesman of thirty
years ago, that he once rejected an applicant
for admission to the military school. This
applicant met him one day in a corridor of
107the Capitol and remonstrated violently.
“Your favoritism is marked, Mr. Stevens,”
he said; “you have blasted my career from
mere party prejudice.”
The legislator retorted, “I would not give
an appointment to any blasted fool who
spells ‘until’ with two ‘ll’s’ and ‘till’ with
one.” And the disappointed aspirant went
home to look into his dictionary.
Such trifles as this make the sum of life.
A man’s letter is to most educated people an
index of the man himself. His card is
looked on in the same light in polite society.
But a man’s letter is more important than
his visiting-card, though the character of the
latter cannot be altogether neglected.
It is better to be too exquisite in your
carefulness about your letters than in the
slightest degree careless. The art of letter-writing
comes from knowledge and constant
practice.
Your letters, now, ought to be careful works
of art. Intelligent—remember I say intelligent—care
is the basis of all perfection; and
perfection in small things means success in
108great. In our world the specialist, the man
who does at least one thing as well as he
can, is sure to succeed; and so overcrowded
are the avenues to success becoming that a
man to succeed must be a specialist and
know how to do at least one thing better than
his fellow-men.
If you happen to have a rich father, you
may say, “It does not make much difference;
I shall have an easy time of it all my
life. I can spell ‘applicant’ with two ‘c’s’
if I like and it will not make any difference.”
This is a very foolish idea. The richer
you are, the greater will be your responsibilities,
the more will you be criticised and
found fault with, and you will find it will
take all your ability to keep together or to
spend wisely what your father has acquired.
The late John Jacob Astor worked harder
than any of his clerks; in the street he
looked careworn and preoccupied; and he
often lamented that poor men did not know
how hard it was to be rich. His hearers
often felt that they would like to exchange
hardships with him. But he never, in spite
109of his sorrows, gave them a chance. It is
true, however, that a rich man needs careful
education even more than a poor man. And
even politicians have to spell decently. You
have perhaps heard of the man who announced
in a letter that he was a “g-r-a-t-e-r
man than Grant.”
Usage decrees certain forms in the writing
of letters; and the knowledge and practice
of these forms are absolutely necessary.
For instance, one must be very particular to
give each man his title. Although we Americans
are supposed to despise titles, the frequency
with which they are borrowed in this
country shows that we are not free from a
weakness for them. You have perhaps
heard the old story of the man who entered
a country tavern in Kentucky and
called out to a friend, “Major!” Twenty
majors at once arose.
You will find that if you desire to keep
the regard of your friends you must be careful
in letter-writing to give each man his title.
Every man over twenty-one years of age is
“Esquire” in this country. Plain “Mr.”
110will do for young people—except the youngest
“juniors,” who are only “Masters;”
everybody else, from the lawyer, who is
rightly entitled to “Esquire,” to the hod-carrier,
must have that title affixed to his
name, or he feels that the man who writes to
him is guilty of a disrespect. A member of
Congress, of the Senate of the United States,
of the State legislatures, has “Honorable”
prefixed to his Christian name, and he does
not like you to forget it. But a member of
the British Parliament is never called “Honorable.”
When Mr. Parnell and Mr. William
O’Brien, both members of Parliament, were
here, this rule was not observed, and they
found themselves titled, much to their amazement,
“Honorable.”
Except in business letters, it is better not
to abbreviate anything. Do not write “Jno.”
for “John,” or “Wm.” for “William.”
“Mister” is always shortened into “Mr.,”
and “Mistress” into “Mrs.,” which custom
pronounces “Missus.” If one is addressing
an archbishop, one writes, “The Most Reverend
Archbishop;” a bishop, “The Right
111Reverend;” and a priest, “The Reverend”—always
“The Reverend,” never “Rev.”
Titles such as “A.M.,” “B.A.,” “LL.D.,”
are not generally put on the envelopes of
letters, unless the business of the writer has
something to do with the scholarly position
of the person addressed. If, for instance, I
write to a Doctor of Laws and Letters, asking
him to dinner, I do not put LL.D. after his
name; but if I am asking him to tell me
something about Greek accents, or to solve
a question of literature, I, of course, write
his title after his name.
To put one’s knife into one’s mouth means
social exile; there is only one other infraction
of social rules considered more damning,
and this is the writing of an anonymous letter.
It is understood, in good society, that
a man who would write a letter which he is
afraid to sign with his own name would lie
or steal. And I believe he would. If he
happen to be found out—and there are no
secrets in this world—he will be cut dead by
every man and woman for whom he has any
respect. If he belong to a decent club, the
112club will drop him, and he will be blackballed
by every club he tries to enter. By the very
act of writing such a letter he brands himself
a coward. And if the letter be a malicious
one, he confesses himself in every line of it a
scoundrel. A man capable of such a thing
shows it in his face, above all in his eyes, for
nature cannot keep such a secret.
Another sin against good manners, which
young people sometimes thoughtlessly commit,
is the writing to people whom they do
not know. This is merely an impertinence;
it is not a crime; the persons that get such
letters simply look on the senders as fools,
not as cowards or scoundrels.
Usage at the present time decrees that all
social letters should be written on unruled
paper, and that, if possible, the envelope
should be square. An oblong envelope will
do, but a square one is considered to be the
better of the two; the paper should be folded
to fit under. The envelope and the paper
should always be as good as you can buy.
Money is never wasted on excellent paper
and envelopes. It is one of the marks of
113a gentleman to have his paper and envelopes
as spotless and well made as his collar and
cuffs.
A man ought never to use colored paper,
or paper with a monogram or a crest or coat-of-arms
on it. If you happen to have a coat-of-arms
or a crest, keep it at home; anybody
in this country who wants it can
get it. White paper and black ink should
be used by men; leave the flowers and the
monograms and the pink, blue, and black
paper to the ladies. It is just as much out
of place for one of us to write on pink paper
as to wear a bracelet.
Bad spelling is a social crime and a business
crime, too. No business house will
employ in any important position a young
man who spells badly. He may become a
porter or a janitor, but he can never rise
above that if he cannot spell.
In social letters or notes, one misspelled
word is like a discord in music. It is as if the
big drum were to come in at the wrong time
and spoil a cornet solo, or a careless stroke
ruin a fine regatta. When dictionaries are so
114numerous, bad spelling is unpardonable, and
it is seldom pardoned.
One of the worst possible breaches of good
manners is to write a careless letter to any
one to whom you owe affection and respect.
Nothing is too good for your father or mother—nothing
on this earth. When you begin
to think otherwise, you may be certain that
you are growing unworthy of affection and
respect.
There is a story told of one of the greatest
soldiers that this country ever knew, who,
though he happened to fight against us, deserves
our most respectful homage; this brave
soldier was the Confederate General Sidney
Johnston. A soldier had been arrested as a
traitor on the eve of a battle. The testimony
was against him; there was no time to sift
it, and General Johnston ordered him to be
shot before the assembled army. A comrade
who believed in him, but who had no evidence
in his favor, made a last appeal. When
the soldier was arrested, he had been in the
act of writing a letter to his father. He
begged this comrade to secure it and send it
115home, giving him permission to read it. The
comrade read it and took it to General Johnston.
It was an honest, loving letter such as
a good son would write to a kind father. It
was carefully written. General Johnston read
it, expecting to find some sign of treason
there. He read it twice; and then he said
to the comrade: “Why did you bring this
to me?”
“To show you, general,” the soldier answered,
“that a man who could write such a
letter to his father on the eve of battle could
not have the heart of a traitor.”
“You are right,” General Johnston said,
after a pause; “let the man be released.”
He was released, and later it was discovered
that he had been wrongly suspected.
He was killed in that battle. Such a son
would rather have died a hundred times than
have such a father know that he had been
shot or hanged as a traitor.
The letters we write home ought to be as
carefully written as possible. There is nothing
too good for your father or mother. They
may not always tell you so; but you may be
116sure that a well-written and affectionate letter
from you brightens life very much for
them. Have you ever seen a father who had
a boy at school draw from his pocket a son’s
letter and show it to his friends with eyes
glistening with pleasure? I have. “There’s
a boy for you!” he says. “There is a manly,
cheerful letter written to me, sir, and written
as well as any man in this country can
write it!” If you have ever seen a father in
that proud and happy mood, you know how
your father feels when you treat him with
the consideration which is his due. Your
mothers treasure your letters and give them
a value they do not, I am afraid, often really
possess. If you desire to appear well before
the world, begin by correcting and improving
yourself at school and out of school. A
young man who writes a slovenly letter to his
parents will probably drop into carelessness
when he writes formal letters to people outside
his domestic circle.
It is a good rule to answer every letter
during the week of its receipt. It is as rude
to refuse to answer a question politely put as
117to leave a letter without an answer—provided
the writer of the letter is a person you
know.
Some young people are capable of addressing
the President as “Dear Friend,” or of
doing what, according to a certain authority,
a young person did in Baltimore. This uncouth
young person was presented to Cardinal
Gibbons, Archbishop of Baltimore.
“Hello, Arch.!” he said—and I fear that his
friends who were present wished that he
were dead.
“Dear Sir” is always a proper form to begin
a letter with to anybody older than ourselves,
or to anybody we do not know intimately.
And if we begin by “Dear Sir,” we
should not end with “Yours most affectionately.”
“Yours respectfully” or “Yours
sincerely” would be the better form. To
end a letter with “Yours, etc.,” is justly considered
in the worst possible taste; and it is
almost as bad as to begin a letter with
“Friend Jones,” or “Friend Smith,” or
“Friend John,” or “Tom.” The Quakers
address one another as “friend;” we do not.
118Begin with “Dear John” or “Dear Tom,”
or even “Dear Jones” or “Dear Brown,”
if you like, but do not use the prefix “friend.”
In writing to an entire stranger, one may use
the third person, or begin with “Sir” or
“Madam.” Suppose, for instance, you want
some information from a librarian you do
not know personally. You may write in this
way:
“Mr. Berry would be much obliged to Mr. Bibliophile
for Dr. St. George Mivart’s book on ‘The
Cat,’ which he will return as soon as possible.”
Or Mr. Berry would say:
“Sir: I should be much obliged if you would lend
me Dr. St. George Mivart’s book on ‘The Cat.’
“Yours respectfully.”
No man in decent society ever puts “Mr.”
before his own name, except on visiting-cards.
There, usage has made it proper. A married
lady or a young girl always has “Mrs.” or
“Miss” on her cards, and, of late, men have
got into the habit of putting “Mr.” on theirs.
No man of taste ever puts “Mr.” before or
119“Esq.”[1] after his own name when signing a
letter.
1. The title Esq. really belongs only to those connected
with the legal profession, but republican usage has much
extended it.
Another fault against taste is a habit—prevalent
only in America—of writing social
letters under business headings. Here is an
example:
J. J. Robinson & Co.,
New York.
Manufacturers and Dealers in the Newest Styles
of Coffins, Caskets, and Embalming Fluids.
Orders carefully attended to.
All payments C.O.D.
No deductions for damages allowed after thirty days.
Under that heading appears a note of congratulation:
“Dear Tom: I hasten to congratulate you on
your marriage. Believe me, I wish you every blessing,
and if you should ever need anything in my
line, you will always receive the greatest possible
reduction in price. May you live long and prosper!
“Yours very affectionately,
“J. J. Robinson.”
This is an extreme example, I admit; but
who has not seen social notes written under
120business headings just as incongruous?
When we write to anybody not on business,
let us use spotless white paper without lines;
let the paper and envelopes be as thick as
possible; and let us not put any ornamental
flower, or crest, or coat-of-arms, or any bit
of nonsense at the top of our letters. The
address ought to be written plainly at the
head of our letter-paper, or printed if you
will. And if we begin a letter with “Dear
Sir,” we ought to write in the left-hand corner
of the last sheet the name of the person
to whom the letter is addressed. But if we
begin a letter with “Dear Mr. Robinson,” it
is not necessary to write Mr. Robinson’s name
again. If a man gets an invitation written
in the third person he must answer it in the
third person. If
“Mrs. J. J. Smith requests the pleasure of Mr.
J. J. Jones’s company at dinner on Wednesday, April
23, at seven o’clock,”
young Mr. J. J. Jones would stamp himself
as ignorant of the ways of society if he wrote
back:
121“Dear Mrs. Smith: I will come, of course. If
I am a little late, keep something on the fire for me.
I shall be umpire at a base-ball match that afternoon,
and I shall be hungry. Good-by.
“Yours devotedly,
“J. J. Jones.”
You may be sure that if young Mr. Jones
should put in an appearance after that note
he would find the door closed in his face.
An invitation to dinner must be accepted
or declined on the day it is received. One
is not permitted to say he will come if he
can. He must say Yes or No at once. The
words “polite,” “genteel,” and “present
compliments” are no longer used. “Your
kind invitation” now takes the place of
“your polite invitation;” and “genteel” is
out of date. The letters “R. S. V. P.” are
no longer put on notes or cards. It is
thought it is not necessary to tell, in French,
people to “answer, if you please.” All well-educated
people are pleased to answer without
being told to do so. The custom of putting
“R. S. V. P.” in a note is as much out
of fashion as that of drawing off a glove
122when one shakes hands. In the olden times,
when men wore armor, a hand clothed in a
steel or iron gauntlet was not pleasant to
touch. There was then a reason why a man
should draw off his glove when he extended
his hand to another, especially if that other
happened to be a lady. But the reason for
the custom has gone by; and it is not necessary
to draw off one’s glove now when one
shakes hands.
But to return to the subject of letter-writing.
If you are addressing a Doctor of
Medicine or Divinity, you may put “Esq.”
after his name in addition to his title “M.D.”
or “D.D.” but it is a senseless custom.
But “Mr.” and “Esq.” before and after a
man’s name sends the writer, in the estimation
of well-bred people, to “the bottom of
the sea.” Paper with gilt edges is never
used; in fact, a man must not have anything
about him that is merely pretty.
Usage decrees that he may wear a flower in
his button-hole—and Americans are becoming
as fond of flowers as the ancient Romans;
but farther than that he may not go, in the
123way of the merely ornamental, either in his
stationery or his clothes.
It is the fashion now to fasten envelopes
with wax and to use a seal; but it is not at
all necessary, though there are many who
prefer it, as they object to get a letter which
has been “licked” to make its edges stick.
Begin, in addressing a stranger, with
“Madam” or “Sir.” “Miss” by itself is
never used. After a second letter has been
received, “Dear Madam” or “Dear Sir” may
be used. Conclude all formal letters with
“Yours truly,” or “Sincerely yours,” not
“Affectionately yours.” Sign your full name
when writing to a friend or an equal. Do not
write “T. F. Robinson” or “T. T. Smith;”
write your name out as if you were not
ashamed of it.
Put your address at the head of your
letters, and if you make a blot, tear up the
paper. A dirty letter sent, even with an
apology, is as bad a breach of good manners
as the extending of a dirty hand. Answer
at once any letter in which information is
asked. Do not write to people you do not
124know or answer advertisements in the papers
“for fun.” A man that knows the world
never does this. These advertisements often
hide traps, and a man may get into them
merely by writing a letter. And the kind of
“fun” which ends in a man’s being pursued
by vulgar postal cards and letters wherever
he goes does not pay.
In writing a letter, do not begin too close
to the top of the page, or too far down
towards the middle. Do not abbreviate
when you can help it; you may write “Dr.”
for “Doctor.”
Do not put a yellow envelope over a sheet
of white note-paper. It is not necessary to
leave wide margin at the left-hand side.
A habit now is to write only on one side
of the paper; to begin your letter on the
first page, then to go to the third, then back
to the second, ending, if you have a great
deal to say, on the fourth. A late fad is to
jump from the first to the fourth.
With a good dictionary at his elbow, black
ink, white paper, a clear head, and a remembrance
of the rules and prohibitions I have
125given, any young man cannot fail, if he write,
to impress all who receive his letters with
the fact that he is well-bred.
VII. What to Read.
126
Young people who determine to study
English literature seriously sometimes
find themselves discouraged by the multitude
of books; consequently they get into an idle
way of accepting opinions at second hand—the
ready-made opinions of the text-book.
In order to study English literature, it is not
necessary to read many books; but it is
necessary to read a few books carefully. The
evident insincerity of some of the people
who “go in” for literary culture has given
the humorous paragrapher, often on the verge
of paresis from trying to be funny every day,
many a straw to grasp at. There is no
doubt that some of his gibes and sneers are
deserved, and that others, undeserved, serve
as cheap stock in trade for people who are too
idle or too stupid to take any interest in
literary matters.
Literary insincerity and pretension are sufficiently
127bad, but they are not worse than the
superficial and silly jeers at poetry and art
in the line of the worn-out witticisms about
the “spring poet” and the “mother-in-law.”
The young woman who thinks it the proper
thing to go into ecstasies over Robert
Browning without having read a line of the
poet’s work, except, perhaps, “How They
Carried the News from Ghent to Aix,” is
foolish enough; but is the man who sneers
at Browning and knows even less about him
any better? The earnest student of literature
makes no pretensions. He reads a few
books well, and by that obtains the key to
the understanding of all others. He does
not pretend to admire epics he has not read.
He knows, of course, that the Nibelungenlied
is the great German epic; but he does not
talk about it as if he had studied and weighed
every line. If he finds that the Inferno of
Dante is more interesting than the Paradiso,
he says so without fear, and he does not express
ready-made opinions without having
probed them. If the perfection of good
128manners is simplicity, the perfection of literary
culture is sincerity.
Among Catholics there sometimes crops
out a kind of insincerity which almost amounts
to snobbishness. It is the tendency to praise
no book until it has had a non-Catholic approbation.
Now that Dr. Gasquet’s remarkable
volume on the suppression of the English
monasteries and Father Bridgett’s “Sir
Thomas More” have received the highest
praise in England and swept Mr. Froude’s
historical rubbish aside, there are Catholics
who will not hesitate to respect them, although
they did hesitate before the popular
laudation was given to these two great
books.
When a reader has begun to acquire the
rudiments of literary taste, he ought to choose
the books he likes; but he cannot be trusted
to choose books for himself until he has—perhaps
with some labor—gained taste. All
men are born with taste very unequally developed.
A man cannot, I repeat, hope to
gain a correct judgment in literary matters
unless he works for it.
129Mr. Frederick Harrison says: “When will
men understand that the reading of great
books is a faculty to be acquired, not a natural
gift, at least to those who are spoiled
by our current education and habits of life?
An insatiable appetite for new novels makes
it as hard to read a masterpiece as it seems
to a Parisian boulevardier to live in a quiet
country. Until a man can really enjoy a
draught of clear water bubbling from a mountain-side,
his taste is in an unwholesome state.
To understand a great national poet, such as
Dante, Calderon, Corneille, or Goethe, is to
know other types of human civilization in
ways which a library of histories does not
sufficiently teach.”
Mr. Harrison is right. It is not always
easy to like good books; but it is easier to
train the young to like them than to cleanse
the perverted taste of the older. The chief
business of the teacher of literature ought to
be the cultivation of taste. At his best, he
can do no more than that; at his worst, he
can fill the head of the student with mere
names and dates and undigested opinions.
130When the student of literature begins really
to enjoy Shakspere, his taste has begun to be
formed. He may read the “Vicar of Wakefield”
after that without a yawn, and learn to
enjoy the quiet humor of Charles Lamb. He
finds himself raised into pure air, above the
malaria of exaggeration and sensationalism.
His style in writing insensibly improves; he
becomes critical of the slang and careless
English of his every-day speech; and surely
these things are worth all the trouble spent
in gaining them. Besides, he has secured
a perpetual solace for those long nights—and
perhaps days—of loneliness which must
come to nearly every man when he begins to
grow old. After religion, there is no comfort
in life, when the links of love begin to
break, like a love for great literature. But
this love must be genuine; pretence will not
avail; nor will mere “top-dressing” be of
any use.
Literature used to be considered in the
light of a “polite accomplishment.” A book
of “elegant extracts” skimmed through was
the only means deemed necessary for the
131acquirement of an education in letters. It
means a very different thing now, and the
establishment of the reading circles has
emphasized its meaning for Catholic Americans.
It means, first of all, some knowledge
of philology; it means a critical understanding
of the value of the stones that make up
the great mosaic of literature, and these
stones are words.
A bit of Addison, a chunk of Gibbon, a
taste of Macaulay, no longer reach the ideal
of what a student of English literature should
read. We first form our taste, and then read
for ourselves. We do not even accept Cardinal
Newman’s estimate of “The Vision of
Mirza” or “Thalaba” without inquiry; nor
do we throw up our hats for Browning merely
because Browning has become fashionable.
A healthy sign of a robuster taste is the return
to Pope, the poet of common-sense,
and to Walter Scott. But we accept neither
of these writers on a cut-and-dried judgment
made by somebody else. It is better to give
two months to the reading of Pope and about
Pope than to fill two months with desultory
132reading and take an opinion of Pope at
second hand.
In spite of the ordinary text-book of literature,
the serious student discovers that
Dryden is a poet and prose-writer of the first
rank, that Newman is the greatest thinker
and stylist of modern times, that no dramatic
writer of the last two centuries has come so
near Shakspere as Aubrey de Vere, and
that Coventry Patmore’s prose is delightful.
If all the students of literature that read “A
Gentleman” have not discovered these
things for themselves, let them take up any
one of these writers seriously, perseveringly,
and contradict me if they think I am wrong.
Matthew Arnold showed long ago that, if
the basis of English literature was Saxon, its
curves, its form, its symmetry, its beauty,
were derived from the qualities of that other
race which the Saxons drove out. Similarly,
if the author of that Saxon epic, the “Beowulf,”
if Cædmon and the Venerable Bede
uttered high thoughts, it was reserved for
Chaucer to wed high thoughts to a form borrowed
from the French and Italians. Chaucer
133saved the English language from remaining
a collection of inadequate dialects. The
Teutonic element supplied his strength; the
Celtic element his lightness and elegance.
Now this Chaucer was a very humble and
devout Catholic. “Ah! but he pointed out
abuses—he was the Lollard, enlightened by
the morning-star of the Reformation,” the
text-books of English literature have been
saying for many years. “See what he insinuates
about the levity of his pilgrims to
Canterbury!” All of which has nothing
to do with his firm faith in the Catholic
Church.
Chaucer was inspired by the intensely
Christian Dante and the exquisite Petrarch,
but, unfortunately, he took too much from
another master-the greatest master of
Italian prose, Boccaccio. When I use the
word Christian, I mean Catholic—the words
are interchangeable; and Dante is the most
Christian of all poets.
But Boccaccio was a Christian; he had
faith; he could be serious; he loved Dante;
his collection of stories, which no man is justified
134in reading, unless it is for their Italian
style, has attracted every English poet of
narrative verse, from Chaucer to Tennyson;
and yet, though these stories have moments
of pathos and elevation, they are full of the
fetid breath of paganism. A pope suppressed
them; but their style saved them—for
art was a passion in Italy—and they were
revived, somewhat expurgated. In his old
age he lamented the effects of his early book.
The occasional coarseness in Chaucer we
owe to the manners of the times; for the
English, far behind the Italians, were just
awakening from semi-barbarism. Dante had
crystallized the Italian language long before
Chaucer was born. Italy had produced the
precursor of Dante, St. Francis of Assisi,
and a host of other great men, whose fame
that of St. Francis and Dante dimmed by
comparison, long before the magnificent English
language came out of chaos. The few
lapses in morality in Chaucer are due both to
the influence of Boccaccio and to the paganism
latent in a people who were gradually
becoming fully converted. But the power of
135Christianity protected Chaucer; the teaching
of the Church was part of his very life, and
nothing could be more pathetic, more honest
than his plea for pardon. The Church had
taught him to love chastity; if he sinned in
word, he sinned against light. The Church
gave him the safeguards for his genius; the
dross he gathered from the earthiness around
him. Of the latter, there is little enough.
Chaucer was born in 1340; Dante in 1265;
and Dante helped to create the English
poet. Italy was the home of the greatest
and noblest men of all the world, and these
men had revived pagan art in order to baptize
it and make it a child of Christ. Chaucer
has suffered more than any other poet at the
hands of the text-book makers, who have
conspired for over three hundred years
against the truth. We have been made to
see him through a false medium. We have
been told that he was in revolt against the
religion which he loved as his life. He loved
the Mother of God with a childlike fervor;
a modern Presbyterian would have been as
much of a heretic to him as a Moslem; he
136was as loyal a child of the Church as ever
lived, and to regard him as anything else is
to stamp one as of that old and ignorant
school of Philistines which all cultivated
Americans have learned to detest.
The best book for the study of this poet
is Cowden Clarke’s “Riches of Chaucer”
(London: Crosby, Lockwood & Co.), the
knowledge of which I owe to the kindness of
Mr. Aubrey de Vere. And his works will
repay study; Mr. Cowden Clarke arranged
them so that they can be read with ease and,
after a short time, with pleasure. To see
Chaucer through anybody’s eyes is to see
him through a darkened glass. Why should
not we, so much nearer to him than any of the
commentators who have assumed to explain
him to us, take possession of him? He should
not be an alien to us; the form of the inkhorn
he held has changed; but the rosary
that fell from his fingers was the same as our
rosary.
English literature began with Chaucer.
He loved God and he loved humanity; he
could laugh like a child because he had the
137faith of a child. His strength lay in his
faith; and, as faith weakened, English poets
looked back more and more regretfully at the
“merrie” meads sprinkled with the daisies
he loved. He is as cheerful as Sir Thomas
More; as gay, yet as sympathetic with human
pleasure and pain, as the Dominican monks
whom he loved. If he jibed at abuses—if
he saw that luxury and avarice were beginning
to creep into monasteries and palaces—he
knew well that the remedy lay in greater
union with Rome. Like Francis of Assisi,
he was a poet, but a poet who loved even
the defects of humanity, and who preferred
to laugh at them rather than to reform them.
Unlike Francis of Assisi, he was not a saint.
He was intensely interested in the world
around him; he was of it and in it; and he
belongs doubly to us—the Alma Redemptoris,
one of his favorite hymns, which he mentions
in “Tale of the Prioress,” we hear at
vespers as he heard it. The faith in which
he died in 1400 is our faith to-day.
In no age have been the written masterpieces
of genius within such easy reach of all
138readers. But it is true that older people,
living at a time when books were dearer and
libraries fewer than they are now, read better
books; not more books, but better books.
Probably in those days people amused themselves
less outside their own homes. Some
tell us that the tone of thought was more
solid and serious. At any rate, the English
classics had more influence on the American
reader fifty years ago than they have to-day.
The time had its drawbacks, to be
sure. An old gentleman often told me of a
visit to a Pennsylvania farm in the thirties,
when the man of the house gave him, as
a precious thing, a copy of The Catholic
Herald two years old! Now the paper of
yesterday seems almost a century old; then
the paper of last year was new.
Unhappily, the book of last year suffers
the same fate as the paper of yesterday.
The best way to counteract this unhappy
condition of affairs is to clasp a good book
to one with “hoops of steel” when such a
book is found.
In considering the subject of literature,
139there is one great book which is seldom mentioned.
This is Denis Florence MacCarthy’s
translations from Calderon.
Calderon ought not to be a stranger to us.
He approaches very near to Dante in deep
religious feeling, and he is not far behind
him in genius. If no good translation of
some of his most representative works existed,
there might be an excuse for the general
neglect of this great author by English-speaking
readers. And MacCarthy has done
justice to those sublime, sacred dramas,
called “autos,” in which all the resources of
faith and genius are laid at the feet of God.
It is to be hoped that in a few years both
MacCarthy and Mangan may be recognized.
Those who know the former only by his
“Waiting for the May” will broaden their
field of literary knowledge and gain a higher
respect for him through his translations of
Calderon. The names of Calderon, the greatest
of the Spanish poets, and of MacCarthy,
his chief translator, suggest that of another
author too little known to the general reader.
This is Kenelm Henry Digby, whose “Mores
140Catholici” is a magazine of ammunition for
the Christian reader.
There is an amusing scene in one of
Thackeray’s novels, where a journalist acknowledges
that he finds all the classical
quotations which garnish his articles in Burton’s
“Anatomy of Melancholy;” and, indeed,
many other things besides bits of
Latin have been appropriated from Burton
and Montaigne, in our time, by ready writers.
Many a sparkling thought put into the crisp
English of the nineteenth century may be
traced back to Boethius. And who shall condemn
this? Has not Shakspere set us an
example of how gold, half buried in ore, may
be polished until it is an inestimable jewel?
Kenelm Digby’s “Mores Catholici” is a
great magazine from which a thousand facts
may be gathered, each fact pregnant with
suggestion and stimulus. Sharp-pointed arrows
against calumny are here: all they
need is a light shaft and feather and a strong
hand to send them home. Is an illustration
for a sermon wanted? Is a fact on
which to found an essay demanded? One
141has only to open the “Mores.” It is not a
book which one reads with intense interest;
one cannot gallop through the three large
volumes—one must walk, laboriously stowing
away every treasure. It is, in fact, a book
through which one saunters, picking something
at long intervals, perhaps. You may
dip into it, as a boy dives for a cent, and come
up with a pearl-oyster in your hand. It is
a book to be kept on the lowest shelf, within
reach at all times; at any rate, to be one of
the books to which you go when you are in
search of a fact or an illustration.
One of the few sonnets written by Denis
Florence MacCarthy was addressed to Digby.
Digby had painted a picture of Calderon and
sent it to the Irish poet; hence the sonnet—
“Thou who hast left, as in a sacred shrine,—
What shrine more pure than thy unspotted page?—
The priceless relics of a heritage
Of loftiest thoughts and lessons most divine.”
And so the names of Calderon and
MacCarthy and Digby come naturally together;
and they are the names of men each
142great in his way. They are not found in the
newspapers; they are seldom seen in the
great magazines; those societies of the cultivated
which are—thank Heaven!—multiplying
everywhere for the better understanding
of books know very little about them. Let
us hope that Miss Imogene Guiney, who
wrote so well of Mangan in one of the
numbers of the Atlantic Monthly, will do a
similar kind office for MacCarthy.
As to Calderon, he can be read but in
parts. Like Milton, he travelled over many
a barren stretch of prose thinking it poetry;
and so we will be wise to follow MacCarthy’s
lead in choosing from his dramas. He is so
little known among us for the reason that we
have permitted the English taste—which
became Protestantized—to separate us from
him. It is to the German Goethe that we
owe the revival of the taste for Dante. Before
Goethe rediscovered him, the English-speaking
people of the world held that there
were only two great poets—Shakspere and
Milton.
To reclaim our heritage, we must know
143something of Calderon. There is no reason
why our horizon should be limited to that
which English Protestantism has uncovered
for us. Calderon represents the literature of
Catholic Spain at its highest point; and even
the most narrow-minded man, having read a
fair number of the pages of Calderon, can
deny neither his ardent devotion to the
Church nor his high genius, nor can he disprove
that they existed together, free and
untrammelled. We have been told that the
outbreak of literary genius in the reign of
Elizabeth was but the outcome of the liberty
of the Reformation. How did it happen that
Spain, in which there was no Reformation,
produced Columbus, Calderon, Cervantes,
and Italy illustrious names by the legion?
Knowledge, after all, is the only antidote to
the miasma of ignorance and arrogance which
has clouded the judgment of so many writers
on literature and art.
VIII. The Home Book-shelf.
144
It ought not to be so much our practice to
denounce bad books as to point out
good ones. To say that a book is immoral
is to increase its sale. But the more good
books we put into the hands of our boys, the
greater preservative powers we give them
against evil. Here is a bit from the Kansas
City Star which expresses tersely what we
have all been thinking:
“The truth is that it is not the boys who read
‘bad books’ who swell the roll of youthful criminality;
it is the boys who do not read anything. Let
any one look over the police court of a busy morning,
and he will see that the style of youth gathered
there have not fallen into evil ways through
their depraved literary tendencies. They were not
brought there by books, but more probably by ignorance
of books combined with a genuine hatred of
books of all kinds. There is not a more perfect
picture of innocence in the world than a boy buried
in his favorite book, oblivious to all earthly sights
145and sounds, scarcely breathing as he follows the
fortunes of the heroes and heroines of the story.”
It depends, of course, on what kind of a
story it is. A boy may be a picture of innocence;
but we all know that many a canvas
on which is a picture of innocence is much
worm-eaten at the back. If the book be a
good one, a boy is safe while he is reading
it—he can be no safer. If it is a mere story
of adventure, without any dangerous sentiment,
a boy is not likely to get harm out of
it. It is the sentimental—not the honest
sentiment of Sir Walter or Thackeray—that
does harm to the boy of a certain age, but
more harm to the girl. A boy’s preoccupation
with his book may not be always innocent.
It is a father’s or mother’s duty to
see that it is innocent, by supplying the boy
with the right kind of books. This, in our
atmosphere, is almost as much of a duty as
the supplying him with bread and butter. A
father may take the lowest view of his duties;
he maybe content with having his son taught
the Little Catechism and with feeding and
clothing him. However sufficient this may
146be among the peasants of the Tyrol, it does
not answer in our country. The boy who
cares to read nothing except the daily paper
or the theatrical poster has more chances
against him than the devourer of books.
The police courts show that.
The parish library, as a help to religious
and moral education, comes next to the parish
school; it supplements it; it amplifies its instruction:
it carries its influence deeper; it
cultivates both the logical powers and the imagination.
Give a boy a taste for books, and
he has a consolation which neither sickness
nor poverty nor age itself can take from him.
But he must not be left to ramble through
a library at his own sweet will. There are
probably no stricter Catholics among our acquaintance
than were the parents of Alexander
Pope, the “poet of common-sense” and
bad philosophy; and yet their carelessness,
or rather faith in books merely as books, led
him into many an ethical error.
There is no use in trying to restrict the
reading of a clever American boy to professedly
Catholic books in the English language.
147He will ask for stories, and there are
not enough stories of the right sort to last
him very long. He will want stories with
plenty of action in them—stirring stories,
stories of adventure, stories of school life, of
life in his own country; and we have too few
of them. And it requires some discrimination
to square his wants with what he ought
to want. But that discrimination must be
used by somebody, or there will be danger.
Nevertheless, the boy who rushes through
Oliver Optic’s stories, and Henty’s and Bolderwood’s,
is not likely to be injured. They
are not ideal books, from our point of view.
He may even read Charles Kingsley’s boisterous,
stupid stuff; but if he is a well-instructed
boy, he will be in a state of hot
indignation all through “Hypatia” and the
other underdone-roast-beefy things of that
bigot. Kingsley, with all his prejudice,
though, is better for a boy than Rider
Haggard. There is a nasty trail over Haggard’s
stories.
There is some comfort in the fact that the
average boy is too eagerly intent on his story
148to mind the moralizing. What does he care
for Lord Lytton’s talk about the Good, the
True, and the Beautiful in “The Last Days
of Pompeii”? He wants to know how everything
“turns out.” And in Kingsley’s
“Hypatia”—which is so often in Catholic
libraries—he pays very little attention to the
historical lies, for the sake of the action.
Nevertheless, he should be guarded against
the historical lies. Personally—I hope this
intrusion of the ego will be forgiven—I had,
when I was a boy and waded through all
sorts of books, so strong a conviction that
Catholics were always right and every one else
wrong, that “Hypatia” and Bulwer’s “Harold”
and the rest were mere incentives to
zeal; I thought that if the Lady Abbess
walled up Constance at the end of “Marmion,”
that young person deserved her fate.
This state of mind, however, ought not to
be generally cultivated; a discriminating taste
for reading should. Do not let us cry out so
loudly about bad books; let us seek out the
good ones; and remember that it is not the
reading boy that fills the criminal ranks, but
149the boy that lives in the streets and does not
read.
There should be a few books on the
family shelf—books which are meant to be
daily companions—the Bible, the “Imitation
of Christ,” something of Father Faber’s,
“Fabiola” and “Dion and the Sibyls,” and
some great novels.
People of to-day do not realize how much
the greatest of all the romancers owes to the
Catholic Dryden. Sir Walter Scott, in spite
of frequent change in public taste, still holds
his own. Cardinal Newman, in one of his
letters, regrets that young people have ceased
to be interested in so admirable a writer.
But there is only partial reason for this regret.
Sir Walter’s long introductions and some of
his elaborate descriptions of natural scenery
are no longer read with interest. Still, it is
evident that people do not care to have his
works changed in any way. Not long ago,
Miss Braddon, the indefatigable novelist,
“edited” Sir Walter Scott’s novels. She
cut out all those passages which seemed
dull to her. But the public refused to
150read the improved edition. It remained
unsold.
It is safe to predict that neither Sir Walter
Scott nor Miss Austen will ever go entirely
out of fashion. Sir Walter’s muse is to Miss
Austen’s as the Queen of Sheba to a very
prim modern gentlewoman: one is attired in
splendid apparel, wreathed with jewels,
sparkling; the other is neutral-tinted, timid,
shy. But of all novelists, Sir Walter Scott
admired Miss Edgeworth and Miss Austen.
He said, with almost a sigh of regret, that
he could do the big “bow-wow” business,
but that they pictured real life.
Nevertheless, while Miss Austen is not
forgotten—in fact, interest has increased in
her delightful books of late years—Sir
Walter Scott’s novels are found everywhere.
Not to have read the most notable of the
Waverley Novels is to give one’s acquaintances
just reason for lamenting one’s illiberal
education.
The name of Sir Walter Scott naturally
suggests that of Dryden, from whom the
“Wizard” borrowed some of the best things
151in “Ivanhoe”—and “Ivanhoe” is without
doubt the most popular of Sir Walter Scott’s
novels. That picturesque humbug Macaulay,
who could sacrifice anything for a brilliant
antithesis, has done much harm to the reputation
of Dryden. He gives us the impression
that Dryden was a mere timeserver, if a
brilliant satirist and a third-rate poet. Some
years will pass before the superficial criticism
of Macaulay shall be taken at its full value.
Dryden was honest—honest in his changes
of opinion, and entirely consistent in his
change of faith. No church but that of his
ancestors could have satisfied the mind of a
man to whom the mutilated doctrine and
bald services of the Anglican sect were naturally
obnoxious. Of the charge that Dryden
changed his religious opinions for gain, Mr.
John Amphlett Evans, a sympathetic critic,
says that, if Dryden gained the approval of
King James II., he lost that of the English
people. Dryden understood this, for he
wrote:
“If joys hereafter must be purchased here
With loss of all that mortals hold so dear,
152Then welcome infamy and public shame,
And last, a long farewell to worldly fame.”
If Scott, through ignorance or carelessness,
misrepresented certain Catholic practices, he
never consciously misrepresented Catholic
ideas; and, as a recent writer in the Dublin
Review remarks, he showed that all that was
best and heroic in the Middle Ages was the
result of Catholic teaching. This was his
attraction for Cardinal Newman. This made
him so fascinating to another convert, James
A. McMaster, who had an inherited Calvinistic
horror of most other novels. Scott,
robust and broad-minded as he was, could
understand the mighty genius and the great
heart of Dryden. He was the ablest defender
of the poet who abjured the licentiousness
of the Restoration—mirrored in his earlier
dramas—to adopt a purer mode of thought.
Although Dryden was really Scott’s master
in art, Sir Walter did not fully understand
how very great was Dryden’s poem, “Almanzor
and Almahide.” If Tasso’s “Jerusalem
Delivered,” or Ariosto’s “Orlando
Furioso,” or Milton’s “Paradise Regained,”
153or Fénelon’s “Telemachus” is an epic, this
splendid poem of Dryden’s is an epic, and
greater than them all. It is from this poem,
founded on episodes of the siege of Granada,
that Sir Walter Scott borrows so liberally in
“Ivanhoe.”
One cannot altogether pardon the greatest
fault of all Sir Walter made, the punishment
of Constance in “Marmion.” But his
theory of artistic effect was something like
Macaulay’s idea of rhetorical effect. If
picturesqueness or dramatic effect interfered
with historical truth, the latter suffered the
necessary carving to make it fit. It must be
remembered, too, that Sir Walter Scott was
not in a position to profit by modern discoveries
which have forced all honorable
men to revise many pages of the falsified
histories of their youth and to do justice to
the spirit of the Church.
Sir Walter Scott is always chivalrous and
pure-minded. How he would have detested
Froude’s brutal characterization of Mary
Stuart, or Swinburne’s vile travesty of her!
If his friars are more jolly than respectable,
154it is because he drew his pictures from popular
ballads and old stories never intended in
Catholic times to be taken as serious or
typical. His Templars are horrible villains,
but he never seems to regard them as villanous
because they are ecclesiastics; he does
not intend to drag their priesthood into disgrace;
they are lawless and romantic figures,
loaded with horrible accusations by Philippe
le Bel, and condemned by the Pope—ready-made
romantic scoundrels fit for purposes of
fiction. He does not look beyond this.
Scott shows much of the nobility of Dryden’s
later work. He does not confuse good
with evil; he is always tender of good sentiments;
he hates vice and all meanness; in
depicting so many fine characters who could
only have bloomed in a Catholic atmosphere,
he shows a sympathy for the “old Church”
at once pathetic and admirable to a Catholic.
There is no novel of his in which the influence
of the Church is not alluded to in some
way or other. And how delightful are his
heroines when they are Catholic! How
charmingly he has drawn Mary Stuart!
155And the man that does not love Di Vernon
and Catherine Seton has no heart for Beatrice
or Portia. And then there is the grand
figure of Edward Glendenning in “The
Abbot.”
Dryden and Scott both owed so much to
the Church, were so naturally her children,
that one feels no ordinary satisfaction in the
conversion of the one, and some consolation
in the fact that the last words of the other
were those of the “Dies Irae.”
Brownson and Newman are two authors
more talked about than read in this country.
In England Newman’s most careful literary
work is known; Brownson’s work has only
begun to receive attention. Newman has
gained much by being talked and written
about by men who love the form of things as
much as the matter, and who, if Newman
had taught Buddhism or Schopenhauerism,
would admire him just as much. As there
is a large class of these men, and as they help
to form public opinion, it has come to pass
that he who would deny Newman’s mastery
of style would be smiled at in any assembly
156of men of letters. Brownson has not had
such an advantage. He gave his attention
thoroughly to the matter in hand; style was
with him a secondary consideration. Besides,
he wrote from the American point of view,
and sometimes—at least it would seem so—under
pressure from the printer. Newman
was never hurried; Horace was not more
leisurely, Cicero more exact. It would be
absurd to compare Newman and Brownson.
I simply put their names together to show
that they should be read, even if other
writers must be neglected, by Catholic Americans.
I take the liberty of recommending
three books as valuable additions to the
home shelf:—Brownson’s “Views,” and the
“Characteristics” of Wiseman and Newman.
Every young American who wants to understand
the political position of his country
among the nations should read three books—Brownson’s
“American Republic,” De
Tocqueville’s “Democracy in America,” and
Bryce’s “American Commonwealth.” But
of these three writers the greatest—incomparably
the greatest—is Brownson: he defines
157principles; he clarifies them until they
are luminous; he shows the application of
them to a new condition of things. There
have been Catholics—why disguise the fact,
since they are nearly all dead or imbecile?—who
fancied that our form of government was
merely tolerated by the Church. Brownson
gave a death-blow to those ancient dragons
of unbelief. Certain parts of this great
work ought to be a text-book in every school
in the country. And it will now be easier
to build a monument to this profound thinker,
as there is a well-considered attempt to
popularize such portions of his books as must
catch the general attention, for there are
many pages in Brownson’s works which are
hidden only because they suffered in their
original method of publication.
Open a volume of his works at random,
and you will find something to suggest or
stimulate thought, to define a term or to
fortify a principle. Read, for instance, those
pages of his on the Catholic American literature
of his time and you will have a standard
of judgment for all time. And who to-day
158can say what he says as well as he said
it? As to those parts of his philosophy
about which the doctors disagree, let us leave
that to the doctors. It does not concern the
general public, and indeed it might be left
out of consideration with advantage.
Brownson’s works are mines of thought.
In them lie the germs of mighty sermons, of
great books to come. Already he is a classic
in American literature, and there is every
reason why he should be a classic, since he
was first in an untilled ground; and yet it is
a sad thing to find that of all the magnificent
material Brownson has left, the “Spirit
Rapper,” that comparatively least worthy
product of his pen, seems to be the best
known to the general reader.
If one of us would confine himself to the
reading of four authors in English—Shakspere,
Newman, Webster, and Brownson—he
could not fail to be well educated. The
“Idea of a University” of Newman is a
pregnant book. It goes to the root of the
subtlest matters; its clearness enters our
minds and makes the shadows flee. It cannot
159be made our own at one reading. There
are passages which should be read over and
over again—notably that on literature and
the definition of a classic. If any man could
make us grasp the intangible, Newman
could. How sentimental and thin Emerson
appears after him! Professor Cook, of Yale,
has done the world a good turn by giving
us the chapter on “Poetry and the Poetics
of Aristotle” in a little pamphlet; and John
Lilly’s “Characteristics” is a very valuable
book. Any reader or active man who dips
into the chapter on the “Poetics” will long
for more; and, if he does, the “Characteristics”
will not slake his thirst; he will desire
the volumes themselves and drink in new
refreshments with every page.
I have known a young admirer of “Lead,
Kindly Light”—which, by the way, has only
three stanzas of its own—to be repelled by
the learned title of “Apologia Pro Vita Sua,”
but, in search of the circumstances that helped
to produce it, to turn to certain pages in this
presumably uninteresting work. The charm
began to work; Newman was no longer a
160pedant to be avoided, but a friend to be ever
near.
“Callista” amounts to very little as a
novel; it is valuable because Newman studied
its color from authentic sources. But “The
Dream of Gerontius” is only beginning in
our country to receive the attention due to
it. It was a text-book in classes at Oxford
long before people here touched it at all,
except in rare instances. It is a unique
poem. There is nothing like it in all literature.
It is the record of the experience of
a soul during the instant it is liberated from
the body. It touches the sublime; it is
colorless—if a pure white light can be said
to be colorless. It is the work of a great
logician impelled to utter his thoughts
through the most fitting medium, and this
medium he finds to be verse. In Dante the
symbols of earthly things represent to us the
mystic life of the other world. Dante Gabriel
Rossetti, chief of the Pre-Raphaelites, imitated
the outer shell of the great Dante—the
sensuous shell—but he got no further.
Newman soars above, beyond earth; we are
161made to realize with awful force that the
soul at death is at once divorced from the
body. Dante does not make us feel this.
The people that Virgil and he meet are not
spirits, but men and women with bodies and
souls in torment. No painter on earth could
put “The Dream of Gerontius” into line
and color. Flaxman, so exquisite in his interpretation
of Dante, would seem vulgar,
and Doré brutal. None of us should lack a
knowledge of this truly wonderful poem,
which must be studied, not read. Philosophy
and theology have found no flaws in it;
humanity may shiver in the whiteness of its
light, and yet be consoled by the fact that
the comfort it offers is not merely imaginative,
or sentimental, or beautiful, but real.
It is impossible to suppress the love of the
beautiful in human nature. The early New
Englanders, to whom beauty was an offence
and art and literature condemned things—who
worshipped a God of their own invention,
clothed in sulphurous clouds and holding
victims over eternal fire, ready, with the
ghastly pleasure described by their divines,
162to drop these victims into the flame—were
not Christians. Christians have never accepted
the Grecian dictum that earthly
beauty is the good and that to be æsthetic
is to be moral; but Christianity has always
encouraged the love of beauty and led the
way to its use in the worship of God.
Among Americans, Longfellow had a most
devout love of the beautiful. And it was
this love of beauty that drew him near to
the Church. That eloquent writer Ruskin
has little sympathy with men who are
drawn towards the Church by the beauty
she enshrines, and he constantly protests
against the enticements of a Spouse the hem
of whose garment he kisses. Still, judging
from his ill-natured diatribe against Pugin,
in the “Stones of Venice,” he had no understanding
of the sentiment that caused
Longfellow, when in search of inspiration,
to turn to the Church.
Longfellow’s love of the melodious, of the
beautiful, of the symmetrical, led him into
defects. He could not endure a discord,
and his motto was “Non clamor, sed amor,”
163which, as coming from him, may be paraphrased
in one word, “serenity.” His superabundant
similes show how he longed to
carry one thing into another thing of even
greater beauty, and how this longing sometimes
leads him to faults of taste.
But this lover of beauty—led by it to the
very beauty of Ruskin’s Circe and his forefathers’
“Scarlet Woman”—came of a race
that hated beauty. And yet he stretched
out through the rocky soil of Puritan traditions
and training until we find him translating
the sermon of St. Francis of Assisi to
the birds into English verse, and working
lovingly at the most Christian of all poems,
the “Divine Comedy.” It was he—this descendant
of the Puritans—who described, as
no other poet ever described, the innocence
of the young girl coming from confession.
But it was his love of beauty and his love
of purity that made him do this. In Longfellow’s
eyes only the pure was beautiful.
A canker in the rose made the rose hateful
to him. He was unlike his classmate and
friend Hawthorne: the stain on the lily did
164not make it more interesting. His love of
purity was, however, like his hatred of noise,
a sentiment rather than a conviction.
The love for the beautiful leads to Rome.
Ruskin fights against it, Longfellow yields to
it, and even Whittier—whose lack of culture
and whose traditions held him doubly
back—is drawn to the beauty of the saints.
As culture in America broadens and deepens,
respect for the things that Protestantism
cast out increases. James Russell Lowell’s
paper on Dante, in “Among My Books,” is
an example of this. The comprehension he
shows of the divine poet is amazing in a son
of the Puritans. But the human mind and
the human heart will struggle towards the
light.
Longfellow was too great an artist to try
to lop off such Catholic traditions as might
displease his readers. In this he was greater
than Sir Walter Scott, and a hundred times
greater than Spenser. Scott’s mind, bending
as a healthy tree bends to the light, stretched
towards the old Church. She fascinated his
imagination, she drew his thoughts, and her
165beauty won his heart; but he was afraid of
the English people. And yet, subservient
as Scott was, Cardinal Newman avows that
Sir Walter’s novels drew him towards the
Church; and there is a letter written by the
great cardinal in which he laments that the
youth of the nineteenth century no longer
read the novels of the “Wizard of the North.”
Scott cannot get rid of the charm the Church
throws about him. He was not classical, he
was romantic. He soon tired of mere form,
as any healthy mind will. The reticent and
limited beauty of the Greek temple made
him yawn; but he was never weary of the
Gothic church, with its surprises, its splendor,
its glow, its statues, its gargoyles—all its
reproductions of the life of the world in its
relations to God.
Similarly, Longfellow was not a classicist.
The coldness of Greek beauty did not appeal
to him; he could understand and love the
pictures of Giotto—the artist of St. Francis—better
than the “Dying Gladiator.” When
Christianity had given life to the perfect
form of Greek art, then Longfellow understood
166and loved it. And he trusted the
American people sufficiently not to attempt
to placate them by concealing or distorting
the source of his inspiration. No casual
reader of “Evangeline” can mistake the
cause of the primitive virtues of the Acadians.
A lesser artist would have introduced the
typical Jesuit of the romancers, or hinted that
a King James’s Bible read by Gabriel and
Evangeline, under the direction of a self-sacrificing
colporteur, was at the root of all
the patience, purity, and constancy in the
poem. But Longfellow knew better than
this, and the American people took “Evangeline”
to their heart without question, except
from some carper, like Poe, who envied
the literary distinction of the poet. We
must remember, too, that the American
people of 1847 were not the American people
of to-day; they were narrower, more provincial,
less infused with new blood, and
more prejudiced against the traditions of the
Church to which Longfellow appealed when
he wrote his greatest poem.
It is as impossible to eliminate the cross
167from the discovery of America as to love art
and literature without acknowledging the
power that preserved both.
IX. Of Shakspere.
168
The time has come when the Catholics
of this country—who possess unmutilated
the seamless garment of Christ—should
begin to understand the real value
of the inheritance of art and literature and
music which is especially theirs.
The Reformation made a gulf between art
and religion; it declared that the beautiful
had no place in the service of God, and that
a student of æsthetics was a student of the
devil’s lore. Of late a reaction has taken
place.
Fifty years ago the picture of a Madonna
by Raphael or Filippo Lippi or Botticelli
in a popular magazine would have occasioned
a howl of condemnation from the densely
ignorant average Protestant of that time.
But the taste for art has grown immensely
in the last twenty years, and now—I am
ashamed to say it—non-Catholics have, in
169America, learned to know and love the great
masterpieces of our inheritance more than
we ourselves. It is we, English-speaking
Catholics, who have suffered unexpressibly
from the deadening influence of the Reformation
on æsthetics. As a taste for art and
literature grows, “orthodox” protest against
the Church must wane, for the essence of
“orthodox” protest is misunderstanding of
the Church which made possible Dante
and Cervantes, Chaucer and Wolfram von
Eschenbach, Fra Angelico and Murillo,
Shakspere and Dryden. And no cultivated
man, loving them, can hate the
Church that, while guarding morality, likewise
protected æsthetics as a stretching out
towards the immortal. Art and literature
and music are efforts of the spirit to approach
God. And, as such, Christianity cherishes
them. Art and history are one; art and literature
are history; and nothing is grander
in the panorama of events than the spectacle
of the fine arts, in Christian times, emptying
their precious box of ointment on the head
of Our Lord to atone for the sins of the past.
170The flower of all art is Christian art; it
took the perfect form of the Greeks and
clothed it with luminous flesh and blood.
Miss Eliza Allen Starr has shown us some
of the treasures of our inheritance of art. It
is easy to find them; good photographs of
the masters’ works—of the Sistine Madonna
of Raphael, of the Immaculate Conception of
Murillo, of the Virgin of the Kiss by Hébert,
and of the beautiful pictures of Bouguereau
are cheap everywhere. Why, then, with all
these lovely reflections of Catholic genius
near us, should we fill our houses with bad,
cheap prints?
Similarly, why should we be content with
flimsy modern books? The best of all literature
is ours—even Shakspere is ours.
If there is one fault to be found in Cardinal
Newman’s lecture on “Literature” in
that great book, “The Idea of a University,”
it is that the most subtle master of English
style took his view of Continental literature
from Hallam. When he speaks of English
literature, he speaks as a master of his subject;
on the literature of the Greeks and
171Romans, there is no uncertainty in his
utterances; but he takes his impressions of
the literature of France and Spain from a
non-Catholic critic, whose opinions are tinctured
with prejudice. One cannot help
regretting that the cardinal did not apply
the same test to Montaigne that he applied
to Shakspere.
Similarly, most of us have been induced,
by the Puritanism in the air around us, to
take our opinions of the great English
classics from text-books compiled by sciolists,
who have not gone deep enough to
understand the course of the currents of
literature. We accept Shakspere at second
hand; if we took our impressions of his
works from Professor Dowden or Herr Delius
or men like George Saintsbury or Horace
Furness, or, better than all, from himself, it
would be a different thing. But we do not;
if we read him at all, we read him hastily;
we read “Hamlet” as we would a novel, or
we are content to nibble at little chunks from
his plays, which the compilers graciously
present to us.
172The text-book of literature has been an
enemy to education, because it has been
generally compiled by persons who were incapable
of fair judgment. In this country,
Father Jenkins’s compilation is the best we
have had. It is a brave attempt to remove
misapprehensions; but a text-book should
be merely a guide to the works themselves.
There is more intellectual gain in six months’
close study of the text and circumstances of
“Hamlet” than in tripping through a dozen
books of “selections.” The Germans found
this out long ago, and Dr. Gotthold Böttcher
puts it into fitting words in his introduction
to Wolfram von Eschenbach’s “Parcival.”
The time will doubtless come when even in
parochial schools the higher “Reader” will
be a complete book—not a thing of shreds
and patches, like the little dabs of meat and
vegetables the keepers of country hotels set
before us on small plates. This book will,
of course, be intelligently annotated.
Some of us have a certain timidity about
claiming Shakspere as our own and about
reading his plays to our young people. This
173is because we have given in too much to the
critical spirit, which finds purity in impure
things, and impurity where no impurity is
intended. It is time we realize the evil that
the English speech has done us by unconsciously
impregnating us with alien prejudices.
Surely no man will accuse Cardinal Newman
of condoning sensuality or coarseness.
His idea of propriety is good enough; it is
broad enough and narrow enough for us.
That foreign code which would keep young
people within artificial barriers and then let
them loose to wallow in literary filth, that
hypocritical American code which leaves the
obscenities of the daily newspaper open and
closes Shakspere, is not ours.
Shakspere was the result of Catholic
thought and training. There is no Puritanism
in him. His plays are Catholic literature
in the widest sense; he sees life from the
Christian point of view, and, depicting it as
it is, his standard is a Catholic standard.
There is no doubt that there are coarse passages
in Shakspere’s plays—it is easy to
174get rid of them. But they are few. They
seem immodest because the plainness of language
of the Elizabethan time and of the
preceding times has happily gone out of
fashion. It would be well to revise our
definition of immorality, by comparing it
with the more robust Catholic one, before we
condemn Shakspere or the Old Testament,
though the scrupulous Tom Paine, who has
gone utterly out of fashion, found both
immoral!
Hear Cardinal Newman (“Idea of a University,”
page 319) speaking of Shakspere:
“Whatever passages may be gleaned from
his dramas disrespectful to ecclesiastical
authority, still these are but passages; on
the other hand, there is in Shakspere neither
contempt of religion nor scepticism, and he
upholds the broad laws of moral and divine
truths with the consistency and severity of an
Æschylus, Sophocles, and Pindar. There is
no mistaking in his works on which side lies
the right; Satan is not made a hero, nor
Cain a victim, but pride is pride, and vice is
vice, and, whatever indulgence he may allow
175himself in light thoughts or unseemly words,
yet his admiration is reserved for sanctity
and truth; ... but often as he may offend
against modesty, he is clear of a worse
charge, sensuality, and hardly a passage can
be instanced in all that he has written to
seduce the imagination or to excite the passions.”
In arranging a course of reading for young
people, it seems to me that those books
which define principles should be put first.
When a reader has a good grasp of definitions,
he is in a mathematical state of mind
and ready to assimilate truth and reject
error. Books of literature should not be
recommended to him until he is sure of his
principles; for, unhappily, the tendency of
American youth is to imagine that what he
cannot refute is irrefutable. If the young
reader be thoroughly grounded in the doctrines
of his faith and armed with a few clear
definitions of the meaning of things, even
Milton cannot persuade him that Satan is a
more admirable figure than Our Lord, or
Byron seduce him into the opinion that Cain
176was wronged, or Goethe that sin is merely a
more or less pleasing experience.
It is remarkable that the Puritanism
which lauds Milton as a household god
turns its face from Shakspere; and yet Milton’s
great epic is not only the deification
of intellectual pride, but it contemns Christianity.
There are very few men who can
to-day say that they have read “Paradise
Lost” line after line with pleasure. There
are long stretches of aridity in it; and those
who pretend to admire it as a whole are no
doubt tinctured with literary insincerity.
But there are glorious passages in the “Paradise
Lost,” unexcelled in any literature; and
therefore the epic should be read in parts,
and one cannot be blamed if he “skip”
many other parts. The great parts of “Paradise
Lost,” ought to be read and re-read. The
comparative weakness of the “Paradise Regained”
shows that Milton had not that
sympathy with the Redemption which he
had with the revolt of Satan. And yet, in
some pious households, where puritanized
opinion reigns, Shakspere is locked up,
177while “Paradise Lost” is put beside the
family Bible!
It is not necessary that one should read
all of Shakspere’s writings; the early
poems had better be omitted; but it is necessary
for purposes of culture that one
should read what one does read with intelligence.
Before beginning “Hamlet”—which
a thoughtful Catholic can appreciate better
than any other man—one should clear the
ground by studying Professor Dowden’s
little “Primer” on Shakspere (Macmillan &
Co.), and Mr. Furnivall’s preface to the
Leopold edition of Shakspere, and George
H. Miles’s study of “Hamlet.” Then, and
not until then, will one be in a position to
get real benefit from his reading. To read
“Hamlet” without some preparation is like
the inane practice of “going to Europe to
complete an education never begun at home.”
I repeat that a Catholic can better appreciate
the marvels of Shakspere’s greatest play,
because, even if he know only the Little
Catechism, he has the key to the play and
to Shakspere’s mind.
178The philosophy of “Hamlet” is that sin
cankers and burns and ruins and corrupts
even in this world, and that the effects do
not end in this world. Shakspere, enlightened
by the teaching of centuries since St.
Austin converted his forefathers, teaches a
higher philosophy than that of Æschylus or
Euripides or Sophocles—he substitutes will
for fate. It is not fate that forces the keen
Claudius to murder his brother; it is not
fate that obliges him to turn away from the
reproaches of an instructed mind and conscience:
he chooses; it is his own will that
makes the crime; he does not confuse good
with evil. The sin of the Queen is not so
great; she is ignorant of her husband’s
crime; in fact, from the usual modern
point of view, she has committed no sin at
all. And, as the Danish method of choosing
monarchs permitted the nobles to name
Claudius king, while her son was mooning
at the Saxon university, she had done him
no material wrong. But as there is no mention
of a dispensation from Rome, and as
Shakspere makes the Danes Catholic, the
179people of Denmark must have looked on the
alliance with doubt. The demand made to
Horatio to exorcise the spirit, as he was a
scholar; the expression, “I’ll cross it,”
which Fechter, the actor, rightly interpreted
as meaning the sign of the cross; a hundred
touches, in fact, show that “Hamlet” can and
ought to be studied with special profit by
Catholics.
Suppose that one begins with “Hamlet,”
having cleared the ground, and then takes
the greatest of the tragi-comedies, “The Merchant
of Venice.” Here opens a new field.
Before beginning this play, it would be well
to read Mgr. Seton’s paper on the Jews in
Europe, in his excellent “Essays, Chiefly
Roman.” It will give one an excellent idea
of the attitude of the Church towards Shylock’s
countrymen, and do away with the
impression that Antonio was acting in accordance
with that attitude when he treated
Shylock as less than a human being. Portia
not only offers a valuable contrast to the
weakness of Ophelia and the criminal weakness
of Gertrude, but she is a type of the
180ideal noblewoman of her time, whose only
weakness is love for a man of lesser nobility
than herself, but who holds his honor as
greater than life or love.
Shakspere’s “Julius Cæsar,” for comparison
with “Hamlet,” might come next, and after
that the most lyrical and poetical of all the
comedies, “As You Like It,” or perhaps
“The Tempest,” with Prospero’s simple but
strong assertion of belief in immortality.
Having studied these four great works,
with as much of the literature they suggest
as practicable, a distinct advance in cultivation
will have been made. The best college
in the country can give one no more. But
they must be studied, not read. He who
does not know these plays misses part of his
heritage; for the plays of Shakspere belong
more to the Catholic than to the non-Catholic.
Shakspere was the fine flower of
culture nurtured under Catholic influences.
X. Of Talk, Work, and Amusement.
181
There are too many etiquette books—too
much about the outward look of
things, and too little about the inward.
Manners make a great difference in this
world—we all discover that sooner or later;
but later we find out that there are some
principles which keep society together
more than manners. If manners are the
flower, these principles are the roots which
intricately bind earth and crumbling rocks
together and make a safe footing. To-day
the end of preaching seems to be to teach the
outward form, without the inward light that
gives the form all its value. By preaching I
mean the talk and advice that permeate the
newspapers and books of social instruction.
Manners are only good, after all, when they
represent something. What does it matter
whether Mr. Jupiter makes a charming host
at his own table or not, if he sit silent a few
182minutes after some of his guests are gone,
and listen to the horrors that one who stays
behind tells of them? And if Mrs. Juno,
whose manners at her “at home” are perfect,
sits down and rips and tears at the
characters of the acquaintances she has just
fed with coffee and whatever else answers
to the fatted calf, shall we believe that she
is useful to society?
There is harmless gossip which has its
place; in life it is like the details in a novel;
it is amusing and interesting, because it
belongs to humanity—and what that is
human is alien to us? So far as gossip
concerns the lights and shades of character,
the minor miseries and amusing happenings
of life, what honest man or woman has
not a taste for it? And who values a friend
less because his peculiarities make us smile?
But by and by there comes into the very
corner of the fireside a guest who disregards
the crown of roses which every man likes to
hang above his door. The roses mean
silence—or, at least, that all things that pass
under them shall be sweetened by the breath
183of hospitality; and he adds a little to the
smile of kindly tolerance, and he paints it as
a sneer. “You must forgive me for telling
you,” he whispers, when he is safely sheltered
beneath your friend’s garland of roses; “but
Theseus spoke of you the other night in a
way that made my blood boil.”
And then the friendship of years is snapped;
and then the harmless jest, in which Theseus’s
friend would have delighted even at his own
expense if he had been present, becomes a
jagged bullet in an ulcerated wound. Sub
rosâ was a good phrase with the old Latins,
but who minds it now? It went out of
fashion when the public began to pay newspaper
reporters for looking through keyholes,
and for stabbing the hearts of the innocent
in trying to prove somebody guilty. It
went out of fashion when private letters became
public property and a man might,
without fear of disgrace, print, or sell to be
printed, any scrap of paper belonging to another
that had fallen into his hands.
A very wise man—a gentle man and a loyal
man—once said, “A man may be judged by
184what he believes.” If we could learn the
truth of this early in life, what harm could
be done us by the creature who tears the
thorns out of our hospitable roses, and goes
about lacerating hearts with them? When
we hear that Jason has called us a fool, we
should not be so ready to cry out with all
our breath that he is a scoundrel—because
we should not be so ready to believe that
Jason, who was a decent fellow yesterday,
should suddenly have become the hater of a
good friend to-day. And when, under stress
of unrighteous indignation, we have called
Jason a scoundrel, the listener can hardly
wait until he has informed Jason of the enormity;
“and thereby hangs a tale.”
But when we get older and wiser, we do
not ask many people to sit under our roses;
and those whom we ask we trust implicitly.
In time—so happily is our experience—we
believe no evil of any man with whom we
have ever cordially shaken hands. Then we
begin to enjoy life; and we, too, choose our
acquaintances by their unwillingness to believe
evil of others. And as for the man
185who has eaten our salt, we become so optimistic
about him that we would not even
believe that he could write a stupid book;
and that is the nirvâna of belief in one’s
friends.
Less manners, we pray—less talk about
the handling of a fork and the angle of a
bow, and more respect for the roses. Of
course, one of us may have said yesterday,
after dinner, that Jason ought not to talk so
much about his brand-new coat-of-arms; or
that Ariadne, who was a widow, you know,
might cease to chant the praise of number
one in the presence of number two. But do
we not admire the solid qualities of both
Jason and Ariadne? And yet who shall
make them believe that when the little serpent
wriggles from our hearthstone to theirs?
It is a settled fact that young people must
be amused. It is a settled fact, or rather an
accepted fact, that they must be amused
much more than their predecessors were
amused. It is useless to ask why. Life in
the United States has become more complicated,
more artificial, more civilized, if you
186will; and that Jeffersonian simplicity which
De Tocqueville and De Bacourt noted has
almost entirely disappeared. The theatre
has assumed more license than ever; it
amuses—it does not attempt to instruct;
and spectacles are tolerated by decent people
which would have been frowned upon some
years ago. There is no question that the
drama is purer than it ever was before; but
the spectacle, the idiotic farce, and the light
opera are more silly and more indecent than
within the memory of man. The toleration
of these things all shows that, in the craving
for amusement, high principle and reasonable
rules of conduct are forgotten.
A serious question of social importance is:
How can the rage for amusement be kept
within proper bounds? How can it be regulated?
How can it be prevented from
making the heart and the head empty and
even corrupt? In many ways our country
and our time are serious enough. We need,
perhaps, a touch of that cheerful lightness
which makes the life of the Viennese and of
the Parisian agreeable and bright—which
187enables him to get color and interest into the
most commonplace things. But our lightness
and cheerfulness are likely to be spasmodic
and extravagant. We are not pleased
with little things; it takes a great deal to
give us delight; our children are men and
women too early; we do not understand
simplicity—unless it is sold at a high price
with an English label on it. Luxuries have
become necessities, and even the children
demand refinements of enjoyment of which
their parents did not dream in the days gone
by.
And yet the essence of American social
life ought to be simplicity. We have no
traditions to support; a merely rich man
without a great family name owes nothing
to society, except to help those poorer than
himself; he has not inherited those great
establishments which your English or Spanish
high lord must keep up or tarnish the
family name. We have no great families in
America whose traditions are not those of
simplicity and honesty, and these are the
only traditions they are bound to cherish.
188In this way our aristocracy—if we have such
a thing—ought to be the purest in the world
and the most simple. There is no reason
why we should pick up all the baubles that
the effete folk of the Old World are throwing
away.
Whether we are to achieve simplicity, and
consequently cheerfulness, in every-day life
depends entirely on the women. It is remarkable
how many Catholic women bred in
good schools enter society and run a mad
race in search of frivolities. In St. Francis
de Sales’s “Letters to People in the World”
there is a record of a lady “who had long
remained in such subjection to the humors
of her husband, that in the very height of
her devotions and ardors she was obliged to
wear a low dress, and was all loaded with
vanity outside; and, except at Easter, could
never communicate unless secretly and unknown
to every one—and yet she rose high
in sanctity.”
But St. Francis de Sales had other words
for those women of the world who rushed
into all the complications of luxury, and yet
189who defended their frivolity by the phrase
“duty to society.” The woman who serves
her children best serves society. And she
best serves her children by cultivating her
heart and mind to the utmost; and by teaching
them that one of the best things in life
is simplicity, and that it is much easier to be
a Christian when one is content with a little
than when one is constantly discontented
with a great deal. If the old New England
love for simplicity in the ordinary way of life
could be revived among Catholics, and sanctified
by the amiable spirit of St. Francis
of Assisi, the world would be a better
place.
Father Faber tells us what even greater
men have told us before—that each human
being has his vocation in life. And we nearly
all accept it as true, but the great difficulty
is to realize it. Ruskin says that work is not
a curse; but that a man must like his work,
feel that he can do it well, and not have too
much of it to do. The sum of all this means
that he shall be contented in his work, and
find his chief satisfaction in doing it well.
190It is not what we do, but how we do it, that
makes success.
The greatest enemy to a full understanding
of the word vocation among Americans
is the belief that it means solely the acquirement
of money. And the reason for this lies
not in the character of the American—who
is no more mercenary than other people—but
in the idea that wealth is within the
grasp of any man who works for it. The
money standard, therefore, is the standard
of success. But success to the eyes of the
world is not always success to the man himself.
The accumulation of wealth often
leaves him worn-out, dissatisfied, with a feeling
that he has somehow missed the best of
life. That man has probably missed his
vocation and done the wrong thing, in spite
of the opinion outside of himself that he has
succeeded.
The frequent missing of vocations in life
is due to false ideas about education. The
parent tries to throw all the responsibility of
education on the teacher, and the teacher
has no time for individual moulding. A boy
191grows up learning to read and to write, like
other boys. He may be apt with his head
or his hands, but how few parents see the
aptitude in the right light! It ought to be
considered and seriously cultivated. The
tastes of youth may not always be indications
of the future: they often change with circumstances
and surroundings. But they are
just as often unerring indications of the direction
in which the child’s truest success in the
world will lie. If a boy play at swinging a
censer when he is little, or enjoy the sight of
burning candles on a toy altar, it is not an
infallible sign that he will be a priest. And
yet the rosary that young Newman drew on
his slate, when he was a boy, doubtless
meant something.
“The thoughts of youth are long, long
thoughts,” Longfellow sings. He who comprehends
them gets near to the heart of
youth. But who tries to do it? The boy is
as great an enigma to his father, as a rule, as
the old sphinx in the Egyptian desert is to
passing travellers. And who but his father
ought to have the key to the boy’s mind, and
192find his way into its recesses so gently and
carefully that the question of his child’s
vocation would be an easy one for him to
answer?
If the religious vocations in this country
are not equal in number to what they ought
to be, we may attribute it to these two causes:
the general desire to make money, and the
placid indifference of parents. A boy is sent
to “school”—school implying a sort of factory
from which human creatures are turned out
polished and finished, but not ready for any
special work in a world which demands
specialists. And what is specialism but
the industrious working out of a vocation?
God is very good to a man when that man
is true to his vocation. To be content in
one’s work is almost happiness. To do one’s
work for the eyes of God is to be as near
happiness as any creature can come to it in
this world. Fortunate are they who, like the
old sculptors of the roof of “the cathedral
over sea,” learn early in life, as Miss Eleanor
Donnelly puts it,—
193“That nothing avails us under the sun,
In word or in work, save that which is done
For the honor and glory of God alone.”
Direction and coercion are two different
things. The parents who mistake one for
the other make a fatal error. Direction is
the flower, coercion the weed that grows
beside it, and kills its strength and sweetness.
The true gospel of work begins with the
consideration of vocation, and the prayers
and the appeals to the sacraments that
ought to accompany it. This is the genesis
of that gospel. It is true that if a man can
be helped to take care of the first twenty
years of his life, the last twenty years will
take care of him. Those who find their
vocation are blessed—
“And they are the sculptors whose works shall last,
Whose names shall shine as the stars on high,
When deep in the dust of a ruined past
The labors of selfish souls shall lie.”
XI. The Little Joys of Life.
194
Has enthusiasm gone out of fashion?
Are the young no longer hero-worshippers?
A recent writer complains of the
sadness of American youth. “The absence
of animal spirits among our well-to-do
young people is a striking contrast to the
exuberance of that quality in most European
countries,” says this author, in the Atlantic
Monthly.
Our young people laugh very much, but
they are not, as a rule, cheerful; and they
are amiable only when they “feel like being
amiable.” This is the most fatal defect in
American manners among the young. The
consideration for others shown only when a
man is entirely at peace with himself is not
politeness at all: it is the most unrefined
manifestation of selfishness.
Before we condemn the proverbial artificiality
of the French, let us contrast it with
195the brutality of the average carper at this
artificiality. “A Frenchman,” he will say,
“will lift his hat to you, but he would not
give you a sou if you were starving.” Let
us take that assertion for its full value. We
are not starving; we do not want his sou, but
we do want to have our every-day life made
as pleasant as possible. And is your average
brutal and bluff and uncivilized creature the
more anxious to give his substance to the
needy because he is ready on all occasions
to tread on the toes of his neighbor? He
holds all uttered pleasant things to be lies,
and the suppression of the brutal a sin
against truth. One sees this personage too
often not to understand him well. He is
half civilized. King Henry VIII. was of
this kind—charming, bluff old fellow, bubbling
over with truth and frankness, slapping
Sir Thomas More on the back, and full of
delicious horseplay, when his dinner agreed
with him! It is easy to comprehend that
the high politeness of the best of the French
is the result of the finest civilization. No
wonder Talleyrand looked back and said
196that no man really enjoyed life who had not
lived before the Revolution.
But why should enthusiasm have gone
out? Why should the young have no
heroes? Have the newspaper joke, the
levity of Ingersoll and the irreverence of
the stump-speakers, the cynicism of Puck
and the insolence of Judge, driven out
enthusiasm? George Washington is mentioned—what
inextinguishable laughter follows!—the
cherry-tree, the little hatchet!
What novel wit that name suggests! One
must laugh, it is so funny! And, then, the
scriptural personages! The paragraphers
have made Job so very amusing; and Joseph
and Daniel!—how stupid people must be
who do not roar with laughter at the mere
mention of these august names!
Cannot this odious, brutal laughter, which
is not manly or womanly, be stopped? Ridicule
cannot kill it, but an appeal to all the
best feelings of the human heart might; for
all the best feelings of the human heart are
outraged. How funny death has become!
When shall we grow tired of the joke about
197the servant who lighted the fire with kerosene,
and went above; or the quite too
awfully comical jeu d’esprit about the boy
who ate green apples, and is no more? These
jokes are in the same taste that would put
the hair of a skeleton into curl-papers. Still
we laugh.
A nation without reverence has begun to
die: its feet are cold, though it may still
grin. A nation whose youth are without
enthusiasm has no future beyond the piling
up of dollars. It is not so with our country
yet; but the fact remains: enthusiasm is dying,
and hero-worship needs revival.
One can easily understand why, among
Catholics, there is not as much hero-worship
as there ought to be. It is because our
greatest heroes are not even mentioned in
current literature, and because they are not
well presented to our young people. St.
Francis Xavier was a greater hero than
Nelson; yet Nelson is popularly esteemed
the more heroic, because Southey wrote his
life well. But St. Francis’s life is written for
the mystic, for the devotee. It is right, of
198course; but our young people are not all
mystics or devotees; consequently St. Francis
seems afar off—a saint to be vaguely
remembered, but nothing more.
If the saints whose heroism appeals most
to the young could be brought nearer to the
natural young person, they would soon be as
friends, daily companions—heroes, not distant
beings whose halos guard them from
contact. One need only know St. Francis
of Assisi to be very fond of him. He had a
sense of humor, too, but no sense of levity.
And yet the only readable life of this hero
and friend has been written by a Protestant.
(I am not recommending it, for there are
some things which Mrs. Oliphant does not
understand.) And there is St. Ignatius
Loyola. And there is St. Charles Borromeo—that
was a man! And St. Philip Neri,
who had a sense of humor, and was entirely
civilized at the same time. And St. Francis
of Sales! His “Letters to Persons in the
World” make one wish that he had not
died so soon. What tact, what knowledge
of the world! How well he persuades
199people without diplomacy, by the force of a
fine nature open to the grace of God!
Our young people need only know the
saints—not out of Alban Butler’s sketches,
but illumined with reality—to be filled with
an enthusiasm which Carlyle would have
had them waste on the wrong kind of
heroes.
One of the most interesting pictures of a
priest in American literature—which of late
abounds in pictures of good priests—is
that of Père Michaux, in Miss Woolson’s
novel “Anne.” He believed that “all should
live their lives, and that one should not be a
slave to others; that the young should be
young, and that some natural, simple pleasure
should be put into each twenty-four
hours. They might be poor, but children
should be made happy; they might be poor,
but youth should not be overwhelmed by the
elders’ cares; they might be poor, but they
could have family love around the poorest
hearthstone; and there was always time for
a little pleasure, if they would seek it simply
and moderately.”
200But Père Michaux was French: he had not
been corrupted by that American Puritanism
which has, somehow or other, got into the
blood of even the Irish Celts on this side of
the Atlantic. Pleasures are not spontaneous
or simple, and joy is only possible after a
long period of worry. Simple pleasures—the
honest little wild flowers that peep up between
the every-day crevices of each twenty-four
hours—are neglected because we have
not been taught to see them. Life may be
serious without being sad; but, influenced
by the Puritan gloom, sadness and seriousness
have come to be confounded.
Man was not made to be sad. Unless
something is wrong with him, he is not sad
by temperament. And sadness ought to be
repressed in early youth. The sad child in
the stories is pathetic, but the authors generally
have the good sense to kill him when
he is young. The sad child in real life ought
not to be tolerated. And if his parents have
made him sad by putting their burden of the
trials of life on him so early, they have done
him irreparable wrong. Simple pleasures are
201the sunlight of life; and the little plants
struggle to the sunshine and find light for
themselves, darken their dwelling-place as
you will. The frown in the household, the
scolding voice, the impatience with childish
folly—all these things are against the practice
of the Church and her saints. The
Catholic sentiment is one of joy—not the
Sabbath any more, but the Sunday, the day
of smiles, of rejoicing; the day on which, as
old Christian legends have it, the sun is supposed
to dance in honor of the first Easter.
How much the French and Germans, who
have not lost the Catholic traditions, make
of the little joys of life! If the grandfather’s
name-day come, there is the pot of flowers,
the little cake with its ornaments. And how
many other feasts are made by the poorest
of them out of what the Americans, rich by
comparison, would look on but as a patch
upon his poverty! There should be no dark
days for the young. It is so easy to make
them happy, if they have not been distorted
by their surroundings out of the capability
of enjoying little pleasures. The mother who
202teaches her daughters that poverty is not
death to all joy, and that the enjoyment of
simple things makes life easier and keeps
people younger—such a mother is kinder to
her girls, gives them a better gift than the
diamond necklace which the spoiled girl
craves, and then finds good only so far as it
excites envy in others.
Children should not be made to bear a
weight of sadness. That girl will not long
for an electric doll if she has been taught to
get the poetry of life out of a rag-baby. And
the boy will not pine for an improved bicycle,
and sulk without it, if he has learned to swim.
The greatest pleasures are the easiest had—
“Each ounce of dross costs an ounce of gold;
For a cap and bells our lives we pay;
Bubbles we buy with a whole soul’s tasking:
’Tis Heaven alone that is given away,—
’Tis only God may be had for the asking.”
Those who have suffered and borne suffering
best are the most anxious that the young
should enjoy the simple joys of life. Like
this Père Michaux, they look for a little
203pleasure in each twenty-four hours. Is it a
wild rose laid by a plate at the simple dinner,
a new story, a romp, ungrudging permission
for some small relaxation of the ordinary
rules, or a brave attempt to keep sorrow
away from the young? No matter; it is a
little thing done for the Holy Child and for
childhood, that ought to be holy and joyous.
There is a commercial axiom that declares
that we get out of anything just as much
as we put into it. This may be true in
trade or not; it is certainly true of other
things in life.
When the frost begins to make the blood
tingle, and the glow of neighborly fires has
more than usual comfort for the passer-by,
as he sees them through windows and thinks
of his own, the fragrance of home seems to
rise more strongly than ever, and then there
is a longing that the home-circle may revolve
around a common centre. Sometimes this
longing takes the form of resolutions to
make life more cheerful; and sometimes
even the father wonders if he, in some way,
204cannot make home more attractive. As a
rule, however, he leaves it to the mother;
and if the young people yawn and want to
go out, it must be her fault. The truth is,
he expects to reap without having sown.
Home can be made cheerful only by an
effort. Why, even friendship and love will
perish if they are not cultivated; and so if
the little virtues of life—the little flowers—are
not carefully tended they must die.
Young people cannot be imprisoned or kept
at home by force. We cannot get over the
change that has come about—a change that
has eliminated the old iron hand and rod
from family life. We must take things as
they are. And the only way to direct the
young, to influence, to help them, is to interest
them.
Books are resources and consolation;
study is a resource and consolation. Both
are strong factors in the best home-life; and
the man who can look back with gratitude
to the time when, around the home-lamp, he
made one of the circle about his father’s
table, has much to be thankful for; and we
205venture to assert that the coming man whose
father will give him such a remembrance to
be thankful for can never be an outcast, or
grow cold, or bitter, or cynical.
But the taste for books does not come
always by nature: it must be cultivated. And
everything between covers is not a book;
and a taste for books cannot be cultivated in
a bookless house. It may be said that there
is no Catholic literature, or that it is very
expensive to buy books, or that it is difficult
to get a small number of the best books, or
to be sure that one has the best in a small
compass.
None of these things is true—none of
them. There is a vast Catholic literature, and
a vast literature, not professedly Catholic,
which is good and pure, which will stimulate
a desire for study, and help to cultivate
every quality of the mind and heart. Does
anybody realize how many good books twelve
or fifteen dollars will buy nowadays? And,
after all, there are not fifty really great
books in all languages. If one have fifty
books, one has the best literature in all
206languages. A book-shelf thus furnished is a
treasure which neither adversity nor fatigue
nor sickness itself can take away. Each
child may even have his own book-shelf, with
his favorites on it, and such volumes as treat
of his favorite hobby—for every child old
enough should have a hobby, even if it be
only the collecting of pebbles, and every
chance should be given to enjoy his hobby
and to develop it into a serious study. A
little fellow who used to range his pebbles
on the table in the lamplight, and get such
hints as he could about them out of an old
text-book, is a great geologist. And a little
girl who used to hang over her very own
copy of Adelaide Procter’s poems is spoken
of as one of the cleverest newspaper men
(though she is a woman) in the city of New
York. The taste of the early days, encouraged
in a humble way, became the talent
which was to make their future.
There should be no bookless house in all
this land—least of all among Catholics,
whose ancestors in Christ preserved all that
is great in literature. Let the trashy novels,
207paper-backed, soiled, borrowed or picked
up, be cast out. Let the choosing of books
not be left to mere chance. A little brains
put into it will be returned with more than
its first value. What goes into the precious
minds of the young ought not to be carelessly
chosen. And it is true that, in the
beginning, it is the easiest possible thing to
interest young people in good and great
books. But if one lets them wallow in
whatever printed stuff happens to come in
their way, one finds it hard to conduct them
back again. Let the books be carefully chosen—a
few at a time—be laid within the circle
of the evening lamp—and God bless you all!
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